A thought occurred to me this morning!
The reason I am asking, is because I have posted threads where things have gone a little out of control, I feel responsible that I started the thread, although the arguments haven’t been on the back of the original topic.
It leaves me wondering if I should have started the thread in the first place, as arguments were not my intent.
When you post a thread are we in anyway responsible in making sure it doesn’t run into problems with people arguing?
I know mods are here, checking that the forums are running smoothly and a great job they do to.
But I also wondered if a thread is seen to be causing a stir is it the original posters responsibility to try and calm the situation or report it or ask for it to be locked if a Mod isn’t around?
What are your views?
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When posting a thread, are we somewhat responsible?
Sex God
I don't think it's even the 'property' of the poster, once it's been posted.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
But I also wondered if a thread is seen to be causing a stir is it the original posters responsibility to try and calm the situation or report it or ask for it to be locked if a Mod isn’t around?
No, its the responsibility of the posters to be able to put their own opinion across without getting personal or insulting.
You just stick with creating the good threads and leave the worrying to us :thumbup:
in some forums the OP has the lock key if things get out of hand,but you cant be responsible for what others say on your postings, this week i discovered it doesnt matter what kind of topic you post someone will pick on something simple like a spelling mistake and the next thing you know there is a bloodbath on your thread...keep up the good work minx,have told you before your postings are very original xxx
Quote by TheLovelyOne
I don't think it's even the 'property' of the poster, once it's been posted.
I agree - and dislike it when an OP tells posters to stop doing such and such in his or her thread.
oh really,the OP visits their thread more than anyone else i see no harm in asking people to stick to the topic afteral the OP has interest to the subject at hand...in some cases have felt like deleting a thread when others turn it to a shopping channel
Sex God
Quote by Phuckers
I don't think it's even the 'property' of the poster, once it's been posted.
I agree - and dislike it when an OP tells posters to stop doing such and such in his or her thread.
oh really,the OP visits their thread more than anyone else i see no harm in asking people to stick to the topic afteral the OP has interest to the subject at hand...in some cases have felt like deleting a thread when others turn it to a shopping channel
Agree, LovelyOne - although I've done it but in jest!
If a thread I start, goes off at a tangent, so what? That's only the same as a conversation, after all.
And Phuckers, you can only ask - you can't insist they stick to the subject; it's not realistic and threads would not last as long if they did, in my opinion. I also don't think it's true to say that an OP visits their own thread more than anyone else. Some post then run away. I may read the responses to a thread I've watched, every time I log in - but I don't always add to that thread.
Sex God
Hmmm... good question.
I think that there are topics that the original poster must realise are likely to get out of hand given the opinions/posting styles of some of the forum regulars. In that case, whilst I absolutely believe in people's right to free speech etc, I sometimes wonder why the thread has been started. I sometimes question when I read a thread if it has been started to genuinely canvass people's views or if rather it has been started to wind people up.
However, I'm with Freckledbird and The Lovely One on the idea that once a thread is started in this, a public forum, it no longer 'belongs' to the original poster. Like a conversation between colleagues in the staffroom or mates in the pub or families round the dinner table (showing my age there!
) once a conversation is started it takes whatever shape it takes. I dislike the idea of people feeling they 'own' threads.
So, is the original poster responsible for what is later said in a thread they start? No, of course not. We are all, as adults, responsible for things we say... be that in actual conversation or in cyber-debate here. However, I do sometimes question the motives of some thread-starting...
(Now as someone who has a propensity for starting completely nonsensical threads, I should take my own advice and get sensible shouldn't I!?!
What must my threads say about me?! 
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I think that there are topics that the original poster must realise are likely to get out of hand given the opinions/posting styles of some of the forum regulars. In that case, whilst I absolutely believe in people's right to free speech etc, I sometimes wonder why the thread has been started. I sometimes question when I read a thread if it has been started to genuinely canvass people's views or if rather it has been started to wind people up.
However, I'm with Freckledbird and The Lovely One on the idea that once a thread is started in this, a public forum, it no longer 'belongs' to the original poster. Like a conversation between colleagues in the staffroom or mates in the pub or families round the dinner table (showing my age there!
) once a conversation is started it takes whatever shape it takes. I dislike the idea of people feeling they 'own' threads.So, is the original poster responsible for what is later said in a thread they start? No, of course not. We are all, as adults, responsible for things we say... be that in actual conversation or in cyber-debate here. However, I do sometimes question the motives of some thread-starting...
(Now as someone who has a propensity for starting completely nonsensical threads, I should take my own advice and get sensible shouldn't I!?!
What must my threads say about me?! ) 
Sex God
I agree with the idea that once a post is on the forum it is the property of the forum. There is no doubt that people do post contentious topics and in contentious ways, though I feel this to be beneficial in creating debate.
It is, and should be matter for those following and replying to each post that they do so in a polite and courteous manner. I think there is little defence at showing rudeness through being shocked and alarmed. Just the fact that it takes time enough to reply should be enough time to control the rudeness or too sharply curt response
It is, and should be matter for those following and replying to each post that they do so in a polite and courteous manner. I think there is little defence at showing rudeness through being shocked and alarmed. Just the fact that it takes time enough to reply should be enough time to control the rudeness or too sharply curt response
Quote by Freckledbird
I don't think it's even the 'property' of the poster, once it's been posted.
I agree - and dislike it when an OP tells posters to stop doing such and such in his or her thread.
oh really,the OP visits their thread more than anyone else i see no harm in asking people to stick to the topic afteral the OP has interest to the subject at hand...in some cases have felt like deleting a thread when others turn it to a shopping channel
Agree, LovelyOne - although I've done it but in jest!
If a thread I start, goes off at a tangent, so what? That's only the same as a conversation, after all.
And Phuckers, you can only ask - you can't insist they stick to the subject; it's not realistic and threads would not last as long if they did, in my opinion. I also don't think it's true to say that an OP visits their own thread more than anyone else. Some post then run away. I may read the responses to a thread I've watched, every time I log in - but I don't always add to that thread.
very true FB,have not disputed that once the thread is out in public its not in the control of the OP,but i remember some of my replies were deleted from a thread when the OP requested the mod to do it,of course i wont name names but for someone to start a thread they must have an interest to it,i know i do
Quote by Theladyisaminx
A thought occurred to me this morning!
The reason I am asking, is because I have posted threads where things have gone a little out of control, I feel responsible that I started the thread, although the arguments haven’t been on the back of the original topic.
It leaves me wondering if I should have started the thread in the first place, as arguments were not my intent.
When you post a thread are we in anyway responsible in making sure it doesn’t run into problems with people arguing?
I know mods are here, checking that the forums are running smoothly and a great job they do to.
But I also wondered if a thread is seen to be causing a stir is it the original posters responsibility to try and calm the situation or report it or ask for it to be locked if a Mod isn’t around?
What are your views?
You should know my views on this subject Minxy.
Quote by kentswingers777
A thought occurred to me this morning!
The reason I am asking, is because I have posted threads where things have gone a little out of control, I feel responsible that I started the thread, although the arguments haven’t been on the back of the original topic.
It leaves me wondering if I should have started the thread in the first place, as arguments were not my intent.
When you post a thread are we in anyway responsible in making sure it doesn’t run into problems with people arguing?
I know mods are here, checking that the forums are running smoothly and a great job they do to.
But I also wondered if a thread is seen to be causing a stir is it the original posters responsibility to try and calm the situation or report it or ask for it to be locked if a Mod isn’t around?
What are your views?
You should know my views on this subject Minxy.
spit it you mate!
Quote by flower411
A thought occurred to me this morning!
The reason I am asking, is because I have posted threads where things have gone a little out of control, I feel responsible that I started the thread, although the arguments haven’t been on the back of the original topic.
It leaves me wondering if I should have started the thread in the first place, as arguments were not my intent.
When you post a thread are we in anyway responsible in making sure it doesn’t run into problems with people arguing?
I know mods are here, checking that the forums are running smoothly and a great job they do to.
But I also wondered if a thread is seen to be causing a stir is it the original posters responsibility to try and calm the situation or report it or ask for it to be locked if a Mod isn’t around?
What are your views?
You should know my views on this subject Minxy.
spit it you mate!
I read that as "Spit AT you mate" ...and thought Oh god it`s the evil twin again !!! :lol:
ha ha i need glasses,spit it out mate....good afternoon guys off to have some jars before the game!
Quote by kentswingers777
A thought occurred to me this morning!
The reason I am asking, is because I have posted threads where things have gone a little out of control, I feel responsible that I started the thread, although the arguments haven’t been on the back of the original topic.
It leaves me wondering if I should have started the thread in the first place, as arguments were not my intent.
When you post a thread are we in anyway responsible in making sure it doesn’t run into problems with people arguing?
I know mods are here, checking that the forums are running smoothly and a great job they do to.
But I also wondered if a thread is seen to be causing a stir is it the original posters responsibility to try and calm the situation or report it or ask for it to be locked if a Mod isn’t around?
What are your views?
You should know my views on this subject Minxy.
I might but do others
:lol: Sex God
Just had a thought - I posted a thread a while ago and asked for it to be deleted. Not because of any problem with it here, or anything that was said on it - but for shenanigans elsewhere by a nasty old sock puppet and the chance that nastiness could be continued here.
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Just had a thought - I posted a thread a while ago and asked for it to be deleted. Not because of any problem with it here, or anything that was said on it - but for shenanigans elsewhere by a nasty old sock puppet and the chance that nastiness could be continued here.
You do have a way with words
Orgasminator
No one can be held accountable for the end of a thread they start, but they do have a responsibilty for what they put in their thread to start with.
Sex God
Quote by Midlandsman1970
No one can be held accountable for the end of a thread they start, but they do have a responsibilty for what they put in their thread to start with.
:thumbup: Far more concisely eloquent than I was with my earlier ramblings...
As a poster of threads I feel it is NOT my responsibility to monitor others behavour.
Yes some of my threads are thought provoking and some have serious undertones. If others want to turn it into a bickering contest, I can match most on that front.
People can either walk on by or put a constructive comment on it. Where serious threads are concerned of course most realise they are the ones that can cause problems. But we have seen " fluffy " threads of late go to the wall.
Once I have posted a new thread, I leave it up to others to comment or not. So I feel it is others plus the poster who have to behave, and as long as rules of the AUP are not broken, then cannot see any problems.
Is that alright Minxy?
Yes some of my threads are thought provoking and some have serious undertones. If others want to turn it into a bickering contest, I can match most on that front.
People can either walk on by or put a constructive comment on it. Where serious threads are concerned of course most realise they are the ones that can cause problems. But we have seen " fluffy " threads of late go to the wall.
Once I have posted a new thread, I leave it up to others to comment or not. So I feel it is others plus the poster who have to behave, and as long as rules of the AUP are not broken, then cannot see any problems.
Is that alright Minxy?
Well there are a few topics which always cause a stir. So its probably unfair to hold the original posters responsible as they are usually newbies who don't expect the ensuing events to occur.
However, experienced posters who really know how these things are going to travel, appear to be unable to resist the lure of a good scrap.
They are responsible, or at least should be.
However, experienced posters who really know how these things are going to travel, appear to be unable to resist the lure of a good scrap.
They are responsible, or at least should be.
One of the joys of posting is that the threads have there own lives, you just set them free.
Some wither and die, weigh down by apathy.
Some flourish and grow and run and run seemingly forever (Take one and leave one)
Some turn into fracious arguements
Some get locked
Once you post a thread it is nothing to do with you what happens
Some wither and die, weigh down by apathy.
Some flourish and grow and run and run seemingly forever (Take one and leave one)
Some turn into fracious arguements
Some get locked
Once you post a thread it is nothing to do with you what happens
