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what makes a lady respond to an add?

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Quote by Lil_Bunny
Not sure if I've ever been called harmless before lol

Well with that avatar, I'm beginning to wonder if they have been chopped off :shock: biggrin wink
Quote by foxylady 123
I prefer the sex side of swinging, fuck the social side!!

You mean you dont even say......."HI" .......before you "get down to it"?? wink
Quote by zorbotic
I prefer the sex side of swinging, fuck the social side!!

You mean you dont even say......."HI" .......before you "get down to it"?? wink
Depends if ive already made my mind up what i want to do
Quote by foxylady 123
I prefer the sex side of swinging, fuck the social side!!

You seem very 'passionate' today foxy...you got the rage? :twisted:
Yes, you got a solution?
Actually that was very intuative.............................for a man!!!
Are you flirting with me Foxy? :shock:
If only I was a little closer I could help you uncage the rage that burns within........ :twisted: :twisted:
Quote by foxylady 123
I prefer the sex side of swinging, fuck the social side!!

You mean you dont even say......."HI" .......before you "get down to it"?? wink
Depends if ive already made my mind up what i want to do
Better to have things sorted in your mind than endless procrastination.
I,m not often struck dumn but who knows what my plans are
Quote by HungryP
Sp does anyone ever give me feedback about how to improve my adverts, or why when I go on a date they don't fancy me? Of course not, because they are far too embarassed, & would naturally assume that like many blokes, I might respond angrily.

It's not just the blokes either... I once tried to give a woman feedback on her ad. Her response was to tell me (not so politely) that I had just proved that all men were illiterate morons. Learned my lesson there... now I just see bad ads and shrug. As Judy says, women are drowning in horny men anyway so it's not as though they need good adverts.
Racer3, my advice would be to turn the question on its head. If you were looking at women's ads, what would attract you the most? (Pictures of titties don't count.) Then, try to sculpt your ad in the same way... that way you should end up with an advert that reflects your personal uniqueness and (hopefully) attracts compatible ladies. Though to be honest, if you're actually getting any replies to your ad at all, it must be pretty good already.
just thot i should be heard sa a single man the ads have never worked for me i had my ad up for months and no response at all and it got me thinking that a lot of females and couples just wont lgive you the chance to prove you are a genuine for backing out the last minute i have had 4couples standing me up and yet they are the ones that are supposed to be genuine.i have only just started using the forum and have hed a better response in the sense that i can actually have my say and get a response as opposedto none at all ,though sex was my main reason i looked for the site in the first instance i can never rule out the possibilities of meeting people sociallybecause how else would anyone know you are genuine
Hello, I'm new so don't bite and play nicely.
Has anyone else noticed that in a thread where there have been numerous critiscisms of bad grammar and poor spelling the actual title of the thread itself contains a typo?
I realise such smart-arsery may have just earned me a short spell with my head down the toilets, not to mention mob-pedantry every time I mistype anything...
Cheers
CotN
Quote by Cock of the North
I realise such smart-arsery may have just earned me a short spell with my head down the toilets,

*whooooooooooooooooosh*
SWIRLEY!
;)
I have had my ad for some time (I actually have another in the men looking for couples section). And have had responses to both. I seem to get one every month or two. But I ensure to update them regularly. I have met some lovely ladies, but to date have not managed to meet a couple.
Unfortunately, being married limits those who reply, but I feel honesty there is important. One lady on this site has told me that there are a lot of married men masquerading as single, but one deception is enough for me.
As for replying to ads, I have virtually given up. When I have had responses they have been for girls on pay sites. Pity the mods cant pick these out. But I did meet with a lady who had placed an ad and she said the number of replies was incredible...and so many weirdo's!
Bugger...
I think if I keep my replies monosyllabic - or at least briefer - I have less chance of giving you further ammunition.
Using the word 'monosyllabic ' in the context of this posting: Brave or foolhardy?
Cheers
Cock of the North
If i were browsing the ads, I'd look for humour, confidence, and a distinct lack of desperation and text talk (oooh, I HATE THAT!!!!!!!). Also a photo of a taut ass or chest would also be beneficial. :twisted:
I have to say I am only new to all of this but I agree to the comments its so, its nice to talk with someone who has a brain in their head!!!! Its not all about cock and pussy, well go on then it is!!!!!!!!!!
To get that elusive reply you have to at least be a little more original than most other respondants.
Which, considering the general "I have a 7" cock" reply is quite easy.
Below is a sample of a reply I received and responded to.
Quote by Email
My stars in the paper to day said beware of offers from mysterious ladies. For nothing is as it seems...ooohhh
So come on then, own up, that's a fake photo and you're really a fat knacker who smokes like a chimney and eats pizza without slicing it up!
Even if that is you in the pics I'd still be dubious as all the Libra's I know are mad as frogs I mean cuckoo! one brick short
So here is a poem just for you
She thought she was a hottie
But that's a laugh, she's potty
Cause there's not a lot up toppy
Still, not bad I thought for tottie
So I asked her round for coffee
And stuck it up her bot...woah woah woah that's enough of that
Anyway my name is :censored: and I'm not sending you a pic just yet as that would be too easy.
If you'd like to send a suitable reply to my barbs feel free (if you can that is)
See you mad woman

Ha! And he called me mad :lol2:
Okay so it's no literary master piece, but his email stands out from the rest because it's playfull and very obviously no standard response or copy and paste job.
But having just said all of the above I must admit if my mail box was full of replies like his I'd be scared :shock:
Surely the answer is simple?
People respond to adverts that describe the thing they are looking for. Because there are an endless variety of people on here, looking for an endless variety of things, there is no set formula for success.
Best just to give an honest description of yourself, and if you don't get any replies, it is probably because you are not what they are looking for, or they found what they were looking for just before they got to you in the list.
If you start messing around with your advert to the extent that it no longer represents you, then that will become obvious when you start chatting. This would cause you to appear dishonest, and people will disappear. (Not suggesting this is the case for you Brucer, you were responding to an advert. )
For some who take the attitude "Whatever you need - I've got it" It conjures up pictures of someone with a blue four door saloon trying to sell to someone looking for a red two door convertible,
"I'll re-spray it, I'll chop the roof off, I'll weld the back doors shut" - why would they want you to, when in the next advert, there is a shiny red two door convertible?
You cannot MAKE people want to swing with you - you are either what they are looking for - or you are not. dunno
lhk
Kat