I prefer Sexual Adventurer as a way of describing this scene, it's all too often people say they're not swingers? What is a swinger? a wife swapper?
The Question of the day is...
Where you born to swing? and have a dark kinky side?
i ask this because, i recall when i was a kid, that is perhaps a 14 or 15 yr old, a gang of lads i used to hang round with once told me " see him in nr 6? he goes to wife swapping parties with his mrs"
Now, whislt the guys all poked fun, i thought , how kinky it was, i think from then on i always thought i'd find my way onto the scene, I've been around a long time now, not always as an active member but here.
Is it just one of those things you were always meant to do?
I've asked this on another website i use -the phrase sexual adventurer is courtesy of that lovely girl,
your thinking? xx jw
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Where you born to be a swinger or \\\"sexual Adventurer
Sex God
I was always an outsider at school. Others commented on girls in less than respectful terms. There was something in me that disliked. That dislike kept me apart from them.
I know I was different, but did that have anything to do with me finding my own why? I do not know, but I had no love for the norm.
I know I was different, but did that have anything to do with me finding my own why? I do not know, but I had no love for the norm.
Both myself and Bonnie have always been very open minded about sex. I can say always... well almost always as we first had a relationship in our teens, we broke up married idiots, divorced said idiots and ended up back together. So we know what we were like as teens and as 30 somethings. Even as teens we fantasised about involving others in our sex lives. I had my first mmf encounter aged about 17 or 18 before I met Bonnie and Bonnie has had an mmf encounter between getting divorced and getting back with me. so I would say yes we've always been "sexual adventurers".
I think it also helps if you can differentiate between love and sex. Yes the two obviously go hand in hand but they are not exclusive to each other. We both love sex and also love each other absolutely so were comfortable not denying each other pleasure if the right oppurtunities arise. It doesn't make a person a man tart or a slut it just means they know what they like and embracee it.
Did I drone on.... probably... Clyde.
I think it also helps if you can differentiate between love and sex. Yes the two obviously go hand in hand but they are not exclusive to each other. We both love sex and also love each other absolutely so were comfortable not denying each other pleasure if the right oppurtunities arise. It doesn't make a person a man tart or a slut it just means they know what they like and embracee it.
Did I drone on.... probably... Clyde.
Not sure if I was born to be a sexual adventurer, but I have always had a "kinkier" side to me than most of my friends or early girlfriends.
I remember being about 17 and asking a girlfriend at the time if i could blindfold her and have sex with her outdoors as the thrill of possibly being caught was a massive turn on for me. She promptly called me a pervert, ended our brief dalliance and told everyone at college I was a kinky pervert, making pulling other girls in my "popular group" nigh on impossible.......
They say every dark cloud has a silver lining and this little pearl of wisdom won through. A girl I had previously never even really noticed (different, less "popular" social group) came up to me one night at a college party and asked was I as kinky as everyone had been saying, thinking she was going to start taking the proverbial micheal I replied "no piss off!" or words to that affect.
"Shame" she replied, "cos I love kinky boys" and, after several vodka and cokes later, from there a very exciting, naughty and thrilling little voyage of sexual discovery was undertaken.
I probably was not born to swing but after being shown the way by someone who probably was, I never looked back and here I am posting on a forum of a swingers website right now.
Would I have wanted it any other way ohhhhh noooooo
I remember being about 17 and asking a girlfriend at the time if i could blindfold her and have sex with her outdoors as the thrill of possibly being caught was a massive turn on for me. She promptly called me a pervert, ended our brief dalliance and told everyone at college I was a kinky pervert, making pulling other girls in my "popular group" nigh on impossible.......
They say every dark cloud has a silver lining and this little pearl of wisdom won through. A girl I had previously never even really noticed (different, less "popular" social group) came up to me one night at a college party and asked was I as kinky as everyone had been saying, thinking she was going to start taking the proverbial micheal I replied "no piss off!" or words to that affect.
"Shame" she replied, "cos I love kinky boys" and, after several vodka and cokes later, from there a very exciting, naughty and thrilling little voyage of sexual discovery was undertaken.
I probably was not born to swing but after being shown the way by someone who probably was, I never looked back and here I am posting on a forum of a swingers website right now.
Would I have wanted it any other way ohhhhh noooooo
Sex God
I was born.
That's good enough for me.
LOL.
That's good enough for me.
LOL.
thats quite close to what i ask srne, I think, that its a bit like why some become vicars priests and nuns and others become prostitues, thieves and criminals, i think, quite simply your born to be "A something" and some of us were born to have a kinky side and become sexual adventurers.?
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thats quite close to what i ask srne, I think, that its a bit like why some become vicars priests and nuns and others become prostitues, thieves and criminals, i think, quite simply your born to be "A something" and some of us were born to have a kinky side and become sexual adventurers.?
I'm not sure if we are born to become something joewally, maybe that we are a bit psychologically, or characteristically inclined to a certain type of lifestyle or ideal etc, and we are more easily swayed toward things that involve or are associated with these ?
Sex God
i was born to be a ski instructor.. ffs not enough snow round dudley.. damn
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thats quite close to what i ask srne, I think, that its a bit like why some become vicars priests and nuns and others become prostitues, thieves and criminals, i think, quite simply your born to be "A something" and some of us were born to have a kinky side and become sexual adventurers.?
I'm not sure if we are born to become something joewally, maybe that we are a bit psychologically, or characteristically inclined to a certain type of lifestyle or ideal etc, and we are more easily swayed toward things that involve or are associated with these ?
yep far better way of putting it .
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i was born to be a ski instructor.. ffs not enough snow round dudley.. damn
Staggy you still on about the snow?
Im not sure i was born to swing but i`ve always been a very sexually up front and open person, and i did have a kinky side when i was younger, i`ve always enjoyed back seat sex and outdoor sex, i remember some very muddy knee moments from a passionate romp on a muddy bank, and sex against a tree
some things never change 
Sex God
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i was born to be a ski instructor.. ffs not enough snow round dudley.. damn
Staggy you still on about the snow?
Im not sure i was born to swing but i`ve always been a very sexually up front and open person, and i did have a kinky side when i was younger, i`ve always enjoyed back seat sex and outdoor sex, i remember some very muddy knee moments from a passionate romp on a muddy bank, and sex against a tree
some things never change theres snow business like snow business
Master of Sex
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i was born to be a ski instructor.. ffs not enough snow round dudley.. damn
I'm sure there are a few pubs around the town centre where you'd be able to find some. :twisted:
I wasn't born to swing, not sure that anyone is. It's probably more about choices we make according to our personalities? I'd say i am sexually adventurous though, but that didnt happen till i was in my late 30's.
I've dabbled on another scene for some years, wanting to experince the passion and excitement that that brought, and it helped to expand on my then limited experiences of sex. - So i guess i do have a kinky side too..
Swinging was about finding the sexual, sensual, liberated and confident me, finding that magical power that i as a woman supposedly have. I wanted to take a year out and just be me - without a relationship to validate who was - and i had an absolute blast, learnt so much about myself, and met some amazing people, many of whom have become firm friends. Sure, there were challenging times, but overall it was a fantastic experience.
I decided some 6 months ago to cease swinging, I kinda felt lost at parties, and wondered what on earth i was doing there. Just didnt 'feel it' anymore. At the time it really confused me as i loved going to the parties, loved the 'freedom' i felt.... but looking back i now realise that i no longer had a 'reason' to be on the scene as i'd achieved what i'd set out to do/learn. I'm still very happy to go to a party or social to just socialise.
I'm not going to say 'never again' because who knows whats around the corner, but for now i am extremely content with my life and where i am. Maybe swinging may be part of my life in the future, maybe not.. at this point i honestly dont know, as i am finding myself emotionally conflicted between the usual norms and an alternative lifestyle. However, i suspect that given the right circumstances, i'd be totally fine with swinging having a part in my life.
I guess what i am saying is that for some swinging is a lifestyle, and for others it may be an avenue to sex, some it may be explorative, naughty, sexy, boundary pushing etc etc.... i'd say it's all about personal choice.
I've dabbled on another scene for some years, wanting to experince the passion and excitement that that brought, and it helped to expand on my then limited experiences of sex. - So i guess i do have a kinky side too..
Swinging was about finding the sexual, sensual, liberated and confident me, finding that magical power that i as a woman supposedly have. I wanted to take a year out and just be me - without a relationship to validate who was - and i had an absolute blast, learnt so much about myself, and met some amazing people, many of whom have become firm friends. Sure, there were challenging times, but overall it was a fantastic experience.
I decided some 6 months ago to cease swinging, I kinda felt lost at parties, and wondered what on earth i was doing there. Just didnt 'feel it' anymore. At the time it really confused me as i loved going to the parties, loved the 'freedom' i felt.... but looking back i now realise that i no longer had a 'reason' to be on the scene as i'd achieved what i'd set out to do/learn. I'm still very happy to go to a party or social to just socialise.
I'm not going to say 'never again' because who knows whats around the corner, but for now i am extremely content with my life and where i am. Maybe swinging may be part of my life in the future, maybe not.. at this point i honestly dont know, as i am finding myself emotionally conflicted between the usual norms and an alternative lifestyle. However, i suspect that given the right circumstances, i'd be totally fine with swinging having a part in my life.
I guess what i am saying is that for some swinging is a lifestyle, and for others it may be an avenue to sex, some it may be explorative, naughty, sexy, boundary pushing etc etc.... i'd say it's all about personal choice.
