Well, I suppose this is going to be a slightly controversial post, but nevertheless I'm going to do it anyway.
We haven't been using this site very long, and I have mainly chatted in the room, before becoming comfortable enough to start posting in the forum. We went to the Chesterfield Munch, to get to know people and to show our faces and let people know we were genuine, and we will be going to the NW Munch too, so looking forward to meeting people there.
The chatroom is manic, and I know a lot of people have difficulty chatting in there, as do I, but I dont generally talk in private. I prefer to just go in and say hello and have a general chinwag so that when people do meet me at parties and stuff, they will be able to relate to who I am. (I keep saying 'I' cos its me on the computer, but I do have a hubby, as some of you who have met us will know).
Right, here's my gripe. Sometimes, there are people in the chatroom, who start to chat privately to us. And sometimes, if they come across as genuine, I will carry on the conversation and we get to know each other and things progress, and we arrange to meet up for a drink. On two occasions now we have arranged to meet someone when the conversation has started from a private chat in the room. And on two occasions, we have been 'stood up'. Now one of those occasions was completely our fault. We were too inexperienced and niaive to recognise the signs that this wasnt a genuine person, and with hindsight, we should have known. The other however, seemed very genuine, I took time to get to know them, to have a good old chat about everything under the sun, and then arranged to meet for a drink. They didnt turn up.
Now, sometimes these things happen, family commitments, work, the unforeseen, whatever. We know this. But a phone call would be nice. A text message saying sorry but we have to cancel. Anything.
I know in some other sites, they have a list of members who are verified as genuine. I suppose in the great scheme of things it wouldnt really change much. There are still people out there who get their strange and weird kicks out of arranging meets and not turning up, but at least if there is a list of people who are genuine, its a place to start.
What do others think?
Jules n Dave
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Hi Jules
I appreciate all that you have said, but to save going over old ground we have covered in recent months. I'm not saying a this point don't discuss it, just that it's worth looking back at what's been said before and see what can be added to it. the search option should bring it up and perhps someone with a little more time than me today could post the link.
Keep chippng away Jules, there are some very genuine people on here and the Munch is one of the best places to meet them - see you there!!
Honest Mal
I appreciate all that you have said, but to save going over old ground we have covered in recent months. I'm not saying a this point don't discuss it, just that it's worth looking back at what's been said before and see what can be added to it. the search option should bring it up and perhps someone with a little more time than me today could post the link.
Keep chippng away Jules, there are some very genuine people on here and the Munch is one of the best places to meet them - see you there!!
Honest Mal
:shock: Took me AGES to find this and it was the last of 707 topics I trawled through - some brought back happy memories and some just brought back memories!!
But here it is, the big debate
Hope it helps.
But here it is, the big debate
Hope it helps.
Personally I would say the genuine folk are known on here. I would maybe ask the more well known people if X or Y are nice people, and if they are trusted? It is always a gamble, but then that is life. Genuine things go wrong before meets sometimes, but then they would explain and say why it went amiss. Try and be more selective, and maybe chance posting on here a bit more?
I knew of a couple that had very much wanted to swing for years.
They made countless appointments with many 'genuine' couple and no one ever turned up.
He was 54 and she was 36. He may have been a bit old but he was a handsome old devil so its wasn't a case of people turning up and running in the other direction. Apart from which, he was straight and only interested in sharing her. She apparently was sex on very long legs....
Looking from the outside in, I have very much come to the conclusion its a malaise of the swinging/dogging/;free sex scene particularly exacerbated by the following....
There are an awful lot of people out there on the Net, sat behind PCs pretending to be something they're not. They seemingly get their kicks with one hand on a mouse and the other on their w*lly and will tell you anything you want to hear as long as they get what they want, a W**k maybe with the bonus of watching you on a web cam
Now I am always ready to listen and am willing to be convinced otherwise but it will be difficult
MoggyM
They made countless appointments with many 'genuine' couple and no one ever turned up.
He was 54 and she was 36. He may have been a bit old but he was a handsome old devil so its wasn't a case of people turning up and running in the other direction. Apart from which, he was straight and only interested in sharing her. She apparently was sex on very long legs....
Looking from the outside in, I have very much come to the conclusion its a malaise of the swinging/dogging/;free sex scene particularly exacerbated by the following....
There are an awful lot of people out there on the Net, sat behind PCs pretending to be something they're not. They seemingly get their kicks with one hand on a mouse and the other on their w*lly and will tell you anything you want to hear as long as they get what they want, a W**k maybe with the bonus of watching you on a web cam
Now I am always ready to listen and am willing to be convinced otherwise but it will be difficult
MoggyM
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Seems somewhat ironic that we have a number of people who have been stood up at one point or another (I included) and a large number of guys who post that no one replys to their answers to ads.
Switching topics slightly whats the wackiest reason excuse that anyone has ever had for being stood up (this does assume that one finds out) ? I once went to vist a girl only to find that she had moved out of her flat earlier that day! This was genuine since I did manage to get in contact afterwards & meet up.
Switching topics slightly whats the wackiest reason excuse that anyone has ever had for being stood up (this does assume that one finds out) ? I once went to vist a girl only to find that she had moved out of her flat earlier that day! This was genuine since I did manage to get in contact afterwards & meet up.
Sex God
I don't see that having a list of verified genuine members (however you go about putting such a list together) would help at all. If you restrict yourself to meeting those who've been vouched for, what do you do about the fact that those same people won't meet you because you haven't been vouched for? It's a catch 22 situation.
And what do you do if a verified member stands you up? Are you going to "unverify" them? The whole thing sounds a bit elitist to me.
I would personally never arrange to meet anyone who I had not at least spoken to on the phone, or preferably on webcam with voice.
And what do you do if a verified member stands you up? Are you going to "unverify" them? The whole thing sounds a bit elitist to me.
I would personally never arrange to meet anyone who I had not at least spoken to on the phone, or preferably on webcam with voice.
