as i couldnt write a long heading, the rest of it is more. what would ur view on ur partner being bi male, but he didnt quiet be open about it. by this i mean seeing men without being find out, witch i have since due to the txts he was getting and meeting them. they werent from this site.
when we joined here we agreed that mets would only be from here, and on my part they have meeting men. as i couldnt really get into the cpl thing. and i think he was alittle jelous of this. but i didnt mind him meeting females alone or cpls but not with me.
and i would catch him on cam in male only rooms on here. he tells me he stright but how can u be. he's still using this site and even now saying he loves me by txting me etc this week and lastnight he was on cam again doing it. clearly i couldnt say nowt coz not with him now.
we have since spilt up. but as wondering if i was doing the right thing? or no being understanding of if he was bi or not. he never once said he was untill over the summer time in 9yrs we were togeather. or would he just be doing it so he could have fun too.
not sure what to do and need advice really as maybe other ppl been throw the same and maybe i wentover the top about it. but i am think there is a diffrence beween being open and a secret in a realationship. sorry if my wording is rubbish too lol .
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whats ppls views on partner being a bi male
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I don't think anyone can answer the questions you ask as they will always be personal to you.
Are you more bothered by the fact you were cheated on or that your partner hid that he was a bi-male? Either way there must have been an issue with trust and without that any relationship, swinging or not, is going to struggle.
You have to look forward and move in that direction rather than dwell on the past.
Are you more bothered by the fact you were cheated on or that your partner hid that he was a bi-male? Either way there must have been an issue with trust and without that any relationship, swinging or not, is going to struggle.
You have to look forward and move in that direction rather than dwell on the past.
I havent been through this but I can see why you are upset. Honesty/trust is the most important part of a relationship and if it is broken then its hard to go on. Maybe your bloke is ashamed or confused about his sexuality but I think he should have talked to you about it rather than carry on behind your back and hurt your feelings . Hope you sort things out and are ok xxx
Sex God
I think that Calista says it in her post that maybe this issue is really far to personal to make to much comment on other than in my view it may be wise to seek counselling as a couple on this issue it has to be worth a shot. Good luck guys
Orgasminator
Honey I've been there and had to deal with this, and like any situation where your trust has been broken it's hard to deal with.
As others have said though were you more bothered about the cheating part or the fact that you didn't know that he was a bi male?
For me it was both, we had been together for 2 years before I found out. Being a long term thing we weren't using condoms, what if I had contracted something through him not being able to be honest with me?
Rainbow my heart goes out to you sweet, and my pm box is always open if you need to chat/rant/cry
xxxx
As others have said though were you more bothered about the cheating part or the fact that you didn't know that he was a bi male?
For me it was both, we had been together for 2 years before I found out. Being a long term thing we weren't using condoms, what if I had contracted something through him not being able to be honest with me?
Rainbow my heart goes out to you sweet, and my pm box is always open if you need to chat/rant/cry
xxxx
