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I came here in the beginning because Hubby and I discussed about letting a couple of other men into our lives. I wanted to find a couple of guys that totally understood why we wanted to do this and would respect us both in our decision to play.
We didn’t want to attend a club as I knew I wouldn’t feel comfortable. I knew I would prefer the private meets.
So we searched the web and found this site.
Luck for us we have now found after a lot of searching what we set out to find.
Plus we have made friends along the way!
Why did you join the site?
Have you got out of it what you set out to find?
I joined for the coffee mornings and luncheon vouchers
someone sent us a link and asked us had we ever considred it, after i posted some pix of myslef on the net on anothersite.
we joined for a nosy....got hooked and stayed........kinda draws u in and wont let go this place......came for a laugh and stayed for the forums lol :lol:
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many friends in this cafe now....i would pay the money just to chat on the forums
to all my forum mates......luffs yaz all soooooooooooooooooo much !!! :inlove: :inlove:
I knew of the site and my then girlfriend wanted to try her hand at swinging. It never really worked out from her PoV so there was an interregnum until I got my shit together and started to want to meet friends who liked the same sort of things I did, from a sexual standpoint.
My priority is friends, but if I get to have some action along the way (group or singles) then all the better.
For me, originally is was about exploring sexually! But, I wasn't expecting to have so much fun on the forums. Thanks to everyone for making me feel so welcome!
xxx
awwww bless mr leghorn....ys SO welcome....and thanks for my anonymous valentines hunny wink lol :lol:
I just found myself as a single guy after 18 yrs and came looking for a quick shag.
What I found was something totally different, and far more enjoyable. I found some new friends and a place where i can chat about stuff without feeling guilty.
hmm still looking for the quick shag though rotflmao
I first found the sight after watching a prog on tv and deciding i wanted to explore my bi side. I was only here a day and met a few nice peeps. It was only 1 chatroom when i started out so its all changed now. I wouldn't look back.
I joined because I heard there was a South Wales knitting club every 3rd Saturday.
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I joined because I heard there was a South Wales knitting club every 3rd Saturday.

But it turned out to be every 2nd Tues lol
I thought it was a Singing Site !!!!!!!!!
Echoes
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I thought it was a Singing Site !!!!!!!!!
Echoes

you hum it I'll play it! lol
i joined here for some nsa sex and i got that very soon biggrin
had lots of fun and generally had a great time
gave me confidence, taught me lots and opened my eyes to a very different (and wonderful) world
but also had some hassle sadly :cry:
but best of all i met gary who has changed my life completly and now its wonderful and i cant thank SH enough
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I joined for the coffee mornings and luncheon vouchers

rotflmao
I joined because I wanted to see how many two faced people there were in the North East lol
Seriously though, we've found what we came for, 3sums, 4sums and moresums (soon wink ) and made some genuine pals along the way.
I had been celebate for 3 years (through choice), my body and brain were continually thinking about sex. I had tried looking for a boyfriend and kept finding players who would meet, shag and disappear into the etha leaving me even more sex hungry.
A friend accidently let the cat out of the bag that she was a swinger. Told me she went to Chams and said I could go with her and her buddy the next time if I liked.
I came on to the net that evening and stumbled across swinging heaven. That must be getting on for 5 years ago now. I never used the forums until recently though and have taken time out. I think I lost my original profile as well :shock:
I have learned a huge amount about myself, boundaries and sexually since coming here and the best part is making friends along the way, not being accused of looking for a father for my son and not being accused of looking for a meal ticket. A lot of the pressure is taken out by the nature of swinging, which means you can be yourself and just enjoy the moment.
After some years of monogamy and a not-good-enough sex life, I joined and used the photo ads for hot and cold running sex on tap with men who didn't matter.
I found all of that, plus people who do matter to me very much indeed.
I didn't really want to join the site.
My ex partner found it on a search engine after a couple of years of badgering me to try and get into the swinging scene.
Needless to say that I wasn't to impressed to find out that he had created a couples profile and had set about finding THE first meet.
Anyhow things happened and we split up.
I forgot all about it....
Until 2 years ago that is when I received a mail into my "normal" email account to say that I had a mail on here.
So I logged in, after having to fish out my password from the deep dark depths of my brain.
It took me a couple of days to have a look around properly, finding the forum and the chatroom. I found out that I actually quite liked the site.
I changed my account from a couple profile to a single one and I guess the rest is history.
I decided to stay because it was something that I could take at my own pace and that there wasn't anyone around anymore to try and make me do things that I didn't want to do.
The decision to keep my account was the best one that I ever made, I've made many friends on here, had some wonderful meets and met some lovely people from my regular room.
So I guess it wasn't the conventional way of finding SH, but needless to say I'm glad I chose to stick around...
We joined after the old MSN chatrooms closed. Can't remember how we found this place - think it might have been a friend who told us about it. We came looking for threesomes and moresomes. Found them and a lot of friends as well.
I came on here looking for a shag with men's wives, when I split up with my ex and wanted sex but no 'ties'. That worked a treat. :thumbup:
Somehow I ventured 'into' men too :shock: and realised that the cock is actually quite useful and men are sometimes sexy. (Unlike women who are always sexy :lickfacesmile
Met wor lass (not on here) and am still here, although have become incredibly hard to please and annoying. Wor lass loves the life and so do I.
i used to use the user rooms, devon and cornwall.
met bencornwall in there and he said have i ever been here.
he gave me the link and i followed it with interest.
thats how i found this place, the reason i followed the link was that i love people and love sex.
i love mmf 3 sums and although ive only had 2 or 3 from here ive stil had a lot of fun while being here and made some good friends.
that was almost 5 years ago, the site was very new and i didnt use chat back then, cuse as easy as everyone told me it was to get in i never could lol
ive always been what you could call a swinger, its not something im doing its something i am.
xxxx fem xxxx
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After some years of monogamy and a not-good-enough sex life, I joined and used the photo ads for hot and cold running sex on tap with men who didn't matter.
I found all of that, plus people who do matter to me very much indeed.

Loveliest LovelyOne, that really resonates with me.
I joined for different reasons but pretty much seeking exactly the same as you. Luckily, like you, I also met some folk who matter a lot!
I have stayed because this site allows me to explore things and learn about myself and what I like sexually and, to an extent, who I am sexually. I'm still figuring that out but thoroughly enjoying it... oh and the "hot and cold running sex on tap with men that don't matter" (which is now going to be one of my favourite quotes!) is still great fun too!
Nola x
We'd spoken about T's love of an audience and I'm mentioned what (microscopically) little I knew about dogging and clubs and she loved the idea.
One quick google search later and here we are.
Wierdest thing is though finding one of my freinds also has a profile on here and seems to have joined not long after we did.
i actually went to a sex convention, and there was a booth for swingers/swinging. i rememered the name swingingheaven and logged on when i got home.
i had just come out of a serious relationship and thought this would be the perfect place to have some no strings fun with girls who didnt want a relationship.
that was a few years ago...i tried my luck with several ads and got nowhere so gave up...a few months ago i was bored so logged back in...still not getting much luck though lol
I came on as my 'then boyfriend' mentioned this site in passing conversation one night, I logged in the next day and searched for his username that he uses on all sites...low and behold it had his and his so-called "ex's" pics on (who he was in business with so worked with everyday) and it was a couples profile with recent ad's etc....we'd been together about 4 months!! :shock: He couldnt even deny it was an old profile as it had that he's logged in 30 mins before rolleyes
I finished with him, then joined up hoping it would piss him off. Found I actually liked the site much better than conventional dating sites I was on...least on here I can be honest that I dont have time to give to a full on relationship lol
Oh and he's still on here and will prob read this...you know who you are mista wink
I was fed up with being too 'good'! I have always had thougts about swinging, but never had partners willing to explore with me. Now divorced and happily single, I am able to explore the scene. I never thought that the forums would be so interesting and so humorous. I enjoy reading the 'regulars' postings which show there is also friendship between people on the site!
Reasons why I joined Swinging Heaven…….
It all begins when I was around 15 years old when doing my very first job: assisting a Milkman delivering Milk.
So that would be in 1993.
In the part of Liverpool where I would work had or still does have a large amount of
Old People’s Homes & Sheltered Accommodation.
Delivering the Milk & other supplies (Bread, Orange Juice even Newspapers) meant we had to enter the Homes that had residents whom lived within their own self-contained Flats.
I became friendly with one resident whom had fought in Libya & Southern Italy during World War 2. He told me that his one regret was that he didn’t fulfil all his Sexual Fantasies as the time he was younger was stricter.
I was surprised to find that all the time people had the same feelings towards Sex,
I always equated Sexual Liberation from 1966 onwards.
The other thing that got me was that his regret was not going around the world, making more money or going to attend a sporting event but craving SEX.
He told me that due to his Wife dying 7 years previously & his Children living in other parts of the United Kingdom all he had was his thoughts. Therefore he was filled with regret because he didn’t get his leg-over enough.
So I was going to make sure I didn’t feel the same way as him in the distance future being a grand old age.
Other reason:
Am just a very Sexual Passionate Person & have unfortunately pre – Swinging Heaven ‘birth’ had very boring relationships. I might as well got more excitement from engaging in Sexual Intercourse with an Ironing Board.
Hence my decision to join the community that’s SH & what a community this is.
I find it not only a place to explore my Sexuality but a place to express my views on various subjects.
So this is my reasons for joining this site.
From,
Wunderhorse.
I was a member of a parenting site and it was being debated (quite viciously) on there. A couple of us pro-swinging made a group up and it went from there.
We all took a swinging website to review and mine was SH.
Morbius followed me shortly after and the yahoogroup disbanded when the owner left the country.
I first joined nearly 4 years ago and stayed about 2 years then lost my internet connection. I got it back recently and straight away came back to this site. My old name and pass word seemed to be defunct, so rejoined. Wouldn't miss it for anything.
I love reading the forums. Such diverse opinions. Some hilarious and some threads get heated. I'm in no hurry to jump into bed with anyone. Making friends is more important to me at the moment. Then the sex (if it happens) will be all the more enjoyable.
To annoy Splendid. :smug:
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To annoy Splendid. :smug:
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