I have often thought swinging it a liberated attitude about sex.
To live in a free sexual society where sex is seen as a pleasure within consenting adults to participate in sexual acts that both/all parties consent to.
I have read a lot of peoples post on this over the years and most would say it is a mindset. I agree
So what then baffles me is if swinging is a mindset, how can we call someone that is in a relationship/married etc that participates in the liberal attitude of swinging a cheat?
I thought if we swingers have as we say an open mind, the ability to say we see swinging different from the norm in the vanilla world.
How can we condemn people that are married for wanting to be part of something they too could believe is a mindset, liberal thinkers open minded.
Or is that just justifying that if you have your partners consent it makes it right in your minds.
I would accept anyone into this lifestyle, as if I was to condemn it would be admitting to me I too am doing something unacceptable too.
Interesting to see others thoughts.
Without getting condemned for mine
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what is this mind set/ attitude of swingers?
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Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Interesting to see others thoughts.
Without getting condemned for mine
We're all going to Hell and your driving the bus Minx
Master of Sex
I think the only people who could be called "cheaters" are married people who swing alone and without their partners consent. If everyone is open and honest about things then cheating doesn't come into it. The other example is from people outside of the lifestyle. They've read the 'sensational' stories in the Sunday tabloids or seen the salacious programmes on TV and think that we're all perverts. All the while, they're usually playing around behind their husbands/wives/partners backs.
In low moments, I consider that I am breaking my marriage vows when I swing. However, most of the time I am satisfied that my partner condones, even encourages, our exploration and enjoyment of an act which makes both us, and the other parties involved, happy. I never worry that he or I will prefer the people we 'play' with, and we are all doing it for the same reasons. The human body is a wonderful thing and can tolerate being shared without causing detriment to the fabric of society if confined to those that know the 'rules'.
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because minx cheating means you do it behind your partners back without their concent/knowledge. it also means that that person breaks the rules/boundaries of the relationship and the other person is hurt through it.
sex is just sex, but when you have to hide it it means something more no matter how much it's denied. if there is nothing to it then it's easy to tell the truth about it. if you do it knowing your partner will be hurt then shame on you.
whips
I don't do it behind my husbands back
We are both agree to the lifestyle. Boundaries and rules are an expectation that we put on others and ourselves.
Sex is sex.. If you then have feeling for another that is totally different.
I would rather find out my husband had wanted to explore sex with swingers, than to find out he had sex with someone he sees regular as in a place of work for example
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
because minx cheating means you do it behind your partners back without their concent/knowledge. it also means that that person breaks the rules/boundaries of the relationship and the other person is hurt through it.
sex is just sex, but when you have to hide it it means something more no matter how much it's denied. if there is nothing to it then it's easy to tell the truth about it. if you do it knowing your partner will be hurt then shame on you.
whips
I don't do it behind my husbands back
We are both agree to the lifestyle. Boundaries and rules are an expectation that we put on others and ourselves.
Sex is sex.. If you then have feeling for another that is totally different.
I would rather find out my husband had wanted to explore sex with swingers, than to find out he had sex with someone he sees regular as in a place of work for example
I think Whips aint suggesting that its 'you' doing it behind your old mans back. Just people who do do it behind their partners back are. I happen to agree with that too.
I think the important thing is that swingers understand the difference between sex for the purpose of pleasure and making love with a partner. I love and adore my husband, I lust after and enjoy my boyfriend and girlfriend. I have to admit I love them all but it is only my husband that I can ever imagine spending my life with.
We have slightly different tastes, he for example doesnt particularly enjoy oral sex whereas I love it. Fortunately so do both my bf and gf and that means without going behind my husbands back my needs are fulfilled.
I dont think you will ever explain to people who dont understand the concept of swinging about how it can enhance a relationship/marriage rather than harm it. They just dont understand in exactly the same way my husband will never understand maps
We have slightly different tastes, he for example doesnt particularly enjoy oral sex whereas I love it. Fortunately so do both my bf and gf and that means without going behind my husbands back my needs are fulfilled.
I dont think you will ever explain to people who dont understand the concept of swinging about how it can enhance a relationship/marriage rather than harm it. They just dont understand in exactly the same way my husband will never understand maps
Sex God
We have spent time apart. We both know we have needs, so we both play. In the past we have played close to home. Now we do not, that is are rule.
Like you say sex is fun. Love is love. We always go home, too each other. There is no need for reproach.
Travis
Like you say sex is fun. Love is love. We always go home, too each other. There is no need for reproach.
Travis
