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robbie_rob
Orgasminator
now i've been on here for as long as i can remember but am still very much a novice and still nervous(lol) i spend hours trawling the ads looking for the right couples,i have had some success but mostly when i make initial contact they end up buggering off,the reply i always get is that they are'nt interested because i have'nt met them within 24 hours of initial contact!! that really isnt my style,i really go into depth reading the ads etc and prefer(and feel much more comfortable) meeting couples who dont rush.i realise that some couples have been messed about and ditch anyone who wont nip round for a shag within an hour of contact but everyone isnt the same.i have rewritten my profile this week( a week in brum in digs gives you the time) and am awaiting new replies to my ad that will take into account this(i previously thought i'd done a profile but hadnt lol)
do people like me put any of you couples off or do most of you like the fact that im not into meeting people at the drop of a hat??
even if its negative criticism i want you to tell me,every little helps lol
regards as ever rob lol
tried to add a poll but screwed it up!!
Unknown User
Have to say Rob, we're of the same opinoin - like to feel properly comfortable with people before we meet them. We don't mind meets in Chams or at socials but if it's a one to one thing we like to be sure!
robbie_rob
Orgasminator
great to know im not on me own!!!
niceandgentle
Sex God
No Rob you're not on your own - while not wanting to waste time on "e-mail tennis" I think its good to build up a rapport and to say there is no rush,something may happen in a while but its not a race!
cuddly__catlin
Orgasminator
well im not a couple, but i think the same as you, i want to chat and get to know someone before i meet, so that were both comfortable.
yes i have done the meets were ive met only after chatting for a hour but ive come to learn that its more fun if you know abit about the person your going meet.
and theres more chance that you will meet again and again ;-)
Tina xxx
P.S i think thats the longest post ive ever written lol :lol: :lol:
Unknown User
I think it makes a refreshing change for a man to be wanting to take it slowly and get to know people before meeting up biggrin
I had a look at your profile and I think it read's really well... I love your bum as well :inlove:
We have, in the past, exchanged PM's and I have always found you to be very polite and have a wicked sense of humour... wink
kiss
swing_fun_cpl
Casanova
Quote by Shireen_Mids
I think it makes a refreshing change for a man to be wanting to take it slowly and get to know people before meeting up biggrin
I had a look at your profile and I think it read's really well... I love your bum as well :inlove:
We have, in the past, exchanged PM's and I have always found you to be very polite and have a wicked sense of humour... wink
kiss

:thumbup: Shireen_mids got in first with everything i was going to say.....think she nicked my post innocent
Nicky
robbie_rob
Orgasminator
bloody hell!! so you all like me then? lol
seriously cheers for the confidence boost,its nice to know some of you out there think the same way as me!!
i sometimes question myself as regards am i a timewaster cos i dont meet at the drop of a hat,but now i feel better.
cheers
Unknown User
Quote by Shireen_Mids
I had a look at your profile and I think it read's really well... I love your bum as well :inlove:

Yep, in total agreement wink
neilinleeds
Sex God
do people like me put any of you couples off or do most of you like the fact that im not into meeting people at the drop of a hat??

think you'd find it might put some people off, who are maybe looking for the random, spontaneous thing cos that's part and parcel of their enjoyment, but you'd find lots who do want to build up some kind of relationship or rapport over time, cos that's part and parcel of their enjoyment. horses for courses and different strokes for different folks.
i can tell you that, with one exception way back in the dim and distant past, every swinging experience i've had has come after months and months of chat and banter, building a friendship of sorts, with at least one social meet to see if we click in real life the way we click online, before anything sexual has happened. i couldn't do things any other way, cos that's part and parcel of my enjoyment.
do things your own way mate. those who don't want to do things your way are maybe those you wouldn't be all that compatible with anyway.
neil x x x ;)
Unknown User
Yup have to agree with that.
I need to spend time knowing people and chatting ect. before anything. Which is why i don't use the ads as i think they are more a quick fix in part anyway.
Unknown User
Good grief ! I take so long to muster up the courage for a social meet I'm surprised they remember who I am ! confused If a proper meet takes place after that, that's another few weeks until I can work things around my shift pattern and their work ( one of the downsides to night shifts sad )
Robbie, you and I have chatted on msn quite a bit and that's how I prefer to go about things. I like to get to know someone first, see how we get on, if there's an attraction there, long before I pluck up the courage to meet for coffee. rolleyes
and before you ask No you still CAN'T come to the next girls night in :roll:
and Bring Back Frank ! smackbottom
Pete_sw
Sex God
Quote by midscplfun

I had a look at your profile and I think it read's really well... I love your bum as well :inlove:

:laughabove: Just had to agree with that before I answered.
Think its great you wont meet at the drop of a hat and for us it shows a lot more depth to the person which in turn hopefully builds a friendship as well as a chance to bump uglies lol
Just to state the other side of the coin we have come across single guys who had the DO IT NOW mentality and because we wouldnt entertain this idea they didnt wanna know us and have gone so far as not acknowledging us in a chat room after and uttered the 'time waster' label............ ah well live and learn
You carry on doing it your way you have to be happy with what you are doing :swingingchair:
smackbottom :smackbottom: :smackbottom:
stop nicking my posts before i get a chance to post them ......................... :lol:
spot on. Robby, we would not even consider meeting a guy who wanted to pop round within 5 minutes of initial contact, we have had plenty who have asked, and they get filed under "pushy, deploy barge pole"
Your way for us is the only way :thumbup: .... oh and Mrs. pete said nice bum wink
Unknown User
I think we all agree on 2 points here biggrin
1) We all agree that you are doing nothing wrong wink
2) All the ladies love your bum :giggle:
blueandpink
Sex God
do things your own way mate. those who don't want to do things your way are maybe those you wouldn't be all that compatible with anyway.

For the 2nd time today of agreeing with Neil, absolutely right. Although we have not yet been involved in lengthly correspondence, we have had couple stating "email tennis" not required. i see their point buit I politely pointed out that as newbies we NEED some chatting and getting to know then before arranging meets. We do it at OUR pace and then hope that like minded couples will respond to that.
BTW has anyone ever told you you have a great bum????
pink x
Laff_n_Chilli
Orgasminator
Quote by robbie_rob
now i've been on here for as long as i can remember but am still very much a novice and still nervous(lol) i spend hours trawling the ads looking for the right couples,i have had some success but mostly when i make initial contact they end up buggering off,the reply i always get is that they are'nt interested because i have'nt met them within 24 hours of initial contact!! that really isnt my style,i really go into depth reading the ads etc and prefer(and feel much more comfortable) meeting couples who dont rush.i realise that some couples have been messed about and ditch anyone who wont nip round for a shag within an hour of contact but everyone isnt the same.i have rewritten my profile this week( a week in brum in digs gives you the time) and am awaiting new replies to my ad that will take into account this(i previously thought i'd done a profile but hadnt lol)
do people like me put any of you couples off or do most of you like the fact that im not into meeting people at the drop of a hat??
even if its negative criticism i want you to tell me,every little helps lol
regards as ever rob lol
tried to add a poll but screwed it up!!

hi rob
typical male not doin it correctly :lol: anyway u n us have known each other for some time now long long before we even knew about SH .............like everyone else we do the chattin via msn etc and some ppl do think were timewasters etc but its how we r comfortable .......we have in our profile that this is how we do things and if whoever isnt happy with this then pass us by .......wot more can we say
yeah ur bum is as sexy as ever ...... wink
robbie_rob
Orgasminator
just dug this topic up after going through me old posts,is everyone who posted on it still around or have people dissappeared?
oh and has me arse got flabby lol
anais
Sex God
Quote by robbie_rob
just dug this topic up after going through me old posts,is everyone who posted on it still around or have people dissappeared?
oh and has me arse got flabby lol

Your arse is fine wink smile :grin:
fabio
Sex God
Quote by robbie_rob
now i've been on here for as long as i can remember but am still very much a novice and still nervous(lol) i spend hours trawling the ads looking for the right couples,i have had some success but mostly when i make initial contact they end up buggering off,the reply i always get is that they are'nt interested because i have'nt met them within 24 hours of initial contact!! that really isnt my style,i really go into depth reading the ads etc and prefer(and feel much more comfortable) meeting couples who dont rush.i realise that some couples have been messed about and ditch anyone who wont nip round for a shag within an hour of contact but everyone isnt the same.i have rewritten my profile this week( a week in brum in digs gives you the time) and am awaiting new replies to my ad that will take into account this(i previously thought i'd done a profile but hadnt lol)
do people like me put any of you couples off or do most of you like the fact that im not into meeting people at the drop of a hat??
even if its negative criticism i want you to tell me,every little helps lol
regards as ever rob lol
tried to add a poll but screwed it up!!

Rob.... seriously... this is the best "look at me" post i think i have seen in ages... :lol: :lol: :lol:
seriously though mate... you are not alone on wanting to take your time meeting people.... my attitude is "why, the rush.... all the best things come to those who wait"
there will always be people who what to meet now and won't wait... but there are also the people who will appriate the fact they are not being rushed into making decisions, and if it doesn't feel 110% right... why do it!!!
sean
Unknown User
Quote by fabio
now i've been on here for as long as i can remember but am still very much a novice and still nervous(lol) i spend hours trawling the ads looking for the right couples,i have had some success but mostly when i make initial contact they end up buggering off,the reply i always get is that they are'nt interested because i have'nt met them within 24 hours of initial contact!! that really isnt my style,i really go into depth reading the ads etc and prefer(and feel much more comfortable) meeting couples who dont rush.i realise that some couples have been messed about and ditch anyone who wont nip round for a shag within an hour of contact but everyone isnt the same.i have rewritten my profile this week( a week in brum in digs gives you the time) and am awaiting new replies to my ad that will take into account this(i previously thought i'd done a profile but hadnt lol)
do people like me put any of you couples off or do most of you like the fact that im not into meeting people at the drop of a hat??
even if its negative criticism i want you to tell me,every little helps lol
regards as ever rob lol
tried to add a poll but screwed it up!!

Rob.... seriously... this is the best "look at me" post i think i have seen in ages... :lol: :lol: :lol:
seriously though mate... you are not alone on wanting to take your time meeting people.... my attitude is "why, the rush.... all the best things come to those who wait"
there will always be people who what to meet now and won't wait... but there are also the people who will appriate the fact they are not being rushed into making decisions, and if it doesn't feel 110% right... why do it!!!
sean
this was first posted back in september last year :lol:
i was not going to post when i realised but as you have replied what the hell. Im the same im only going to play when im happy and i find the social interaction here great. I can say i have made a couple of friends here that i have met socially and hope to make many more, but i will only meet (still yet to happen)if i feel happy about it because thats the way iam.
robbie_rob
Orgasminator
i know its an old post but it brings up a relevant point and may prove/disprove that attitudes have changed lol
and how dare you say i have done it to increase my profile fabio!! :lol: :lol: :lol:
ok then,maybe just a little lol
Unknown User
Quote by Shireen_Mids
I think it makes a refreshing change for a man to be wanting to take it slowly and get to know people before meeting up biggrin
I had a look at your profile and I think it read's really well... I love your bum as well :inlove:
We have, in the past, exchanged PM's and I have always found you to be very polite and have a wicked sense of humour... wink
kiss

I agree, not all men just want to jump straight into bed with the first couple/man/woman they meet, some men quite actually like to respect others!
Unknown User
I think you may find a lot of us out there that do prefer to take our time.
In our opinion, for us, there is nothing worse than the one liner that is supposed to get an instant meet, or they spend 10mins chatting and think they have worked at it and you should meet them immediately. As someone has already said, the blanking after a "no thank you" in chat is astounding by singles and couples alike.
Keep doing what you do, chat and be comfortable with what you do, we would much rather have a choosy person any day wink
Marya_Northeast
Sex God
I wonder if you are the same Robbie-Rob on another site who pm'd me (under my other name) with flirtatious banter and a face pic, then didn't open your return mail or ever contact me again? dunno
Just a thought.
robbie_rob
Orgasminator
turns out it was me!!! dont know what happened but never got the return mail,have pm'd you anyway,was enjoying our banter too biggrin
Unknown User
So I suppose a shag this afternoon is out of the question then? wink
robbie_rob
Orgasminator
would make an exception for you dear :P :P