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We do not meet a lot to be honest, which is our choice.
In honesty the one thing that really really pisses me off is, after a meet with a guy, after we have invited him into our home, we do not even get a text the next day saying thanks for our hospitality. Bad manners that one.
But other than that all but one of the guys we have met, have been really nice guys, and the main thing for us is that we ALL have fun. In whatever capacity that may be in.
No guy has ever gone away and not asked to come back. At the end of the day everyone should enjoy what is on offer at that time, and if that was not to happen we would stop swinging.
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Fabio...if we met you ....we would pay for absolutley everything!! wink

"If"??...... surely you mean "when"!!!.... lol :lol:
anyway.... we share the same taste in appartments!
I always do halves anyway....... :lol:
Quote by flower411
Phew !!!
I`ve just ploughed my way through this thread and skipped a couple of bits of .....in the immortal words of Lost ....."wordy bollox" .....and I have to say I`ve never really thought about it before !! lol
Firstly, we`ve never met anybody who didn`t seem to be in tune with my sense of humour wink
We`ve never met in a hotel and for a first meet I don`t think we ever would unless we or he/they were already booked in for another reason.
If that was the case I`d just assume that whoever had the room was paying for it :P
We don`t do dinner "before" so I can`t comment.
If a guy or a couple suggested that we meet in a hotel room I`d probably say something along the lines of ...
"Well who`s gonna pay for that ?? :shock: "
If the answer was "Me/Us"
I`d say ....."Nah , let`s share the cost"
If the answer was "You"
I`d say "Fuck off !!"
If the answer was "Well...I`ve got a calculator handy and if we split it three/four ways and take into account that I`ve had to travel further than you and ............."
Well surfice it to say, I`m pretty sure we wouldn`t have got to the stage of even discussing a meet rolleyes
And I`d just like to say that I fell out with 777 long before he became a regular forum poster :roll: And the implication that he might be "pimping out" Mrs 777 was just silly and inflammatory !!!
There`s far more subtle ways of winding him up .... bolt

Best response yet!!!! love it! :lol:
Quote by flower411
Phew !!!
I`ve just ploughed my way through this thread and skipped a couple of bits of .....in the immortal words of Lost ....."wordy bollox" .....and I have to say I`ve never really thought about it before !! lol
Firstly, we`ve never met anybody who didn`t seem to be in tune with my sense of humour wink
We`ve never met in a hotel and for a first meet I don`t think we ever would unless we or he/they were already booked in for another reason.
If that was the case I`d just assume that whoever had the room was paying for it :P
We don`t do dinner "before" so I can`t comment.
If a guy or a couple suggested that we meet in a hotel room I`d probably say something along the lines of ...
"Well who`s gonna pay for that ?? :shock: "
If the answer was "Me/Us"
I`d say ....."Nah , let`s share the cost"
If the answer was "You"
I`d say "Fuck off !!"
If the answer was "Well...I`ve got a calculator handy and if we split it three/four ways and take into account that I`ve had to travel further than you and ............."
Well surfice it to say, I`m pretty sure we wouldn`t have got to the stage of even discussing a meet rolleyes
And I`d just like to say that I fell out with 777 long before he became a regular forum poster :roll: And the implication that he might be "pimping out" Mrs 777 was just silly and inflammatory !!!
There`s far more subtle ways of winding him up .... bolt

That is true Flower but....suffice to say that is long in the past and I for one would like to think we get on just fine now.
Yes " that " comment fucking really pissed me off, and I do not swear on here that much.
Still words cannot express what I now feel for the guy, but I think he now knows that anyway. I wonder what I would have done had that have been said to my face? I think people who really know me, would know for sure.
firstly this isnt a new topic, it's been posted before,but with time suppose opinions change.
blimey at this moment in time, what with all the "no shows & crap shags" was thinking of paying all the bill if a stud satisfied, a serious note though was wondering all these couples who don't agree with kent777, do they not feel there pimping (there words not mine) there wifes when they attend a swingers club and pay usually less than half a single guys entry fee? or these singles who also dissagree with kent why do you attend knowing full well your paying lots more than couples?? (double standards)??
Quote by fabio

Fabio...if we met you ....we would pay for absolutley everything!! wink

"If"??...... surely you mean "when"!!!.... lol :lol:
anyway.... we share the same taste in appartments!
I always do halves anyway....... :lol:
Apartments??
I live in a country cottage fabs! smile
I think its easy to allow feelings and thoughts to get confused. Conversations about 'pimping' and 'prostitutes', just shouldn't come into it.
Its a bill to pay for the 'accommodation' at the venue (hotel), not for the relationship swingers have with each other.
If its a couple and a single then I would expect to pay up to half the cost of the room, or a third if its offered. If its a gang bang, then costs could be spread or even absorbed by the guests. What matters is how effectively agreements are arrived at, and that side of the meeting is handled appropriately.
I would not want to get involved with a feeling of meanness either before or after the event.
Typing of apartments...
We have found a great new place to have meets.
Serviced apartments near where we live, all the comfort of home and all that.
We took pizzas to put in the oven later, wine to put in the fridge, it was fantastic, very clean!
The funny thing was though.....we booked online, card details entered. As we were running late the gentleman in question went to pick the key up from the main block(not the one where we were staying)When he got there, we had not been given what we had booked for, I asked him to pay the extra £20 they needed, he did by his card. When his statment came in later they had charged him for the whole room. So we both ended up paying £79!!
Got it sorted, but we all laughed so much about it on the phone, all agreeed that it was an expensive shag!!!
We split the costs down the middle for that meet(in the end, after all was sorted) The gentleman slept over in the apartment,as he had kindly driven for over an hour to meet us. That seems a very normal and acceptable arrangment to me.
Lucys post.
Quote by cockslut
ON a serious note though was wondering all these couples who don't agree with kent777, do they not feel there pimping (there words not mine) there wifes when they attend a swingers club and pay usually less than half a single guys entry fee? or these singles who also dissagree with kent why do you attend knowing full well your paying lots more than couples?? (double standards)??

That's not a good analogy Cocky. When you go to clubs you enter into a financial agreement with the owners, not the other customers. The club's pricing structure is not relevant. However, were you to arrange to meet someone outside, and they paid your entrance, then that would be the equivalent of someone paying your hotel, meal etc costs and some could consider the pimping comment justified in that case.
We are quite happy to pay the price asked by the club owner and accept that price differentials exist in business to maximise custom. However, we would not accept the offer from another customer to pay us in for the promise of a shag, even though we would be likely to shag them inside if we had all paid the going entrance fee ourselves.
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I always take some vino or something that I know they will like smile

Yes you do and it's about time you came down again kiss
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I always take some vino or something that I know they will like smile

Yes you do and it's about time you came down again kiss
If I was visiting Sassy I wud take a bucket of paste & do her walls! :giggle:
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Typing of apartments...
We have found a great new place to have meets.
Serviced apartments near where we live, all the comfort of home and all that.
We took pizzas to put in the oven later, wine to put in the fridge, it was fantastic, very clean!
The funny thing was though.....we booked online, card details entered. As we were running late the gentleman in question went to pick the key up from the main block(not the one where we were staying)When he got there, we had not been given what we had booked for, I asked him to pay the extra £20 they needed, he did by his card. When his statment came in later they had charged him for the whole room. So we both ended up paying £79!!
Got it sorted, but we all laughed so much about it on the phone, all agreeed that it was an expensive shag!!!
We split the costs down the middle for that meet(in the end, after all was sorted) The gentleman slept over in the apartment,as he had kindly driven for over an hour to meet us. That seems a very normal and acceptable arrangment to me.
Lucys post.

Fantastic! Glad you got that sorted! :bounce:
rpm wanders off to send Lucyandmike7 a wink wink
Quote by cockslut
firstly this isnt a new topic, it's been posted before,but with time suppose opinions change.
blimey at this moment in time, what with all the "no shows & crap shags" was thinking of paying all the bill if a stud satisfied, a serious note though was wondering all these couples who don't agree with kent777, do they not feel there pimping (there words not mine) there wifes when they attend a swingers club and pay usually less than half a single guys entry fee? or these singles who also dissagree with kent why do you attend knowing full well your paying lots more than couples?? (double standards)??

Yes cockslut this HAS been done before, as most topics have.
What really annoys me about this topic, is it is the single guys who moan the most.
Whatever they may or may not say, unless you look like George Clooney, and have a body to die for, and last for hours, MOST guys will find it hard to find a couple on a regular basis.
Most guys that we have met find meeting couples, genuine ones anyway, very difficult.
Couples find it much more easier to " pick and choose " so to speak, than single guys do, unless you have the said attributes above.....and most do not. lol
So IF we ever decided to meet a guy in a hotel and he was NOT prepared to pay half, then quite frankly he can fuckoff, as there are plenty of guys that will. I wonder how many meets the guys who moan about paying half with a couple have actually had? dunno In my book nowhere near as many as they would have liked.
As I have said before, we have never met a guy yet, who was not willing to play by our rules. Once again if they do not want to play by those rules, then quite frankly go and find a couple who will let them play by theirs.....A bit of a wait me thinks.
I posted earlier in the thread asking what the thoughts were if a couple were meeting a single girl and whether that would be different but no-one has answered...
Quote by Dirtygirlie
I posted earlier in the thread asking what the thoughts were if a couple were meeting a single girl and whether that would be different but no-one has answered...

I think if you look over my replies...I have? dunno
But to clarify for us, as single fems are rarer than well gold moon dust and being the Gentleman that I am.....IF we ever did meet a single female who was bi I would not only pay the full ammount but....I would have her picked up in a limo too. lol She would be wined and dined and shagged silly by both of us. :lol:
Double standards? You bet. :lol:
Quote by kentswingers777
firstly this isnt a new topic, it's been posted before,but with time suppose opinions change.
blimey at this moment in time, what with all the "no shows & crap shags" was thinking of paying all the bill if a stud satisfied, a serious note though was wondering all these couples who don't agree with kent777, do they not feel there pimping (there words not mine) there wifes when they attend a swingers club and pay usually less than half a single guys entry fee? or these singles who also dissagree with kent why do you attend knowing full well your paying lots more than couples?? (double standards)??

Yes cockslut this HAS been done before, as most topics have.
What really annoys me about this topic, is it is the single guys who moan the most.
Whatever they may or may not say, unless you look like George Clooney, and have a body to die for, and last for hours, MOST guys will find it hard to find a couple on a regular basis.
Most guys that we have met find meeting couples, genuine ones anyway, very difficult.
Couples find it much more easier to " pick and choose " so to speak, than single guys do, unless you have the said attributes above.....and most do not. lol
So IF we ever decided to meet a guy in a hotel and he was NOT prepared to pay half, then quite frankly he can fuckoff, as there are plenty of guys that will. I wonder how many meets the guys who moan about paying half with a couple have actually had? dunno In my book nowhere near as many as they would have liked.
As I have said before, we have never met a guy yet, who was not willing to play by our rules. Once again if they do not want to play by those rules, then quite frankly go and find a couple who will let them play by theirs.....A bit of a wait me thinks.
You know what Kenty, I find it so hard to meet a genuine guy on here, for regular meets.
I have just wasted 6 weeeks of typing(and phone calls) to and frow with a gentleman on this site, we found each other in the chat rooms.
Mike was actually getting sick of the time I was spending on him, but I thought he may be worth it, but in the end, the day before we all were due to meet, he pulled the plug by e-mail, has now removed his profile off the site(or changed name!)
Another wannabe????
Tell us your secret, before I give up on all this lark................again!!! smile confused :)
Quote by kentswingers777
I posted earlier in the thread asking what the thoughts were if a couple were meeting a single girl and whether that would be different but no-one has answered...

I think if you look over my replies...I have? dunno
But to clarify for us, as single fems are rarer than well gold moon dust and being the Gentleman that I am.....IF we ever did meet a single female who was bi I would not only pay the full ammount but....I would have her picked up in a limo too. lol She would be wined and dined and shagged silly by both of us. :lol:
Double standards? You bet. :lol:
Yup... thank you for that... I must have missed your earlier reply. redface
I understand the double standards but I don't really think I agree on the gold moon dust thing (although it is a better description than the holy grail one!) I don't think single bi females are all that rare, I think there are lots of us around. I do however think that it's maybe not so easy to meet one that slots into what a couple is looking for. I also suspect that single bi females are the ones who get to pick and choose and really hold all the cards because in terms of the "supply and demand" - not my choice of words - it would appear that the demand is greater than the supply according to the stuff I've read on the forums with comments like the gold moon dust. I don't really know why that appears to be the case but personally, being referred to as "rarer than hens teeth" or "the holy grail" or any other such term does absolutely nothing for my mojo and would, in fact, cloud my view on playing with a couple in the first place. I'd rather not be seen as some sort of prize. For me it's not attractive.
No offense to the single blokies, but I do think women are much more fussy (and not just me) and because they are in such a good position can afford to pick and choose to their hearts content. I dare say that's life. :lol:
I've stay well clear of this one on purpose. There is no doubt its a very emotive subject and there is not going to be one single answer that satisfies all posters.
However I think I may have found a solution......
Why don't those involved just.............
toss for it :wanker: :wanker: :silly:
Quote by Lucyandmike7
firstly this isnt a new topic, it's been posted before,but with time suppose opinions change.
blimey at this moment in time, what with all the "no shows & crap shags" was thinking of paying all the bill if a stud satisfied, a serious note though was wondering all these couples who don't agree with kent777, do they not feel there pimping (there words not mine) there wifes when they attend a swingers club and pay usually less than half a single guys entry fee? or these singles who also dissagree with kent why do you attend knowing full well your paying lots more than couples?? (double standards)??

Yes cockslut this HAS been done before, as most topics have.
What really annoys me about this topic, is it is the single guys who moan the most.
Whatever they may or may not say, unless you look like George Clooney, and have a body to die for, and last for hours, MOST guys will find it hard to find a couple on a regular basis.
Most guys that we have met find meeting couples, genuine ones anyway, very difficult.
Couples find it much more easier to " pick and choose " so to speak, than single guys do, unless you have the said attributes above.....and most do not. lol
So IF we ever decided to meet a guy in a hotel and he was NOT prepared to pay half, then quite frankly he can fuckoff, as there are plenty of guys that will. I wonder how many meets the guys who moan about paying half with a couple have actually had? dunno In my book nowhere near as many as they would have liked.
As I have said before, we have never met a guy yet, who was not willing to play by our rules. Once again if they do not want to play by those rules, then quite frankly go and find a couple who will let them play by theirs.....A bit of a wait me thinks.
You know what Kenty, I find it so hard to meet a genuine guy on here, for regular meets.
I have just wasted 6 weeeks of typing(and phone calls) to and frow with a gentleman on this site, we found each other in the chat rooms.
Mike was actually getting sick of the time I was spending on him, but I thought he may be worth it, but in the end, the day before we all were due to meet, he pulled the plug by e-mail, has now removed his profile off the site(or changed name!)
Another wannabe????
Tell us your secret, before I give up on all this lark................again!!! smile confused :)
Not telling our secrets. :lol: :lol:
Seriously though, we have had our share of " timewasters " and " married " guys...too many to mention but....We have been swinging now for about 4 years and in all that time we have met maybe three guys that we have met a few times more than once.
There are loads out there but Mrs777 is very fussy as she can afford to be, and once you get rid of the timewasters and the " knob heads " there is not really a huge ammount left. Sad but true we feel.
Keep trying because when you DO find a decent guy, it will be worth it...it was for us. Couples bring about other problems which I may go into on another thread, for another day. :lol:
Quote by Dirtygirlie
I posted earlier in the thread asking what the thoughts were if a couple were meeting a single girl and whether that would be different but no-one has answered...

I think if you look over my replies...I have? dunno
But to clarify for us, as single fems are rarer than well gold moon dust and being the Gentleman that I am.....IF we ever did meet a single female who was bi I would not only pay the full ammount but....I would have her picked up in a limo too. lol She would be wined and dined and shagged silly by both of us. :lol:
Double standards? You bet. :lol:
Yup... thank you for that... I must have missed your earlier reply. redface
I understand the double standards but I don't really think I agree on the gold moon dust thing (although it is a better description than the holy grail one!) I don't think single bi females are all that rare, I think there are lots of us around. I do however think that it's maybe not so easy to meet one that slots into what a couple is looking for. I also suspect that single bi females are the ones who get to pick and choose and really hold all the cards because in terms of the "supply and demand" - not my choice of words - it would appear that the demand is greater than the supply according to the stuff I've read on the forums with comments like the gold moon dust. I don't really know why that appears to be the case but personally, being referred to as "rarer than hens teeth" or "the holy grail" or any other such term does absolutely nothing for my mojo and would, in fact, cloud my view on playing with a couple in the first place. I'd rather not be seen as some sort of prize. For me it's not attractive.
No offense to the single blokies, but I do think women are much more fussy (and not just me) and because they are in such a good position can afford to pick and choose to their hearts content. I dare say that's life. :lol:
Shame on you. :lol:
I think on a percentage, single fems are really in the minority...big time.
I do not know the figures on this site, but guessing I would say....60% guys, 35% couples and the ramaining 5% are single fems.
So on that basis finding a genuine bi female is hard enough, but finding one that lives localish and is bi, and likes us, and wants to play....well if one exists put her in touch with us........PLEASE. :lol:
Do you knowwho I am ?? rolleyes
I am going to extend my rider to so that I can have gold and flowers and champagne (to take home) and caviar (I can have vegetarian caviar too can't I ?) and diamonds... and a man that has a big cock and knows what to do with it. ( :roll: )
oh, oh, oh.. and and and... I don't know what else to ask for.... oh, I know, someone who doesn't treat either me, themselves or their partner like a piece of meat. Can I have that too? Please can I ? Oh gowan. :bounce:
Quote by splendid_
Do you know who I am ?? rolleyes
I am going to extend my rider to so that I can have gold and flowers and champagne (to take home) and caviar (I can have vegetarian caviar too can't I ?) and diamonds... and a man that has a big cock and knows what to do with it. ( :roll: )
oh, oh, oh.. and and and... I don't know what else to ask for.... oh, I know, someone who doesn't treat either me, themselves or their partner like a piece of meat. Can I have that too? Please can I ? Oh gowan. :bounce:

Yes :twisted:
You know what Kenty, I find it so hard to meet a genuine guy on here, for regular meets.
I have just wasted 6 weeeks of typing(and phone calls) to and frow with a gentleman on this site, we found each other in the chat rooms.
Mike was actually getting sick of the time I was spending on him, but I thought he may be worth it, but in the end, the day before we all were due to meet, he pulled the plug by e-mail, has now removed his profile off the site(or changed name!)
Another wannabe????
Tell us your secret, before I give up on all this lark................again!!! smile confused :)
Not telling our secrets. lol :lol:
Seriously though, we have had our share of " timewasters " and " married " guys...too many to mention but....We have been swinging now for about 4 years and in all that time we have met maybe three guys that we have met a few times more than once.
There are loads out there but Mrs777 is very fussy as she can afford to be, and once you get rid of the timewasters and the " knob heads " there is not really a huge ammount left. Sad but true we feel.
Keep trying because when you DO find a decent guy, it will be worth it...it was for us. Couples bring about other problems which I may go into on another thread, for another day. :lol:
Lucy is so fussy too, thats the problem really!
Mike
HELP PLEASE?!
Mike tried to snipe a bit of a post then, so all the threads didnt come up. Went wrong.....how do you do it please someone.
Many thanks,
Lucy.
It's simple. Peanut told me but I still have trouble....good luck though.
All you have to do is put....
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...where you want your text to be, then just fill in your text between the two tags, e.g....
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Insert witty riposte here
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HELP PLEASE?!
Mike tried to snipe a bit of a post then, so all the threads didnt come up. Went wrong.....how do you do it please someone.
Many thanks,
Lucy.

You just need to and without the space, around the text you wish to quote! If you want to put who you quote then (without the space) will put "Whoever wrote" at the top of the text box.
eg
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looks like this
Quote by calista
hello

to do multiple quotes in one post you just repeat that process however many times you want smile And you don't have to use the persons name ...
Quote by Some random person who should be ironing but is skiving
hello
Quote by Lucyandmike7
HELP PLEASE?!
Mike tried to snipe a bit of a post then, so all the threads didnt come up. Went wrong.....how do you do it please someone.
Many thanks,
Lucy.

Play around in Edit (try what Cali and Kenty suggested) then preview your post till you have it right....:smile:
Quote by kentswingers777
Yes " that " comment fucking really pissed me off, and I do not swear on here that much.
Still words cannot express what I now feel for the guy, but I think he now knows that anyway. I wonder what I would have done had that have been said to my face? I think people who really know me, would know for sure.

"That" comment was not said with an intention of winding you up, if you read what I said again, I said:
Quote by essex34m
You say , as a couple, you hold the cards, and yes, to a certain degree, that is true, but you are almost coming across as a pimp.

And "the guy" apologises for how you have taken it, again, that was not my intention, I do not apologise for the comment, as it was my feeling at the time, it was purely said in a "is what you said steering the conversation down that road" rather than specifically making that accusation towards you.
As for what you would do if that comment was said to your face, I would have no problem in letting you find out.
As for your comment of:
Quote by kentswingers777
You really think that means anything to me?? You don't know me and I certainly dont want to know you. At times is it any wonder single guys get such a bad press on here.

That is just your opinion driven by ignorance.
Thankfully, and yes, this is blowing my own trumpet, but I can walk into a number of munches and socials, and be warmly greeted by couples, single males and single females.
You say you dont want to know me, I don't have a problem with that, you say I don't know you, thats not something I am concerned about, but thankfully, there are people in this scene who do know me, and want to know me, and when you can match them for intelligence and integrity, and do more than preach second hand wisdom from an ex radio presenter, then you will have an opinion I would look forward to listening to.
Quote by essex34m

Yes " that " comment fucking really pissed me off, and I do not swear on here that much.
Still words cannot express what I now feel for the guy, but I think he now knows that anyway. I wonder what I would have done had that have been said to my face? I think people who really know me, would know for sure.

"That" comment was not said with an intention of winding you up, if you read what I said again, I said:
Quote by essex34m
You say , as a couple, you hold the cards, and yes, to a certain degree, that is true, but you are almost coming across as a pimp.

And "the guy" apologises for how you have taken it, again, that was not my intention, I do not apologise for the comment, as it was my feeling at the time, it was purely said in a "is what you said steering the conversation down that road" rather than specifically making that accusation towards you.
As for what you would do if that comment was said to your face, I would have no problem in letting you find out.
As for your comment of:
Quote by kentswingers777
You really think that means anything to me?? You don't know me and I certainly dont want to know you. At times is it any wonder single guys get such a bad press on here.

That is just your opinion driven by ignorance.
Thankfully, and yes, this is blowing my own trumpet, but I can walk into a number of munches and socials, and be warmly greeted by couples, single males and single females.
You say you dont want to know me, I don't have a problem with that, you say I don't know you, thats not something I am concerned about, but thankfully, there are people in this scene who do know me, and want to know me, and when you can match them for intelligence and integrity, and do more than preach second hand wisdom from an ex radio presenter, then you will have an opinion I would look forward to listening to.
From somebody who does not know me, arn't you jumping the gun somewhat with your childish comments?
I had four people contact me about YOUR pimp comment, and they are obviously as stupid as me, as they took exception to it as well. As did Flower. Maybe we are all lacking intelligence and integrity apart from you?
As Flower said " inflamatory ". I stand by my previous remarks 100%!!
Quote by Dave__Notts
I mentioned 33% and 50% earlier on.
This is because if we use a hotel room with 2 couples and the room costs £40 then it is £20 per couple or £10 per person. Now if we played with a single person the cost would be split between 3 so that would be £13:33 each or £26:66 for the couple. So it would cost the couple more to play with a single than with a couple in theory.
Is this right.......or should the couple be classed as one and the single be classed as one, hence splitting the bill 50/50.
Dave_Notts
I am starting to question my own opinion on this now lol

I've entered the discussion late and haven't read every post in detail so apologies if I repeat anything that's already been said.
I think if it's a couple plus a single then the single should pay half. My only reason for saying that is because it's simple. Otherwise you get into the vulgar haggling that happens when you're out with a crowd and someone gets the calculator out. I'm going out to have fun, not a negotiation so for me straight down the middle is quick and easy but I would add the following caveat: Don't book a thousand pound a night room at the Ritz without telling your friends and then expect them to pay a full share. And anyone who's not prepared to pay their way be they single or couple should simply be ignored thereafter and put down to experience.