What is a munch, for real?

26 Mar 2006

I have read the description of what a Munch is of course smile

Then I have read some threads that in my mind contradict that description. Call me innocent but from what I read I expected Munchs to be like an average night down the pub with maybe a bit of swinger talk thrown in. In threads though I have read of people nearly being removed due to sex in the disabled toilet (hope you arnt offended) Clevage carrying world record attempts involving drinks and many more instances as well. Dont thinnk I need to list them all, these are the recent ones I read. Now I know these things do happen in the pub but not on an average night, well not in my local anyway smile

So can anyone tell me is the SH description of a munch correct or not? I just want to know what to expect for me and Mrs Tweeky if we do get to attend one. Happy to receive replys in PM if there is anything anyone doesnt want to say here.
We fully intend to attend a munch, its a matter of if we can get to one before we need to concentrate on other things in July.
Thanks in advance.
Mr Tweeky

27 Mar 2006

Only been to a couple but it is pretty much like a night at a slightly wilder pub.
i've witnessed much more 'shocking' behaviour in vanilla venues from exposed breasts and knobs, to people smoking weed or sniffing coke & even sat next to someone having sex in one club (did move once i noticed, before you ask). i know you're going to say you don't go to places where this happens, but i'm just pointing out they are vanilla venues.
Munches usually consist of a bunch of drunk eejits drinkies

, lots of snogging passionkiss

and not much more. i have heard about people shagging in toilets but they will be asked to leave if discovered, and anyway, last time i went out with some vanilla mates one got a BJ in the toilets then showed us the footage on his phone :eeek: . So don't worry that you're going to be dragged into a debauced orgy of naked flesh and filth, that happens back at the hotel for those that are interested/invited.
so get on the list, relax and enjoy it, cos it's a hell of a good party and i'll guarentee you'll sign up for the next one immediately. :thumbup:
and i'll have a pint of lager please

27 Mar 2006

Thanks for that Meat2pleaseu. Well I will not say that I havent been to places where things like that happen cus I have smile

I just got the impression that some of those things were banned at munchs. I get a good idea there from what you say so thanks for that smile

Good to go in eyes open as they say.
On the reserve list for the Bristol munch, wait and see now.
Thanks
Mr Tweeky

27 Mar 2006

The booze does seem to be the catalist to the slightly wilder side, but as i said, you shouldn't see anything too shocking in plain view, anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building. and if the sight of the odd naked breast, transvestite having a cheeky snog or someone getting their arse slapped is too shocking, you might want to consider if swinging is a good choice.

27 Mar 2006

There is something very odd going on here, either that or someone has spiked my drink :shock: :shock:

27 Mar 2006

oh feck, i'm being useful again aren't i. sorry pete, must be time for my bed soon redface

27 Mar 2006

As I see it virtually any couple or single woman can partake of any swapping/threesomes/group sex they wish to indulge in after the munch?
Good for them,I wish any on the scene to find fulfillment,its just that us single guys are often accused of looking for a quick shag by those who are assured of enjoying something that night!

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
. . . . ., anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building.

Barrel dancing is obscene :shock: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
rotflmao

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Only been to a couple but it is pretty much like a night at a slightly wilder pub. . . . . . .
. . . . so get on the list, relax and enjoy it, cos it's a hell of a good party and i'll guarentee you'll sign up for the next one immediately. :thumbup:

The views of a Munch Whore ............................
Obviously, I'm going to be biased here, and I make no apologies for that, but will try to be fair.
The "What is a Munch" help page is more a description of what a Munch should be.
I used to describe them as very similar to a wedding reception disco, without the kids and elderly relatives but full of like minded blahblahblah . . . . It was either Jas or Venus that described them as being similar to a New Years Eve do.
Some of what you read in the "Thank you" threads will relate to what happened back at the Hotels/parties or even the pre-Munch get togethers; but sometimes that's not made absolutely clear.
There's certainly more flirting goes on than most vanilla nights out I've been on. Sometimes, more outrageous flirting - verbally.
As a massive fan of Munches, it always makes me smile warmly during the couple of days following a Munch when I see people who the previous week were nervous and sometimes worried about attending, for the reasons you mention Tweeky; putting their names down for two or three upcoming munches. I've never seen it written, but I sometimes think it's as though they wanted to test the water and see for themselves what Munches are really like before committing to more. If you've the time and inclination, it's all there in the threads. I realise it's easy for members that have been around for a while to see that as it happens.
If it were true that tings "got out of hand" on a regular basis, then surely that wouldn't happen dunno

Quote by niceandgentle
As I see it virtually any couple or single woman can partake of any swapping/threesomes/group sex they wish to indulge in after the munch?
Good for them,I wish any on the scene to find fulfillment,its just that us single guys are often accused of looking for a quick shag by those who are assured of enjoying something that night!

On a personal note, being around as both a swingle, part of a straight couple, and part of a a bi-fem couple by turns; I think you might be a little surprised at how wrong you could be with that, niceandgentle.
Not everyone uses Munches as a feeder for parties/playing/shagging. Personally, I very rarely play following a Munch, and I know many that don't. I also know from personal experience just how "in demand" single guys can be redface

Much has been made over recent months about "hand holding" schemes for newer members/first time munchers. Although I'm not 100% behind the idea, I will make the time to "hand hold" or "walk through the door" or meet in the afternoon before the munch; or just simply stand and chat a while during the Munch in an attempt to put first timers at ease and reassure them that Munches are not the shagfests that they can sometimes be mistakenly taken for.
The PM button is down there and open to all, for any of the above wink

:thumbup:
My "qualifications" for the above ???
Member of the site almost two years.
2000 + posts.
Almost banned from the site for "inappropriate behaviour"
Ejected from a venue.
Lost count of the Munches/Socials attended, but 20 ++
Massive fan of Munches/Socials.
Still a HUGE, MASSIVE fan of Munches/socials, this place (despite the tone of some of my recent posts) the people, and the lifestyle in general.
BUT - you'll never know 100% for sure until you go to one. Make that two wink

27 Mar 2006

Quote by tweeky
Thanks for that Meat2pleaseu. Well I will not say that I havent been to places where things like that happen cus I have I just got the impression that some of those things were banned at munchs.

Thins like that are banned from Munches. Driving at more than 30 MPH in a built-up area is also banned but it still happens. :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
Now, what happens in the hotels after the Munch is a completely different story!! confused

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Only been to a couple but it is pretty much like a night at a slightly wilder pub.
i've witnessed much more 'shocking' behaviour in vanilla venues from exposed breasts and knobs, to people smoking weed or sniffing coke & even sat next to someone having sex in one club (did move once i noticed, before you ask).

Didn't realise we had met before meaty, I once got thrown of cream in Liverpool for the same thing redface

trust me it was worth it :twisted:

27 Mar 2006

Quote by dambuster
. . . . ., anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building.

Barrel dancing is obscene :shock: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
rotflmao

No it's funny as feck! :giggle:
Minx x x

27 Mar 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx
. . . . ., anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building.

Barrel dancing is obscene :shock: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
rotflmao

No it's funny as feck! :giggle:
Minx x x
in best 'drunken welsh bint' accent
"you can't throw him out, he's Dammie" rotflmao

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
. . . . ., anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building.

Barrel dancing is obscene :shock: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
rotflmao

No it's funny as feck! :giggle:
Minx x x
in best 'drunken welsh bint' accent
"you can't throw him out, he's Dammie" rotflmao

You forgot the look of abject horror!!! :shock: mad

Minx x x

27 Mar 2006

i wasn't looking at your face :rascal:

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
. . . . ., anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building.

Barrel dancing is obscene :shock: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
rotflmao

No it's funny as feck! :giggle:
Minx x x
in best 'drunken welsh bint' accent
"you can't throw him out, he's Dammie" rotflmao

:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
And Minxy gets super human strength as she nearly crushed my spine with a hug (Im not complaining mind, Minxy is :inlove: )
Yep, Munches are places where a LOT of things can happen, but I wont say what cos Meaty will tell me off...... wink

27 Mar 2006

there's now a national sugar shortage cos of you and your recent posts poke

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
there's now a national sugar shortage cos of you and your recent posts

:smug: :thrilled: :wave2: :rose: :happy: :inlove: :giggle: innocent

Just for good measure...... wink

27 Mar 2006

Tweeky
Dont listen to them, munches are wonderful things, with lots of chatting, drinking, dancing, and in some cases sort of singing.
The before and after 'parties' tend to be a different thing. :twisted: but they are nothing what so ever to do with the main munch event.

27 Mar 2006

Oh yeah, forgot to tell you to watch out for Sarah, She'll try and eat you alive at the 1st opportunity

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Oh yeah, forgot to tell you to watch out for Sarah, She'll try and eat you alive at the 1st opportunity

That hasnt happened to me yet...... sad

27 Mar 2006

Quote by PLUM
Oh yeah, forgot to tell you to watch out for Sarah, She'll try and eat you alive at the 1st opportunity

That hasnt happened to me yet...... sad

I have never yet eaten anyone, but the is always a first time.......... :twisted:

27 Mar 2006

Quote by Sarah
Oh yeah, forgot to tell you to watch out for Sarah, She'll try and eat you alive at the 1st opportunity

That hasnt happened to me yet...... sad

I have never yet eaten anyone, but the is always a first time.......... :twisted:
You'd have to be hungry to want to eat me then....lol

27 Mar 2006

Quote by Sarah
Tweeky
Dont listen to them, munches are wonderful things, with lots of chatting, drinking, dancing, and in some cases sort of singing.
The before and after 'parties' tend to be a different thing. :twisted: but they are nothing what so ever to do with the main munch event.

Nicley said Sarah,from what I gather munches are great fun and very welcoming to one and all and I never meant anything else other than that in my previous only have to look around this forum to see the warmth and friendliness of many SH folk and that surely follows through with them in person.

27 Mar 2006

Quote by dambuster
. . . . ., anything obscene will result in the perp being ejected from the building.

Barrel dancing is obscene :shock: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?
rotflmao

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Only been to a couple but it is pretty much like a night at a slightly wilder pub. . . . . . .
. . . . so get on the list, relax and enjoy it, cos it's a hell of a good party and i'll guarentee you'll sign up for the next one immediately. :thumbup:

The views of a Munch Whore ............................
Obviously, I'm going to be biased here, and I make no apologies for that, but will try to be fair.
The "What is a Munch" help page is more a description of what a Munch should be.
I used to describe them as very similar to a wedding reception disco, without the kids and elderly relatives but full of like minded blahblahblah . . . . It was either Jas or Venus that described them as being similar to a New Years Eve do.
Some of what you read in the "Thank you" threads will relate to what happened back at the Hotels/parties or even the pre-Munch get togethers; but sometimes that's not made absolutely clear.
There's certainly more flirting goes on than most vanilla nights out I've been on. Sometimes, more outrageous flirting - verbally.
As a massive fan of Munches, it always makes me smile warmly during the couple of days following a Munch when I see people who the previous week were nervous and sometimes worried about attending, for the reasons you mention Tweeky; putting their names down for two or three upcoming munches. I've never seen it written, but I sometimes think it's as though they wanted to test the water and see for themselves what Munches are really like before committing to more. If you've the time and inclination, it's all there in the threads. I realise it's easy for members that have been around for a while to see that as it happens.
If it were true that tings "got out of hand" on a regular basis, then surely that wouldn't happen dunno

Quote by niceandgentle
As I see it virtually any couple or single woman can partake of any swapping/threesomes/group sex they wish to indulge in after the munch?
Good for them,I wish any on the scene to find fulfillment,its just that us single guys are often accused of looking for a quick shag by those who are assured of enjoying something that night!

On a personal note, being around as both a swingle, part of a straight couple, and part of a a bi-fem couple by turns; I think you might be a little surprised at how wrong you could be with that, niceandgentle.
Not everyone uses Munches as a feeder for parties/playing/shagging. Personally, I very rarely play following a Munch, and I know many that don't. I also know from personal experience just how "in demand" single guys can be redface

Much has been made over recent months about "hand holding" schemes for newer members/first time munchers. Although I'm not 100% behind the idea, I will make the time to "hand hold" or "walk through the door" or meet in the afternoon before the munch; or just simply stand and chat a while during the Munch in an attempt to put first timers at ease and reassure them that Munches are not the shagfests that they can sometimes be mistakenly taken for.
The PM button is down there and open to all, for any of the above wink

:thumbup:
My "qualifications" for the above ???
Member of the site almost two years.
2000 + posts.
Almost banned from the site for "inappropriate behaviour"
Ejected from a venue.
Lost count of the Munches/Socials attended, but 20 ++
Massive fan of Munches/Socials.
Still a HUGE, MASSIVE fan of Munches/socials, this place (despite the tone of some of my recent posts) the people, and the lifestyle in general.
BUT - you'll never know 100% for sure until you go to one. Make that two wink

Thanks for your thoughtful comments on my post Dambuster.I guess its a 'my problem' scenario in that be it meeting a single lady,couple or larger group my hope is that I can engage in something sexual with them,or one or two or a few of them in a larger group doesn't mean I expect instant shags or feel cheated or bitter if that doesn't happen.
I do get the feeling at the end of a munch just as some choose not to I would choose to go to somewhere to play were I invited and would have to admit to feeling a bit disappointed if that didn't happen which is only human,and,right or wrong,how I myself would feel about thats why I don't feel munches are quite for me,I prefer private face to face meets with women and couples with a view to perhaps play if we all like each other enough and all consent to it.
Yet I also realise the munch is where sections of the community meet face to face and its the bigger picture of the whole scene.
As an idea it does sound great,the fault,if it is a fault as such, is within me not it.

27 Mar 2006

N&G, although this site is based primarily around sex you might find it beneficial to put the sex to the back of your mind. some people go at the site like the proverbial bull in a china shop and acheive nothing. i admit i fell into the 'instant shag' approach when i first found the site, but soon realised there was much more to the community and before i realised i'd forgotten about the sex side of things and just came here for a good laugh. Funnily enough once i stopped looking for a shag i got much more opportunity, a case of if you're not looking for something you'll probably find it easier.
So treat the munch as a good night out with some friends, people will put a face to your name and feel more relaxed with you and will be more inclined to arrange an encounter. look upon the first one as a fact finding mission, to meet people and get chatting to them off the board and possibly meet up at a later munch/private meet. you never know, you might just get lucky biggrin

27 Mar 2006

Quote by tweeky
Thanks for that Meat2pleaseu. Well I will not say that I havent been to places where things like that happen cus I have I just got the impression that some of those things were banned at munchs. I get a good idea there from what you say so thanks for that Good to go in eyes open as they say.
On the reserve list for the Bristol munch, wait and see now.
Thanks
Mr Tweeky

In my experiences Munches are more Vanilla than a night out in a Vanilla venue. Yes there is a lot of flirting, snogging and the occassional boob falls out. All this happens in every city centre pub, every weekend, the closer you get to chucking out time.
The difference with a Munch is it is to a degree policed. If someone makes an advance that you are uncomfortable with you should be safe in the knowledge that if you inform them you are uncomfortable, they will respect your feelings and back off. You are also very safe in the knowledge that if they did keep trying it on there would be over a hundred people there who would make sure they backed off and mmake sure they were nno longer welcome as part of the community.
We have been to 3 Munches so far. Had a great time at everyone of them. We haven't witnessed anything that we would deem outrageous compared to a night out in Newcastle. We would recommend attending a Munch to anyone.
Les x

27 Mar 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
N&G, although this site is based primarily around sex you might find it beneficial to put the sex to the back of your mind. some people go at the site like the proverbial bull in a china shop and acheive nothing. i admit i fell into the 'instant shag' approach when i first found the site, but soon realised there was much more to the community and before i realised i'd forgotten about the sex side of things and just came here for a good laugh. Funnily enough once i stopped looking for a shag i got much more opportunity, a case of if you're not looking for something you'll probably find it easier.
So treat the munch as a good night out with some friends, people will put a face to your name and feel more relaxed with you and will be more inclined to arrange an encounter. look upon the first one as a fact finding mission, to meet people and get chatting to them off the board and possibly meet up at a later munch/private meet. you never know, you might just get lucky

I appreciate your thoughtfulness in your reply too meat but the sex is at the front of my mind,not the back.
That doesn't mean I'm a bull in a china shop,I'm just someone who has come to SH in the hope of finding like minded people to share good experiences with.
That doesn't mean I'm a quick shag merchant,I'm patient and good humoured and willing to build up a no strings pressure free rapport with anyone with no recriminations if it DOESN'T lead to playing.
I realise there's more to SH and munches than sex but,in the nicest possible way,sex via SH is my main interest in being on SH.

27 Mar 2006

Quote by niceandgentle
N&G, although this site is based primarily around sex you might find it beneficial to put the sex to the back of your mind. some people go at the site like the proverbial bull in a china shop and acheive nothing. i admit i fell into the 'instant shag' approach when i first found the site, but soon realised there was much more to the community and before i realised i'd forgotten about the sex side of things and just came here for a good laugh. Funnily enough once i stopped looking for a shag i got much more opportunity, a case of if you're not looking for something you'll probably find it easier.
So treat the munch as a good night out with some friends, people will put a face to your name and feel more relaxed with you and will be more inclined to arrange an encounter. look upon the first one as a fact finding mission, to meet people and get chatting to them off the board and possibly meet up at a later munch/private meet. you never know, you might just get lucky

I appreciate your thoughtfulness in your reply too meat but the sex is at the front of my mind,not the back.
That doesn't mean I'm a bull in a china shop,I'm just someone who has come to SH in the hope of finding like minded people to share good experiences with.
That doesn't mean I'm a quick shag merchant,I'm patient and good humoured and willing to build up a no strings pressure free rapport with anyone with no recriminations if it DOESN'T lead to playing.
I realise there's more to SH and munches than sex but,in the nicest possible way,sex via SH is my main interest in being on SH.
Both view points of meaty and niceandgentle are applicable here to various site members....and valid they are too. I do lean towards meaty's view point though. I even met my better half at Mids Munch.....and I find that the atmosphere at munches to be great!
I hope that you find what you're looking for here niceandgentle......:thumbup:

27 Mar 2006

Thanks for the views all very informative smile

We have now been offerd a place at the Bristol munch and realy hope to attend, just gota see if Mrs Tweeky can alter a work arrangement. We look foreward to it with fear and terror.
I dont mind incidnets involving barrels as long as at some point in includes me drinking the contents smile

Sarah will eat us alive, umm yes please :P
Thanks again
Mr Tweeky

27 Mar 2006

don`t pay no notice to this lot nothing happens smile

dambuster what did u do with my knickers? smile