Good old fashioned common sense?????
The kicking children off the bus thread has prompted me into thinking and.......
Just a thought but........
Dont parents today teach their children what to do in an emergency?
When I was a child I was taught contingency plans for emergencies and passed my knowledge on when I became a parent.
So for instance, a driver wont let a child on a bus, phone home and no excuses like, no credit or flat battery. We didnt have such things as mobile phones instead, we were taught how to make a reverse charge call for emergency situations if we didnt have any money. Go back into school and explain to a teacher what has happened.
I dont know, I dont want to sound like Im picking on Parents today but what happened to teaching your kids good old fashioned common sense? At least then, you will be safe in the knowledge that if a situation such as the 'bus' one arises, your children will have a clue what to do and who to go to, or at least be able to make a phone call to explain what has happened.
Obviously, you cant plan for every event but armed with a bit of common sense at least the kids will have a fair clue on what to do instead of getting left to wander our unsafe streets alone.
I think one thing that is a factor is that kids are having kids, so there is no 'life experience' so to speak.
are our streets unsafe? well more so now than they used to be?
now im probally saying this as i live in cornwall and i appriciate its nothing like over the border lol
im not sure if i was taught that many survival skills as such as a kid or just that we were left to our own devices more so and from younger and learnt ourselves?
i didnt live in cornwall as a kid btw.
could it be that kids are so over protected that when something does go wrong they dont have a clue what to do? cuse they have never learnt with the easy things?
is it due to so many people fear being sued?
we used to climb trees, make dens, go scrumping, and if we were caught and got a clip round the ear no way would we tell dad as hed give us another. not call 0800nowinnofee.
xxx fem xx
I do love the way threads on here and a few other sites I go on make me think about my life and aspects of it.
I have to say that I have found it reassuring to realise that actually I have given my son some life skills and he is able to do some of the things that you have said.
For instance being a bit lazy and not always having his phone with him/charged up, he does know how to make a reverse charge call at a phone box and he is more than capable of getting a friend to let him borrow one of theirs if needed.
He also feels comfortable enough at home to invite his friends back. This weekend he went to town with his friends and phoned me in the afternoon to see if I was ok with him bringing his friends back. I felt quite pleased that he was happy to do that and glad to have him home where I new he was safe.
Now, here is where I stop painting a perfect picture and actually would like to issue a warning.
Not being so sensible he drank 3 cans of red bull while he was out and was high as a kite. He is not normally the type to be affected by e numbers or anything like that, so imagine my surprise when I witnessed him bounce over 10ft into the sky and then collapse onto the floor head first.
His reaction was as though he had been taking drugs, he was totally reacting like he was going through some kind of hyper charged madness.
He knows he isn't supposed to drink it as he in my mind is not old enough, let alone to have 3 cans, so hopefully he has learnt the hard way, that rules are made for a reason and I'm just grateful I was home to make sure he was ok when it happened.
Sometimes the parenting can be perfect and yet kids will still be kids,
In a group they will back chat you or somebody else, it doesnt mean they dont know any respect! it means they are acting big infront of others
Kids are expected by some to be kids and others expect them to be kids acting like grown ups? It doesnt work both ways unfortunately
And yes i was a young when i had my son.
To teach and show kids common sense you need to have it yourself .... oh yes before someone says the school should do this that and the other, having a child means not only feeding it, clothing it and sending it to school - but also equiping your child for real life.
Going back briefly to the oyster card thingy, I was schooled the other side of the city to where I lived, I had a bus pass (paid for) and have to get 2 buses to school and 2 home again each day - am back at 5pm .... at the time I thought i was hard done by but I learnt very quick to wise up .... you only forget your pass the once and you travel with your mates.
ha ha ha how can you teach someone common sense???some of the kids cant even count to 10 let alone knowing their parents mobile numbers off head