What safeguards should one insist on when arranging a meeting with a couple? If one is a single voyuer and haven't met the people concerned. Is it enough to take the word of another party, that they are who they say they are? Would one be vulnerable to mugging, knifing, or even blackmail? if the others have an ulterior motive, no proof of identity, no address, the telephone number is never answered, there has been no contact, not even by phone all I have are photos of a beautifull woman in various stages of undress with her face obscured. Now, I am being asked to meet them in a lonely place, also, to take part in photo sessions, there is no sex on offer, just to look and be photographed, it seems to me that I am being set up for something and I don't know what! This couple are not members of swinging heaven, but they answered my advert in swinging heaven photo ads. also, they are a lot younger than me so what could they possibly want me for?
I would meet them in a public place and talk to them over a coffee or a pint then decide whether you want to go with them. Also tell someone where you are going and tell them you are going to text them at a certain time and if you don't tell them to ring.
I wouldn't go anywhere alone with people I've not met beforehand. It sounds to me like they are setting you up. How do you know it's definitely a couple? Could be a gang of horrible nutters etc. You haven't managed to speak to either of them on the phone ....... if they're not even decent enough to answer the phone, or at least ring back, then they are not worth you. Just expressing worries on here Falcon, means you are wary of it all - I would follow that gut instinct. Sorry, I'm sounding really pessimistic here, but it just sounds a bit scary! :shock: Can't you email them, and arrange to meet for a drink beforehand, after all theres no big rush to meet up, or there shouldn't be. Good luck with whatever you do
Insist on enough conditions to enable yourself to feel safe - the conditions suggested by Tkano above as an absolute minimum - and if you are not 100% happy when you meet them in this neutral venue, excuse yourself and have nothing to do with them. Follow what your brain is telling you, not your hormones! Mike.
both of us have just said the exact thing DON'T GO THERE :shock: ..trust your gut instinct it's usually right first time. If you really want to meet them tell them it's a pub or any other busy place first or it's nothing.I'm sure if they are genuine they will understand your apprehensions. BTW ladies and gentlemen I give you Mrs easys very first post.
I was ready to jump straight in, when I first saw your post, and tell you not to touch it with a bargepole. :shock: But as usual, Misschief is so much more eloquent than me. I would guess, by your post that your instinct tells you to be wary, you should trust it. I always listen to mine and it's never let me down.
Wooohooo!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: Hello Mrs Easy, nice to see you joining in!! :wave: :wave: Oh, by the way, I agree with the advice above :shock: :shock: :shock:
As the others have said, trust your instincts! Why not tell them that if they won't speak to you on the phone, that you won't meet them? If they are genuine they surely will oblige? Even if they do speak to you on the phone it isn't proof positive that they're not going to set you up, but it's a start, and if you are still unsure, say you've chanaged your mind. You safety is not worth compromising in any way! I've met guys in the past, on my own, with no phone calls beforehand, but that was my choice. If I arranage a meet now and a guy wants to speak to me on the phone I will happily oblige to prove I'm genuine. It's the least anyone can do. There's a lot of nutters out there - it pays to be wary!
Being new to this myself, is it always the person/s who make the first contact, the one who calls the shots. Because a lot of the ads seems to be very demanding as to what they want, time place etc.
Thanks to all of you who replied and for your excellent advice which I have taken on board, although there is a possibility that they are genuine, there is also the possibility that they are not. My requests to send me a photograph of them together and to phone me have been ignored, I phoned them twice and had to leave a message on voice mail, the email I got following, said that they tried to phone me but that I had blocked their call, which was untrue. They have asked me to meet them this weekend, but I smell a rat, the photos they sent me of this Lady are so tempting as she is just like a beauty Queen, showing her in all her glory, ie vagina, using dildo, breasts showing, bottom, legs wide open, wearing red underwear that I requested, I thought it was too good to be true and it probably is.
When we started getting involved with other people we drew up a list of criteria that we thought were the minimum requirements. We have always rigidly stuck to that and have not yet had a bad experience. One example was a young guy who wanted to join us, and he had fairy tale looks. Sent a couple of photos, and Mrs Fac thought he was stunning. I thought he was too good to be true as the photos looked TOO professional and looked as if they were from a catalogue. When he was asked to go on cam, he always had an excuse and said that if we couldn't accept his excuse then not to bother. So we didn't. It was just too good to be true. But my gut instinct said wrong, right from the beginning, although Mrs Fac was swayed by his good looks, she eventualy saw that it wasn't right You are on your own and don't have anybody elses help in deciding, and I would think being a single male, you must be very tempted, as we all know that single males have difficulty making contact on here. You have GOT to go with your first instinct. You KNOW it isn't right!! Rich
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