The state of mind argument is acceptable up to a point. We all need a state of mind to do anything. Nothing could give a better example than a wedding day. If everyone turns up with the right state of mind you have a fantastic memorable occasion. Otherwise it could be a dull affair indeed.
I was at a greedy girls day yesterday and guys came and went shagging with the girls. Now, were we swingers or just people who know where to get a fuck?
I think the majority of guys there would not claim to be a swinger. But what is the definition of someone who attends a greedy girl session? Well perhaps they were too busy to bother finding one.
Although there is some hesitancy to produce a definition and perhaps its a difficult thing to put one's finger on; without risking offence, there is a definite difference in the 'state of mind' between swinging and any other group sexual activities. One goes to a greedy girl session with a different state of mind, because there are different sets of rules and protocols to follow.
So I think people will use a term when its suitable or has some purpose to do so in order to create an atmosphere or to simply define and outline how a paricular session is going to be designed.
So its more suggestive than definitive.
Does it really matter what we all call ourselves or others here??????????????
Just enjoy doing what ever you do
Sorry if this thread is past its sell by date.
Having thought about it more, or at least my mind has finally caught up. I would say this.
Swinging couples put their relationship on the line and expose it in many ways. As one of their sexual partners you get a very intimate view into what they are like,and how their sexuality is tied in with ther relationship. You may only get some of this detail from singles.
Equally the couple may be focussed mainly on the characteristics of their relationship and unable to see the possibilities within the single and of forming a triangle.
So I still think swinging manifests itself more openly from within a couple.
I have been perusing a few dictionaries and definitions. One use of the word swing is simply to describe the change from one state to another be it mood, feeling, thoughts, activity etc.
So it seems appplicable in that one has to go into a deliberate set of changes to bring about a swinging encounter. After which normal equilibrium is re-
established.
So might it come under a flash of genuius? Or temporary loss of sanity? Momentary lapse of reason?
Well it seems like many words such as hippy, skinhead, yuppy, mod, chav etc, all are descriptive of the predicament of people but not definitive.