What do we do?? Problem and Advice needed please guys!

27 May 2006

If your anyhting like me, I'm not very thick skinned so to speak and whilst on here what you see is what you get in person I tend to be a it less touchy towards other peoples comments than I would be in real life. After all with so many site members we can't be sure to get along with everyone. I know it smarts when someone takes a dislike to you but it happens from time to time. But remeber one persons opinion is just that and never is it the generall opinion of how everyone sees you.
People who holds views are rarely willing to change them even if they know they are in the wrong, (its a face saving thing). But then again as others have said there is ways to avoid it this is a big site and if it causes personal upset move to another room. But as dammie said if it is just bad mouthing we are all big enough and mature enough to see through it and if we are on the receiving end of it rise above it all. I refuse to take sides when I only know half of the story but I also know how hurtfull some people find comments against them.
Sit back take a look at the situation as a neutral person may see it and if thats all it is comments ignore them and move on, lifes to short for us to beat ourselves up over things that can be ignored or avoided biggrin

:D

27 May 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
Its childish and its playground stuff but still madening as hell when it happens to you!

A bit like you persistantly going into his room then?? You were in there last night even though it is a passworded room and it had a new password.... So how did you get the password and why go in?? Just to keep stirring??
Guess who is fed up now rolleyes

Red Hot not explain then...
Yes I had the password and YES i went to the room, please find the blogs! I went in straight after yet one more snide remark made via his little helpers.. in another room! Not once before eh! Oh I was given the password but told Red Hot I guessed to save the other couples face. Check the blogs though not one word said to him was there... Others made it clear I was welcome though!

27 May 2006

Yes I know the story.... You were NOT given the password to that room.... Not by the room host anyway...
What I dont understand is why keep going in there??

27 May 2006

Those that know you will know that this person is talking sh*t!!!

27 May 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

I find that advice somewhat hard to swallow (don't offer me a glass of water) and not something I would expect from an Op.
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.
I had an couple come into a room i had opened and was having some friendly banter with a few people I had been chatting to before. This couple started straight the way with a negative comment about my ad and then attempted to be sarcastic (oh did they pick the wrong person for that). Having retorted in my own unique dry sarcastic style (and within the AUP) they were probably smarting somewhat. They then proceeded with the help of a friend, who had been called in as back-up, to inform people in the room that I was in fact a perverted male taking the piss out of them by pretending to be a female... thus resulting in a number of males hurling abuse at me for being a sick FAKE!
Now whilst annoying at the time - so much so I bounced a question or two to an Op - I decided to let it go.
Now if - and that is a big 'if' - this couple (or their side-kick) decided to do this again... would I be told to go and find another room?

27 May 2006

No PoloLady you wouldn't because you are not actively seeking this couple out. I did say that I was happy to report the couple last night and I still will if you wish me to smile

27 May 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
No PoloLady you wouldn't because you are not actively seeking this couple out. I did say that I was happy to report the couple last night and I still will if you wish me to

I know you wouldn't - as you didn't - and thank you for letting me bend your ear passionkiss

The background is obviously different - the similarity about the rumour spreading struck a nerve. Regardless of personality clashes, when lies with malice about a person are involved "go in another room" is not helpful advice in my personal opinion - that is the point I am making.

27 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

I find that advice somewhat hard to swallow (don't offer me a glass of water) and not something I would expect from an Op.
Really ? Should I tell the member concerned to keep going back to the same room and continually antagonise instead ?

Quote by PoloLady
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.

That's right it wasn't given to you-it was given to the thread starter in the hope that he would read between the lines ( ie stop going into the room created by the person you are complaining about). I didn't want to be so blunt but since you have picked me up on it I want it to be clear.

Quote by PoloLady
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.
I had an couple come into a room i had opened and was having some friendly banter with a few people I had been chatting to before. This couple started straight the way with a negative comment about my ad and then attempted to be sarcastic (oh did they pick the wrong person for that). Having retorted in my own unique dry sarcastic style (and within the AUP) they were probably smarting somewhat. They then proceeded with the help of a friend, who had been called in as back-up, to inform people in the room that I was in fact a perverted male taking the piss out of them by pretending to be a female... thus resulting in a number of males hurling abuse at me for being a sick FAKE!

I can appreciate that that must have been annoying, but as the room host you are entitled to kick members for abuse. You could also report the couple (and friend) who started this and the logs would be reviewed and any appropriate action taken.

Quote by PoloLady
Now if - and that is a big 'if' - this couple (or their side-kick) decided to do this again... would I be told to go and find another room?

That depends entirely on wether or not you followed my advice in my previous post..If you had reported said couple and they were found to be in any way abusive from the logs, they would have received a ban. This often cools members' tongues somewhat. If you hadn't (or it was 6 of one half a dozen of the other) then the chances are that Admin would have decided not to ban both sets of members over a bit of banter.
As I said the advice wasn't for you, and I can assure you I was in full possession of all the facts before I commented on this thread.
Minx x x.

27 May 2006

From the comments from the ops I think there's probably a bit more to it, but if someone is saying that a couple or a female is a male, surely this would hinder their ability to just go in another room dunno

27 May 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

I find that advice somewhat hard to swallow (don't offer me a glass of water) and not something I would expect from an Op.
Really ? Should I tell the member concerned to keep going back to the same room and continually antagonise instead ?

Quote by PoloLady
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.

That's right it wasn't given to you-it was given to the thread starter in the hope that he would read between the lines ( ie stop going into the room created by the person you are complaining about). I didn't want to be so blunt but since you have picked me up on it I want it to be clear.

Quote by PoloLady
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.
I had an couple come into a room i had opened and was having some friendly banter with a few people I had been chatting to before. This couple started straight the way with a negative comment about my ad and then attempted to be sarcastic (oh did they pick the wrong person for that). Having retorted in my own unique dry sarcastic style (and within the AUP) they were probably smarting somewhat. They then proceeded with the help of a friend, who had been called in as back-up, to inform people in the room that I was in fact a perverted male taking the piss out of them by pretending to be a female... thus resulting in a number of males hurling abuse at me for being a sick FAKE!

I can appreciate that that must have been annoying, but as the room host you are entitled to kick members for abuse. You could also report the couple (and friend) who started this and the logs would be reviewed and any appropriate action taken.

Quote by PoloLady
Now if - and that is a big 'if' - this couple (or their side-kick) decided to do this again... would I be told to go and find another room?

That depends entirely on wether or not you followed my advice in my previous post..If you had reported said couple and they were found to be in any way abusive from the logs, they would have received a ban. This often cools members' tongues somewhat. If you hadn't (or it was 6 of one half a dozen of the other) then the chances are that Admin would have decided not to ban both sets of members over a bit of banter.
As I said the advice wasn't for you, and I can assure you I was in full possession of all the facts before I commented on this thread.
Minx x x.

Quote by BiWelshMinx
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

27 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

I find that advice somewhat hard to swallow (don't offer me a glass of water) and not something I would expect from an Op.
Really ? Should I tell the member concerned to keep going back to the same room and continually antagonise instead ?

Quote by PoloLady
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.

That's right it wasn't given to you-it was given to the thread starter in the hope that he would read between the lines ( ie stop going into the room created by the person you are complaining about). I didn't want to be so blunt but since you have picked me up on it I want it to be clear.

Quote by PoloLady
Actually, after an incident last night I find that advice pretty annoying - even though it is not being given to me.
I had an couple come into a room i had opened and was having some friendly banter with a few people I had been chatting to before. This couple started straight the way with a negative comment about my ad and then attempted to be sarcastic (oh did they pick the wrong person for that). Having retorted in my own unique dry sarcastic style (and within the AUP) they were probably smarting somewhat. They then proceeded with the help of a friend, who had been called in as back-up, to inform people in the room that I was in fact a perverted male taking the piss out of them by pretending to be a female... thus resulting in a number of males hurling abuse at me for being a sick FAKE!

I can appreciate that that must have been annoying, but as the room host you are entitled to kick members for abuse. You could also report the couple (and friend) who started this and the logs would be reviewed and any appropriate action taken.

Quote by PoloLady
Now if - and that is a big 'if' - this couple (or their side-kick) decided to do this again... would I be told to go and find another room?

That depends entirely on wether or not you followed my advice in my previous post..If you had reported said couple and they were found to be in any way abusive from the logs, they would have received a ban. This often cools members' tongues somewhat. If you hadn't (or it was 6 of one half a dozen of the other) then the chances are that Admin would have decided not to ban both sets of members over a bit of banter.
As I said the advice wasn't for you, and I can assure you I was in full possession of all the facts before I commented on this thread.
Minx x x.

Quote by BiWelshMinx
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

Quote by PoloLady
The background is obviously different

Yes it is..one that I am in full possession of the facts of as well.

Quote by PoloLady
Regardless of personality clashes, when lies with malice about a person are involved "go in another room" is not helpful advice in my personal opinion - that is the point I am making.

Where are these lies with malice ? dunno

Are they next to the " I know where you live" comments ? Are they one side of a whole load of playground bull$hit? :dunno:

Quote by BiWelshMinx
There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

:whistling:
Does that sayALL chatters or OTHERchatters ?
Your point Pololady ?
As I have already said, the advice given was specific to the thread starter.
Minx x x

27 May 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx

There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

Does that sayALL chatters or OTHERchatters ?
Your point Pololady ?
As I have already said, the advice given was specific to the thread starter.
Minx x x

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Your point Pololady ?

My point is simple - whether it said 'all' or 'other', neither is specific to the original poster.
That one statement implies you feel your advice to be relevant to other similar situations which 'other' chatters may experience.
I see a similarity between something I have experienced and one of the significant parts of the original posters comments. I am therefore expressing I would not find your advice appropriate or helpful if you were to give it to me - should my experience be repeated.
Had your post not contained "I give other chatters the same advice too" this would not be the case.

27 May 2006

<-----------------steps in between polo and bi welsh (this must be heaven ).....plz ladees calm down ...........heres a brew :-D

27 May 2006

whilst i think that members have every right to enjoy the benefits of the site and to go wherever they like.... without the fear of abuse and unwanted attention........
isnt it patently obvoius that due to large amounts of posts complaining about some of the problems with ettiquette in the chatrooms that this sort of things gonna happen............
i know it sounds brash of me..............and as a matter of fact i am a sensetive and caring person... but to be honest, if your gonna let things like that affect you and the site rule your emotions like this..... then i feel a little sorry for you....... however i havnt quite understood what they have done and said to make you feel so aggrieved.... perhaps this is because you arent going into details....... i do not know........
i remember a post some time ago about bullies.... i gave some brief advice on how to deal with them............. in simple terms, youre feeding their actions and im sure if they read this thread theyll be feeling pretty chuffed with themselves as to how their actions have affected you.
so..... if its advice you're after....... ill give my 2 penneth.... and i dont kNow if youre gonna like it...
1) IF YOU CANT TAKE THE HEAT ... STAY OUT OF THE KITCHEN....
2) ITS ONLY WORDS........... STICKS AND STONES ......................

27 May 2006

Quote by quimninja2003
<-----------------steps in between polo and bi welsh (this must be heaven ).....plz ladees calm down ...........heres a brew :-D

No need to 'step in between us' Ninja thanks.

27 May 2006

bugger ....cant blame me for tryin tho pmsl lol grrrrrrrrrrrr.....
both of ya .......
lol

Quote by BiWelshMinx
<-----------------steps in between polo and bi welsh (this must be heaven ).....plz ladees calm down ...........heres a brew :-D

No need to 'step in between us' Ninja thanks.

27 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady

There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

Does that sayALL chatters or OTHERchatters ?
Your point Pololady ?
As I have already said, the advice given was specific to the thread starter.
Minx x x

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Your point Pololady ?

My point is simple - whether it said 'all' or 'other', neither is specific to the original poster.
That one statement implies you feel your advice to be relevant to other similar situations which 'other' chatters may experience.
I see a similarity between something I have experienced and one of the significant parts of the original posters comments. I am therefore expressing I would not find your advice appropriate or helpful if you were to give it to me - should my experience be repeated.
Had your post not contained "I give other chatters the same advice too" this would not be the case.
Until you can answer me this question :

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Where are these lies with malice ? Are they next to the " I know where you live" comments ? Are they one side of a whole load of playground bull$hit? :dunno:

I don't feel that you have a right to question my advice.
Are you in full possession of the facts here ? I am
Have you dealt with similar cases and come to a mutual agreement ? I have
I don't for one minute think that I can solve all members disagreements with a wave of a magic wand. I live in the real world. Some people don't get on, fact of life..but there are 2 sides to every story and I have given each side in this story a choice. Choose to be a grown up or don't..
I wasn't generalising my choices as an Op in this instance, just pointing out what has worked in similar situations.
If you think my choices or opinions as an Op are bad- you are free to report me to admin,no worries.

27 May 2006

The advice being offered is specific to a certain situation PoloLady..... We do know the full facts and are advising as such smile

27 May 2006

Quote by mdr2000
Advice needed please guys...
Hi all, those of you who know us know we have a sense of humour and as such love a giggle and a laugh as much as anyone... in the few years we have been on this and other sites we have never fallen out with a single soul (not that we know of lol).
The trouble is this.. in a chat room one person has decided to take a dislike to me/us and has started to bad mouth us to others.. it all started over nothing and chance upon chance has been given to this person to make it right but no it just gets more and more personal. It has been reported to Admin and to several mods etc but still it continues. He is obviously saying the same and probably more to the very same.
I know he is bad mouthing as I have been told by SEVERAL people... if there was a reason for his dislike I could understand but there is none.
I could ignore and leave or as I now know his address etc I could just pay a visit and ask straight out... Would this be a good idea or is there another way to resolve this??
Serious answers please lol... if thats possible.
Thanks in advance
Mike xx

Hello u sexy little cornflake
I just want to say .............. ignore who ever it is !
People will see the person in question for what he/she they is/are.
When people attack you in an open chatroom or forum ......... people see the other persons venom !
Rise above it ...................... set up your own room and go there .......... if nothing is going to be done to the person breaking the AUP.
Its a shame that no-one is going to stop them ........... but if thats the way it is ....... you have to move on ............ and go where people know you and want to chat to you.
Happy hunting and chatting :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

27 May 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx

There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

Does that sayALL chatters or OTHERchatters ?
Your point Pololady ?
As I have already said, the advice given was specific to the thread starter.
Minx x x

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Your point Pololady ?

My point is simple - whether it said 'all' or 'other', neither is specific to the original poster.
That one statement implies you feel your advice to be relevant to other similar situations which 'other' chatters may experience.
I see a similarity between something I have experienced and one of the significant parts of the original posters comments. I am therefore expressing I would not find your advice appropriate or helpful if you were to give it to me - should my experience be repeated.
Had your post not contained "I give other chatters the same advice too" this would not be the case.
Until you can answer me this question :

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Where are these lies with malice ? Are they next to the " I know where you live" comments ? Are they one side of a whole load of playground bull$hit? :dunno:

I don't feel that you have a right to question my advice.
Are you in full possession of the facts here ? I am
Have you dealt with similar cases and come to a mutual agreement ? I have
I don't for one minute think that I can solve all members disagreements with a wave of a magic wand. I live in the real world. Some people don't get on, fact of life..but there are 2 sides to every story and I have given each side in this story a choice. Choose to be a grown up or don't..
I wasn't generalising my choices as an Op in this instance, just pointing out what has worked in similar situations.
If you think my choices or opinions as an Op are bad- you are free to report me to admin,no worries.
Whooooosh.

27 May 2006

Quote by PoloLady

There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too , if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x

Does that sayALL chatters or OTHERchatters ?
Your point Pololady ?
As I have already said, the advice given was specific to the thread starter.
Minx x x

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Your point Pololady ?

My point is simple - whether it said 'all' or 'other', neither is specific to the original poster.
That one statement implies you feel your advice to be relevant to other similar situations which 'other' chatters may experience.
I see a similarity between something I have experienced and one of the significant parts of the original posters comments. I am therefore expressing I would not find your advice appropriate or helpful if you were to give it to me - should my experience be repeated.
Had your post not contained "I give other chatters the same advice too" this would not be the case.
Until you can answer me this question :

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Where are these lies with malice ? Are they next to the " I know where you live" comments ? Are they one side of a whole load of playground bull$hit? :dunno:

I don't feel that you have a right to question my advice.
Are you in full possession of the facts here ? I am
Have you dealt with similar cases and come to a mutual agreement ? I have
I don't for one minute think that I can solve all members disagreements with a wave of a magic wand. I live in the real world. Some people don't get on, fact of life..but there are 2 sides to every story and I have given each side in this story a choice. Choose to be a grown up or don't..
I wasn't generalising my choices as an Op in this instance, just pointing out what has worked in similar situations.
If you think my choices or opinions as an Op are bad- you are free to report me to admin,no worries.
Whooooosh.
:dry:
In edit: After such a constructive contribution I feel unable ( or is that unwilling?) to go further....

27 May 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
The advice being offered is specific to a certain situation PoloLady..... We do know the full facts and are advising as such

I hear what you are saying :kiss:
Your fellow Op seems to be missing the point.
I cannot explain it in any clearer terms and attempting to do so seems to be being taken as an attack - so I give-up :giveup:

27 May 2006

Quote by dambuster
Mike,
Answer this if you would.
Is it a chatroom problem, or is it spilling over to other areas of your enjoyment and participation of the site and/or the lifestyle ?

Sorry was away so long.... Yes its getting to the point where a couple we have been chatting to has openly said they believe I am a single guy and therefore do not want to meet... There is only one place this rumour started....
Yes its one couple and yes its not worth getting in a twist over as they have the chance to ring (offered number) but how many others are thinking the same thing and just don't bother making contact... just in case? I may point out that one the day this started he was making me out to be some sort of perve after single women... Name one or ask anyone in any room chat or otherwise who can say I have whispered offended or asked to meet in any other way other than a couple? Not one! Yes i'm offended but when as you say it spills over into something else and the person is whispering and making comments to others I find it a very personal attack....
Would any of you guys put up with it and just ignore? Including you girls? Its nasty its childish and its personal.
Mike

27 May 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
Yes I know the story.... You were NOT given the password to that room.... Not by the room host anyway...
What I dont understand is why keep going in there??

I went in to see if I was being badmouthed even more........ I did not speak to him at all! It was in another room that I was told about me being a single perve.... Added to the fact that its already spilled over and one couple doesn't want to meet through it I think this justified to some degree.
Like I said I'm not here to piss people off but if I do I will do it alone not with some jumped up arse helping just because he has a chip on his shoulder!
Sorry this has offended you Shireen, really am but if this was happening to you or Steve I would bet my last penny you would do something to sort it!
Mike

27 May 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx
As I have already said, the advice given was specific to the thread starter.
Minx x x

Quote by PoloLady
The advice being offered is specific to a certain situation PoloLady..... We do know the full facts and are advising as such

I hear what you are saying :kiss:

So why can't you hear what I am saying? dunno

I am saying the same thing.

Quote by PoloLady
Your fellow Op seems to be missing the point.
I cannot explain it in any clearer terms and attempting to do so seems to be being taken as an attack - so I give-up :giveup:

What point? The one that I know all the facts and you don't ? The point that may have generalised other users with similar problems and offered a working solution ? Which point am I missing?
Not taken as an attack at all, but you need to express yourself clearly and respond to my answers as opposed to half arsed questions and 'whoooosh'
Minx x x

27 May 2006

Quote by blonde
Advice needed please guys...
Hi all, those of you who know us know we have a sense of humour and as such love a giggle and a laugh as much as anyone... in the few years we have been on this and other sites we have never fallen out with a single soul (not that we know of lol).
The trouble is this.. in a chat room one person has decided to take a dislike to me/us and has started to bad mouth us to others.. it all started over nothing and chance upon chance has been given to this person to make it right but no it just gets more and more personal. It has been reported to Admin and to several mods etc but still it continues. He is obviously saying the same and probably more to the very same.
I know he is bad mouthing as I have been told by SEVERAL people... if there was a reason for his dislike I could understand but there is none.
I could ignore and leave or as I now know his address etc I could just pay a visit and ask straight out... Would this be a good idea or is there another way to resolve this??
Serious answers please lol... if thats possible.
Thanks in advance
Mike xx

Hello u sexy little cornflake
I just want to say .............. ignore who ever it is !
People will see the person in question for what he/she they is/are.
When people attack you in an open chatroom or forum ......... people see the other persons venom !
Rise above it ...................... set up your own room and go there .......... if nothing is going to be done to the person breaking the AUP.
Its a shame that no-one is going to stop them ........... but if thats the way it is ....... you have to move on ............ and go where people know you and want to chat to you.
Happy hunting and chatting :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Thank you sweety... Why can't everyone be as nice then this would never have started.

27 May 2006

Quote by mdr2000
Mike,
Answer this if you would.
Is it a chatroom problem, or is it spilling over to other areas of your enjoyment and participation of the site and/or the lifestyle ?

Sorry was away so long.... Yes its getting to the point where a couple we have been chatting to has openly said they believe I am a single guy and therefore do not want to meet... There is only one place this rumour started....
Yes its one couple and yes its not worth getting in a twist over as they have the chance to ring (offered number) but how many others are thinking the same thing and just don't bother making contact... just in case? I may point out that one the day this started he was making me out to be some sort of perve after single women... Name one or ask anyone in any room chat or otherwise who can say I have whispered offended or asked to meet in any other way other than a couple? Not one! Yes i'm offended but when as you say it spills over into something else and the person is whispering and making comments to others I find it a very personal attack....
Would any of you guys put up with it and just ignore? Including you girls? Its nasty its childish and its personal.
Mike

Quote by In a NON OP mode
And you making comment with regards to knowing home details and considering paying a visit to sort the matter out would put me off EVER meeting you!!

Personally I dont think you've done yourself any favours here mate. In MY OWN, NON OPPING opinion, as a member here for a while, I reckon your post was designed to shit stir, not to seek advice.
There are two sides to every story and so far the other parties concerned seem to be handling things with a little more dignity!
These thoughts are just my own confused

27 May 2006

Quote by daveanddebbie69
Thanks to the advice given....... I realise its all a bit about nothing but I hate being badmouthed for no reason whatsoever....
I am more than happy for all the bloggs to be posted at anytime and let people make there own choices here... I KNOW I did nothing to offend in anyway and its a purely personal attack... Why I do not know he does not know me...!!
Its childish and its playground stuff but still madening as hell when it happens to you!

hi , well mike/julie iv no idear why this person is bad mouthing you but i was there one night when they was as you known , your a nice couple and as for been a single guy well your not as iv spoke to julie. well i hope you get it all sorted out soon cause we do have a good laff when your in the chat room hope we meet with you both soon deb and dave xxx passionkiss

Thanks you Guys....
It was that very night it started, I genuinly thought it over and finished. I said my bit he said his and move on yeah but then I start getting little stories and start being told I'm a bloody perve pretending to be a couple in OTHER ROOMS..... yeah I could stop going in and stop chatting to anyone but why the hell should I..... Have I not the same right as he to go in and have fun? I can take as good as I give but when it starts being so bloody personal it really gets up my nose........
We will have that drink soon... thats a promise lol
Mike xx

27 May 2006

Quote by the_Laird
Mike,
Answer this if you would.
Is it a chatroom problem, or is it spilling over to other areas of your enjoyment and participation of the site and/or the lifestyle ?

Sorry was away so long.... Yes its getting to the point where a couple we have been chatting to has openly said they believe I am a single guy and therefore do not want to meet... There is only one place this rumour started....
Yes its one couple and yes its not worth getting in a twist over as they have the chance to ring (offered number) but how many others are thinking the same thing and just don't bother making contact... just in case? I may point out that one the day this started he was making me out to be some sort of perve after single women... Name one or ask anyone in any room chat or otherwise who can say I have whispered offended or asked to meet in any other way other than a couple? Not one! Yes i'm offended but when as you say it spills over into something else and the person is whispering and making comments to others I find it a very personal attack....
Would any of you guys put up with it and just ignore? Including you girls? Its nasty its childish and its personal.
Mike

Quote by In a NON OP mode
And you making comment with regards to knowing home details and considering paying a visit to sort the matter out would put me off EVER meeting you!!

Personally I dont think you've done yourself any favours here mate. In MY OWN, NON OPPING opinion, as a member here for a while, I reckon your post was designed to shit stir, not to seek advice.
There are two sides to every story and so far the other parties concerned seem to be handling things with a little more dignity!
These thoughts are just my own confused

Good on em I say...... so far advice both on here and by PM have been pretty good.
I did report this and nothing said or done till this!! Not looking for anything here but for one person to pack in his little vendetta... not looking for favours from anyone! Like I said before what would you do in my shoes then??
If sneaking behind folks backs is more dignified so be it... Maybe this is what he wanted?
At least if its in the open and people have a chance to see the reasons behind what is going on they can make there own minds up. To me thats dignified enough....
Mike

27 May 2006

Someone has a PM.