I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
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The simple fact is that people do lie.
Be very careful who you trust.
Be very careful who you trust.
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The reason why they would lie like that is to gain some sort of illicit verification.
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On another site seldom used by us there were on several occasions mails to us asking about meeting. Fair enough no problems although they did go on to say could we, even though we'd not met, please put them on our friends met list and say something nice about them. Upshot of mail? BINNED! Fabulous? I dont think so.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Have you really been away from the site for a few months? Your login has been used, and someone seems to have a very similar style?
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Have you rally been away from the site for a few months? Your login has been used, and someone seems to have a very similar style?
Whoever it was, did have a week off, from April 29th. to May 6th. though :giggle:
Quote by Freckledbird
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Have you rally been away from the site for a few months? Your login has been used, and someone seems to have a very similar style?
Whoever it was, did have a week off, from April 29th. to May 6th. though :giggle:
Cor you're quick today, I was just editing some spelling mistakes.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Have you rally been away from the site for a few months? Your login has been used, and someone seems to have a very similar style?
Whoever it was, did have a week off, from April 29th. to May 6th. though :giggle:
Cor you're quick today, I was just editing some spelling mistakes.
on the ball today 
Quote by Freckledbird
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Have you rally been away from the site for a few months? Your login has been used, and someone seems to have a very similar style?
Whoever it was, did have a week off, from April 29th. to May 6th. though :giggle:
Ha ha didnt know people missed me so much to keep checking!
Try looking mid march to late april
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Have you rally been away from the site for a few months? Your login has been used, and someone seems to have a very similar style?
Whoever it was, did have a week off, from April 29th. to May 6th. though :giggle:
Ha ha didnt know people missed me so much to keep checking!
Try looking mid march to late april
I don't. As Duncan said, someone's been posting with your login. You said you'd ventured into the chatroom the other day after a few months away. Mid March to late April is about six weeks, not a few months
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I said the chatrooms I never used them for around 3-4 months... my friends know I wasent there I don't need to justify it here.
Who said you had to justify it?
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site.
And, people lie because they can and they get away with it.
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Nobody!
People pick bones some more so than others. but funny as it always seems the same people that do.
But makes for a good read when two people are discussing a point. As have you noticed the views numbers go up. I wonder why?
Yep, and some people lie. Hey ho.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have ventured into the chatrooms the other day after taking a few months away from the site. There was a couple there that I have seen around just to say hi too. But then I was shocked that they whispered me to ask if I had met a certain person, as they had met him and he had told them that we had met him. I was not shocked by them asking, I was shocked that he had said we had met, it was someone I was aware of as we had spoken over a year ago, but we had never met him.
Why would people lie?
What can be gained by telling people you had met, when you never have?
This has made me wonder how many others out there that I have spoken to, that might know a bit about me and are now telling others we have met?
It does make you wonder how honest some people really are here.
For me descretion is paramount and false claims do not sit comfortable with me
Maybe the person just got you mixed up with someone else. Many members here have nicknames which are very similar to others.
I think there's the deliberate dishonest lie, which is designed to achieve a result. The kind that is used to hide corruption and such like.
Then really just about anything else is considered okay as people often can't see any difference between lieing and what's needed to make a good conversation. With some people passing on illogicalties, rumour, inventing gossip, and a whole host of ideas and inventions. All designed to make their day a bit more fun and interesting, and a test of other people's ability to do such as well.
Interestingly there's also a similar thread to the op thread running along these lines in the forum. Both seeming to be based around the traffic of incorrect verifications.
But in this case the people acted and then looked for confirmation after the event. So it looks as if the fellow was successful in hoodwinking the couple, but not necesarily lieing to them. The couple were either equally complicit; seeking reassurance after the act ; or simply dimwitted enough to be taken in by such a ruse.
Then really just about anything else is considered okay as people often can't see any difference between lieing and what's needed to make a good conversation. With some people passing on illogicalties, rumour, inventing gossip, and a whole host of ideas and inventions. All designed to make their day a bit more fun and interesting, and a test of other people's ability to do such as well.
Interestingly there's also a similar thread to the op thread running along these lines in the forum. Both seeming to be based around the traffic of incorrect verifications.
But in this case the people acted and then looked for confirmation after the event. So it looks as if the fellow was successful in hoodwinking the couple, but not necesarily lieing to them. The couple were either equally complicit; seeking reassurance after the act ; or simply dimwitted enough to be taken in by such a ruse.
Lies are fascinating aren't they.
People seem to be incredibly good at lying to themselves usually to justify something they feel powerless to change.
In terms of lying to other people I think myths like father christmas exist to help educate the young regarding the polite use of deceit. In essence - if it doesn't hurt you or others it is harmless and can even cause joy.
There is a world of difference between this daily deceit and that which may harm others or is intentionally designed to do so. Such behaviour is unacceptable. I would suggest the individual you cite was simply trying to gain social advantage by deceit. This happens all the time too, in the forums and chat rooms. The potential harm to you would have been immaterial to the protagonist since such folk rank their own needs and wishes as way more important than any hurt to others.
Chin up though Minx, most folk are fine. The difficulty with online communities is that we are exposed to personalities and behaviours that we would probably avoid in the real world. We have more material to work with and spotting arseholes is a lot easier.
People seem to be incredibly good at lying to themselves usually to justify something they feel powerless to change.
In terms of lying to other people I think myths like father christmas exist to help educate the young regarding the polite use of deceit. In essence - if it doesn't hurt you or others it is harmless and can even cause joy.
There is a world of difference between this daily deceit and that which may harm others or is intentionally designed to do so. Such behaviour is unacceptable. I would suggest the individual you cite was simply trying to gain social advantage by deceit. This happens all the time too, in the forums and chat rooms. The potential harm to you would have been immaterial to the protagonist since such folk rank their own needs and wishes as way more important than any hurt to others.
Chin up though Minx, most folk are fine. The difficulty with online communities is that we are exposed to personalities and behaviours that we would probably avoid in the real world. We have more material to work with and spotting arseholes is a lot easier.
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... and spotting arseholes is a lot easier.
I wondered who kept cutting the seat outta me trousers!
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