Unwanted Pvt messages

12 Jul 2004

Can i please ask is there a way on the forum of blocking unwanted pvt messages from people who think its a good idea to bypass the system and send people messages asking them if they fancy "A VWE guy or other stupid messages?? I guess I'm not the only one on here that gets them but its as annoying as uninvited pvts in chat mad

Yes i do know that if I were to get loads from 1 particular idiot who would not take NO for an answer I could report them to one of our super mods but I was just wondering if there was a way of actually blocking them .

12 Jul 2004

Best person to ask would be Mark I think.
Not sure what type of platform the site runs on (vBullitin etc) or what version, so there may not be a way of disabling PMs from certain people (like an "ignore" list).
Oh and don't send Mark a PM as he doesn't like unsolicited PMs rolleyes

(joke.

:lol: :lol: He's a nice guy and won't mind wink

)
Probably not the answer you wanted. sad

At least you get them. Some of the people on here don't get any from one week to the next. :cry: (not me BTW I have friends :mrgreen: :lol: :P (another joke))

12 Jul 2004

If you're getting hassle via PM please let one of the mods know and we can sort them out with our big zapper guns cool

I don't think there is a way to block PMs from specific people - at least there isn't an option for it like on where you can block addresses that belong to annoying people. Best advice is to ask Mark!

12 Jul 2004

Unsolicited PMs are something girls on here have to accept I think. They are a fact of life if you are female and post to this kind of forum.
I get them every day from guys I've never heard from.
I even get emails sent by guys who'v gone to my ad, seen where it says "no single" males and STILL wrote to me to convince me they are special and I don't know what I'm missing!
Obviously if you get someone persistently hassling you then you can report them to Mark.
But you always get some guy write to you asking if you want to meet - always "well endowed and fit" - usually the same person who just put a "women required for me to fuck" post as his first entry on Lets Meet Up and, when he wasn't inudated with offers, looked for the regular ladies and started PM-ing them.
Last week a whole bunch of us got PM-d by the same guy, and it even got discussed on a thread.
Options are to open and delete, or even delete any from someone you don't recognise or if it doesn't relate to a topic you have invited a response from.
When I posted asking for info on swimming, saunas, etc, I had some replies form some guys who were genuinely helpful and the title of the PM indicated that it was on that subject.
Although I did get a few "want to meet for a fuck?" PMs.
Unfortunately if someone has just joined the forum and starts PM-ing people from their posts there isn't much you can do to circumvent that in advance.
Or if there is, I'm sure it will be shared
Rachel
wink

12 Jul 2004

Thank you Easy and Blue I won't hassle Mark over this there are probably many peeps in the same boat and as there is no way of blocking them I guess its better just to ignor the idiots and delete the messages. But thanks anyway and kiss

to you both wink

12 Jul 2004

Thanks Rachel hun think we were writing a reply at the same time there lol as i posted and yours was there kiss

12 Jul 2004

Yeh I noticed yours turned up at the same time as mine!
Actually this kind of thread is a good thing. If we get unsolicited PMs from "well endowed Dave" and we name and shame him here, that itself will soon put a stop to it, as well as act as a deterrent to others.
Hassling a girl in private on a PM is one thing, but he's not gonna enjoy all the regular girls ganging up to expose him publicly on the forum.
Girl Power!
Rachel
wink

12 Jul 2004

Unfortunatly hun we are not allowed to name and shame more the pity. Think the forum would be full of them lmao smile

12 Jul 2004

Quote by chick0074
Yeh I noticed yours turned up at the same time as mine!
Actually this kind of thread is a good thing. If we get unsolicited PMs from "well endowed Dave" and we name and shame him here,
Rachel

Ahem ...my names Dave....and I just wanted to state that I do not pm unsolicited mad

And I'm not well endowed :x :x
errrrrm should I have said that confused

: :?: :?: rolleyes

12 Jul 2004

Quote by BiFemHants
Unfortunatly hun we are not allowed to name and shame more the pity. Think the forum would be full of them lmao

You're right there, on BOTH counts!! However, as Blue said earlier, just let us know who they are and we can zap them. For them to send you a PM means they must be a member of the Site. If you wish, you can tell them that if they persist you will contact the Mods with a view of them being banned, that may stop them dead in their tracks. If it persists, send us copies of the PM's (assuming you kept them), and we will take the necessary action.
To be fair, we don't get many cases like this from PM's, it's normally from replies from ads or straightforward emails, if yours is visible. Again, we can often track them down, but not always. but let us know, we are powerless unless we are told!
hope this helps.
Mal
wink

12 Jul 2004

I don't mind the pm's so much ... (that isn't an ok to innundate me either) but I do get cross at people who haven't introduced themselves via pm just adding me to ! .... Halfway through doing something and someone adds you and you haven't a clue who they are, and when you get chatting you realise they haven't even read the ad!!!.
I don't mind people adding me or pm'ing me but I do detest rude people who add me and then know nothing about me (ie not read the ad).

12 Jul 2004

Read ??? you mean some of them can actually read pmsl Perhaps a section written in braile might help lol :P

12 Jul 2004

Get this.
I just had a MSN from what I thought was a friend of mine in Swansea - similar handle.
But it was this:
"Hi, saw your name on Swinging Heaven and thought you might like a chat"
What a loser eh?
Needless to say I put him in his place and deleted him
I'm now wondering if it was THIS thread he saw me in - about how we don't like uninivted PMs? What's with these people?
Rachel
wink

12 Jul 2004

Bless him hope you wern't to hard on the poor sod lol rolleyes

12 Jul 2004

i think there me be a way to get pms from friends only, but nobody would be able to contact anyone would they if they all set it to friends only pms

12 Jul 2004

I don't mind them so much as a least you know their intentions ... it's those who sent a message that says 'hi' or 'great pic' or whatever.
I had one at am this morning say hi sexy ... and then put a crying face because they'd had no response!!!!!!! Like hello I was in bed!!!!!
Must check out my settings and make sure I don't have autoadds.

12 Jul 2004

Quote by BiFemHants
Bless him hope you wern't to hard on the poor sod lol

It would have been a lot harder for him if I had summoned him round and used my strap-on on his virgin ass believe me!
Well I'm guessimg he won't try it on anyone again.
Rachel
wink

12 Jul 2004

Thank you Mark kiss

However you know us Women lol curiosity and all that we HAVE to read them and also don,t forget that many times the subject line is so ambigious that you have to open them just to see what the hell its all about confused

12 Jul 2004

Quote by chick0074
Get this.
I just had a MSN from what I thought was a friend of mine in Swansea - similar handle.
But it was this:
"Hi, saw your name on Swinging Heaven and thought you might like a chat"
What a loser eh?
Needless to say I put him in his place and deleted him

Ooops must remember not to try and start conversations with people in future. At the risk of being shot down in flames I don't actaully understand what is wrong with this message. To me its just the same as someone in the pub saying - Hi how are you doing? Surely its only becomes a problem if folk persisit after you have said no thanks - please don't message me again.
redface

Silent CQ

12 Jul 2004

LOL CQ ... you aren't alone in your thoughts ... as I said earlier these are much more preferable than some of the ones I get .... rolleyes

The ones that get me are the ones that are blatently trying their luck and have ignored my ad completely ....... haven't got time for those ones.

12 Jul 2004

This isn't a person who I know from the forum or who even sent me a PM, this was someone who got my MSN and then added me and then sent me a message.
That is what is wrong with it - you don't add people to MSN or YIM without being invited.
I think that's actually a rule here isn't it?
It's the same as an unsolicited email.
PMs are bad enough, but I personally can accept they are a fact of life, but an MSN or YIM like that popping up is not on. It's going too far.
Rachel
wink

12 Jul 2004

Hello all... I just started a thread back there... I am new you see but I have an idea, maybe it has been talked about before but what about a name and shame thread?
Also, maybe some type of warning/guideline on the front page would put people off?!?
As a bloke I am pretty in the dark on this as I tend not to get too many PMs!
DAH69

12 Jul 2004

DarkandHandsome69 confused

If you read through (yes I did say READ hun lol) you will see that this has been mentioned a couple of times now :P

12 Jul 2004

Apologies bifem!
Mark, a sterling idea... Maybe upon sign up people can have an option to accept or reject unsolicited messages or not... If rejected the user could maybe then have a 'friends list' that would be allowed to message them?
Again, just an idea.... And (Before you all start) one that has probably been mentioned before!
See you around...
DAH69

12 Jul 2004

Yes it has been mentioned before. The simplest way is as Mark says - mention it in your sig, then after they have ignored that, tell us!
Mal
wink

12 Jul 2004

Done lol

12 Jul 2004

But you don't need to shout!! They can ignore any size of writing!!
Mal
wink

12 Jul 2004

Yeah Shhhhhhhh I know mal hun kiss

but as I said they don't have a section in braile so I wanted to make sure they saw it not that I believe for a second they will adhere to it :P

12 Jul 2004

You could try one of these!! :sparring:
Mal
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12 Jul 2004

:cry: You don't like me much do you Mal ??? Thats twice now you've had a go :cry: First time about my avatar now about my signature sad

Be sure let me know when I've done something right won't you :(