When I first became involved in swinging, i did start to notice that I got more male attention IRL. I think it was because swinging gave me a huge confidence boost and I literally struttedabout.
Feeling sexy and knowing you are sexy are very attractive traits and that is something other people can pick up on very easily without knowing exactly what it is.
Since that time, I can't say I've had many vanilla approaches but I have had more opportunities for it within swinging! :shock: I seem to have done a helluva lot more vanilla than swinging. Time for change!
I find myself walking about the town eyeing up every passing stanger and sorting them out as "swinger", "potential" or "vanilla".
Everyone who looks at me too long is someone who has seen me on cam in the chatrooms. They are, honest!
Unfortunately, I can't answer that one being married n all that, we only swing as a couple and I don't see people on my own.
Well being here has made me more confident so it probably has increased the likelyhod of a vanilla relationship.
I also find myself looking at women around me far more than i used to and would be more likely to strike a convo in the right situation beacause of the increased confidence.
Even though i'm not looking for a vanilla relationship at the moment i don't think you can rule it out.
Twatcos shopping can be very interesting, especially when your wife starts commenting a sexy female bum long before you do.
As for the question, no, I’m married so don’t get any Vanilla opportunities anyway
this might sound a bit strange, but at the moment im in sort of reverse.
When happily married i would be very open chat big time i would NEVER even consider i was flirting and was known as very safe, i think i made me ex jealous once that i know of in 18 years.
now im free im more aware of how sexual i can be and i think in r/l im backing off. i have mentioned this before somewhere in here i have too much confidence sometimes, and its working against me.
??? does that make any sense to any one of has 1 glass of wine gone to my already befuddled brain
i dont recognise come ons anyway, so it makes no odds to me if its swinging or vanilla lol, thank god for forward women who can actually say what they want, id be as barren as a desert otherwise lol
I used to think I got very little attention from men, or women for that matter. I've since been reliably informed that this isn't the case however I still don't notice it. I just have a blind spot for it. I do wonder about other people though, I was on a train the other day whch was packed and I sat and wondered how many of the passengers had the same reason for their journey as I did.
H.x
It does seem to overwhelm me at times. Its very tiring constantly eyeing people up. 
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look like swingers! :smackbottom: 
