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Quote by bustylady40
When my ex died I felt anger, guilt and frustration, Suze you know my story, I only began to feel better about it all when he came to me in a dream and let me know all was ok. It was months after he died and I felt so heavy in heart, until that time.
It will take time and please remember all that was good, all that made you love Bart, there will always be unanswered questions.
Thinking of you Suze xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I felt so mad and guilty and mainly frustrated with myself, cos i didnt have the control i did have b4. Still dont have the control i had b4, but will come back in time. But u do have the memories the love, that will never ever go away. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
If anybody wants the details of barts funeral on Monday, please message me...
Suze xx
I am sure I met Bart at a munch ages ago, lovely guy. My deepest condolences for your loss.
Take care.
Jon
i hope the funeral goes ok on monday and that its a celebration of his life and the love you had for each other
take care
danne xxxx
My thoughts and love are with you today and hope that everything goes the way you want it to
Take care hun, you know where i am if and when u need me xxxxxxxx
Hi suze,
sorry we havent posted on this thread sooner but we dont go on here much atm and didnt know there was a thread.
So sorry to hear your news. It was such a shock for us when we were told.
We hope the funeral goes ok for you today and I hope you have many family members to lean on.
Bart is in our thoughts.
Wrats xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Its over.... the funeral was today and it was beautiful yet heartbreaking. Went exactly as i wanted it to and i stood up and paid a personal tribute to my man. I think he would have been both touched and proud. Its been a long day, and a long 19 days since he left and im very glad its over.
Going to pick up his ashes in a day or two and then to decide what to do with them.. it can wait a bit think...
Rest In Peace Darling....
Suze xxx
Quote by Suze43
Its over.... the funeral was today and it was beautiful yet heartbreaking. Went exactly as i wanted it to and i stood up and paid a personal tribute to my man. I think he would have been both touched and proud. Its been a long day, and a long 19 days since he left and im very glad its over.
Going to pick up his ashes in a day or two and then to decide what to do with them.. it can wait a bit think...
Rest In Peace Darling....
Suze xxx

Well done for getting through today Suze. From hereon in, it may be two steps forward and one step back - but at least there will be steps forward. :therethere:
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{big hugs Suze }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Nothing else I can add,very sad time but one day it won't hurt so bad xx
just been to pick barts ashes up from the undertakers and im relieved and happier that hes back home...
His mum left this morning and i think shes taken the jumper of his id been smelling since he died. Ive emailed her asking her if shes got it cos i need it! Its been like a blankie...
Suze x
Sending you another batch of hugs Suze.
Seeing you sharing your thoughts on here is so touching, you're such an open honest person kiss Reading your confusion, and at points raw pain, is so sad, to be expected, but sad that you have to go through all this.
I do feel for you Suze and just wanted you to know that again, you're in a lot of peoples thoughts a lot of the time, you're not alone :kiss:
Quote by Missy
Sending you another batch of hugs Suze.
Seeing you sharing your thoughts on here is so touching, you're such an open honest person kiss Reading your confusion, and at points raw pain, is so sad, to be expected, but sad that you have to go through all this.
I do feel for you Suze and just wanted you to know that again, you're in a lot of peoples thoughts a lot of the time, you're not alone :kiss:

Thanks so much missy, means a lot and yeah i guess i have bared my soul rather a lot and i hope thats ok. I honestly am overwhelmed with the support ive received on here (i had no support whatsoever from my own parents, they havent been to see me and they didnt come to the funeral).
The people on here are amazing and although i obviously wont be up to going to munches and socials for x amount on time... i feel at home here and i feel kinda loved.
Thanks to everyone for your help... ive been in touch with Cruse and ive got a 6 week wait for a visit with a counsellor and without the support on here, well i dont like to think where i would be now!!
((((hugs)))) Suze xxxx
Quote by Suze43
and yeah i guess i have bared my soul rather a lot and i hope thats ok

does it matter? as long as it helps you feel even a tiny bit better then thats the only important thing kiss
You use the forum how you feel fit Suze kiss
My thoughts are with you
Dave_Notts
I'm so sorry sweetie. In time the pain will ease and you will remember all the good times with love and fondness. Cry all you need to, smile and laugh too if that helps. He will always be close by xxx
Quote by meat2pleaseu
and yeah i guess i have bared my soul rather a lot and i hope thats ok

does it matter? as long as it helps you feel even a tiny bit better then thats the only important thing kiss
Oi you open up as much or as little as ya want babes we love you and you come in and just chill with mates when ever you feel ya need us all ok babes...........
we love you, love me Busty and the rest of the rabble on here!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by mollman1
and yeah i guess i have bared my soul rather a lot and i hope thats ok

does it matter? as long as it helps you feel even a tiny bit better then thats the only important thing kiss
Oi you open up as much or as little as ya want babes we love you and you come in and just chill with mates when ever you feel ya need us all ok babes...........
we love you, love me Busty and the rest of the rabble on here!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
awww love you two and miss you both... and Sassy thanks hun means a lot to me and i remember you lost your best mate and that what my bart was to me, my bestest mate, my lover and my soulmate. Broke the mould when they made him...
Suze xx
Quote by meat2pleaseu
and yeah i guess i have bared my soul rather a lot and i hope thats ok

does it matter? as long as it helps you feel even a tiny bit better then thats the only important thing kiss
Absolutely seconded :thumbup:
Regards
Harry Jones
Quote by Suze43
Sending you another batch of hugs Suze.
Seeing you sharing your thoughts on here is so touching, you're such an open honest person kiss Reading your confusion, and at points raw pain, is so sad, to be expected, but sad that you have to go through all this.
I do feel for you Suze and just wanted you to know that again, you're in a lot of peoples thoughts a lot of the time, you're not alone :kiss:

Thanks so much missy, means a lot and yeah i guess i have bared my soul rather a lot and i hope thats ok. I honestly am overwhelmed with the support ive received on here (i had no support whatsoever from my own parents, they havent been to see me and they didnt come to the funeral).
The people on here are amazing and although i obviously wont be up to going to munches and socials for x amount on time... i feel at home here and i feel kinda loved.
Thanks to everyone for your help... ive been in touch with Cruse and ive got a 6 week wait for a visit with a counsellor and without the support on here, well i dont like to think where i would be now!!
((((hugs)))) Suze xxxx
Suze,
You posting on here lets everyone know your OK, so keep doing it. Imagine how concerned people would be if you didn't post, that would worry people !!!
Hugs from us as well
John & Shel
I'm so sorry to hear of your partners passing and I'd just like to say that the way you have expressed your emotions on here has bought a tear to my eye. But I'm glad that you feel you are able to share your emnotions with everyone on here, to often people dont know what to do when they experience such a lose. I hope you are able to find some peace now that he is home with you. Soulie x
Aaaaaaah Suze,
We only ever borrow our loved ones for such a short time. The greatest leveller to us all is that life is so dam dam short and money makes no difference at the end of the day to what can happen.
I was really sorry to hear about Bart passing away and just wanted to say if you ever fancy an evening out to put the worlds to right sometime in the future then I am your woman.
Take care for now
Corrie xxxxxxx
Quote by corrie2010
Aaaaaaah Suze,
We only ever borrow our loved ones for such a short time. The greatest leveller to us all is that life is so dam dam short and money makes no difference at the end of the day to what can happen.
I was really sorry to hear about Bart passing away and just wanted to say if you ever fancy an evening out to put the worlds to right sometime in the future then I am your woman.
Take care for now
Corrie xxxxxxx

hmmmm thanks Corrie and i might just take take up on that offer!
Suze xx
Suze every time I log in now I come straight to this thread to see how you are doing. I'm glad you are posting kiss
Quote by Dawnie
Suze every time I log in now I come straight to this thread to see how you are doing. I'm glad you are posting kiss

awwww thanks Dawnie, had a reasonable weekend really, friends over on Friday night altho they were a bit all doom and gloom :sad: you know the sort "you will never get over this, your life may as well be over" types.
Another friend came over yesterday afternoon and has invited me to go to an concert next weekend, to see someone called Buffy Sainte Marie, never heard of her but im not saying no... its a night out and its really nice of her to invite me.
Two of my cousins travelled over to see me today and that was lovely, they are such lovely positive people, bought me some flowers, wine and a home made chocolate cake (yum yum).
Tomorrow my parents are finally coming over, they havent been to see me at all yet,havent even been to see me for over 3 years. They didnt like Bart for whatever reason, but i dont care, they should be here to support me and my children. Think ive shamed them into coming. Hope they find the way ok....
Im ok in company, its when im alone, that my mind goes into overdrive, mind you, watching "The Bucket list" last night probably wasnt my best idea!
Suze xx
Quote by Suze43
Invited me to go to an concert next weekend, its a night out and its really nice of her to invite me.
Two of my cousins travelled over to see me today and that was lovely, they are such lovely positive people, bought me some flowers, wine and a home made chocolate cake (yum yum).
Tomorrow my parents are finally coming over, they havent been to see me at all yet,havent even been to see me for over 3 years.
Suze xx

Suze
Good to hear you are getting a night out or two and making steps onwards in life and that so many are visiting you.
Good luck with the parental visit kiss
Regards
Harry Jones
Carry on hanging on Suze- every day is progress.
Quote by Suze43
Im ok in company, its when im alone, that my mind goes into overdrive....

well going out and trying to stay positive sounds like the best therapy for you, sitting moping and getting worked up isn't gonna bring Bart back and as you both loved the social aspect of this life do you really think he'd want you to sit home alone?
Maybe you should look into going to do a college course or some volunteer work to keep you busy? kiss
oh my god - I just didnt know until this was pointed out to me
Suze I'm so very very sorry - If I had known I would have sent my condolences sooner
Bart trully was one of life's good guys, whenever I have been in his company he did nothing other than make me smile - a true gent
I can only echo all the fine words said here
A sad sad day
(martell)
Quote by Tasitus
oh my god - I just didnt know until this was pointed out to me
Suze I'm so very very sorry - If I had known I would have sent my condolences sooner
Bart trully was one of life's good guys, whenever I have been in his company he did nothing other than make me smile - a true gent
I can only echo all the fine words said here
A sad sad day
(martell)

Thank you and im glad youve put your old name at the end cos i hadnt got a clue who u were altho you clearly knew me and Bart!!
Thank you for your sentiments and for caring....
Life sucks sometimes...
Suze xx