When do you know the time is right ????

17 Jun 2006

Quote by WibblyWobbly
I had tried to keep a relationship with someone suffering with severe depression going for a long long time and it was over and I had failed. It took however until this January to find real closure from that. Martell had been through something similiar and that was the connection between us - not sex, not romance just a sense of understanding.
When we actually met 11 weeks ago today for a coffee after corresponding online for a number of weeks there was no expectations of a relationship, sex.................just a coffee actually and a smile.

Hello you two... we've never chatted in the forum, chatroom or elsewhere but after reading your post I had a feeling of affinity with you as I had experienced virtually the same thing as you and quite understand your overflowing happiness... so ignore all the 'cynics'... all I can say to them is wait until it happens to you! biggrin

After suffering years of living with someone who was a love but was also a manic depressive it takes it out of you... depression is such an unintentional selfish disease and when you find someone who gives you unconditional love and makes you the centre of their world it is unbelievable and it really does want to make you shout it from the rooftops! Good luck to you both! xx
Wibbly
Wibbly
Thanks for this. I think thats exactly where we are coming from. You are totally right about depression and the saddest thing is you so want to help someone and the idea of letting go is so hard.
I totally understand cynics and I know I can be one of them. However all I know is that my family, work and friends have said we both look incrediably relaxed and happy and thats the main thing.
Oh and for all those cynics that think posts like this are crass DONT READ THEM THEN lol - bit like most things really.

17 Jun 2006

Quote by redwine_lover
So your love for her is more valid now that you have made a public announcement? I am sorry but I think people should live their lives privately when it comes to love. Otherwise it is just another showcase for exhibitionism.
(Feel free to knock me down for being outspoken )

Sorry but I am with Tanina on this, this should be left private.
We have seen other couples do this publicly then when they split (which is not what I am saying is going to happen here), it can't be done publicly. By doing this like this you are opening yourselves up to the community who will now rightly or wrongly pay a lot of attention to how you are doing, it puts you under the microscope.
Sorry but that is how I feel.
I was going to say much the same thing ... I'm happy for you both and really wish you the best in your relationship ... but ... I'm not a huge fan of these "We're a couple and love each other lots" announcement type posts because we've all seen the opposite "We've split up!" announcement.
Relationships are essentially private affairs, complex, wonderful things and un-predictable at that. What matters is the two people involved knowing how they feel about each other, not everyone else.
:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
call me a cynic!!!
RWL
xx

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
bah humbug lol
RWL shame on you !!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

17 Jun 2006

thanks for sharing that corrie we are pleased for you and love to read stories like this , it beats the crap out of the moaning about peeps not turning up for meets etc,
be happy
your friends rose and staggy
xx

17 Jun 2006

What a lovely post - there is nothing wrong with shouting your love from the rooftops. I always like to hear of a success story as it warms my heart! Soppy old me!! wink

18 Jun 2006

Congrats Corrie (a lovely lady) and Martell (who I have never met but would like to)....
I don't think there is anything wrong in posting how much you love each other publicly....it's heartwarming to see such a post in a sometimes sad and depressing world....
So go on Corrie and Martell, shout your love to the world!!!

18 Jun 2006

Amber, Dreamer Helen thanks so much for your wishes!!!!!
The day after I had coffee with MartellNotts I texted my best friend (which with April 1st) and said I think I have just met a man who I can really connect to and hes normal!!!!!! She texted back - well its an April fool then lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: . We did take it very slowly for the first few weeks - havent gone to any clubs or munches - just took time out to get to know each other and make sure it was not just a one week wonder and I think thats worked for us.
Greatest gift I think we have given each other is confidence and happiness. Now if either of us is foolish enough to give those gifts up well we should be shot lol.
Life is brilliant, I smile and laugh and when work is crass I have someone to talk to. I have asked him if we are having a lesbian relationship because being with him is like being with my girlie friends - we gossip, have a brilliant laugh, get drunk and talk lots and lots of bolloks lol. He says no I cant paint his nails :twisted: :lol: :lol:.
Now for all of you out there who have already got this then brilliant! I have never had that relationship with a man - I was always judged, told off, made to feel that my thoughts and actions were dirty so all of this is a new experience - being equals.
I remember my best friend saying to me - stop going for second best - wait and the best will come along. The best for us all is different but for me MartellNotts is the man I have dreamt of - someone who give me confidence in my self and who I am. Now we are not perfect by any means and both of us come with years of tried and tested baggage but our gifts outweigh the baggage and thats what I believe is what makes us want to give this a real shot lol.
You know I am writing this and thinking at the same time - god where my sick bag hahahahahahahahaha - this is too soppy but hey ho its great :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Love Corrie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

18 Jun 2006

Quote by corriefem
So your love for her is more valid now that you have made a public announcement? I am sorry but I think people should live their lives privately when it comes to love. Otherwise it is just another showcase for exhibitionism.
(Feel free to knock me down for being outspoken )

Sorry but I am with Tanina on this, this should be left private.
We have seen other couples do this publicly then when they split (which is not what I am saying is going to happen here), it can't be done publicly. By doing this like this you are opening yourselves up to the community who will now rightly or wrongly pay a lot of attention to how you are doing, it puts you under the microscope.
Sorry but that is how I feel.
I was going to say much the same thing ... I'm happy for you both and really wish you the best in your relationship ... but ... I'm not a huge fan of these "We're a couple and love each other lots" announcement type posts because we've all seen the opposite "We've split up!" announcement.
Relationships are essentially private affairs, complex, wonderful things and un-predictable at that. What matters is the two people involved knowing how they feel about each other, not everyone else.
:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
call me a cynic!!!
RWL
xx

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
bah humbug lol
RWL shame on you !!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
kiss

RWL

18 Jun 2006

Well I think it's great that people want to share their joy and what's more it is quite important that others on here know whether you're a couple or not anyway. I mean how else would you announce it??
I am very happy for you both.
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18 Jun 2006

Quote by corriefem
You know I am writing this and thinking at the same time - god where my sick bag hahahahahahahahaha - this is too soppy but hey ho its great :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I was using a bucket :lol2:
Corrie might sound soppy and overboard but the thing is, when you two are together, it isn't sickening. You are not all over each other like a rash, holding hands and kissing. Not when we have seen you. You do seem very 'comfortable' and happy with each other and even if I take the piss, I am really pleased for you both kiss

18 Jun 2006

Quote by martellnotts
I have put the heading as when do you know the time is right because the time is now right to post this
Over the past 10 or so weeks (well 11 tomorrow, not that we are countiing lol) I have been with the most wonderful person I have met in my whole life
Corriefem (Chrissie) and myself got together over coffee a meeting that totally changed both of our lives, so much so that I, and I'm not proud to say this, decieved someone else, and although that was wrong at the time the lady in question gave us her sort of blessing but told Chrissie , quite rightfully, to be careful
Anyway - enough about that and my indiscretions and back to why I'm writing this
Over the last nearlt 11 weeks I have enjoyed the company of the most wonderful person I could have ever met, she really is my world, my friend, my lover and my soulmate
Aww how idillic you might say, and yes in fact you are right
So why tell the world now
Well - thats the real simple bit
Last night when I got home I quite rightly got both barrels from Chrissie
She had posted on here regarding "what do you miss" in which she told you all how she felt very much velcroed to me - and how we had on Saturday night spent the most romantic, erotic evening sleeping out in the garden, and she was quite right it was, it was one of those amazing thing that you do and being cuddled up together under the stars - just the two of us was totally mindblowing
My big mistake was this - I didnt reply to that posting, which in hindsight I should have done, because it was the most wonderful thing to read
But then I havent replied to any of her postings in the last 10 weeks and 6 days - woops, big mistake massive
This was the crux of our discussion last night and she is quite right in what she says - I havent shown the world what she means to me - which quite frankly is everything
So why now go into print
Easy and simple
Chrissie - I love you with all my heart and thank you for welcoming me into your world, long may our being together continue and what we feel for each other grow and grow
Im here my darling - Just for you, and although I show you just how much I have been remiss and Im sorry I have taken this long to show the world
I LOVE YOU

Martell..... im soooooooooooooooo happy for you.
It's about time such a nice person like yourself was happy. I haven't met the lucky lady who has claimed you.... well not that i can remember anyway.
Or.....If i have.... i was prolly pissed!!!!