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When you go from one extreme emotion to a completely opposite one in a short space of time.
The worst scenario has got to be when you're extremely happy about something, then get told some devastating news.
To me the second and opposite emotion feels even more intense than had you just had that emotion alone.
For instance, today it happened the opposite way round to the worst scenario - my eldest had a dentist appointment, I arranged to pick her up straight from school at a certain place.
To cut a long boring story short, after driving from meeting place, to local shop, to meeting place, to home, to meeting place, to school, to meeting place, to home for nearly an hour - I finally tracked her down at home......... she had been down the road talking to her mates ............ the same mates she had just spent a whole bluddy day at school with mad
Cue first extreme emotion - To say I was cross was an understatement, I was absolutely livid :x :taz: She had forgotten!!!!!!! (it couldn't have been a better time for me to conveniently forget that my middle name is 'forgotten' confused :? :? redface but that's nowt to do with this story, so doesn't count cool ). I had to fight to get her into that dentist, and could see her losing her place before she had even begun :x
Anyway, got to the dentist 5 mins late, bless em, they were ok and she was allowed in, good job cos by this time my blood was boiling :x and was ready to embarrass daughter so she would never want to venture out of house again, grounding wasn't gonna be necessary :x :x :x
Dentist was a bit offish, so that kept my blood to boiling point :x and he numbed her mouth (asked for extras to take home to keep her quiet, but they said no evil ), and her tooth was filled.
Now here comes the emotion thing - I was so angry that we had nearly missed the appointment, I knew that if she did, she would lose her place at that dentist and have to go private somewhere - Daughter sat up from having tooth filled, swilled her mouth out with some pink stuff, as she was doing that, I spoke to her, she turned to face me........... but with the numb mouth, she couldn't swill her mouth properly - and this massive jet of pink liquid flew out the side of her mouth. Like a bluddy jet water pistol it was rotflmao Our faces in pictures......
Daughter - surprisedops:
Dentist - :shock:
Assistant - :shock:
Me - lol
Followed by me -
Oh god, doesn't sound half as funny as it was :rotflmao: one of them moments you just had to have been there.
I was uncontrolable, I was doing the whole crying runny nose stomach hurting thing, couldn't bluddy stop!!! Everyone else just laughed a little bit - I was just collapsed :rotflmao:
So now daughter is too embarrassed to go out anyway - after having to escort her crying snotty nosed hysterical mother from the dentist building :rotflmao:
So back to my question - veering from one extreme emotion to the opposite, has it happened to you and what were the circumstances?? :lol:
Once thought I won a lottery and then realised I was looking at the ticket from the previous week. :doh:
Oh Missy.. I wished I'd been there.. I can just picture the scene!!
Not as funny as Missy but yes... got an early morning phone call a few months ago from a close friend, I'm happy to hear from her as we had been out with a bunch of friends so I start off being really jolly.
Then I get the news that another close friends' husband had been killed overnight. Deep and lasting pain.
:cry:
Soory to hear that jags, fairly similar story finally had my son after 68 hours labour on the saturday so was feeling all the emotions going to be told one of my closest friends had been killed in a working accident on the friday.
Lou x
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Oh Missy.. I wished I'd been there.. I can just picture the scene!!

rotflmao
Oh GnV, wish you were there, it really was so funny, the look of horror on the poor kids face as she done it :lol2: she didn't even realise it, cos numb, until it was about 3 foot away from her :lol2: All it needed was the canned laughter :lol2:
Earlier on, I had to pick up David from the station - Said to daughter that we were also gonna go get something to eat, did she want to come too - "ooooh yeh" she said "I'm ...... starving" (think she was gonna put a 'bluddy' in there, but realised she was talking to her mother in the nick of time confused )
So got ready, but she wasn't - she then said she wasn't going. Me there thinking she's got a sudden strop (she's 14, so lurches from one strop to the next it seems :? ), so said to her awwww come on, why not.
"Because I've got a numb mouth and can't eat sad "
That was me finished off again
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Not as funny as Missy but yes... got an early morning phone call a few months ago from a close friend, I'm happy to hear from her as we had been out with a bunch of friends so I start off being really jolly.
Then I get the news that another close friends' husband had been killed overnight. Deep and lasting pain.
:cry:

This is the first scenario I was on about - the shock must be more intense when it's directly after happiness. I remember when it happened not so long ago, just how numb and devastated you were :therethere: kiss
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Soory to hear that jags, fairly similar story finally had my son after 68 hours labour on the saturday so was feeling all the emotions going to be told one of my closest friends had been killed in a working accident on the friday.
Lou x

Whoa :shock: Bad one :therethere:
Bluddy awful one - right after giving birth, your heads in turmoil anyway, without having to deal with a shock like that :shock: :therethere: kiss
Not from one extreme to another but certainly to one extreme!
Does that make sense?
Was happily browsing around an auction the day prior to the sale. When i recieved a phonecall from a mate, telling me that another mates stepson had shot himself with a shotgun!
19 years old and everything to live for. Knew him from when he was 2 yrs old
Shook me big time then and getting shivers as i'm typing this!!!
Hi guys & gals
We had our wedding back in December last year. Parents were obviously invited from both sides. Now we live near Cardiff and my parents would be travelling from Aylesbury for the ceremony.
About 3 weeks earlier my Mother had been involved in a car accident on the M25, which she was extremly lucky to walk away from, with no damage other than written off car (after spinning round and round turning over a few times on the fast lane) and shock.
As you can imagine Mother had not been anywhere near a car since the accident, so although she was invited to the ceremony, we really didn't expect her to turn up under the circumstances.
We got a text message about 11am to say that they were just crossing the Severn Bridge on the M4, so we knew she would be arriving at ours approx an hour later. The ceremony was to be held at 2pm. We left home at 1:30, still no sign of Mother. Got to the Registry Office a bundle of nerves, after going through the final paperwork etc, I explained the situation to the registrar and she was great, saying that there was no-one booked in after us and we could wait all day if need be.
So there I was, as nervous as ever, feeling ill, wondering why it was nearly 3 hours since I'd heard from them, knowing that the last part of the journey would have only taken an hour. I told the registrar that I was going outside for a ciggie and as I walked out there was Mum & Dad, all smiles.
I ran to them and hugged and sobbed and sobbed like I have never done before. I had been so ill and worried about them, then had such elation that they had managed the journey.
Apparently they had gone straight to the registry office, arrived at 1pm, realised that they were early and gone down the pub for a drink!!
My poor Dad was deaf in one ear because of all the screaming my Mum had done during the journey, but as she said, " I wasn't going to miss my boys wedding day"
Ahhhhhh
xx
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Hi guys & gals
We had our wedding back in December last year. Parents were obviously invited from both sides. Now we live near Cardiff and my parents would be travelling from Aylesbury for the ceremony.
About 3 weeks earlier my Mother had been involved in a car accident on the M25, which she was extremly lucky to walk away from, with no damage other than written off car (after spinning round and round turning over a few times on the fast lane) and shock.
As you can imagine Mother had not been anywhere near a car since the accident, so although she was invited to the ceremony, we really didn't expect her to turn up under the circumstances.
We got a text message about 11am to say that they were just crossing the Severn Bridge on the M4, so we knew she would be arriving at ours approx an hour later. The ceremony was to be held at 2pm. We left home at 1:30, still no sign of Mother. Got to the Registry Office a bundle of nerves, after going through the final paperwork etc, I explained the situation to the registrar and she was great, saying that there was no-one booked in after us and we could wait all day if need be.
So there I was, as nervous as ever, feeling ill, wondering why it was nearly 3 hours since I'd heard from them, knowing that the last part of the journey would have only taken an hour. I told the registrar that I was going outside for a ciggie and as I walked out there was Mum & Dad, all smiles.
I ran to them and hugged and sobbed and sobbed like I have never done before. I had been so ill and worried about them, then had such elation that they had managed the journey.
Apparently they had gone straight to the registry office, arrived at 1pm, realised that they were early and gone down the pub for a drink!!
My poor Dad was deaf in one ear because of all the screaming my Mum had done during the journey, but as she said, " I wasn't going to miss my boys wedding day"
Ahhhhhh
xx

A seriously beautiful example of what Missy was alluding to methinks. Nice to see you two back!!
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Quote by Missy
When you go from one extreme emotion to a completely opposite one in a short space of time.
The worst scenario has got to be when you're extremely happy about something, then get told some devastating news.
To me the second and opposite emotion feels even more intense than had you just had that emotion alone.
For instance, today it happened the opposite way round to the worst scenario - my eldest had a dentist appointment, I arranged to pick her up straight from school at a certain place.
To cut a long boring story short, after driving from meeting place, to local shop, to meeting place, to home, to meeting place, to school, to meeting place, to home for nearly an hour - I finally tracked her down at home......... she had been down the road talking to her mates ............ the same mates she had just spent a whole bluddy day at school with mad
Cue first extreme emotion - To say I was cross was an understatement, I was absolutely livid :x :taz: She had forgotten!!!!!!! (it couldn't have been a better time for me to conveniently forget that my middle name is 'forgotten' confused :? :? redface but that's nowt to do with this story, so doesn't count cool ). I had to fight to get her into that dentist, and could see her losing her place before she had even begun :x
Anyway, got to the dentist 5 mins late, bless em, they were ok and she was allowed in, good job cos by this time my blood was boiling :x and was ready to embarrass daughter so she would never want to venture out of house again, grounding wasn't gonna be necessary :x :x :x
Dentist was a bit offish, so that kept my blood to boiling point :x and he numbed her mouth (asked for extras to take home to keep her quiet, but they said no evil ), and her tooth was filled.
Now here comes the emotion thing - I was so angry that we had nearly missed the appointment, I knew that if she did, she would lose her place at that dentist and have to go private somewhere - Daughter sat up from having tooth filled, swilled her mouth out with some pink stuff, as she was doing that, I spoke to her, she turned to face me........... but with the numb mouth, she couldn't swill her mouth properly - and this massive jet of pink liquid flew out the side of her mouth. Like a bluddy jet water pistol it was rotflmao Our faces in pictures......
Daughter - surprisedops:
Dentist - :shock:
Assistant - :shock:
Me - lol
Followed by me -
Oh god, doesn't sound half as funny as it was :rotflmao: one of them moments you just had to have been there.
I was uncontrolable, I was doing the whole crying runny nose stomach hurting thing, couldn't bluddy stop!!! Everyone else just laughed a little bit - I was just collapsed :rotflmao:
So now daughter is too embarrassed to go out anyway - after having to escort her crying snotty nosed hysterical mother from the dentist building :rotflmao:
So back to my question - veering from one extreme emotion to the opposite, has it happened to you and what were the circumstances?? :lol:

And you are an absolute scream woman!! :rotflmao: kiss
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Hi guys & gals
We had our wedding back in December last year. Parents were obviously invited from both sides. Now we live near Cardiff and my parents would be travelling from Aylesbury for the ceremony.
About 3 weeks earlier my Mother had been involved in a car accident on the M25, which she was extremly lucky to walk away from, with no damage other than written off car (after spinning round and round turning over a few times on the fast lane) and shock.
As you can imagine Mother had not been anywhere near a car since the accident, so although she was invited to the ceremony, we really didn't expect her to turn up under the circumstances.
We got a text message about 11am to say that they were just crossing the Severn Bridge on the M4, so we knew she would be arriving at ours approx an hour later. The ceremony was to be held at 2pm. We left home at 1:30, still no sign of Mother. Got to the Registry Office a bundle of nerves, after going through the final paperwork etc, I explained the situation to the registrar and she was great, saying that there was no-one booked in after us and we could wait all day if need be.
So there I was, as nervous as ever, feeling ill, wondering why it was nearly 3 hours since I'd heard from them, knowing that the last part of the journey would have only taken an hour. I told the registrar that I was going outside for a ciggie and as I walked out there was Mum & Dad, all smiles.
I ran to them and hugged and sobbed and sobbed like I have never done before. I had been so ill and worried about them, then had such elation that they had managed the journey.
Apparently they had gone straight to the registry office, arrived at 1pm, realised that they were early and gone down the pub for a drink!!
My poor Dad was deaf in one ear because of all the screaming my Mum had done during the journey, but as she said, " I wasn't going to miss my boys wedding day"
Ahhhhhh
xx

Well, theres a tear in my eye!!! Always go all lovely and emotional at weddings, but that's gotta be the first one I've not been to and still welled up :lol2: (excluding telly, cos am useless at watching weddings on telly rolleyes ). But you've just written that so beautifully :rose: A wonderful example of veering emotions - from that extreme worry to extreme relief and happiness :rose: I can imagine it compounded an already emotional day!
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Hi guys & gals
We had our wedding back in December last year. Parents were obviously invited from both sides. Now we live near Cardiff and my parents would be travelling from Aylesbury for the ceremony.
About 3 weeks earlier my Mother had been involved in a car accident on the M25, which she was extremly lucky to walk away from, with no damage other than written off car (after spinning round and round turning over a few times on the fast lane) and shock.
As you can imagine Mother had not been anywhere near a car since the accident, so although she was invited to the ceremony, we really didn't expect her to turn up under the circumstances.
We got a text message about 11am to say that they were just crossing the Severn Bridge on the M4, so we knew she would be arriving at ours approx an hour later. The ceremony was to be held at 2pm. We left home at 1:30, still no sign of Mother. Got to the Registry Office a bundle of nerves, after going through the final paperwork etc, I explained the situation to the registrar and she was great, saying that there was no-one booked in after us and we could wait all day if need be.
So there I was, as nervous as ever, feeling ill, wondering why it was nearly 3 hours since I'd heard from them, knowing that the last part of the journey would have only taken an hour. I told the registrar that I was going outside for a ciggie and as I walked out there was Mum & Dad, all smiles.
I ran to them and hugged and sobbed and sobbed like I have never done before. I had been so ill and worried about them, then had such elation that they had managed the journey.
Apparently they had gone straight to the registry office, arrived at 1pm, realised that they were early and gone down the pub for a drink!!
My poor Dad was deaf in one ear because of all the screaming my Mum had done during the journey, but as she said, " I wasn't going to miss my boys wedding day"
Ahhhhhh
xx

What an amazing post kiss
Morning,
Have just been to the dentist this morning and had a tooth taken out, (sitting here with half my face still numb), I just had to have a chuckle to myself when sitting in the chair and she asked me to rinse.............!! :giggle:
Thanks for the great comments too
(((((((Hugs)))))passionkiss
we have just come back from a lovely spanish holiday and it was fabulous
sun and nothing to do but watever we wanted to do - blisssssss
and then its bak to blighty - now dont get us wrong - we love our little home and we live in a truly stunningly beautiful area
but
well it aint a holiday in spain is it? - from a gr8 week to the drudge of routine again - feels like a let down dont it
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we have just come back from a lovely spanish holiday and it was fabulous
sun and nothing to do but watever we wanted to do - blisssssss
and then its bak to blighty - now dont get us wrong - we love our little home and we live in a truly stunningly beautiful area
but
well it aint a holiday in spain is it? - from a gr8 week to the drudge of routine again - feels like a let down dont it

Oh boy, do I know all about let downs after a holiday mad
Just come back from a wonderful weekend away in Manchester, had a great time :happy:
Although it was lovely, I do miss the kids, who we left with my parents, so v. excited to get back to em :inlove:
Drove to the house, although hungover, still basking in one hell of a brilliant weekend.
Walked in - and the place was in a right mess :shock: in an 'even messier than normal' kind of way :shock:
Vodka lids, ring pulls, stuff broken, a telly missing :x
My eldest decided she didn't want to stay at my parents, so said she was going on a sleepover Friday night ............. and broke into here and held a party :x :x :x
The transition from hungover, happy and contented :rose: to absolute fury :fuckinghell: :x :x :x the whole red mist and everything, took probably about seconds, give or take a nano second confused
Have just finished dragging eldest round all the kids houses to confront the parents - followed by apologies to all the neighbours :x redface surprisedops: :oops:
Still seething about it now, can't get me contented feeling back sad The more I look, the more I see - cigarette burns in my lounge and dining room carpet, which is only about 18 months old :x :x :x :x
Oh and that all topped off with the feeling of violation - cos a couple of the cheeky shits slept in my bed :( Although have made daughter change the sheets - that rooms my private space, my little sanctuary ............... not to mention what the feckers might've found if they went snooping :shock: :x :oops: :oops: :oops:
Oh and the police when I phoned em ............... didn't want to know, my daughter is a resident (doesn't matter the fact the house was full of unsupervised 14-17 year old, drunk as a skunk kids!!! How much trouble would I have been in if something went wrong?? :x ) and invited others in, nowt they can do about it :x I didn't even want to press charges, I said that, I asked them if they could just come round, have a chat and give her a wake up call ............... nope :x
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Oh and that all topped off with the feeling of violation - cos a couple of the cheeky shits slept in my bed sad Although have made daughter change the sheets - that rooms my private space, my little sanctuary ............... not to mention what the feckers might've found if they went snooping :shock: mad redface surprisedops: :oops:

Missy you have no idea how much I can relate to this kiss :kiss:
Oh and the police when I phoned em ............... didn't want to know, my daughter is a resident (doesn't matter the fact the house was full of unsupervised 14-17 year old, drunk as a skunk kids!!! How much trouble would I have been in if something went wrong?? :x ) and invited others in, nowt they can do about it :x I didn't even want to press charges, I said that, I asked them if they could just come round, have a chat and give her a wake up call ............... nope :x

Years ago they would have come out and scared the bluddy pants off her... These days they dont think about prevention... :x :x
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Oh and the police when I phoned em ............... didn't want to know, my daughter is a resident (doesn't matter the fact the house was full of unsupervised 14-17 year old, drunk as a skunk kids!!! How much trouble would I have been in if something went wrong?? mad ) and invited others in, nowt they can do about it :x I didn't even want to press charges, I said that, I asked them if they could just come round, have a chat and give her a wake up call ............... nope :x

Years ago they would have come out and scared the bluddy pants off her... These days they dont think about prevention... :x :x
That's it Shireen!!! They didn't want to know, didn't want to help, I feel they had a good opportunity there to have a chat with these kids about vandalising, stealing etc.
All of em, including my daughter went white when I said that I had called the police and they were now involved - had to elaborate it, to try and scare em myself!!! The police could've gone round, to at least see my daughter (the instigator), and given her a little wake up 'society doesn't act this way' call!!
But no, they'll just wait until they do something really bad before acting, rather than a prevention call. Quite sad really, cos I've always backed up the policing policies, it's the first (and last, touch wood) time I've ever had to phone them, with an absolute zero result - not even advice or anything confused Apart from "it's up to you to discipline her"!!!! Course I've bluddy disciplined her - she ain't seeing outside the front door for a bluddy long time...... but she's also the kind of kid who's been brought up to respect the law, and does hold police in esteem - I feel she would've benefitted from a little visit sad
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Just having a bad day at work and I thought I would share the bad news.
This lunchtime received an overdue cheque from local authority for a stairlift we put in, hurrah the budget balances.
1 hour later I receive a phone call from the son of the stairlift lady to say she had died. She had used the stairlift for about 3 weeks.
I only met her twice and she was pretty unwell then but it really has knocked me sideways. Just sitting looking at my work and filling my time in here