Unfair assumptions

23 Nov 2005

I have just been to Sainsbury's and, amongst other things, bought black stockings :twisted:
When I got to the till, the woman serving me puicked them up, looked at me and said "you do know these are stockings. not tights, don't you?" sad

Why, I thought? Do I not look like a person who would wear stockings?
Earlier today, the lady in the canteen at work refrred to me as "that nice jolly one" - and I didn't take that as a compliment either! :(
Somehow, I don't want to be seen as a nice, jolly, tights wearing woman! rolleyes

Now, this isn't a thread that I've put up just so people will give me compliments to make me feel better (although if offered, they will be gratefully received!), but I just wondered....
Have you ever wanted to shout at someone "actually I am a swinger, nwo let me tell you what I got up to last weekend...." and then go into graphic detail about your swinging exploits, just to shock them and challenge their opinion of you? :taz: :evil2: redface

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Fallen Angel
I have just been to Sainsbury's and, amongst other things, bought black stockings :twisted:
When I got to the till, the woman serving me puicked them up, looked at me and said "you do know these are stockings. not tights, don't you?"
Why, I thought? Do I not look like a person who would wear stockings?
Earlier today, the lady in the canteen at work refrred to me as "that nice jolly one" - and I didn't take that as a compliment either! :(
Somehow, I don't want to be seen as a nice, jolly, tights wearing woman!
Now, this isn't a thread that I've put up just so people will give me compliments to make me feel better (although if offered, they will be gratefully received!), but I just wondered....
Have you ever wanted to shout at someone "actually I am a swinger, nwo let me tell you what I got up to last weekend...." and then go into graphic detail about your swinging exploits, just to shock them and challenge their opinion of you? :taz: :evil2:

You sound rather conservative to me sweethaert - lol

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Fallen Angel
Have you ever wanted to shout at someone "actually I am a swinger, nwo let me tell you what I got up to last weekend...." and then go into graphic detail about your swinging exploits, just to shock them and challenge their opinion of you? :taz: :evil2:

Sometimes yes I have, but I like having an alter ego in my daily life, in which no one on earth would imagine what I'm like really and they'd probably all be shocked to death if they knew :shock: lol

Having two persona's is kind of like superman putting on his cape and becoming something extra ordinary from a very straight laced exterior :twisted: wink

Tracy-Jayne

23 Nov 2005

OH GOD YES!
All the time at work. I work in a factory with a bunch of young arrogant lads who think they are God's gift to women, and that women are only there as a convenience for them. I'd love to tell them exactly what I get up to, and that I wouldn't touch one of them with a bargepole mad

23 Nov 2005

Quote by RedHot
Sometimes yes I have, but I like having an alter ego in my daily life...
Tracy-Jayne

I have to agree.
I work in engineering and am the only woman in my particular office.
When I first started the guys used to try and embarrass me by talking about sex. There's many a time I'd have loved to tell them I was a member of a swingers site and watch the look on their faces. :shock:

23 Nov 2005

Hey works both ways, I am big so obviously I like football :censored: drinking blink

fighting :giveup: and general all round man things... Actually I am almost T Total cause I can be mad without drink anyways smile

I now can defend myself (all hail Aikido) but still avoid trouble and have been attacked in the street and hospitalised in the past in broad daylight (twice), oh and I HATE football with a vengeance.
I suppose assumptions people make about me are useful in that normally I don't get troubled out and about, but I despair when I want to help and peeps too scared to ask me due to my size. Should see the look on the old ladies faces when I politely in my Surrey oxford accent offer to get something down off the top shelf (of Sainsburys you dirty minded lot). I think that sets a few assumptions back, ignore the long hair and terrible dress sense there is a softy underneath...

23 Nov 2005

Oh, I really know what you mean. There are a number of people I intend to leave death-bed-stylee confessions for, just so they spend the rest of their lives thinking, 'Wow, I really misjudged her!'
On the other hand, I recently 'confessed' about swinging to a friend who said 'Yeah, that doesn't surprise me at all - I kind of wondered if you did'! Which is worse? redface

And it's not just about swinging, either - I often feel the same way when I'm having a crap day at work and no-one appreciates me and some idiot talks to me as though I'm (a) eight years old and (b) really thick. It makes you just want to stand up and scream:
'I am a VERY interesting person! I have deep thoughts about lots of things! And I have a whole life you know nothing about! And you're really just not as superior as you think you are!'
Cocoa x
P.S. Without meaning this as a compliment in any way, I don't think you're jolly at all :D

23 Nov 2005

I know exactly where you're coming from. Just because I choose not to talk to the self-obsessed morons at work doesn't mean I'm quiet, shy and an easy target for ridicule mad

After a few pints you can't shut me up smile

And I've lost count of the number of people who think I'm a niave, innocent lad :twisted: :twisted:

23 Nov 2005

Quote by martellnotts
I have just been to Sainsbury's and, amongst other things, bought black stockings :twisted:
When I got to the till, the woman serving me puicked them up, looked at me and said "you do know these are stockings. not tights, don't you?"
Why, I thought? Do I not look like a person who would wear stockings?
Earlier today, the lady in the canteen at work refrred to me as "that nice jolly one" - and I didn't take that as a compliment either! :(
Somehow, I don't want to be seen as a nice, jolly, tights wearing woman!
Now, this isn't a thread that I've put up just so people will give me compliments to make me feel better (although if offered, they will be gratefully received!), but I just wondered....
Have you ever wanted to shout at someone "actually I am a swinger, nwo let me tell you what I got up to last weekend...." and then go into graphic detail about your swinging exploits, just to shock them and challenge their opinion of you? :taz: :evil2:

You sound rather conservative to me sweethaert - lol
You take that back! :boxing:

23 Nov 2005

I would love to shock people I know that wind me up that the fat, late 40's guy they know is a naturist that swings.
Suspect the look on there face would be worth outing us. lol

23 Nov 2005

i know how it feels to be sterio typed too lol

being a dj, i am always being thought of as a rite tart, i am but thats not the point.
a beer guzzleing, i do but that still ain`t the point
rich guy, that`s the point! always skint!!!!! mad

23 Nov 2005

I'd love to tell people at work.
During a planning meeting last week the conversation turned to bisexuals (as it does!) and one of the other teachers said that he'd read research which said that there is no such thing as bisexuality - you're either gay or straight. I smiled and said nothing and he looked at me and said 'what?'. I said that the research was a load of bollocks. He said that I sounded convinced, so I told him 'Oh, I'm VERY convinced'. He went a lovely shade of pink and shut up lol

I don't think anyone would be shocked to hear that I'm a swinger, to be honest - I'm the one they know likes dirty jokes and talking about sex :lol: I don't think they'd want to talk about it though :shock:

23 Nov 2005

Totally sympathise with tall and hairy, I'm as soft as the proverbial but due to my hobbies often end up with scars black eyes, etc and being a big lad people jump to the wrong conclusions.
You end up attracting the wrong kind of people and appear scary to the ones you'd like to become mates with. Although I find guys actually target a big guy because they like to prove how big and tough they are, lost count of the amount of times I've had to leave a club, pub, take away joint to avoid a fight over nothing.

23 Nov 2005

Quote by osker99
Although I find guys actually target a big guy because they like to prove how big and tough they are, lost count of the amount of times I've had to leave a club, pub, take away joint to avoid a fight over nothing.

Yep I can see that. Being 6'4" has its disadvantages some times!! confused

I would LOVE to tell people what Fee and I get up too! Some would be shocked :shock: but a little bit of me reckons that some close mates have a good idea already wink

Discretion in life is still a better bet tho' cool

23 Nov 2005

for those who have met me you will understand this....
some shops i go into ....not the 1s where people know me (and would know im a pussy cat)
i find some assistants are actually quite reluctant to talk to me lol..some actually look quite scared.....i tend to laugh a lot when i meet up with members of SH but obviously in day to day life i dont go around laughing or people would think id lost the plot biggrin

ive even had a woman running into the back of the shop and id never said a word lol.....
now if its a strange shop i try to keep a smile on my face and hope they dont think im a mad axe man sad

i really must get rid of that rain mac and trilby

23 Nov 2005

Quote by RedHot
Have you ever wanted to shout at someone "actually I am a swinger, nwo let me tell you what I got up to last weekend...." and then go into graphic detail about your swinging exploits, just to shock them and challenge their opinion of you? :taz: :evil2:

Sometimes yes I have, but I like having an alter ego in my daily life, in which no one on earth would imagine what I'm like really and they'd probably all be shocked to death if they knew :shock: lol

Having two persona's is kind of like superman putting on his cape and becoming something extra ordinary from a very straight laced exterior :twisted: wink

Tracy-Jayne .
I have an alter ego in my real life to .
i want to screem im a swinger . .
well im not turning into my mum quite yet
and the stocking thing huh thought it was only me cheak women at the counter just asumed i picked wrong ones up :shock: :lol:

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Scandal
Yep I can see that. Being 6'4" has its disadvantages some times!!

I know exactly how you feel mate!
I hate it when people make unfair assumptions and call me shortarse.
If only they took the time to look properly they would actually see I was 6' 3"
rolleyes

:roll: :roll: Idiots
smile

;)
Even worse when they start on accents........ wink

23 Nov 2005

Quote by the_Laird
Even worse when they start on accents........

Yup Surrey - Rich soft southern bloke...

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Scandal
I hate it when people make unfair assumptions and call me shortarse.

According to someone NOT a million miles away from me just now..........there's NOTHING short about your arse dunno

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Scandal
I hate it when people make unfair assumptions and call me shortarse.

According to someone NOT a million miles away from me just now..........there's NOTHING short about your arse dunno

And I'd just like to add to what Lairdy has said, that the documentary about me on BBC2 RIGHT NOW! is scandalous! Don't believe it, only the nice bits are true! lol

:wink:
She said the accent was cute too
but the tea was lacking......... confused

:wink:
(Sorry for the hijack Fallen Angel redface

)

23 Nov 2005

Well we like it that people don't know what we get up to. There was a situation in the village recently where the gossip mongering got out of control about an alleged swap between two consenting adult couples.
It was great for us to let the gossip go in one ear and out the other, then get indoors, look at each other, say if only they knew what WE got up to, then piss ourselves laughing :grin:
No we don't care what people think or say about us in general, but we keep our swinging activities private as we have genuine reasons for doing so, in addition we find it enhances the thrill that people don't know.

23 Nov 2005

Yeah mine says that as well................ but as I live and swing with her, it's hard to lie convincingly :shock:

23 Nov 2005

I used to work with this really arrogant 'i am gods gift to women' type pillock ( am sure you all know one).....every monday morning he would come into work full of his (s)exploits of the weekend.............
One Monday(with the ladies permission) I brought in to work a photo of 2 women sucking my cock, waited for the usual "what did everyone get up to at the weekend", dropped the photo infront of him and said, just this...... he looked at the pic and stupidly said " neither of them are alison", i just grinned and as I walked away looked back and said " who do you think was holding the camera"...
he never boasted again lol

23 Nov 2005

burn :twisted: :twisted:

23 Nov 2005

trumpton fire brigade to the rescue biggrin

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Scandal
Yep I can see that. Being 6'4" has its disadvantages some times!!

I know exactly how you feel mate!
I hate it when people make unfair assumptions and call me shortarse.
If only they took the time to look properly they would actually see I was 6' 3"
rolleyes

:roll: :roll: Idiots
smile

;)
Love your sig Scandal.....Reef! That brought back some memories biggrin

Great cornish band.

23 Nov 2005

Quote by sleazy
I used to work with this really arrogant 'i am gods gift to women' type pillock ( am sure you all know one).....every monday morning he would come into work full of his (s)exploits of the weekend.............
One Monday(with the ladies permission) I brought in to work a photo of 2 women sucking my cock, waited for the usual "what did everyone get up to at the weekend", dropped the photo infront of him and said, just this...... he looked at the pic and stupidly said " neither of them are alison", i just grinned and as I walked away looked back and said " who do you think was holding the camera"...
he never boasted again lol

sleazy.....your my f**kin hero m8tey smile

24 Nov 2005

The one that always gets me is that the kids I teach (who all seem to ahve very stereotypical beliefs of how everyone should be) spend all day calling me a 'lesbian' because I have short hair and never wear make up. Little do they know that I am having endless sex with different men from one week to the next lol

24 Nov 2005

Quote by sleazy
I used to work with this really arrogant 'i am gods gift to women' type pillock ( am sure you all know one).....every monday morning he would come into work full of his (s)exploits of the weekend.............
One Monday(with the ladies permission) I brought in to work a photo of 2 women sucking my cock, waited for the usual "what did everyone get up to at the weekend", dropped the photo infront of him and said, just this...... he looked at the pic and stupidly said " neither of them are alison", i just grinned and as I walked away looked back and said " who do you think was holding the camera"...
he never boasted again lol

Sleazy, you ARE the man! kiss

24 Nov 2005

Quote by Fallen Angel
I have just been to Sainsbury's and, amongst other things, bought black stockings :twisted:
When I got to the till, the woman serving me puicked them up, looked at me and said "you do know these are stockings. not tights, don't you?"
Why, I thought? Do I not look like a person who would wear stockings?
Earlier today, the lady in the canteen at work refrred to me as "that nice jolly one" - and I didn't take that as a compliment either! :(
Somehow, I don't want to be seen as a nice, jolly, tights wearing woman!
Now, this isn't a thread that I've put up just so people will give me compliments to make me feel better (although if offered, they will be gratefully received!), but I just wondered....
Have you ever wanted to shout at someone "actually I am a swinger, nwo let me tell you what I got up to last weekend...." and then go into graphic detail about your swinging exploits, just to shock them and challenge their opinion of you? :taz: :evil2:

Fallen Angel, just don't let them get to you, straighten your back hold your head high and look them straight in the eye, defy them wink

I have worn various things on my feet over the years, the one type I have always had in my collection has been, over the knee boots, well from 70's platforms. it has not been easy to find them sometimes! I quite often wear them when we go shopping during the day, you should see the looks I get..........just smile and let them get on with their shallow narrow minded lives.
WHY? if I wear boots that finish under the knee, no reponse:
If I wear boots that finish over the knee I get dirty looks.
why! why! why! it's only 4" extra leather