What do you think you have learned about swinging since SH

7 Jun 2012

Some people will always prefer the birds in the bush rather than the one in the hand even if it is the best they'll ever have biggrin

Single men seem to be scared of any connection on the whole and prefer married women for that reason...... like they are any less demanding or emotional! :P
Women are usually more open and honest..........
Most single guys on here aren't
Random real life casual sex is looking very tempting again!
You cant be a nice and dirty even on here it seems
Just a personal opinion, I may be completely wrong!!
I am still learning everything the hard way lol
Pam xx

7 Jun 2012

I started out in the scene as a single girl. I quickly learnt to grow a thick skin! And to not take things personally, which unfortunately really isn't very easy and can still struggle with sometimes.
We find some people don't understand that some of us are here for the social side as well as the fun sexy side wink

nor how important it is to get to know someone rather than just shag them. Personally we find if you get on socially with someone the sex is sooo much better!
I wish people would understand that we are all here for the same reason! And it's a personal choice therefore we can pick and choose who we do and don't meet. We don't just meet for the sake of it! and we can't fancy everyone but can still chat and meet as friends socially!
Could go on and on but will leave it there lol xxxx

7 Jun 2012

Ahhh and i never realised how many Bi peeps there are out there!!! lol

lol xxxxx

7 Jun 2012

Quote by PamelaD
Women are usually more open and honest..........
Most single guys on here aren't
Random real life casual sex is looking very tempting again!

Ok, couple of observations:
Single guys don't deserve the bad rap they seem to be getting on here lately. I've met heaps of really genuinely lovely single guys from this site, both sexually and socially. I would also argue there are plenty of devious women on here too, it's just people don't tend to slag them off.
Some people would also argue that as a single person if it is "casual sex" you're looking for, then it isn't swinging. dunno

As a fellow single woman, I'm not sure I agree with people's narrow definition of swinging, but that is perhaps a different topic for discussion.
Obviously they are just my opinions though.
So, I don't know what I've learned about swinging since I've been on the site, except for the fact that the majority of people I've met have been rather fab. :thumbup:

7 Jun 2012

lol I agree there are some single guys on here that are open to connection smile

I also want to point out casual sex is not what I'm after but may have to resort back to for now :P
The social side of here is great and I generally like the people in the chatrooms biggrin

I know that women can be liars, but maybe because I am also a woman, they seem to be more honest with me :)
I am putting out my own new SH single woman view only ;)
Pam xx

7 Jun 2012

I learnt that it takes A LOT of effort to find swingers on a swinging site..
and human beings are pretty damn fascinating..

7 Jun 2012

I've learnt that my long held belief that I don't really understand women was well founded ... lol but wtf, I don't have to know what makes a flower smell nice in order to appreciate one.
..Oh and I really am quite shallow.

7 Jun 2012

Not really about swinging but in people in general after being on the site and meeting all sorts of people....
I've learnt to be more tolerant and understanding of people.
Believe it or not I was once a real gobshite bolt

7 Jun 2012

Quote by Meeko
Not really about swinging but in people in general after being on the site and meeting all sorts of people....
I've learnt to be more tolerant and understanding of people.
Believe it or not I was once a real gobshite

:laughabove: :laughabove:
No change there then lol

8 Jun 2012

Single men seem to be scared of any connection on the whole and prefer married women for that reason...... like they are any less demanding or emotional! :
Single men on here may be scared of any connection.. well let's face it it's a swinging site if they where after emotional connection maybe they should join that other sight.. you know the loads of fish one..
A woman's a woman with needs if she's married or not. I'm unsure if that comment " prefer married women" rings true.. but maybe that's another topic for discussion.

8 Jun 2012

Quote by PamelaD
Single men seem to be scared of any connection on the whole and prefer married women for that reason...... like they are any less demanding or emotional! :P

I think the whole connection thing is difficult. I don't do random sex with strangers, never have. It's not my thing. A connection was always important to me too. Trouble is in building the connection you come to actually care about eachother, and that inevitably creates an emotional involvement of sorts. Not in a 'let's get married and have babies' kinda way, just in a naturally come to care for your friends sense. We're so used I think to keeping some distance between people we sleep with, and people who are friends that swinging with them is inevitably fraught with difficulties. We have to learn to navigate boundaries we don't ordinarily have as none-swingers perhaps. It's not easy, at all in my experience. I understand absolutely why so many are into NSA one-offs.

Women are usually more open and honest..........

No. Sorry. They're really not. No more than single men / single females / couples are a, b and c anyways. Sweeping statements like that do not hold any water at all.

You cant be a nice and dirty even on here it seems

Yes you can. You just have to learn how. At the end of the day you've only got yourself to please. ;)