Trying our first swinging party

Quote by erospartnership
many people talk about setting the rules, we in fact did the exact opposit. Its kinda like if you have never seen a car driven, never driven a car your self, and actually never seen a car.
How when presented with a car for the 1st time would you even know where to start. Well you could make a bunch of rules about what you will and won't do in relation to big metal things with wheels. One rule might be well we won't ever do any thing with out discussing it fully. So you get around to starting the car, talk about doing stuff then end up getting it moving, whist you are driving it you see tree looming and start discussing if you should turn. By the time the decision is made you have hit the tree and have to deal with the consequences.
so we just expect that we will push each others boundries, follow our own gut feel, accept that we are learning and will fuck up stuff in our fucking as we all do with new stuff. Then learn how to ask the right questions cause at least then we have enough experence to think of them in relation to the subject matter.............. I think you get the idea.
It is about your relationship with the journey you two have chosen to get into.
Not about what you will and won't do, there are no right and wrongs. Just be brave and take it as it comes, focus upon your relationship and the joy the two of you can bring to the world. Think about what is out side you box, have a stop signal. ours is the word peanutbutter and the hand signal of finger put to the mouth like eating a something.
Do expect that you may be hurt and that if you can't be hurt then may be you ain't trully alive.
Reality is a product of living in the moment, rules are the things that stop you being responcible for your actions and prevent you from dealing with consequences in a manner that is real.
good luck - have fun
J&N