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Trying our first swinging party

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Yes thats right! My wife and i are trying our first swinging party at the end of this month.
We are going to a private club. (won't say where)
Is there any tips that anyone can give to us party virgins?
Follow the dress code for your club.
Set your limits before you go.
Relax
Read this: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/swingers-clubs.html
Enjoy yourself smile
Its no wonder you are managers.
Very good, technical presentation.
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Quote by erospartnership
many people talk about setting the rules, we in fact did the exact opposit. Its kinda like if you have never seen a car driven, never driven a car your self, and actually never seen a car.
How when presented with a car for the 1st time would you even know where to start. Well you could make a bunch of rules about what you will and won't do in relation to big metal things with wheels. One rule might be well we won't ever do any thing with out discussing it fully. So you get around to starting the car, talk about doing stuff then end up getting it moving, whist you are driving it you see tree looming and start discussing if you should turn. By the time the decision is made you have hit the tree and have to deal with the consequences.
so we just expect that we will push each others boundries, follow our own gut feel, accept that we are learning and will fuck up stuff in our fucking as we all do with new stuff. Then learn how to ask the right questions cause at least then we have enough experence to think of them in relation to the subject matter.............. I think you get the idea.
It is about your relationship with the journey you two have chosen to get into.
Not about what you will and won't do, there are no right and wrongs. Just be brave and take it as it comes, focus upon your relationship and the joy the two of you can bring to the world. Think about what is out side you box, have a stop signal. ours is the word peanutbutter and the hand signal of finger put to the mouth like eating a something.
Do expect that you may be hurt and that if you can't be hurt then may be you ain't trully alive.
Reality is a product of living in the moment, rules are the things that stop you being responcible for your actions and prevent you from dealing with consequences in a manner that is real.
good luck - have fun
J&N

Sorry, but I think that is absolute tosh confused - but what doesn't work for some, might work for others wink biggrin
We went to Chameleons on Saturday, and stupidly didn't set our limits or boundaries before we went. Yeh we had discussed it, discussed it loads. Discussion and fantasy also sometimes get blurred - whatever you fantasise about, you might not be too happy to happen in a real situation.
Why "expect to be hurt"? This is about fun, not about hurting or being hurt. In these situations, there are very real and very graphic images that will stay with you - surely you want them all to be good images, ones that are a turn on, not ones that are gonna hurt? Sure push boundaries, but not without agreeing with each other first and talking about it.
If I could go back a few days, I would do what I advise everyone to do. Talk about what you're going to see and do. Set your limits, I would suggest, at least initially, setting them lower than you are prepared to go. If you enjoy yourselves, then you will be going back - if you hurt each other, then the chances are at least one of you will be reluctant to repeat the experience. Once you've been, you can have a good ol chat about the event, really be open about your feelings, turn ons and any worries. Then you can go back, maybe with a slightly broader limit.
Just enjoy the whole journey - I would say don't zoom on ahead and try to do anything and everything on your first night, don't try and reach this 'goal' - just relax and go at the slowest persons pace, any faster and you're likely to not see the inside of a party as a couple again.
So there you have two bits of advice Harleyman :D - both very different lol I don't know you two, so haven't a clue which one would work. I just know that the lack of limits was a big problem for us on the night :?
Getting lost
Inquisitive taxi driver
And early-closing off-licences don't help either rolleyes
Seriously - I would advise any couple "doing it" to discuss things first.
Have Fun smile
Thanks to everyone who took the time to responde, I think that you all gave some good advise. But the main one that stands out is "Talk To Each Other"
I will let you know how we got on. (not in to much detail though!) biggrin