wary | Swinging Heaven

21 Jul 2005

hi
I have had a really bad experience with a woman I met who was apparently looking for
nsa sex but was really looking for a way out of her marriage and a new relationship. It has totally put me off the whole scene. How can you tell when someone is genuine?
Incidentally her name wasXXXXXXXX... beware!!!
Edited by Mod.

21 Jul 2005

naming and shaming is not allowed on here lol
U can't know we have had it many times, we met a cpl and the woman left her hubby and asked mine 2 move into her hew house with her, u just have to tell them to get a life and move on, nothing else u can do

21 Jul 2005

It's a risk we all take in whatever circles we mix in. Unfortunately, there's no trick in finding out if people are 100% without an agenda.
Don't get put off your interests by the one troublemaker, is all I can say.

21 Jul 2005

As the other posters have said its a hazard we all have to put up with now and then rolleyes

I wouldn't let it put you off, in my experince most people here and on most sites don't want anymore than freindship and some great memories - both of which I have had biggrin

I have alos had a simlar experince, which can be very off putting :doh:
The only way to stop that sort of thing is to make it 100% clear what you are after and make sure thats what they are looking for. Also trust your gut feeling of a person and always keep your private life private. Obviously people need to know certain things about you - but not everything.
Hope it helps in some small way mate dunno

21 Jul 2005

Quote by discocity
hi
I have had a really bad experience with a woman I met who was apparently looking for
nsa sex but was really looking for a way out of her marriage and a new relationship. It has totally put me off the whole scene. How can you tell when someone is genuine?
Incidentally her name was XXXXXXXX... beware!!!
Edited by Mod.

Any answer to this would depend greatly on whether the husband was aware that his wife was swinging with you.
lhk
Kat