Hiya,
Just a thread making a note at how fickle people are on these sites at times. It seems that in some peoples mindset, even if they are looking for a couple, they pay no interest to the male in the relationship, refusing to chat point blank to them.
It's disappointing. In a community where its really hard to find genuine people, we don't understand people who shoot themselves in the foot by basically not being nice. It is a tactic on our part early into conversations to say "hiya - F has just gone out - how are ya doin?" just to see the reaction - 8 outta 10 times the reaction is predictably zero.
We feel that if people are looking for a genuine couple, they need to be genuine themselves and treat all parties involved with respect - respect for the age, needs, wants, desires.
In advance, we know that alot of people on here are in our mindset about this and agree with us, but hopefully some people reading this thread will wake up and stop acting like idiots and wake up to what they are really after!
T & L xxx
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Quote by 3someinpreston
It seems that in some peoples mindset, even if they are looking for a couple, they pay no interest to the male in the relationship, refusing to chat point blank to them.
Yeah, I've seen this many times. I've only ever seen guys behave this rudely but I'm sure some couples and fems do too. They make it so obvious that all they want is a fuck off a woman and the male partner is just a spare part or a hassle to have around. Shame on you, you know who you are (generally speaking, not pointing the finger at anyone on this forum, though I do know there are one or two people like that here
) I can't decide whether such behaviour is ignorance or malice. After all, even the most cerebrally challenged ought to be able to work out that being attentive to both people in a couple is going to bring the best rewards.
Okay, there will be occasions when one party might actually get off on being ignored, but even that should be by prior negotiation. For example, I'm in a long-term threesome relationship with a couple who I've known for ten years or more. I think it's worked so long because we're all very mindful of one another's needs and sensitivities....still, from time to time, a game my partners like to play is for she and me to pretend he isn't there....BUT....it only works (IMHO) because we all know that it's that behaviour that he wants.
It's important to know and understand one another to a certain level before any trust develops and how can that happen if one part of the equation is deliberately ignored and sidelined?
Okay, there will be occasions when one party might actually get off on being ignored, but even that should be by prior negotiation. For example, I'm in a long-term threesome relationship with a couple who I've known for ten years or more. I think it's worked so long because we're all very mindful of one another's needs and sensitivities....still, from time to time, a game my partners like to play is for she and me to pretend he isn't there....BUT....it only works (IMHO) because we all know that it's that behaviour that he wants.
It's important to know and understand one another to a certain level before any trust develops and how can that happen if one part of the equation is deliberately ignored and sidelined?
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lol when in chatroom they say" hi you fancy af@@k " make me giggle i let them go on a bit then say sorry me not bi or gay lol, they always seem to think they are always talking to the as you log in they say "hi" then next st8 into the can i shag u talk. we used to get mad now we let it pass on .
we met a couple once, not off this site i may add was a while ago when msn had the chat rooms, they had been looking for a single fem for a while and gave up and decided to meet a couple, anyway we invited them to our house, had a drink as you do, and went up to the bedroom, almost str8 away they made it obvious my hubby wasn't wanted, the guy from the couple used himself as a wall between me and his mrs and Paul and wouldn't even let Paul touch me never mind his mrs, and this is in our house!!
anyway we decided to stop and asked them to leave, if a couple wants a woman they should hold out for a woman not make do with a couple!
saying that tho
we also had a couple who came out to our house and the guy obviouly didn't like me but rather than say so he avoided me all night while playing and they ended up just having a 3sum with my hubby lol
so it happens both way .....or is it just me that gets that?
lol
anyway we decided to stop and asked them to leave, if a couple wants a woman they should hold out for a woman not make do with a couple!
saying that tho
we also had a couple who came out to our house and the guy obviouly didn't like me but rather than say so he avoided me all night while playing and they ended up just having a 3sum with my hubby lol
so it happens both way .....or is it just me that gets that?
lol 
