What is too young for swinging?

17 Sep 2007

Im in my 20's and am really interested in swinging and meeting like minded couples but i am constantly hit with the comment that im yoo young.
So i ask the question to all swingers out there what is 'too young' for a swinger. Let me nkow your thoughts.

17 Sep 2007

anyone under 18 dunno

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Mr-Powers
anyone under 18

sounds fair to me....In my mind its not proper swinging with lads that young....its just them getting their end away as much as possible, without the hassle/expense of a date/night out!! lol

17 Sep 2007

The law says it's legal for you to consent (agree) to have sex from the age of 16. In Northern Ireland, you have to be 17.
But it's not quite as simple as it sounds. Although a girl under 16 isn't committing a criminal offence if she has sex, the boy she's having sex with is breaking the law — even if she has agreed to have sex with him.
Gay sex is legal if you are 16 or over in England, Wales and Scotland. In Northern Ireland it's 17. And 18 in Jersey.
Swinging? Not sure if would be any different in the comfort of your own home,clubs would be 18 I imagine

17 Sep 2007

Legally....anyone under 16.
Realistically, anyone above the age of consent who the person meeting feels is too young, usually but not always an age a few years above that of any adult child they might have.
Far too many variables to come up with one definitive age....

17 Sep 2007

ok ill be honest i am 25 and had quite a few recent say im too young. maybe in reality its just a poilte way of saying youre not what im looking for or im not interested. Who knows.

17 Sep 2007

but you have to be over 18 to use this site and all clubs have an over 18 rule.

17 Sep 2007

not really looking for the legal definition of too youing but the realistic or the general feeling of what is too young 20, 25 etc.

17 Sep 2007

My personal definition would be anyone that is young enough for me to have fathered is too young for me to play with.

17 Sep 2007

Depends on how who you are meeting feels, some like younger peeps, some like older, can't say no more than that really confused

Tony

17 Sep 2007

It depends upon the age of the people you hope to swing with. If they're 21, then you're probably not too young. If they're 51, you may well be.

17 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
It depends upon the age of the people you hope to swing with. If they're 21, then you're probably not too young. If they're 51, you may well be.

:giggle:

17 Sep 2007

Anyone young enough to be my offspring. It just wouldnt feel right to me somehow dunno

Also Id prefer someone with experience of life and someone I could chat to and not feel like I was mothering them. On the other hand, I also wouldnt want to be with anyone old enough to be my Parents either. I guess Im just hard to please lol

17 Sep 2007

Personally while keeping in with the legalities of the land, I just can't be arsed with anyone who acts plain stupid! :doh:

17 Sep 2007

i am in agreeement that if they are young enuff for me to have given birth to or old enuff that they could have given birth to me, then i am not really that interested. but also saying that i dont ask for a birth certificate if i meet somone in a club, i base that meeting on what i see and if i fancy them, i know it should be the same when i am chatting in the rooms but for some reason i cannt get their age out of my head enough to want to meet them confused

17 Sep 2007

Quote by redpantherman
Personally while keeping in with the legalities of the land, I just can't be arsed with anyone who acts plain stupid! :doh:

:silly:

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
anyone under 18

sounds fair to me....In my mind its not proper swinging with lads that young....its just them getting their end away as much as possible, without the hassle/expense of a date/night out!! lol

I agree with this, anyone under 18 is too young, beyond that it's personal preference. If the people involved don't mind the age gap, whatever that may be, then it's fine.
However as I keep saying swinging is to do with establishing friendships as well as sex, so there's always a worry that some are just putting another notch on the bed post.
People make personal judgements about who they think are more likely to "notch count", but you might be guilty of this whether you're 18 or 80.

17 Sep 2007

Quote by bbw_lover
However as I keep saying swinging is to do with establishing friendships as well as sex, so there's always a worry that some are just putting another notch on the bed post.
People make personal judgements about who they think are more likely to "notch count", but you might be guilty of this whether you're 18 or 80.

I think that's a generalisation, BBW.
For some people, establishing friendships IS part of it, but for others it's not. If I met with someone, had a great evening and both decided not to have contact again, I wouldn't think of it in a negative way just because there was no ongoing friendship.
Maybe to an outsider, it could be seen as notching the bedpost - but so what if we'd had a great time?
As I get older, I find the people I'm attracted to are older as well, but whether that's an insecurity issue, about my own wrinkles and saggy bits, I don't know lol

17 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
Personally while keeping in with the legalities of the land, I just can't be arsed with anyone who acts plain stupid! :doh:

:silly:
ffs! wifelet smackbottom

Not in public! redface

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Happytrucker04
Im in my 20's and am really interested in swinging and meeting like minded couples but i am constantly hit with the comment that im yoo young.
So i ask the question to all swingers out there what is 'too young' for a swinger. Let me nkow your thoughts.

Too young when it comes to swinging is anyone under 18.
I have been here since i was 18, i'm 22 now, so i understand that a lot of people you'd like to play with may find you too young.
But this is their personal preference. Swinging has a varied community where rules and boundaries are personal, not a whole.

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Cherrytree
However as I keep saying swinging is to do with establishing friendships as well as sex, so there's always a worry that some are just putting another notch on the bed post.
People make personal judgements about who they think are more likely to "notch count", but you might be guilty of this whether you're 18 or 80.

I think that's a generalisation, BBW.
For some people, establishing friendships IS part of it, but for others it's not. If I met with someone, had a great evening and both decided not to have contact again, I wouldn't think of it in a negative way just because there was no ongoing friendship.
Maybe to an outsider, it could be seen as notching the bedpost - but so what if we'd had a great time?
As I get older, I find the people I'm attracted to are older as well, but whether that's an insecurity issue, about my own wrinkles and saggy bits, I don't know lol

Well said Cherry. And within that, someone who usually goes for long term meets may find the occasional one nighter appealing, and vice-versa.

17 Sep 2007

I couldn't imagine seeing anyone under a certain age. Be too much like work (under thirty anyway)...and I have kids late twenties so its a no from me! I have some good mates under thirty though.....different I know but I'm clear on my own boundaries.

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Cherrytree
I think that's a generalisation, BBW.
For some people, establishing friendships IS part of it, but for others it's not. If I met with someone, had a great evening and both decided not to have contact again, I wouldn't think of it in a negative way just because there was no ongoing friendship.
Maybe to an outsider, it could be seen as notching the bedpost - but so what if we'd had a great time?
As I get older, I find the people I'm attracted to are older as well, but whether that's an insecurity issue, about my own wrinkles and saggy bits, I don't know

You're right Cherrytree it was a generalisation, but only to try and make a point. I think I was trying to compere two extremes.

17 Sep 2007

I;m 36 and had a great meet with a guy of about 23, but then he started pestering and didnt understand the word No, and getting quite weird..... :eeek:
I suppose its not age but maturity thats the important thing, you can have some mature 20- somethings, and some very immature 30- somethings, so as long as they suit you, and you them, then all afir in love and swinging!! lol

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
Im in my 20's and am really interested in swinging and meeting like minded couples but i am constantly hit with the comment that im yoo young.
So i ask the question to all swingers out there what is 'too young' for a swinger. Let me nkow your thoughts.

Too young when it comes to swinging is anyone under 18.
I have been here since i was 18, i'm 22 now, so i understand that a lot of people you'd like to play with may find you too young.
But this is their personal preference. Swinging has a varied community where rules and boundaries are personal, not a whole.
This is what makes it all so complicated. I think some people may consider 18 or 22 to be too young for personal reasons, however personality comes into it too.
Having read some of your posts Chaotic_Spirit, and seen you in the chatrooms, I wouldn't have any problems playing with you, as you come across as more mature than your age would indicate.
However these things work both ways, some may consider that people beyond a certain age are to old for swinging.
:cry: :cry: :cry:
So it's all to do with finding the right match.

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Happytrucker04
Im in my 20's and am really interested in swinging and meeting like minded couples but i am constantly hit with the comment that im yoo young.
So i ask the question to all swingers out there what is 'too young' for a swinger. Let me nkow your thoughts.

Too young for me would be more about maturity rather than actual age. Although over 18 or course.
Louise xx

17 Sep 2007

Well actually if you look back on your life........ you probably did a fair bit if swinging in your teens, as you went in and out of relationships, some sexual. I did.
The came the years of one on one stuff. Enough said there I think.
Then came the swinging years.
So I was a swinger from the start at 15....

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
I;m 36 and had a great meet with a guy of about 23, but then he started pestering and didnt understand the word No, and getting quite weird..... :eeek:
I suppose its not age but maturity thats the important thing, you can have some mature 20- somethings, and some very immature 30- somethings, so as long as they suit you, and you them, then all afir in love and swinging!!

I agree with you on the maturity thing although I probably wouldn`t want to play with anyone much younger than me (im 25). :lol:

17 Sep 2007

Quote by Happytrucker04
ok ill be honest i am 25 and had quite a few recent say im too young. maybe in reality its just a poilte way of saying youre not what im looking for or im not interested. Who knows.

To be perfectly honest, who cares either? Whether it's a polite way of saying something else, or whether it's their actual reason for saying 'no', they still said 'no'. You're obviously not what they are looking for, so move on.
Age is just a number; it's no indicator for suitability or compatibility.

17 Sep 2007

Quote by bbw_lover
Im in my 20's and am really interested in swinging and meeting like minded couples but i am constantly hit with the comment that im yoo young.
So i ask the question to all swingers out there what is 'too young' for a swinger. Let me nkow your thoughts.

Too young when it comes to swinging is anyone under 18.
I have been here since i was 18, i'm 22 now, so i understand that a lot of people you'd like to play with may find you too young.
But this is their personal preference. Swinging has a varied community where rules and boundaries are personal, not a whole.
This is what makes it all so complicated. I think some people may consider 18 or 22 to be too young for personal reasons, however personality comes into it too.
Having read some of your posts Chaotic_Spirit, and seen you in the chatrooms, I wouldn't have any problems playing with you, as you come across as more mature than your age would indicate.
However these things work both ways, some may consider that people beyond a certain age are to old for swinging.
:cry: :cry: :cry:
So it's all to do with finding the right match.
I'm old before my time what can i say!