Unfair assumptions

24 Nov 2005

Quote by Fallen Angel
I have just been to Sainsbury's and, amongst other things, bought black stockings :twisted:
When I got to the till, the woman serving me puicked them up, looked at me and said "you do know these are stockings. not tights, don't you?"
Why, I thought? Do I not look like a person who would wear stockings?

Assumptions are funny, and interesting things aren't they. We all make them all of the time and often don't even know we are making them. Everytime (ok maybe not everytime, but often) we see someone we pop them into a pigeon hole based on our own experiences, morals, fantasies and beliefs.
This whole topic began in fact based on an assumption....in fact two assupmtions. Angel only assumed that this lady was assuming that she wasn't the sort of person to wear stockings. She could just as easily been thinking " Mmmmm I'd love to see you in them" " or I'd love to get between them".
People just enjoy make assumptions, I assume ;-)
Mick confused

24 Nov 2005

Quote by berksbex
Yep I can see that. Being 6'4" has its disadvantages some times!!

I know exactly how you feel mate!
I hate it when people make unfair assumptions and call me shortarse.
If only they took the time to look properly they would actually see I was 6' 3"
rolleyes

:roll: :roll: Idiots
smile

;)
Love your sig Scandal.....Reef! That brought back some memories biggrin

Great cornish band.
'Put your hands on' - wasn't that a Reef song?? Quite appropriate for in here.
Also find that 6ft5 has a few disadvantges - but not many and there are definately more advantages wink

24 Nov 2005

i have experianced this a fair bit in the past.
i was an old school punk, bondage trousers, ripped tshirt, safety pins, the lot.
i used to have people cross the street to avoid me, why, my looks were not than threatening, and for those who bothered to talk to me, realised i was actually quite quiet, and reasonably well educated, with a great sense of humour, and would not hurt a fly.
if anything i used to run from trouble..althogh i could handle myself (thanks to Wing Tsun)
i'm now 37, and when i'm buying certain clothes (i can still carry off the skater/grunge look) i get funny looks from the spotty teen serving behind the counter.

24 Nov 2005

The good thing about teh alternative scene, be it SH or alternative music that stuff doesn't seem to matter as much, judged on who you are, you're actions and what you have to say rather than the way you dress, age etc.

24 Nov 2005

We "came out" as a threesome just about a year ago. We don't disguise it at all. The only people who don't know about us (as far as I know) are my three children who are all grown up and my mother. They probably do know but never mention it. Not my mother.
When we came out the reaction was quite different between men and women. The men just wanted to know "Why pick a stranger when I was around" or some variation on that but my girl friends want to know much more of the mechanics of it. How it all works or hangs together.
Mollie

24 Nov 2005

Quote by amalthea
The one that always gets me is that the kids I teach (who all seem to ahve very stereotypical beliefs of how everyone should be) spend all day calling me a 'lesbian' because I have short hair and never wear make up. Little do they know that I am having endless sex with different men from one week to the next

oi when do i get a go sad

(pout) :shock:

24 Nov 2005

Oooooooooooooooooooo* another teacher. Hi Amalthea biggrin

24 Nov 2005

its just not fair FB....
im always last to get noticed... sad

24 Nov 2005

Quote by dargento
its just not fair FB....
im always last to get noticed...

Come here honey, I'll notice you wink

24 Nov 2005

i feel better already....
anyway...ive never been any good at the feleing sorry for myself thingy anyway.....
gizz a snog FB :D passionkiss

24 Nov 2005

Quote by Fallen Angel
Somehow, I don't want to be seen as a nice, jolly, tights wearing woman!

And neither do I... Marmalaid might though wink

As a bloke in my mid-thirties with a boyfriend of the same age we were talking about assumptions last week... a lot of people cannot understand why 'nice boys like us' ain't married with kids - my friend's grandmother wouldn't let the subject drop last week.. we almost told her the truth to shut her up LOL

24 Nov 2005

I'm not miserable, nor am I a cat and certainly not a bastard

24 Nov 2005

Quote by dargento
i feel better already....
anyway...ive never been any good at the feleing sorry for myself thingy anyway.....
gizz a snog FB :D

Anytime

assionkiss: :passionkiss: :passionkiss:

24 Nov 2005

i agree i agree and i agree....
though i retain the right to change my mind on any of the above statements smile

24 Nov 2005

Quote by teppic
i have experianced this a fair bit in the past.
i was an old school punk, bondage trousers, ripped tshirt, safety pins, the lot.
i used to have people cross the street to avoid me, why, my looks were not than threatening, and for those who bothered to talk to me, realised i was actually quite quiet, and reasonably well educated, with a great sense of humour, and would not hurt a fly.
if anything i used to run from trouble..althogh i could handle myself (thanks to Wing Tsun)
i'm now 37, and when i'm buying certain clothes (i can still carry off the skater/grunge look) i get funny looks from the spotty teen serving behind the counter.

By the way, at 37 you aren't old enough to have been an 'old school punk' unless you were there at nine years of age (approx)..sorry, mean but I couldn't resist. wink

24 Nov 2005

Quote by amalthea
i have experianced this a fair bit in the past.
i was an old school punk, bondage trousers, ripped tshirt, safety pins, the lot.
i used to have people cross the street to avoid me, why, my looks were not than threatening, and for those who bothered to talk to me, realised i was actually quite quiet, and reasonably well educated, with a great sense of humour, and would not hurt a fly.
if anything i used to run from trouble..althogh i could handle myself (thanks to Wing Tsun)
i'm now 37, and when i'm buying certain clothes (i can still carry off the skater/grunge look) i get funny looks from the spotty teen serving behind the counter.

By the way, at 37 you aren't old enough to have been an 'old school punk' unless you were there at nine years of age (approx)..sorry, mean but I couldn't resist. wink

LOL I was thinking the same thing (as I was just about old enough :wink: ) the other thing is that then, Punk was much more of an attitude than a fashion. But each to his/her own and all that biggrin

24 Nov 2005

I was 15 in 1977 and loving every bit of punk..all the philosophy still rings true to me to this day(and I still cry when I think about Joe Strummer being dead sad

)..but anyone still wearing the clothes after 1977 just didn't get it. Like you say it was a state of mind not a fashion statement.

24 Nov 2005

Quote by amalthea
i have experianced this a fair bit in the past.
i was an old school punk, bondage trousers, ripped tshirt, safety pins, the lot.
i used to have people cross the street to avoid me, why, my looks were not than threatening, and for those who bothered to talk to me, realised i was actually quite quiet, and reasonably well educated, with a great sense of humour, and would not hurt a fly.
if anything i used to run from trouble..althogh i could handle myself (thanks to Wing Tsun)
i'm now 37, and when i'm buying certain clothes (i can still carry off the skater/grunge look) i get funny looks from the spotty teen serving behind the counter.

By the way, at 37 you aren't old enough to have been an 'old school punk' unless you were there at nine years of age (approx)..sorry, mean but I couldn't resist. wink

i actually started in 1979, i know a little late, but was enlightened to the ways by a friends older brother and living in london (tottenham) you sort of got drawn into things....i saw the damned in 79 and 80, along with siousie and the banshees and the ramones.
bauhaus twice in 81. my music collection is a vast array of punk, but i did devolp with it, i went on to bands like march violets, the cure, skeletal family, new model army, love and rockets, (even dali's car). i religiously followed the banshees around the uk in 83-84 on thier best uk tour.
and before you say the banshee's were not old school, siousie was a participant in the famous bill grundy interview...."go on...say something rude"
i know i was young, but old enough.....
and i still remember the 8ft high grafitti on the wall of the elephant and castle, where somebody had sprayed sex pistols in bright pink.

24 Nov 2005

Quote by amalthea
I was 15 in 1977 and loving every bit of punk..all the philosophy still rings true to me to this day(and I still cry when I think about Joe Strummer being dead )..but anyone still wearing the clothes after 1977 just didn't get it. Like you say it was a state of mind not a fashion statement.

i can but agree about joe strummer, but what about joe ramone etc...and the late great sid....he lived his 15 minutes of fame in 5 minutes...so misunderstood....

24 Nov 2005

I know what you mean, I am a Student Nurse and I know that if I said anything about my Swinging Activities then I could be struck off the record (look at Makosi from BB)
But sometimes I want to shout it from the rooftops and tell people that I'm not really this respectable stuck in the mud......LoL
But I agree with some of what has been said, I prefer to keep it to myself. I told my (now ex) closest friend and she basically called me a Slut and now we don't talk anymore sad

So I have seen the risks of telling people and I would prefer to keep it to myself....

24 Nov 2005

Quote by DreamerHelen
I know what you mean, I am a Student Nurse and I know that if I said anything about my Swinging Activities then I could be struck off the record (look at Makosi from BB)
But sometimes I want to shout it from the rooftops and tell people that I'm not really this respectable stuck in the mud......LoL
But I agree with some of what has been said, I prefer to keep it to myself. I told my (now ex) closest friend and she basically called me a Slut and now we don't talk anymore So I have seen the risks of telling people and I would prefer to keep it to myself....

DITTO!!!!!!!!!!

24 Nov 2005

i have the stuffiest job in the world and work with the stuffiest people.
if only they knew what i wore (or did not wear) under my stuffy, dowdy work suits! wink

24 Nov 2005

all these women in uniform such a turn on wink

i love to meet you all its always the ones that seerm conservative that actually unneath are the most adventurious keep up the good work stay safe happy swinging would love to meet you all xxxxxx

25 Nov 2005

Quote by teppic
i have experianced this a fair bit in the past.
i was an old school punk, bondage trousers, ripped tshirt, safety pins, the lot.
i used to have people cross the street to avoid me, why, my looks were not than threatening, and for those who bothered to talk to me, realised i was actually quite quiet, and reasonably well educated, with a great sense of humour, and would not hurt a fly.
if anything i used to run from trouble..althogh i could handle myself (thanks to Wing Tsun)
i'm now 37, and when i'm buying certain clothes (i can still carry off the skater/grunge look) i get funny looks from the spotty teen serving behind the counter.

By the way, at 37 you aren't old enough to have been an 'old school punk' unless you were there at nine years of age (approx)..sorry, mean but I couldn't resist. wink

i actually started in 1979, i know a little late, but was enlightened to the ways by a friends older brother and living in london (tottenham) you sort of got drawn into things....i saw the damned in 79 and 80, along with siousie and the banshees and the ramones.
bauhaus twice in 81. my music collection is a vast array of punk, but i did devolp with it, i went on to bands like march violets, the cure, skeletal family, new model army, love and rockets, (even dali's car). i religiously followed the banshees around the uk in 83-84 on thier best uk tour.
and before you say the banshee's were not old school, siousie was a participant in the famous bill grundy interview...."go on...say something rude"
i know i was young, but old enough.....
and i still remember the 8ft high grafitti on the wall of the elephant and castle, where somebody had sprayed sex pistols in bright pink.
So you were wearing bondage trousers in 1979!!!! Still I guess you were still very young so I'll ket you off.
Anyway, 'young man'...I don't think you need to tell me anything about Siouxsie, love her to bits seen her dozens of times over the years....from my local youth club in Feb 1978 to the shows at the RFH and the 100 Club last year. In fact I was a little worried when the 100 Club gig appeared as an 'extra' on the RFH DVD as I was there with a 'friend', standing right up at the front, who spent most who spent most if the gig with one hand down my trousers and the other groping my breast, whe Siouxsie finished I happened to notice I had both tits out! redface

Luckily, can't be seen on the DVD!

25 Nov 2005

Hmmmmmm
Well I think in my 'day' life, I don't think personality wise I am much different to how I am on here.
I talk and laugh a lot. It was even mention on my annual report that I always have a smile on my face!
A couple of work colleagues know I am a naturist, but no-one knows I am a member on here. But that doesn't mean I am a different person - just that I tailor my conversation to suit the situation I am in!
I couldn't be anyone else than me really!

25 Nov 2005

Quote by Lissa
. I'd love to tell them exactly what I get up to, and that I wouldn't touch one of them with a bargepole

But if they were to form an orderly queue............. lol

Yeah it's a shame we have to keep our lifestyle from everybody, but I wonder, would it be as much fun if it were all out in the open.
I'm lucky 'cos I tell Dad about what goes on. Well he did lend me the DVD on dogging that got Lissa in to it. So it is only fair. But I wish I could share Lissas escapades with a mate.

25 Nov 2005

Quote by amalthea
i have experianced this a fair bit in the past.
i was an old school punk, bondage trousers, ripped tshirt, safety pins, the lot.
i used to have people cross the street to avoid me, why, my looks were not than threatening, and for those who bothered to talk to me, realised i was actually quite quiet, and reasonably well educated, with a great sense of humour, and would not hurt a fly.
if anything i used to run from trouble..althogh i could handle myself (thanks to Wing Tsun)
i'm now 37, and when i'm buying certain clothes (i can still carry off the skater/grunge look) i get funny looks from the spotty teen serving behind the counter.

By the way, at 37 you aren't old enough to have been an 'old school punk' unless you were there at nine years of age (approx)..sorry, mean but I couldn't resist. wink

i actually started in 1979, i know a little late, but was enlightened to the ways by a friends older brother and living in london (tottenham) you sort of got drawn into things....i saw the damned in 79 and 80, along with siousie and the banshees and the ramones.
bauhaus twice in 81. my music collection is a vast array of punk, but i did devolp with it, i went on to bands like march violets, the cure, skeletal family, new model army, love and rockets, (even dali's car). i religiously followed the banshees around the uk in 83-84 on thier best uk tour.
and before you say the banshee's were not old school, siousie was a participant in the famous bill grundy interview...."go on...say something rude"
i know i was young, but old enough.....
and i still remember the 8ft high grafitti on the wall of the elephant and castle, where somebody had sprayed sex pistols in bright pink.
So you were wearing bondage trousers in 1979!!!! Still I guess you were still very young so I'll ket you off.
Anyway, 'young man'...I don't think you need to tell me anything about Siouxsie, love her to bits seen her dozens of times over the years....from my local youth club in Feb 1978 to the shows at the RFH and the 100 Club last year. In fact I was a little worried when the 100 Club gig appeared as an 'extra' on the RFH DVD as I was there with a 'friend', standing right up at the front, who spent most who spent most if the gig with one hand down my trousers and the other groping my breast, whe Siouxsie finished I happened to notice I had both tits out! redface

Luckily, can't be seen on the DVD!
damn, thats a shame you dont appear on the dvd, as it's the most watched in my house at the moment.
as for bodage trousers, i do still wear my tartans from time to time..