What is a swinger?

15 Jan 2009

Quote by kentswingers777
Sorry Splendid, but I thought you was either gay or not. As a straight guy am confused how somebody could be 90% gay.

Not wishing to speak for R6 (but I will give my opinion anyway) I'm guessing he's saying he's bi, but more gay than straight. If that makes any more sense? :dunno:

15 Jan 2009

Quote by Angel Chat
Sorry Splendid, but I thought you was either gay or not. As a straight guy am confused how somebody could be 90% gay.

Not wishing to speak for R6 (but I will give my opinion anyway) I'm guessing he's saying he's bi, but more gay than straight. If that makes any more sense? :dunno:
Sort of. lol

15 Jan 2009

I'm with Neil & co on this. When I first came here I thought I was a swinging newbie. But I've realised that really, even though I haven't yet met anyone via this site, I've been a swinger for ever - just never had a label for it. As I interpret it it's a state of mind that sex can be whatever people want it to be, not shoehorned into a certain society-dictated box. It's so refreshing to finally discover kindred spirits who don't look down on a woman for enjoying sex as pure recreation as well as, in the right circumstances, something more emotional/intimate.

16 Jan 2009

Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging neutral

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

Is a single playing with a couple a swinger then? dunno

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

Is a single playing with a couple a swinger then? dunno

Well that single would be facilitating a couple Swing so the scenario is one of Swinging .
The single would be Swinging but not a Swinger :-) :wink:

16 Jan 2009

we used to call them Swingles

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

Is a single playing with a couple a swinger then? dunno

Well that single would be facilitating a couple Swing so the scenario is one of Swinging .
The single would be Swinging but not a Swinger :-) :wink:
Blimey... that's erm... clinical! :shock: lol

I hope never to *facilitate* any of you! :giggle:

16 Jan 2009

yeah it is a bit clinical ain't it, sorry biggrin

How about aiding and abetting?

16 Jan 2009

The whole facilitating thing sounds like a touch of the "couple power craze" to me.
The scenario where one half of a couple or both get the impression that they are somehow always the most important part of the equation, just cos they have pussy to trade with.
Clinical is a bit polite - cynical rhymes well and is closer to the truth.

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost

yeah it is a bit clinical ain't it, sorry How about aiding and abetting?

rofl

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Silk and Big G
just cos they have pussy to trade with.

I'll see your pussy and raise you a left boobie* lol

*Please note that I am not swinging, merely facilitating a trade between consenting adults :!:

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Serendipity
just cos they have pussy to trade with.

I'll see your pussy and raise you a left boobie* lol

*Please note that I am not swinging, merely facilitating a trade between consenting adults :!:
Hmmmmm... there are times I could consider facilitating though! :rascal:
kiss

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Serendipity
I'll see your pussy and raise you a left boobie*

Oooh!! I love it when Serendipity talks dirty!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :rascal: :rascal: :rascal:

16 Jan 2009

I feel a trade coming on :twisted:

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Serendipity
I feel a trade coming on :twisted:

You want the left or the right?! :rascal:

16 Jan 2009

Or??
And!!!!
lol

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Serendipity
Or??
And!!!!

Both?! :thumbup:
:twisted:

16 Jan 2009

You know me too well! lol

Right, I'm off to bed to ponder boobie facilitation!

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

Soooooo . . . if I was to arrange to meet a bi-curious guy who as yet has never had a male on male experience, for no other purpose than purely recreational NSA sex, as part of his ongoing exploration of his new-found sexuality, you would define that as . . . what? confused

What if I was playing with a bi-curious guy and his wife, with the express intention of helping them both explore how his sexuality fits into their existing emotional and sexual relationship. I would be a mere facilitator? Somewhat mechanical that dontcha think? Where do my thoughts and feelings and wants and desires come into it? Subordinated to those of the couple? :?
The idea Lost that only couples can swing is IMO a throwback to the days when people called it wife-swapping. It's far too limited a definition, and to be honest, it has a superior little ring to it. ;) I think the point is it's almost impossible to really define what swingers are, and what swinging is, so you have to keep it as open, flexible and inclusive as possible, because there's a multitude of possible scenarios that I think would come under the definition of swinging, and not all of them involve full-swap between two couples. The only thing that matters is the intent and the attitude of the parties involved. If they think they're swinging, and define it as such themselves, who am I to argue? The definition I gave earlier is as near as I personally can come to it, cos it's a slippery bugger. ;)
Neil x x x ;)

16 Jan 2009

Quote by neilinleeds
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

Soooooo . . . if I was to arrange to meet a bi-curious guy who as yet has never had a male on male experience, for no other purpose than purely recreational NSA sex, as part of his ongoing exploration of his new-found sexuality, you would define that as . . . what? confused

What if I was playing with a bi-curious guy and his wife, with the express intention of helping them both explore how his sexuality fits into their existing emotional and sexual relationship. I would be a mere facilitator? I disagree.
The idea Lost that only couples can swing is IMO a throwback to the days when people called it wife-swapping. It's far too limited a definition, and to be honest, it has a superior little ring to it. ;) I think the point is it's almost impossible to really define what swingers are, and what swinging is, so you have to keep it as open, flexible and inclusive as possible, because the only thing that matters is the intent and the attitude of the parties involved. If they think they're swinging, and define it as such themselves, who am I to argue? The definition I gave earlier is as near as I personally can come to it, cos it's a slippery bugger. ;)
Neil x x x ;)
F*ck me Neil lol

In that case I would define you as a Psychosexual hands on therapist! biggrin

And as for having a superior ring to it when referring only to couples then I guess that can only come from how someone themselves views swinging. Certainly not mine. But how are you too know that :D Its all just in, around or, about shagging.

16 Jan 2009

Bollox, you would bold that bit wouldn't you! lol

Spectacularly bad choice of words on my part there Lost. Reading it back it does sort of read like that eh? rolleyes

I think I was trying to say something else, but I don't know what now. confused

:lol: I blame the fact that it's still only 9am, and I haven't had my bacon sarnie yet. Might be a bit more lucid later on. ;)
Neil x x x ;)

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

:shock: So, if you/a couple meet a single guy and they play together (MMF) it's swinging. However, if I (a single female) meet two single guys and we play together (MMF) it's not swinging? confused

How does that work then? dunno

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Angel Chat
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

:shock: So, if you/a couple meet a single guy and they play together (MMF) it's swinging. However, if I (a single female) meet two single guys and we play together (MMF) it's not swinging? confused

How does that work then? dunno

And further to that what if a male from one couple and a female from another couple meet to have fun....
Is that swinging :dunno:

16 Jan 2009

Quote by
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Is it really just an excuse to be able to have sex with anyone?
So what is a swinger?

No, that is witches meeting on the common the worship the devil.
What is swinging?
It is the confidence in a relationship to share. To allow your partner tohave fun with someone and not take it as a comment on oneself.
How swinging manifests it's self is fully dependent on those involved.
As for sex with anyone, no thank you. Would I have concerns about W choice of men? No, but there are those I would not like to see/know about. That is OK, because she ... now I wonder off track. What I am saying is I would not have sex with anyone I do not like. If I did not like them, then I pass, and I am confident that W does as well.
Travis
ps No offence to real witches meantTime for an up date regarding singles, in fact anyone. Swingers have respect for other partners and do not see it as way of running of with some one.
As far as no strings, well let me say I sometimes feel a light touch cobweb, but everyone know I am going home to be a devoted husband. Even if I may return to a charming lover, she is just sex. Having read that, even that is not true. What I mean is no matter how regular meets become I am going home.
Travis

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Angel Chat
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

:shock: So, if you/a couple meet a single guy and they play together (MMF) it's swinging. However, if I (a single female) meet two single guys and we play together (MMF) it's not swinging? confused

How does that work then? dunno

Cause you'd merely be facilitating!! :giggle:
bolt

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

:shock: So, if you/a couple meet a single guy and they play together (MMF) it's swinging. However, if I (a single female) meet two single guys and we play together (MMF) it's not swinging? confused

How does that work then? dunno

Cause you'd merely be facilitating!! :giggle:
bolt

Ah ok, so in the first MMF there are two swingers and a facilitator, and in the second MMF there are 3 facilitators?
Ok, I think I've got it ;) :giggle:

16 Jan 2009

What is a swinger?
A member of a swinging group, whether it be a swinging club, a swinging website or any other group where people are open-minded and share an interest in recreational sex.
Its a state of mind really, just like someone who joins eBay could be described as an eBayer lol

Having said all that, what is swinging?
This isn’t as easy to answer, to us two singles swinging is casual sex, although they can still be a swinger if that makes sense? If we met another couple then we would call that swinging, however if we met a single, we would call that a threesome, not sure if singles see it different, but we see the act of swinging itself to involve 4 people or a group, anything less is a threesome or casual sex.
The bottom line is that we see, What is a swinger and What is swinging as 2 different thing, where being a swinger is a lifestyle, whereas swinging is the act.
It’s like everything else though, we all see things differently and just have to respect how others see things, but if everyone’s having fun who the hell cares?
Lets all facilitate instead :lol: :lol:

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Steve
Singles playing about with singles aint swingers or swinging

:shock: So, if you/a couple meet a single guy and they play together (MMF) it's swinging. However, if I (a single female) meet two single guys and we play together (MMF) it's not swinging? confused

How does that work then? dunno

And further to that what if a male from one couple and a female from another couple meet to have fun....
Is that swinging :dunno:
NO, that is called "playing with fire" :shock:
Lucys post.

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Deviants
...we see the act of swinging itself to involve 4 people or a group, anything less is a threesome or casual sex.

OK, so my MMF scenario above was just a threesome. But if I meet 3 or more men we're all swinging? OK. I'm getting the hang of this now I think wink

Quote by Deviants
Lets all facilitate instead :lol:

:rascal: Now there's an offer! :twisted: :twisted: