This morning I opened our mail box to find mail fromxxxxxxxxxxxx with the We like your profile lot at ours, we did.
No photo No ad No information a complete waste of time.
Is this what we are paying for empty profiles, I don't think we will bother to renew our membership. wheelnuts
Mod edit: and you didn't read the rules - no naming and shaming! Other people don't HAVE to fill in their profiles and you DON'T have to reply to them. And you DON'T have to come in here with your first post and moan.
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It's in 'My Settings' and is called the 'wink autoresponder' - there are two to choose from.
When we get winks from people where their profile is blank and it asks us to take a look at theirs and tell me what you think ,I usually reply by saying "thanks for your email but I think you profiles crap"
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a blank profile is crap but like someone else says its up to them if they want to fill it in, but on the other hand it is anoying when you recieve the wink asking you to take the time to look and then there is nothing there
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a blank profile is crap but like someone else says its up to them if they want to fill it in, but on the other hand it is anoying when you recieve the wink asking you to take the time to look and then there is nothing there
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Quote by DeviousLiasons
There is another issue here that may be bigger in the long run.
Anyone who comes to this site and decides to try it for free to see what the site is like, will have the OPTION of setting up a full profile. They will also have the option of sending other people a wink, but they cannot send any other form of message.
So imagine if you will... you are keen to try swinging, you find this site annd you have the option of sending a "wink" ( but dont really know what that means ) to a couple whos profile you have seen and found very attractive. In response you get an email back telling you that your profile is crap, or worse you get your name posted in the forums and are publically declared as a waster by someone you have never even talked to, let alone met or even arranged to meet.....
.... now in that postition...
Would you then decide to pay for a full membership?
So many of us like to say we are a welcoming and friendly community, but maybe we all need to look a little closer at what we are reallly doing.
As a partial soloution to this, maybe admin could change the mail system so that if we get a wink from a free member, it has a note added to the end explaining that Name of account has a free membership and may not send any other form of reply to you except the wink you see above.
That something i didn't know having joined straight off as a full member and before the wink system was introduced.
A good point and i think needs modifying aswell
Quote by DeviousLiasons
As a partial soloution to this, maybe admin could change the mail system so that if we get a wink from a free member, it has a note added to the end explaining that Name of account has a free membership and may not send any other form of reply to you except the wink you see above.
Marvellous idea :thumbup:
Quote by DeviousLiasons
There is another issue here that may be bigger in the long run.
Anyone who comes to this site and decides to try it for free to see what the site is like, will have the OPTION of setting up a full profile. They will also have the option of sending other people a wink, but they cannot send any other form of message.
So imagine if you will... you are keen to try swinging, you find this site annd you have the option of sending a "wink" ( but dont really know what that means ) to a couple whos profile you have seen and found very attractive. In response you get an email back telling you that your profile is crap, or worse you get your name posted in the forums and are publically declared as a waster by someone you have never even talked to, let alone met or even arranged to meet.....
.... now in that postition...
Would you then decide to pay for a full membership?
So many of us like to say we are a welcoming and friendly community, but maybe we all need to look a little closer at what we are reallly doing.
As a partial soloution to this, maybe admin could change the mail system so that if we get a wink from a free member, it has a note added to the end explaining that Name of account has a free membership and may not send any other form of reply to you except the wink you see above.
have to agree with that one i think that is a very good idea and admin should think about it its every ones choice what the put on their profile and a lot of people are just here for the social side of things so they dont need much on thier profile, i find that if you check the adds out on these bare profiles you mite found out more info when we were free members we could not add text on our profile but would write on our add that that we were free members so if some one was interested let us know and we would find a way to have more contact,
i guess if you are interested enough in some one or vice versa you should do the leg work and check out everything before sending a wink or a message
*Disclaimer: I'm not talking about 'old' members who use this site free because they joined before the take-over.
It's actually against the site contact rules to ask people to send you their 'coded details' if you are a free member.
As I have mentioned before, as a new(ish) member I pay to use this website, so is it fair for non-paying members to try and attempt to break the rules by encouraging people like me to contact them, disguising my phone number etc so they don't have to pay??
This may sound a little harsh as not everyone has the money to subscribe, but it really annoys me at times when you see some 'free' members trying to get one over on SH, and indirectly trying to get one over on me because I pay.
I hope this all doesn't sound too whingy - but perhaps a good analogy would be, imagine you fork out for a concert ticket, only to watch loads of people sneaking in for free. Would that be fair?
It's actually against the site contact rules to ask people to send you their 'coded details' if you are a free member.
As I have mentioned before, as a new(ish) member I pay to use this website, so is it fair for non-paying members to try and attempt to break the rules by encouraging people like me to contact them, disguising my phone number etc so they don't have to pay??
This may sound a little harsh as not everyone has the money to subscribe, but it really annoys me at times when you see some 'free' members trying to get one over on SH, and indirectly trying to get one over on me because I pay.
I hope this all doesn't sound too whingy - but perhaps a good analogy would be, imagine you fork out for a concert ticket, only to watch loads of people sneaking in for free. Would that be fair?
Quote by DeviousLiasons
There is another issue here that may be bigger in the long run.
Anyone who comes to this site and decides to try it for free to see what the site is like, will have the OPTION of setting up a full profile. They will also have the option of sending other people a wink, but they cannot send any other form of message.
So imagine if you will... you are keen to try swinging, you find this site annd you have the option of sending a "wink" ( but dont really know what that means ) to a couple whos profile you have seen and found very attractive. In response you get an email back telling you that your profile is crap, or worse you get your name posted in the forums and are publically declared as a waster by someone you have never even talked to, let alone met or even arranged to meet.....
.... now in that postition...
Would you then decide to pay for a full membership?
So many of us like to say we are a welcoming and friendly community, but maybe we all need to look a little closer at what we are reallly doing.
As a partial soloution to this, maybe admin could change the mail system so that if we get a wink from a free member, it has a note added to the end explaining that Name of account has a free membership and may not send any other form of reply to you except the wink you see above.
maybe the site should change the wink then to maybe sumat like" liked your profile I think your hot"
As we have been on the site since before take over I didnt realise that non payers couldnt send emails, only winks
Sex God
Quote by wheelnuts
Shit my first post and I got a red card BUT the party concerned did mail me to apologize
and have now filled in their profile.
It would seem the majority of you will except bad manners, I will not
Wheelnuts
What bad manners are we accepting?
Quote by tina1
There is another issue here that may be bigger in the long run.
Anyone who comes to this site and decides to try it for free to see what the site is like, will have the OPTION of setting up a full profile. They will also have the option of sending other people a wink, but they cannot send any other form of message.
So imagine if you will... you are keen to try swinging, you find this site annd you have the option of sending a "wink" ( but dont really know what that means ) to a couple whos profile you have seen and found very attractive. In response you get an email back telling you that your profile is crap, or worse you get your name posted in the forums and are publically declared as a waster by someone you have never even talked to, let alone met or even arranged to meet.....
.... now in that postition...
Would you then decide to pay for a full membership?
So many of us like to say we are a welcoming and friendly community, but maybe we all need to look a little closer at what we are reallly doing.
As a partial soloution to this, maybe admin could change the mail system so that if we get a wink from a free member, it has a note added to the end explaining that Name of account has a free membership and may not send any other form of reply to you except the wink you see above.
maybe the site should change the wink then to maybe sumat like" liked your profile I think your hot"
As we have been on the site since before take over I didnt realise that non payers couldnt send emails, only winks
I thought you could change your "wink" reply..
Sex God
Quote by GnV
I thought you could change your "wink" reply..
You can if yolu have Heaven Extras. Otherwise it's a site one I think.
Quote by DeviousLiasons
There is another issue here that may be bigger in the long run.
Anyone who comes to this site and decides to try it for free to see what the site is like, will have the OPTION of setting up a full profile. They will also have the option of sending other people a wink, but they cannot send any other form of message.
So imagine if you will... you are keen to try swinging, you find this site annd you have the option of sending a "wink" ( but dont really know what that means ) to a couple whos profile you have seen and found very attractive. In response you get an email back telling you that your profile is crap, or worse you get your name posted in the forums and are publically declared as a waster by someone you have never even talked to, let alone met or even arranged to meet.....
.... now in that postition...
Would you then decide to pay for a full membership?
So many of us like to say we are a welcoming and friendly community, but maybe we all need to look a little closer at what we are reallly doing.
As a partial soloution to this, maybe admin could change the mail system so that if we get a wink from a free member, it has a note added to the end explaining that Name of account has a free membership and may not send any other form of reply to you except the wink you see above.
maybe the site should change the wink then to maybe sumat like" liked your profile I think your hot"
As we have been on the site since before take over I didnt realise that non payers couldnt send emails, only winks
I thought you could change your "wink" reply..
If you pay for extras, which excludes the free members..
I changed ours.. and we are "free" members (at least i think I did!)
Sex God
Do you mean you wrote your own, or that you chose one of the options available?
Sex God
Quote by wheelnuts
Shit my first post and I got a red card BUT the party concerned did mail me to apologize
and have now filled in their profile.
It would seem the majority of you will except bad manners, I will not
Wheelnuts
No I think it was a yellow after the first post but likely to be a red after this one.
People here are no more going to accept bad manners than you, but they'll try to be understanding of a situation that they thought existed after your inadequate description, which it now seems was based on a prejudicial view of only some of the facts.
Incidentally, quite liked your profile - something to identify with there, but not after this load of tripe. Just my opinion you understand.
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