I personally think a fantasy is something within your mind, but not always have to act out.
If your mind reaches such levels, would the sheer fact you have a fantasy mean we really want to act upon it?
I would like to think I could have fantasies and talk about them, without always wanting to act them out.
Is talking about fantasies an escapism from the normal or could it mean we are just a pevert and really want to act them out?
Or are fantasies a way to just explore the mind and talking about them is just as horny as acting upon them?
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What is a fantasy?
Sex God
A fantasy is an ideal or situation that appeals entirely as a mental construct. I think once it becomes a reality, it ceases to be a fantasy (because you have direct experience) and it then becomes either something you like (maybe a kink, a foible maybe even a perversion, if you are lucky enough) or don't or that you would like to do again, but with a few changes.
I think acting out a fantasy is fraught with problems really. It is unlikely to be exactly as you want it to be in your mind, and therefore it is unlikely to be as fulfilling. The more complex a fantasy is, the more likely this problem is to happen.
For example, if your fantasy is just to kiss a girl, then that IS likely to be more fulfilling than if someone else fantasises about having sex with all of the Nolan sisters and Orville the Duck, on Clacton beach, wearing jodphurs and a party hat and the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra providing a background soundtrack, while Simon Cowell watches on and judges your performance.
I think talking about fantasies is very erotic with the right person. Utterly foolish with someone else who doesn't understand. It is a form of escapism entirely Minxy. It's something different from the norm and thereby attractive.
What is more perverse, having fantasies and saying nothing about them, or talking about them with a partner who understands you and them and can add another layer of richness to the fantasy? I don't think anybody is perverse in having fantasies, but I do think some fantasies are perverse... but that is kind of what makes them appealling.
Provided they stay the right side of legality of course. I mean The Nolans I could cope with, Orville the Duck I couldn't.
I think in the end fantasies are a sexual toy, they can be used to spice things up between people who are open enough to admit theirs to each other. Maybe they can be fulfilled in real life, maybe not. But if they are, I am sure new fantasies come along to take their place.
I think acting out a fantasy is fraught with problems really. It is unlikely to be exactly as you want it to be in your mind, and therefore it is unlikely to be as fulfilling. The more complex a fantasy is, the more likely this problem is to happen.
For example, if your fantasy is just to kiss a girl, then that IS likely to be more fulfilling than if someone else fantasises about having sex with all of the Nolan sisters and Orville the Duck, on Clacton beach, wearing jodphurs and a party hat and the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra providing a background soundtrack, while Simon Cowell watches on and judges your performance.
I think talking about fantasies is very erotic with the right person. Utterly foolish with someone else who doesn't understand. It is a form of escapism entirely Minxy. It's something different from the norm and thereby attractive.
What is more perverse, having fantasies and saying nothing about them, or talking about them with a partner who understands you and them and can add another layer of richness to the fantasy? I don't think anybody is perverse in having fantasies, but I do think some fantasies are perverse... but that is kind of what makes them appealling.
Provided they stay the right side of legality of course. I mean The Nolans I could cope with, Orville the Duck I couldn't.
I think in the end fantasies are a sexual toy, they can be used to spice things up between people who are open enough to admit theirs to each other. Maybe they can be fulfilled in real life, maybe not. But if they are, I am sure new fantasies come along to take their place.
Anyone else agree though that if a reasonably realistic fantasy keeps cropping up like an itch, it may well be worth scratching it - assuming that doing so isn't likely to put you/those involved at huge risk?
I've found a couple of times that indulging recurrent fantasies, even if the reality didn't work out exactly as expected has helped me get more out of life, even in areas that have nothing to do with the fantasy itself.
Rambling nonsense or does this strike a chord with anyone else?
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don't get too open-minded...your brain might fall out
I've found a couple of times that indulging recurrent fantasies, even if the reality didn't work out exactly as expected has helped me get more out of life, even in areas that have nothing to do with the fantasy itself.
Rambling nonsense or does this strike a chord with anyone else?
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don't get too open-minded...your brain might fall out
Sex God
Quote by Ms_Whips
res, omg, the nolan sisters? you really are a perve. i mean i could go for all the rest but really....the nolan sisters :shock:
for me a fantacy is something that i use to play to. they are usually things that i know for sure are never going to happen. it doesn't matter how much they turn me on they are just impossible.
i found that when i had someone to share other fantacies with they stopped having the same appeal. that was because i was with someone who took my fantacies and turned them into his own. so i stopped talking about them.
now i have someone who tells me his thoughts of what he'd like us to do, him to me, us together, me to him. also situations and places these things could happen. i can add my input to them and i know that were they to happen i could trust him completely. it's the same way the other way round. i have something i'd really like to happen that involves him and we did look into sorting that out. however, i'm not sure it's a fantacy as such. i could use the thoughts to play to, indeed i have. but it's not something i see as a fantacy but as something that may happen if the situation is right.
i think fantacies are fine as long as you remember that acting them out involves someone else. because of that it's nolonger totally under your control. fantacies are ours to own and thus perfect coz they are created by us. add someone else and you take your chances.
i've been lucky enough to do some things recently that i had thought i'd like to do. and they have been just as good if not better than i had thought they maybe.
whips
<sings> I'm in the mood for swinging...
<sings> I Wish I could fly, high up in the sky, but I can't.... You can... I can't.... Look Orville, who is your very best friend... (vomit)
I also agree with Flower, a very shapely behind in a pair of Jodphurs is very nice indeed. Especially when they hand you the riding crop... :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by Expo53d
Anyone else agree though that if a reasonably realistic fantasy keeps cropping up like an itch, it may well be worth scratching it - assuming that doing so isn't likely to put you/those involved at huge risk?
I've found a couple of times that indulging recurrent fantasies, even if the reality didn't work out exactly as expected has helped me get more out of life, even in areas that have nothing to do with the fantasy itself.
Rambling nonsense or does this strike a chord with anyone else?
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don't get too open-minded...your brain might fall out
:welcome: to the Cafe - great first post!
Yes, I would agree. I found it very empowering when I started to have the courage to realise certain fantasies I had long had.
Sex God
Fantasies (in my book) are only worthwhile if they are realistically possible - don't have to realise them necessarily.
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