What is the point?

30 Oct 2006

On first appearances this thread may actually seem very similar to the "Why do you love.." thread about the forum, but it's not meant to be.
We have a LMU and a Dogging section and let's not forget the Photo Adverts and the Chatroom - so what is the point of the Cafe in your opinion?
I personally think it's for whatever you desire as long as you are within the bounds of the AUP and not hurting anyone - it seems others may possibly disagree.

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The Cafe
General discussion and chit-chat.

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General.
Not specialised or limited to one class of things

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Discussion.
An extended communication (often interactive) dealing with some particular topic.

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Chit Chat
Casual conversation; small talk.
Gossip.
Incessant and usually inconsequential talk.
To talk volubly, persistently, and usually inconsequentially.

Ideally this won't turn into a negative thread, of course we know that a lot of threads get hijacked and it's easy to get sucked into so it's not really relevant.
I just think this could be an interesting discussion on peoples views on the Cafe and how it could/should/would be utilised.

30 Oct 2006

At the risk of sounding obvious, i'd say
'Everything that dosn't fit into or would be hard to discuss in any of the other areas of the site'
Just my opinion....
lol

30 Oct 2006

Whoever named the room the Cafe, had the right idea for I 8feel* this particular forum is all about.
One can wander in, settle down in a corner, should you choose, with a nice cup of coffe and a good book, relax, and go with the flow.
though whilst you're here, you can *over hear* all the conversations/discussions in the room, pick and choose which ones to *eavesdrop* on more specifically, and should you choose, step into earshot and say your piece, adding >hopefully< to the general coversation.
of course, whether or not you're listened to is another matter alltogether! hehe
The nature of a Cafe, is that all sorts of people will be popping in and out, some names and faces you may get to *know* over time, and feel you may have entered a room with some friendly faces... being happy to see them, and glad to join thier conversation or hear what they are talking rubbish about today...
on another occassion, more new faces may be in for a quick coffee and a doughnut whilst they breeze through, but as always, its nice to hear/see them, maybe introduce yourselves... and see how we all get on!
also, for a chap like myself, rather backward at coming forward in true social situation, the *virtual* nature Cafe SH allows a little more Virtual-Confidence... so evn iiiii can step into a conversational circle and say my twopennuth without tooo much fear.... and on being ignored >again!...lol< you can't see my crushed countenance, blushing cheeks and downcast eyes as I gather up my book, pay at the counter, and walk out of the Cafe into rainswept streets of SW London..... sad

30 Oct 2006

Quote by staffcple
At the risk of sounding obvious, i'd say
'Everything that dosn't fit into or would be hard to discuss in any of the other areas of the site'
Just my opinion....

I agree... and thanks for posting.
I think what I am trying to get at is some members feel that there is too much 'bollox' and 'pointless' threads etc in the Cafe ... what better threads/ideas/discussions do they feel would supplant the 'crap'?

30 Oct 2006

The point of the Cafe is that its a chilled out place with a very social atmosphere - its different from other areas of the site which come predominantly under the banner of 'sex site'. Its where we discuss, often in depth depending on the quality of the contributions, with lots of different views and perspectives, on various issues, swinging related or not. It's where people come to find out about swinging from and with others or simply to post bollox becuase they can.
Its a place that nurtures the swinging mindset, the etiquette and communitarian aspect of the lifestyle - you dont get that elsewhere on this site & there's no way you can spend any amount of time here and not learn something :thumbup:
imo wink

30 Oct 2006

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The point of the Cafe is that its a chilled out place with a very social atmosphere - its different from other areas of the site which come predominantly under the banner of 'sex site'. Its where we discuss, often in depth depending on the quality of the contributions, with lots of different views and perspectives, on various issues, swinging related or not. It's where people come to find out about swinging from and with others or simply to post bollox becuase they can.
Its a place that nurtures the swinging mindset, the etiquette and communitarian aspect of the lifestyle - you dont get that elsewhere on this site & there's no way you can spend any amount of time here and not learn something :thumbup:
imo

Morning Rotty
I agree with you.
IMO it does what is says on the can!
Leave it well alone
:bounce:

30 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
The point of the Cafe is that its a chilled out place with a very social atmosphere - its different from other areas of the site which come predominantly under the banner of 'sex site'. Its where we discuss, often in depth depending on the quality of the contributions, with lots of different views and perspectives, on various issues, swinging related or not. It's where people come to find out about swinging from and with others or simply to post bollox becuase they can.
Its a place that nurtures the swinging mindset, the etiquette and communitarian aspect of the lifestyle - you dont get that elsewhere on this site & there's no way you can spend any amount of time here and not learn something :thumbup:
imo

is that a word my little rottie ???????
just general chit chat thats all wink

30 Oct 2006

indeed it is my learned friend wink

in fact, much more than just a word, if you apply it to the Cafe.
I cant spend all day explaining sociological theory & philosophy on here lol

so here's a link :
wink

30 Oct 2006

The Cafe is the only forum I visit. I find the LMU and Dogging forums just a little too 'full on' for my taste - though, doubtless, they suit others.
It seems to me that you get to understand the people far better in the Cafe, and that is what I enjoy. If I feel that I would like to meet someone in order to get to know them better then I will send them a PM. Many of those who I now consider to be my best friends (not to mention the love of my life and mother of my children) I met through this site - and all through the Cafe.
Posting on subjects that may not be directly connected with swinging is what gives us an insight into someone's personality and helps me to feel that I would 'click' with them if I met them. Personally, I think it is one of the strengths of this site and helps do distinguish it from many others.
Long may it continue.
Will

30 Oct 2006

^ ^ ^ ^ ^ What they all said ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
There's nowhere else in the vanilla world that I can go and discuss anything - and I mean anything - with such an open-minded and accepting bunch of people. Let's face it, where else would you be able to discuss the pros and cons of anal sex alongside your favourite Xmas choons? dunno

30 Oct 2006

A relaxing atmosphere,informal,informative.A place to lurk and learn or have a laugh and get to know the other members.
and far less intimidating than chat for a newbie like myself