This may sound like a strange question (being a swinging site!!) but i've spoken to a lot of women on the site and most seem really nice and down to earth, but when it comes to actually meeting they can never make it. I have no problem with people who just want to chat, so why do people pretend they want to meet then run a mile!?!
Anywho, back to the original question - What do you SH ladies want from the site?
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Quote by rampantrabbit
This may sound like a strange question (being a swinging site!!) but i've spoken to a lot of women on the site and most seem really nice and down to earth, but when it comes to actually meeting they can never make it. I have no problem with people who just want to chat, so why do people pretend they want to meet then run a mile!?!
Anywho, back to the original question - What do you SH ladies want from the site?
Have Fun x
don't assume they are pretending.....there could be many reasons....nerves could be one of the reasons.....
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This weeks lottery numbers would be nice!
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all depends on the womans mood
when they want to play they will play
and when they r not in the mood or wrong time they wont
they have a house to run/jobs/kids/washing ect
have to fit in fun times and be in the mood
when they want to play they will play
and when they r not in the mood or wrong time they wont
they have a house to run/jobs/kids/washing ect
have to fit in fun times and be in the mood
D'oh it does sound like I'm having a b*tch doesn't it!! I'm not!! As I said, I enjoy the chatting side of the site and I'm not overly bothered about meeting up - I get laid most nights anyway!
But, why do people contact you asking for a meet then get scared. I understand the nerves thing, but just tell me your nervous - I'm the least pushy guy in the world and really won't mind!
But, why do people contact you asking for a meet then get scared. I understand the nerves thing, but just tell me your nervous - I'm the least pushy guy in the world and really won't mind!
Quote by rampantrabbit
D'oh it does sound like I'm having a b*tch doesn't it!! I'm not!! As I said, I enjoy the chatting side of the site and I'm not overly bothered about meeting up - I get laid most nights anyway!
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I'm sorry I was quite convinced untill this last bit, maybe you do matbe you don't but either way it comes across as an excuse against H's reply, now if you want genuine advice on how to acheive better response to your ad's or PM's feel free to ask people will offer it, so there is no need to veil it as another subject as itseemsyou may be doing here
Quote by rampantrabbit
D'oh it does sound like I'm having a b*tch doesn't it!! I'm not!! As I said, I enjoy the chatting side of the site and I'm not overly bothered about meeting up - I get laid most nights anyway!
But, why do people contact you asking for a meet then get scared. I understand the nerves thing, but just tell me your nervous - I'm the least pushy guy in the world and really won't mind!
I think for some, the fantasy is often far more 'comfortable' than the reality to be honest - both men and women, and there will be 'time wasters' in both genders.
We get it a lot to be honest "I'd really like to see two blokes together.... wow, I've been with one bloke but would love to go with two..." Moving that type of thing forward often proves more difficult than a simple exchange of pics, phone call and social meet, leading to sex if everyone is comfortable.. you just learn to 'roll with the punches' :P
At least you've bothered to fill in your profile and put some decent pics on which is more than I can say for some - nice knob too
Oh, and take no notice of Sheddy - he's having a 'bad hair day' :rascal:
Good luck mate :thumbup:
Quote by rampantrabbit
D'oh it does sound like I'm having a b*tch doesn't it!! I'm not!! As I said, I enjoy the chatting side of the site and I'm not overly bothered about meeting up - I get laid most nights anyway!
But, why do people contact you asking for a meet then get scared. I understand the nerves thing, but just tell me your nervous - I'm the least pushy guy in the world and really won't mind!
Maybe they just change their minds once they get to know you better ?!
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Oh, and take no notice of Sheddy - he's having a 'bad hair day' :rascal:
You sod :shock: you edited that bit in after I'm bloody certain you did, it wasn't there when I read it first time
:lol: :lol: I never have a bad hair day more so people who view it have bad sheddy viewing days my hair is always perfect
:? :? :lol: Quote by Vix
I hope for all our sakes, that Reese does not see this... he went ballistic last night after we had another no show.
It wasn't the same one that was supposed to be coming here was it?
Somerset and Newcastle in the same night is quite near impossible I would think... even on a broomstick Quote by Bloke2005
I think for some, the fantasy is often far more 'comfortable' than the reality to be honest - both men and women, and there will be 'time wasters' in both genders.
We get it a lot to be honest "I'd really like to see two blokes together.... wow, I've been with one bloke but would love to go with two..." Moving that type of thing forward often proves more difficult than a simple exchange of pics, phone call and social meet, leading to sex if everyone is comfortable.. you just learn to 'roll with the punches' :P
Oh I duuno about that Bloke, I would love to see two guys together with no or limited involvement from me, and I know of at least one other fem here who's looking for the same. And I'd turn up .
Using this as an example though - I quite possibly wouldnt 'turn up' on my own, if its two guys I know, then yes, I would, but if havent met them before, I would definately want 'company'.....
So, lets say me & her decide to hook up & take up an offer together .... the logistics would be a nightmare, work/ kids/ travel/ distance.... and that's on top of the things that are important to me such as getting on with everyone, feeling comfortable, trust etc.
There are loads of reasons why things dont 'move foward', but that doesnt mean the interest isnt genuine.
Quote by rampantrabbit
Honestly not looking for advice on meeting - I'm genuinely interested to hear why women use the site.
Ok. What am I looking for? Exactly what my ad and profile say I am.
Why do I use this site rather than a club? Because I'm not brave enough to go to a club on my own.
Would I go through with a meet? Yes, unless there was a lgitimate reason for me not doing so, but I'd have the decency to let them know.
H.x
Quote by Darkfire
I think for some, the fantasy is often far more 'comfortable' than the reality to be honest - both men and women, and there will be 'time wasters' in both genders.
We get it a lot to be honest "I'd really like to see two blokes together.... wow, I've been with one bloke but would love to go with two..." Moving that type of thing forward often proves more difficult than a simple exchange of pics, phone call and social meet, leading to sex if everyone is comfortable.. you just learn to 'roll with the punches' :P
Oh I duuno about that Bloke, I would love to see two guys together with no or limited involvement from me, and I know of at least one other fem here who's looking for the same. And I'd turn up .
Using this as an example though - I quite possibly wouldnt 'turn up' on my own, if its two guys I know, then yes, I would, but if havent met them before, I would definately want 'company'.....
So, lets say me & her decide to hook up & take up an offer together .... the logistics would be a nightmare, work/ kids/ travel/ distance.... and that's on top of the things that are important to me such as getting on with everyone, feeling comfortable, trust etc.
There are loads of reasons why things dont 'move foward', but that doesnt mean the interest isnt genuine.
I SO nearly edited that to say "and those were just the PM's from Darkfire" :rascal: I'm kicking myself that I didn't :wink:
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Quote by Bloke2005
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We get it a lot to be honest "I'd really like to see two blokes together.... wow, I've been with one bloke but would love to go with two..." Moving that type of thing forward often proves more difficult than a simple exchange of pics, phone call and social meet, leading to sex if everyone is comfortable..
:wave: :wave: :twisted: 
Cheers everybody - I like the forum much more when people don't think you've got an ulterior motive!! got bit scared for while there - had to listen to a bit of Mr. Hendrix to chill out!
So, basically we've got:
friendship
moods
other commitments.
nerves.
rampantrabbit - yuk!! (sob, sob :cry: )
security.
and...because we can!
All perfectly good reasons - glad we cleared that up - onto saving the world!!
So, basically we've got:
friendship
moods
other commitments.
nerves.
rampantrabbit - yuk!! (sob, sob :cry: )
security.
and...because we can!
All perfectly good reasons - glad we cleared that up - onto saving the world!!
Why do I use the site?
Fucking.
It goes like this - we have an ad (380230 if you're after a perve) and from that, we try to meet (mainly) single blokes, with a view to fucking them. Generally speaking, but not always, they don't show.
The forums are fab, coz then we get to know people. If we like them we might get to arranging a meet. With a view to fucking them.
See? It's about fucking.
Fucking.
It goes like this - we have an ad (380230 if you're after a perve) and from that, we try to meet (mainly) single blokes, with a view to fucking them. Generally speaking, but not always, they don't show.
The forums are fab, coz then we get to know people. If we like them we might get to arranging a meet. With a view to fucking them.
See? It's about fucking.
Sex God
Quote by Vix
Why do I use the site?
Fucking.
It goes like this - we have an ad (380230 if you're after a perve) and from that, we try to meet (mainly) single blokes, with a view to fucking them. Generally speaking, but not always, they don't show.
The forums are fab, coz then we get to know people. If we like them we might get to arranging a meet. With a view to fucking them.
See? It's about fucking.
Straight and to the point as always Vix!!
:twisted: Quote by H-x
Honestly not looking for advice on meeting - I'm genuinely interested to hear why women use the site.
Ok. What am I looking for? Exactly what my ad and profile say I am.
Why do I use this site rather than a club? Because I'm not brave enough to go to a club on my own.
Would I go through with a meet? Yes, unless there was a lgitimate reason for me not doing so, but I'd have the decency to let them know.
H.x
What H said :thumbup:
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Quote by Vix
See? It's about fucking.
Straight and to the point as always Vix!!
:twisted:Fancy a fucking, Sarah? :lol:
See this site does work...................
Vix has pulled :lol: :lol: :lol:
(only no pub visit this time, as my knee still is not really fully healed
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