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Warming the Bed
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as a bifem i know what turns a woman on and what doesn`t, also i now what turns a man on .. smile
but why is it that most men seem to avoid the start of the build up and head straight for the target?????????????.
the reason i ask is that over the last few weeks i have met two men socialy and after a beer and a chat and seeing a few stars on the way home they always seem go for the jugular????????? confused
what is it all about, are they just desperate or is it something to do with the weather, after i explain that i prefer women they still feel they have the right to explore . mad
can anyone add comment or en lighten me to where i am going wrong.... :?
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Well - based on the thread title.....
On.........
Someone with a warm smile, twinkling eyes, cheeky sense of humour and can match me in the talking department!
To share a few drinks and enjoy a good conversation interspersed with spontaneous laughter.
I know - I'm a bit of a romantic aren't I? rolleyes
Off.......
Men who think they are gods gift.
obsessive
sleaziness
Bad breath
BO
sweaty
No conversation
glass eyes
wooden legs
etc etc etc
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Well - based on the thread title.....
Someone with a lwarm smile, twinkling eyes and can match me in the talking department!
To share a few drinks and enjoy a good conversation interspersed with spontaneous laughter. A kiss on the way home.............
I know - I'm a bit of a romantic aren't I? rolleyes

this agreeing with you is getting scary now :shock:
You cant beat a good sense of humour.
Oh and someone who's clean biggrin
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Quote by Clare and Steve
Well - based on the thread title.....
Someone with a lwarm smile, twinkling eyes and can match me in the talking department!
To share a few drinks and enjoy a good conversation interspersed with spontaneous laughter. A kiss on the way home.............
I know - I'm a bit of a romantic aren't I? rolleyes

this agreeing with you is getting scary now :shock:
You cant beat a good sense of humour.
Oh and someone who's clean biggrin
lol - you are scared???????
What about me??
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Sex God
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a sexy accent is important
sense of humour important
Sex God
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a switch in the back of my head rolleyes :roll:
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Quote by norfolkbigirl
as a bifem i know what turns a woman on and what doesn`t, also i now what turns a man on .. smile
but why is it that most men seem to avoid the start of the build up and head straight for the target?????????????.

Were they from here ???
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Quote by SXBOY
a sexy accent is important
sense of humour important

You never told me about the sexy accent!!
Damn - that's where I went wrong!!! rolleyes
Sex God
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is that you in your avatar alex biggrin
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Quote by markz
is that you in your avatar alex biggrin

That would all depend on which one you see now :D
Sex God
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lets just say if you went swimming you wouldn't need armbands biggrin
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lets just say if you went swimming you wouldn't need armbands biggrin

Ahhhhh good ol' Mme Airbags...
I'll change it back to a real pic of me then.
Warming the Bed
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Were they from here ???
no , well i hope not ???
:confused2: now thats a thought :confused2:
what if....................... nooooooooooooo they wouldn`t be .........
would they. :wary:
will have to check out some pics i think :notes:
Sex God
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oh and my avatar isn't really me biggrin
Warming the Bed
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Quote by markz
oh and my avatar isn't really me biggrin

now i am realy disappointed markz,,,,,
all those people out there who had visions of you have been totaly dimoralized... sad
so what are you realy like then. confused
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oh and my avatar isn't really me biggrin

Oh no!
I am devastated! :cry:
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turn on...heartbeat and still breathing. biggrin
turn off....no heatbeat and not breathing. :shock:
Sex God
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I am a fireman stationed at trumpton biggrin
Warming the Bed
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Quote by markz
I am a fireman stationed at trumpton biggrin

i like a man in uniform,,,,, lol
will you put my fire out.... :lol: :lol:
never tried watersports but willing to learn. wink
so do you attend with in your goverment guide lines????????????????
if so i am on fire now... :D :D :D :D
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Quote by Alexandra
Off.......
Men who think they are gods gift.
obsessive
sleaziness
Bad breath
BO
sweaty
No conversation
glass eyes
wooden legs
etc etc etc

well that puts davej off ya list then rotflmao
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serious reply now...
nipple rings....god they are a real turn on for me (ok, most body piercings really). as well as tastefull tattoo's, and the female body.
(and marms's legs if i'm being really honest)
turn offs, well the usualls, bo, bad breath etc, also lack of a sense of humour is a real killer.
Warming the Bed
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i have to admit i like a man with a nipple ring,,, no prince alberts though,
lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
i have 5 piecings, :smile2:
tatoos are ok on men but on a woman it does not make my fluids run if you get my drift,
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i have to admit i like a man with a nipple ring,,, no prince alberts though,
lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
i have 5 piecings, :smile2:
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no sign of an albert here wink , just the one nipple at the moment...
right nipple expected to be pierced early next year.
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I am a fireman stationed at trumpton biggrin

Great avatar markz. Now I'm going mad trying to recall his name, was it captain flack? Off to my fav internet pages, Ive got a great website in there.
Oh yes my knowledge of the third greatest kids series of all time does not fail me..(Mr Benn at number one and Camberwick Green at two, Bagpuss at four etc).
Debbiewebs
- dman must be my wooden leg then putting me in that list (I joke they are both real)
Have to admit that is the first time I have seen Trumpton and Watersports in the same thread, will I ever be able to watch it again without sniggering confused: If the new captain Flack of bedfordshire isn't up to his hose and waterplay you might want to get in touch with this Cambs Man, Norfolkbigirl wink
Regards all
Harry Jones
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I think there are some of us blokes out here that are genuine!!
Im one of them and am struggling to meet someone genuine :cry:
But i believe that it isnt all about getting down to business, its about meeting, having a drink and a good laugh and chat!! maybe flirt a bit, but whats the point in getting straight down to business when you hardly know the person???
Well thats what i think!!!! confused
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Quote by Sexysteph
My turn ons well certain four star hotels, open curtains, mood lighting, sensuous massage a very very sexy playmate (who I don't get to see that often :cry: ) maybe some nibbles for later ........
or a very hot Jacuzzi, good company and loads of Vodka
Steph redface

So I can't tempt you to join me at the Green Welly Motel then Steph wink (Don't laugh it's a genuine place and the only place I can afford to take anyone at the moment. It has no hot jacuzzis but plenty of cold puddles in the lorry car park at the rear, now how much is Tesco's value Vodka confused:
Regards
Harry Jones
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harry you know how to spoil a woman..
:giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
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Quote by Sexysteph
pmsl Harry
Nice try but not quite what I am looking for wink

Perhaps if we are together near a jacuzzi one day I can do the good company and vodka bit biggrin
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harry you know how to spoil a woman..

In my defence I recently took a woman out to a tearoom, bought us both tea and cake, and then drove out in the evening to buy an electric card for her meter and still didn't even get a hug goodbye :!: I also stumbled upon a receipt for Pizza hut for Pizza and loads of free refills of pepsi (I'll leave it all to your imaginations why we had loads of free refills :wink: :wink: ) and I even took the same woman out to the cinema and for a drink :shock:
I treat a woman kindly and splendidly even if not overladen in the dosh department.
Regards
Harry Jones
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you sound like a man with a big heart...... :smile2:
dont ever stop being the man you are and all your hard work and efforts will be rewarded i am sure. kiss
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Think my biggest turn ons include a lady who knows how to carry herself, maybe likes to tease, wears sexy stockings and sussies. Who is nice, laid back and very friendly.
Turn offs would be someone who has no time for anyone else, and who doesn't have any manners.
As for jumping straight in for the target...... no way! Tis much better to start things off slowly, marathon kissing session please hehe . Nothing better than exploring each other with some sensual lips. wink
Well, works for me anyways lol
Xx Kink biggrin