Who first raised the subject?

5 Nov 2004

Lil bunnys` thread about the "new me" and her partners reluctance (?) to experiment has got both of us wondering. confused

For the couples out there who did not meet or have any history in the "scene" as it were ......... WHO broached the subject first? redface

We are guessing its highly unlikely that the idea to experiment came like a bolt from the blue at exactly the same time for both? We are also guessing there were one or two minor caualties and disagreements (particularly as there are many couples on here who do NOT experiment) .
Are there any current singles who had the discussion in previous relationships aswell?
In reference to an earlier thread about whether women swung more in the 60`s, our guess is that with PCs now a part of household furniture and late night browsing the norm, the question of experimenting is "posed" on almost every adult website therefore desensitising us to the idea and diluting the question for the one who raises the subject? dunno

Intruiged foxys x

5 Nov 2004

I seem to remember I was the one who raised the subject on dogging/swinging.. and kinda convinced him it was a good idea!! lol.. He's always been very shy and quite naive till he met me and now has this whole new world open up to him (I know he loves it really) :twisted:

5 Nov 2004

We had a 3sum by accident and then decided to organise a Swinging Party..!!!
And here we are!!!
wink

Dxxx

5 Nov 2004

We didn't talk about it as such. We 'copped off' one night and got laid by this guy... that was the start of it for me. I knew R had been in a long term MMF relationship before, but it was a takey-turny kinda thing... he was viciously straight. Ya know, the DONT TOUCH ME sort.
So... I don't count that!!
Um... no.. I don't think it was a question either of us raised. But he might remember different.

5 Nov 2004

Currently single. Brought the subject up before when in a relationship. Never been able to talk a partner around yet.
In all fairness though, my attitudes have changed since I last had a partner that I spoke to about it. I used to just go on about MFF threesomes. One partner did say to me "yeah, ok, sure, so long as we can try MMF, too". At that time I just wasn't up for that so I said "no!". I'll give anything a go now though.

5 Nov 2004

I knew that my partner had the fantasy about fmf for ever and ever. One day, i decided "what the hell, you only live once" and placed an ad.
Some time later, and his fantasy fulfilled, i began to look at some of my own. So now, i have a list, which saves on having to remember them all !!!!! lol

Lots of love, hugs and kisses
Little
XXX

5 Nov 2004

Quote by Vix
Um... no.. I don't think it was a question either of us raised. But he might remember different.

You're absolutely right: We didn't really talk about it until after that first experience together (although we'd previousy discussed my past liaisons in depth long before that)...
~Reese! :love:

5 Nov 2004

Thinking about it and observing some of your thoughts, many people here seem to be very "in-tune " with eachother (including us I think), therefore the suggesting or indeed the DOING rather than suggesting (surreycouple,vix, lol) was never going to smash the planet into smithereens.
x

5 Nov 2004

Well for us it was something that we'd both talked about for a saw a programme or something on it which got us talking but i honestly cant remember who came out with it first confused