I have seen this word used a lot, and guess I feel sometimes people only consider themselves and not others.
I was talking to someone the other day that was asking me questions in the end I said I feel selfish as I seem to be talking about myself.
Their response was how can it be when I am the one asking you the questions.
Then said maybe I am the selfish one as I am asking you the questions that I would like to hear the answer of.
This then lead me to think, by writing things down say in a place like this forum and talking about your own experiences , could this been seen as a selfish act
Or could it be seen as sharing my experiences so others might be able to relate to share them and realise that sometimes we are not alone in our thoughts or experiences?
If it isn’t seen as selfish, what is selfishness?
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What is selfishness?
Selfish is used to describe behaviour which is extreme.
Everybody is selfish to a degree.
I suppose beyond selfish you get into my favourite personality disorder-see below.
I dont like labels for how people behave much so I try (rarely succeed) to avoid them.
One of the things I do if a label pops into my head is stop myself and rephrase it.
So imagine I see a post on here and think that somebody is opinionated and it makes me angry I might think look at that egomaniac. The minute I stop myself and rephrase it I start to think "that persons behaviour has made me think that because....etc"
The keyword is person.
The difficulty is rephrasing it without using labels.
Lovely interesting thread again Minx.
Everybody is selfish to a degree.
I suppose beyond selfish you get into my favourite personality disorder-see below.
I dont like labels for how people behave much so I try (rarely succeed) to avoid them.
One of the things I do if a label pops into my head is stop myself and rephrase it.
So imagine I see a post on here and think that somebody is opinionated and it makes me angry I might think look at that egomaniac. The minute I stop myself and rephrase it I start to think "that persons behaviour has made me think that because....etc"
The keyword is person.
The difficulty is rephrasing it without using labels.
Lovely interesting thread again Minx.
I'd say it is putting your wants before the needs and wants of others. That simple really.
Everyone has a need for their genuine needs to be met, I don't think it is selfish to want food, warmth, shelter etc. I don't think it is selfish either if what you want or get does not impact on anyone else. For it to be truly selfish it has to deprive another.
That's what I reckon. Nice easy one today Minxy... Are you dumbing down the philosophical ponderings for duffers like me?
Everyone has a need for their genuine needs to be met, I don't think it is selfish to want food, warmth, shelter etc. I don't think it is selfish either if what you want or get does not impact on anyone else. For it to be truly selfish it has to deprive another.
That's what I reckon. Nice easy one today Minxy... Are you dumbing down the philosophical ponderings for duffers like me?
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Or could it be seen as sharing my experiences so others might be able to relate to share them and realise that sometimes we are not alone in our thoughts or experiences?
If it isn’t seen as selfish, what is selfishness?
Sharing your experience with others is not selfish. It is the opposite, you are giving them the benefit of your experience. This is not selfish.
Giving your view is not selfish, but imposing your view is.
Travis
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Or could it be seen as sharing my experiences so others might be able to relate to share them and realise that sometimes we are not alone in our thoughts or experiences?
If it isn’t seen as selfish, what is selfishness?
Sharing your experience with others is not selfish. It is the opposite, you are giving them the benefit of your experience. This is not selfish.
Giving your view is not selfish, but imposing your view is.
Travis
So should one wait and be asked for their view
If it is not asked then could it be deemed as imposing?
Is sharing an expierance the same as giving a view?
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So should one wait and be asked for their view
If it is not asked then could it be deemed as imposing?
Is sharing an expierance the same as giving a view?
An experience is solid, it happened, the other person can build their own view on the reported experience. A view is just that, your view.
Is it imposing to just but in? Yes. Should one wait to be asked? I would say that depends on the damage that would be done if you do not wade in and anything that would happen if you just sit back a wait. In other words, I decide case by case.
Travis
