Where am i going wrong?

25 Aug 2005

Hi all,
Could someone help me, where am i going wrong, i have an ad and i have been sending emails to people that i am interested in, but for some reason i'm not getting a response? Am i just being too nice or should i be more hard core in my approach? Could some one please help me redface

25 Aug 2005

Mack
We would need to read your ad to give an informed opinion, we don't all have crystal balls you know.... mines in for a service at the moment wink

25 Aug 2005

You might want to include your ad number and I'm sure more successful members of this forum will review it for you.
I buy the occasional lottery ticket but have yet to win the jackpot. Am I going wrong somewhere? If you're a single male then it's a bit like that... more qualified advice not withstanding. Best to work out what distinguishes you from the crowd and play that up. If you're Joe Average then the odds are against you.
Like you I can't resist checking the ads but meeting people at clubs or, once you are known on here, SH events, seems by far a better way. At a stroke you eliminate timewasters, spammers, scammers, dreamers, impersonators and the hoards of other desperados who spend all day putting up or replying to ads.

25 Aug 2005

Try this and link in your ad number
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/4225.html
Then iwould suggest you read this as it may help
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/46349.html

25 Aug 2005

as much as i hate to say this... it is also a case of supply and demand...
as an example.....
if you just take a look at the ad sections...
number of ads of men seeking couples: 5590
number of ads of couples seeking men: 1340
off the top of my head 5 times as many....
number of ads of men seeking women: 7805
number of ads of women seeking men: 124
you do the maths!!!!
women and couples can afford to be choosy when it comes to single guys because there are a lot about (a friend of mine got 300+ replies in just over a week when she had one on) just like we get couples on here complaining when they can't find a single bi fem.. same thing applies, can be as choosy as they want
so unless you sell yourself and do it well then yes, a lot of people do struggle...give them a reason as to why they should pick you? does your ad stand out for any of the thousands out there??
if you get those things sorted then maybe you will start to get somewhere....
sean xxxxxx

25 Aug 2005

Quote by fabio grooverider
as much as i hate to say this... it is also a case of supply and demand...
as an example.....
if you just take a look at the ad sections...
number of ads of men seeking couples: 5590
number of ads of couples seeking men: 1340
off the top of my head 5 times as many....
number of ads of men seeking women: 7805
number of ads of women seeking men: 124
you do the maths!!!!
women and couples can afford to be choosy when it comes to single guys because there are a lot about (a friend of mine got 300+ replies in just over a week when she had one on) just like we get couples on here complaining when they can't find a single bi fem.. same thing applies, can be as choosy as they want
so unless you sell yourself and do it well then yes, a lot of people do struggle...give them a reason as to why they should pick you? does your ad stand out for any of the thousands out there??
if you get those things sorted then maybe you will start to get somewhere....
sean xxxxxx

well said sean, you beat me to it biggrin

Its all about getting known and seen to show you are genuine as well.
On SH there are quite a few gorgeous, sexy, genuine single guys that do get to play but IMHO its because they stand out from the crowd and show they are more than just a d*ck on legs.

25 Aug 2005

they stand out from the crowd and show they are more than just a d*ck on legs.

You mean they stand all the time :shock: what ever next lol

25 Aug 2005

Quote by kazswallows
as much as i hate to say this... it is also a case of supply and demand...
as an example.....
if you just take a look at the ad sections...
number of ads of men seeking couples: 5590
number of ads of couples seeking men: 1340
off the top of my head 5 times as many....
number of ads of men seeking women: 7805
number of ads of women seeking men: 124
you do the maths!!!!
women and couples can afford to be choosy when it comes to single guys because there are a lot about (a friend of mine got 300+ replies in just over a week when she had one on) just like we get couples on here complaining when they can't find a single bi fem.. same thing applies, can be as choosy as they want
so unless you sell yourself and do it well then yes, a lot of people do struggle...give them a reason as to why they should pick you? does your ad stand out for any of the thousands out there??
if you get those things sorted then maybe you will start to get somewhere....
sean xxxxxx

well said sean, you beat me to it biggrin

Its all about getting known and seen to show you are genuine as well.
On SH there are quite a few gorgeous, sexy, genuine single guys that do get to play but IMHO its because they stand out from the crowd and show they are more thanjust a d*ck on legs.
Kaz that's unfair, Postie is so much more... he's a bag of bollocks too :grin:
sorry about the hijack