Hi gemini :welcome: to the forums hope you find what your lookng for
I for one am willing to offer myself to further your research :grin:
I'm pretty sure that men can be "head fucks and timewasters" too lol!
I'd regard dating about not being about instant sex, more about conversation (both lighthearted and fun and also really long, detailed, intimate conversations) and doing things together, going for a drink, a meal, movies, theatre, concerts, days out or whatever.
But a lot of it will be about that most elusive thing where you find you can both just be yourselves in each others company and find pleasure in that without any "amusements" or then can lead to liking each other so much that maybe then something sexual does happen, not meaning that all the rest I mentioned was mere window dressing to get to sex, in fact that is all part of it, that which makes it a deeper thing between two people.
people will tell you a swinging site isnt the place to look for a partner
that being so a lot of couples have met on the scene cos they were both looking for the same kinda freedom
all i will say is both sexes can be as bad as each other and if you truly are of one persuasion why look for the other just cos it might be easier, if its love, it aint easy, its part of the price you pay, hell life aint easy.
meet people, go with the flow, enjoy yourself, and if that person comes along, male or female, you will know.
Earthy xx
Hi to everyone, thanks for your welcome and comments.
The problem ive always had in internet dating to find a guy is that most if not all men see a dating site as a pick up place for a shag, and have no interest in getting to know a girl for a relationship. In most cases, i cant "shag" a stranger, i have to get to know him and thats only if there is chemistry, but men dont want to wait long enough for me to find that out.
Ive been very self analitical since i joined on monday and after chatting to one couple the other night, and again last night, it hit me like a brick............they were very loving on cam, very polite, well mannered and very good company. Im generally very squeemish about men,ive had some very unpleasant experiences, which is why i want to meet couples who initially only want fem fem involvment, so that i might actually get to know him before there is any further involvment, ......so the couple i met the other night made me feel very at ease, safe and relaxed.
Am i screwed up or making sense?
But if you`re meeting couples you`re never going to be come "more involved" with the guy, that`s just about sex and not about meeting Mr Right.
How about looking next to Mr Left.......
but seriously relationships can hapen from swinging, myself and Bubbly Lorrainne started out as occasional fuck buddies, but ended up failing in Love with each other.
Not quite the same point but i've often wondered if guys on here are happy to shag us single girls but would never take us home to meet their mothers.
Guess what im saying is that age old thing, happy to shag a swinger but not to have a relationship with one.
Runtie
Hey Gemini,
I think that you need to decide for yourself what you want before you try to find an elusive 'other' that can fulfil it for you.
You sound like a nice girl and I'm sorry you've had bad experiences.
Sex with men is defineitaly different to sex with women, take your time, make sure you feel safe and secure and then things will happen on their own. Most of all look after yourself and make sure that you prioritise your own safety.
There are nice people here whocan help you to fulfil any fantasy.
Amber xx
Thanks Amber
I keep getting lied to and dumped on by men so often i just expect it every time i chat to some one new,
its happened again this morning, i got a message in faceparty, read his profile hes real cute and no nonsense, says hes in west mids etc
messaged him on msn and hes in london but was seeing someone last yr in the mids, which leads me to think he was two timing her cos he advertised while he was with her, he only had one word answers to all my questions and asked to see sexy pix straight away, so i told him im not into pic collectors and hes not bothered if we dont talk again
I either attract peeps like him who are so up their own asses or sad fat old perves who think they are gods gift to young girls
its just so unfair, im in the prime of my life and its passing me by
some peeps think i try too hard, so i back off and dont try at all and there is no difference
And fellas, please dont think its just you cos gay women are just as bad if not worse.......men should know how dippy women are and i agree......me excepted of course !!
if you are not easy, i dont like Boots
:roll: flirt :lol2: 
