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Quote by winchwench
Sod off- they're mine! :spar:
Seriously, well said GP :thumbup:

You can bugger off too - I saw them first - and age before beauty medear :smug: Or we could share them :twisted:
And yes, great post, GP biggrin
Quote by Freckledbird

Sod off- they're mine! :sparring:
Seriously, well said GP :thumbup:

You can bugger off too - I saw them first - and age before beauty medear :smug: Or we could share them :twisted:
And yes, great post, GP biggrin
>>>>>Considers which tactic to choose
1. Going all martial arty and scaring off the competition
2. Sharing
Hmmmmm, well we're always told how it's good to share, and I am a good girl after all :angel:
(on one condition- I get to lock lips with Angelina first :rascalsmile
And what do you mean, age before beauty you soppy sod! kiss
ooh, now let me see.. what made me *turn*?
1) I realised I wasn't a real man...
2) I thought it'd get my strike rate up...
3) I was too shy to come out as a queer properly...
Good lord! rolleyes
As has been better expressed by other posters, it's something latent that's there to be explored... it's fun... it's not shameful...
Additionally, how much *more* sexy is a threesome when three people are actively involved in the nibbling, giggling, writhing, slippery tangle of limbs and pink-bits! cool
Based only on my own experiences, it's hugely liberating to let-go of all the preconceptions of straight/gay/bi and just have a nice time doing whatever feels right, and those sessions of three or more just floooow more when there's less of a "tag team sex" mentality.
That's my tuppence worth, and I guess it's only an opinion... but so far it's gone OK and has led to some laidback and stress-free encounters (and some damned horny ones at that).
Now, back to perving peoples profiles! :twisted:
Quote by winchwench
For me it was... blah blah blah... I have the hots for Johnny Depp as well as Angelina Jolie, so to speak. It's just a part of who I am, same as if I was still identifying as gay.
I do admit to referring to myself as 'queer', but that's another topic, I think.

Sod off- they're mine! :spar:
Seriously, well said GP :thumbup:
I mentioned them first on this thread, therefore they are mine...
Quote by gothicpunk
It's just a part of who I am,

Sorry to hack your post up Gothic....but it's the above that says it all for me.
Can people turn bi? Are you not born with your sexuality already inbedded and maybe it takes a while for the curiosity to come out and then you enjoy?
I once read somewhere that everyone is bi but some choose to follow their instincts some don't. dunno
Either way I cannot see how you can just suddenly turn bi, the incling must have been there for while.
Quote by winchwench
And what do you mean, age before beauty you soppy sod! kiss

I mean, I'm older and you're prettier!
Mar - I don't think people can 'turn' bi either.
Quote by Alpha-Male
Why is it that some normal hetro men suddenly decide that they want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??

They do? Ooerr....
Each to there own... each to there own..
Quote by Eyorksmg
ooh, now let me see.. what made me *turn*?
1) I realised I wasn't a real man...
2) I thought it'd get my strike rate up...
3) I was too shy to come out as a queer properly...
Good lord! rolleyes
As has been better expressed by other posters, it's something latent that's there to be explored... it's fun... it's not shameful...
Additionally, how much *more* sexy is a threesome when three people are actively involved in the nibbling, giggling, writhing, slippery tangle of limbs and pink-bits! cool
Based only on my own experiences, it's hugely liberating to let-go of all the preconceptions of straight/gay/bi and just have a nice time doing whatever feels right, and those sessions of three or more just floooow more when there's less of a "tag team sex" mentality.
That's my tuppence worth, and I guess it's only an opinion... but so far it's gone OK and has led to some laidback and stress-free encounters (and some damned horny ones at that).
Now, back to perving peoples profiles! :twisted:

worship :worship: :worship:
i sooooo wish i'd written that! lol not a lot you could add to that? ;)
neil x x x ;)
It's a blummin epidemic, I tell ya!
Colour-coordinated scatter cushions? Sunday shopping in Ikea? You've caught gay! Next thing you know it'll be white pants and bum pics. :shock:
whats wrong with Ikea?... though I'm working on Sunday...
lp
Quote by neilinleeds
what a load of old tosh! rolleyes never did i expect to see such ill informed complete bollox on a swinging site? confused however, since it's a serious question about a complex topic, i'll do my best to give a straight answer.
once upon a time, it was generally felt that male bi-sexuality was caused when smallboys were forced to play with their little sisters barbie dolls, when all they really wanted was an action man with eagle-eye action and those grippy bendy hands, preferably in a tank, or a hanglider, or some other piece of macho machinery that barbie wouldn't be seen dead in, even if it was all pink and sparklified . while i can understand the thinking behind that one, i don't give it all that much credence, and these days such glib explanations are out of favour.
nowadays, it is generally accepted that male bi-sexuality is almost exclusively the consequence of a public school education; more specifically, the kind of public school that makes you play rugger even though you are patently rubbish at it. all that a-scrummaging and a-rummaging, faces pressed against eachothers arses, hands up between eachothers legs, full body contact between hot, sweaty lads before they all pile naked into a one ginormous bath together is only ever gonna have one outcome, isn't it? it may take years, but it will come out eventually.
the reason they do this is so that the higher echelons of the Civil Service can maintain their traditional quota of camp, foppish, slightly limp-wristed types, in the mode of Quentin Crisp for example.
hope this helps? :?
neil x x x ;)

And I like rugby..... cool if only I knew :shock:
Erm, reading back through this Im becoming perturbed that I hadn't realised just how many of the SH guys were Bi. :shock:
Not perturbed that they are, you understand, just perturbed I hadn't noticed!
:rascal:
Oh and FB- thats what I meant, you're gorgeous silly!
And GP- I will turn scary if I need to! MINE! :giggle:
Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.
I was chatting about this to a very nice lady. Truth we spent weeks talking about it. We came up with two reasons that straight guys go bi. Here's the first. The man is looking for new adventures.
He starts by chasing his first girl friend. Then he tries different positions. Then different places. Later he thinks what about asking Jack to join us. Then what would it be like to do Jack. When he started chasing his first girlfriend he never considered men, but each time he fulfilled his desire he looked for another.
Of course another man may have went to a swinging club, or considered asking his wife to go to bed with another woman. Equally they would not have started that way. We all develop, we all look for new things.
How many of us knew who we would become 20 years ago?
I will tell you the other later.
Quote by laterunner
Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.

You've been advised on this matter previously, weren't you "forced" into being bi??? I remember your posts now.
Nobody is forced into being bi, by virtue of a breakdown in marital sex or not.
Quote by laterunner
Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.

Kinda makes you wonder why she withdraws from physical contact whith an attitude like that doesnt it rolleyes
Quote by jaymar
Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.

You've been advised on this matter previously, weren't you "forced" into being bi??? I remember your posts now.
Nobody is forced into being bi, by virtue of a breakdown in marital sex or brings me to the second rout to being bi.
Roger say to Eve "Will you go to bed with me?"
Eve "If my husband Adam can be there and look at us"
So Roger agrees, but Adam is in bed with them. While Roger and Eve are entwined Roger feels a hand on him. Eve Or Adam? Does it matter? Roger has no desire to touch Adam, but to get to Eve, whats a hand.
Then the hand becomes more. Roger starts to react, but Eve say then you can have me again. So Adam gives Roger head and then so does Eve.
The point is Roger does not desire Adam, but to get to Eve he excepts Adam.
Yes the above is simple, but we are all willing to do some things not because we wish to but because it will get us what we want.
Bi by trade if you like.
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Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.

You've been advised on this matter previously, weren't you "forced" into being bi??? I remember your posts now.
Nobody is forced into being bi, by virtue of a breakdown in marital sex or brings me to the second rout to being bi.
Roger say to Eve "Will you go to bed with me?"
Eve "If my husband Adam can be there and look at us"
So Roger agrees, but Adam is in bed with them. While Roger and Eve are entwined Roger feels a hand on him. Eve Or Adam? Does it matter? Roger has no desire to touch Adam, but to get to Eve, whats a hand.
Then the hand becomes more. Roger starts to react, but Eve say then you can have me again. So Adam gives Roger head and then so does Eve.
The point is Roger does not desire Adam, but to get to Eve he excepts Adam.
Yes the above is simple, but we are all willing to do some things not because we wish to but because it will get us what we want.
Bi by trade if you like.
I can see your theory , and I'm sure (sadly) that it happens.
However there is a woman in my life that I fancy LOADS and I know if I were to offer a 3some scenario with her and her other half I could be near her, feel her and kiss her at last.
But I don't fancy her other half at all. No way would I even let him watch, let alone anything else, so I could 'get to her'.
I'm sure she would be mortified at the thought of such a situation, just as I would if I were to play with a couple that I fancied only to discover that she was only going along with it for the sake of his fantasies.
In Edit: I forgot to say laterunner - regarding your 'brutal' comments. Maybe your wife shags the guy at work to get a 'decent' shag. rolleyes
Quote by Kiss
Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.

You've been advised on this matter previously, weren't you "forced" into being bi??? I remember your posts now.
Nobody is forced into being bi, by virtue of a breakdown in marital sex or brings me to the second rout to being bi.
Roger say to Eve "Will you go to bed with me?"
Eve "If my husband Adam can be there and look at us"
So Roger agrees, but Adam is in bed with them. While Roger and Eve are entwined Roger feels a hand on him. Eve Or Adam? Does it matter? Roger has no desire to touch Adam, but to get to Eve, whats a hand.
Then the hand becomes more. Roger starts to react, but Eve say then you can have me again. So Adam gives Roger head and then so does Eve.
The point is Roger does not desire Adam, but to get to Eve he excepts Adam.
Yes the above is simple, but we are all willing to do some things not because we wish to but because it will get us what we want.
Bi by trade if you like.
I can see your theory , and I'm sure (sadly) that it happens.
However there is a woman in my life that I fancy LOADS and I know if I were to offer a 3some scenario with her and her other half I could be near her, feel her and kiss her at last.
But I don't fancy her other half at all. No way would I even let him watch, let alone anything else, so I could 'get to her'.
I'm sure she would be mortified at the thought of such a situation, just as I would if I were to play with a couple that I fancied only to discover that she was only going along with it for the sake of his fantasies.
In Edit: I forgot to say laterunner - regarding your 'brutal' comments. Maybe your wife shags the guy at work to get a 'decent' shag. rolleyesI did say I had put it simply, for the clarity of the argument.
Quote by jaymar
Simple....wife withdraws unilaterally from intimate physical contact,...... and you don't have to take other guys out to to dinner, theatre etc. to get a decent wank/BJ. Brutal but true.

You've been advised on this matter previously, weren't you "forced" into being bi??? I remember your posts now.
Nobody is forced into being bi, by virtue of a breakdown in marital sex or not.
No, but by being 'forced' into being bi, he gets to save money, doesn't he wink No receipts for his wife to find or anything either - loads of advantages when you think about it!
Quote by Alpha-Male
Why is it that some normal hetro men suddenly decide that they want to suck and play with another man and have one on one sex ..is it boredom or something else ??

i would imagin for the same reason some women suddenly decide they wonna turn bi, maybe they bored too lol
OR it could be that they have though about it for a long time but never had the chance b4 maybe a change in their life means they can now try things they have always wanted to but couldnt b4
John is straight, but has no issues with being very close to men
like last saturday night I went down for a pee and came up to find the fem taken turns at mr cossie's cock and the fems hubby. they were just standing there and looking down at the action lol. but any more does not interest him or me.
To be truth full two men playing is a right turn off
I've just read this somewhere else, I was looking for parties. wink
Our parties are for straight men and straight and bisexual women. This formula is the standard swinging convention across the world and reflects the consensus of opinion among both male and female swingers of all countries. (On the continent it is widely believed that maybe 80% of women are potentially bisexual whereas at least 80% of men are not). Couples with men who break this convention will be asked to leave.

:shock: lol
Quote by Kiss
I've just read this somewhere else, I was looking for parties. wink
Our parties are for straight men and straight and bisexual women. This formula is the standard swinging convention across the world and reflects the consensus of opinion among both male and female swingers of all countries. (On the continent it is widely believed that maybe 80% of women are potentially bisexual whereas at least 80% of men are not). Couples with men who break this convention will be asked to leave.

:shock: lol
well it might be true of other countries, and might be true of parts of this country, but in the northwest of england, which as any fule kno is swinging central, i'd say anyone who came out with shite like that at the kind of parties i believe occasionally happen in that neck of the woods would be the ones getting asked to leave! :lol: ;)
aren't sweeping statements great? good site is it? PM me the link? got a few questions about why female bisexuality is so clearly endorsed with the 80% bit, where they got their stats from exactly, and how they square a mindset that clearly expresses the opinion that male-on-male sex is somehow repellent to the vast majority with an open and liberated attitude to sexuality in all it's myriad forms? :lol: sexist pigs! ;)
neil x x x ;)

Additionally, how much *more* sexy is a threesome when three people are actively involved in the nibbling, giggling, writhing, slippery tangle of limbs and pink-bits! cool
How suckingly, lickably, gulpingly true!
:thumbup:
Wot Amarcord sed!
I was quite straight when I was young but always had a strong sex drive. Sooner or later when you think about sex a lot you think of the variations and the curiosity about having a cock in my mouth grew stronger. I remember a long while ago I went to a gay club to check things out but the culture was alien to me and I found myself admiring the lesbians! I retain my strong preference for women; I just love cuddling and kissing them as well as preferring their bits but a cock can be interesting toy to play with.
Nothing 'made' me bi or turned me bi except the power of the mind and the innate sex drive.
I find it interesting when I check the main married bi room hoping to see if there are MF couples that if I'm lucky I can talk to, I see a lot of the men in those couples class themselves as straight.
Quote by neilinleeds
I've just read this somewhere else, I was looking for parties. wink
Our parties are for straight men and straight and bisexual women. This formula is the standard swinging convention across the world and reflects the consensus of opinion among both male and female swingers of all countries. (On the continent it is widely believed that maybe 80% of women are potentially bisexual whereas at least 80% of men are not). Couples with men who break this convention will be asked to leave.

:shock: lol
well it might be true of other countries, and might be true of parts of this country, but in the northwest of england, which as any fule kno is swinging central, i'd say anyone who came out with shite like that at the kind of parties i believe occasionally happen in that neck of the woods would be the ones getting asked to leave! :lol: ;)
aren't sweeping statements great? good site is it? PM me the link? got a few questions about why female bisexuality is so clearly endorsed with the 80% bit, where they got their stats from exactly, and how they square a mindset that clearly expresses the opinion that male-on-male sex is somehow repellent to the vast majority with an open and liberated attitude to sexuality in all it's myriad forms? :lol: sexist pigs! ;)
neil x x x ;)
:lol2:
I did think :shock: then :doh: then :wanker: then :lol2: when I read the original paragraph I posted.
PM on it's way. :wink: kiss
I heard a saying once - "Sometimes in life, we don't do things we want because we don't want people to know we want to do them". I always thought that was very profound, however if you go further into the psychology, invert it even, then a thrill can result for to feel something is "wrong" it becomes exciting?
This is my offering in the vein of the straight man who "turns" bi.... :confused2:
Quote by Daihappy
I heard a saying once - "Sometimes in life, we don't do things we want because we don't want people to know we want to do them". I always thought that was very profound, however if you go further into the psychology, invert it even, then a thrill can result for to feel something is "wrong" it becomes exciting?
This is my offering in the vein of the straight man who "turns" bi.... :confused2:

....and sometimes we do things we do not wish to because we do not want people to know we do not want to.