Whatâ€™s the point in lying?

24 Jul 2005

Hi - I'm new to this site and am finding my way around gradually â€“ itâ€™s great to find somewhere that people can be themselves without hiding things from people. However I am struck by one strange fact â€“ that all contacts I have made with people are disappointing in that they just donâ€™t seem to understand that being dishonest Is just not going to get them anywhere - or is it? If I say I am looking for a slim woman 30â€™s then sending me a picture they found on the internet and arranging to meet me just doesnâ€™t work when I find out they are 45 and 25 stone â€“ do they think I will say well I am here anyway so we might as well do something. I donâ€™t understand this as there seems to be someone here to match virtually any preferences if you look and wait a while.
Does anyone have any advice for how I sort out real replies to an ad from people who seem to just respond to any offer of sex in the hope that when they turn up the other person/people will suddenly change their minds about what they are looking for? Or do I have to accept that 95% of people replying to an ad will not have read it or will be hoping I really meant to say man when I said woman or that mid 30â€™s includes anyone up to 50. Sorry to sound negative and perhaps I have had a bad start to this am going to stick with it in the hope that I meet some real people with a healthy grip on reality.

24 Jul 2005

There will always be chancers. Accept that and live with it, you will find that there are many genuine people who are exactly what they say they are. Good luck biggrin

24 Jul 2005

and that is precisely why we don't have an add - we find it is much better to just chat in the forums, timewasters don't tend to do that wink

But if you are looking for a quick 'discrete' shag, that won't be for you

24 Jul 2005

hi jo and welcome i have always found that being honest gets you further in all areas of life i hate time wasting liars it causes more problems than it solves. as ive posted before im a larger gent and over the years ive developed a what u see is what u get attitude. ive never been happyer

24 Jul 2005

Thanks - yea I'd like to pretend I'm brad pitt - but I'm not - I keep telling my daughter to be aware that her new friend she's chatting to on MSM might not be who she thinks they are. I'ts just sad that when you spend all day looking forward to meeting some people and then get ready - that they turn out to be nothing like what they said they were like. It's just a waste of everyones time
Sorry have finished ranting now

24 Jul 2005

Sorry Jo
a whinge on your first post isn't the most impressive start. Most people in the ads don't even know this forum exists!
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Mal