Having appreciated over many years of SH the obvious swinging culture where the men clearly enjoy sharing wives/girlfriends, I have often wondered how the adventurous ladies get round possessive/jealous menfolk...the "Oi, you lookin' at my missus?" brigade who instinctively want to rearrange you facial features - when they (the girls) feel like sharing some fun without their old man going berserk. Seems odd that so many of us want our ladies to have a little more (or a lot in some cases!) yet others see a black mist. Any students of sexual psychology out there?
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Very possessive husbands/partners......
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Oh dear, don't start me off about any sort of psychology!
I suppose that the short answer is that some men have different views to others. If they are extremely possessive, then perhaps they should consider retaining a vanilla life style, but then again it might be the woman's idea to become involved in swinging and I can recall at least one relationship that did break up because of that very situation, but another where the man stood by his woman because he loved her so much and they are still together now in their 70s - Life is full of risk, but you take your chance with trade-offs.
Hope that helps.
Plim
I suppose that the short answer is that some men have different views to others. If they are extremely possessive, then perhaps they should consider retaining a vanilla life style, but then again it might be the woman's idea to become involved in swinging and I can recall at least one relationship that did break up because of that very situation, but another where the man stood by his woman because he loved her so much and they are still together now in their 70s - Life is full of risk, but you take your chance with trade-offs.
Hope that helps.
Plim
Sex God
It's certainly not exclusive to men! 
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It's certainly not exclusive to men!
:thumbup: It definitely is not.
Orgasminator
is there any room in swinging for this sort of behaviour. my belief is if you dont like dont do. if you find yourself getting jealous talk it over with your partner, a party or the middle of a club or event is not the time that this should crop up.
Sex God
I'm madly crazy jealous possessive over my partner and there have been times I have though "Oh no!" but that got fu*k all to do with swinging. There maybe people out there I wouldn't want within a hundred miles of her, actually there are, and if she wanted to swing with them then we'd have a problem on our hands. The thing is my wife digs me so would be cool about it, Come off it, in swinging there ARE more fish in the sea and to miss out on a swing you'd like to do because of a partners reservations ain't the end of the world.
Yup the old adage about keep on talking is a good one. If the lines of communication are open crap like this can be avoided easily enough.
I want swinging to be about fucking my wife and her enjoyment not about fucking with my life so jealousy can be constructive, If I feel jealous about how a guy is with J then thats fine I tell her and we dont swing. Sounds harsh but then that works and if it was the other way around ...same rules.
Adding to that a little thought occurred to me that it might even be quite cathartic to me the act of J swinging and me seeing it go on I don't know - Am I going to over analyse myself over .....No freaking chance! Scary.
Yup the old adage about keep on talking is a good one. If the lines of communication are open crap like this can be avoided easily enough.
I want swinging to be about fucking my wife and her enjoyment not about fucking with my life so jealousy can be constructive, If I feel jealous about how a guy is with J then thats fine I tell her and we dont swing. Sounds harsh but then that works and if it was the other way around ...same rules.
Adding to that a little thought occurred to me that it might even be quite cathartic to me the act of J swinging and me seeing it go on I don't know - Am I going to over analyse myself over .....No freaking chance! Scary.
