why do some men lie about there cock size and looks

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Mal

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience NBG - unfortunately the inconsiderate "few" spoil it for the genuine "many" single guys, of which I'm one.
xx

Ah, but does it? Everytime some dickhead pulls a stunt like that, it reinforces the point that the Forums and organised socials are the right place to meet the decent single guys. As the numpties don't post much and don't attend the socials, the ladies know that when they meet us, we're the genuine article! lol

Jobs a gud 'un!! :lol:
Mal
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Well said, that man !

4 Nov 2005

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Sorry to hear about your bad experience hon. There are always a couple out there determined to undermine the experience for us genuine people - I've had a couple myself.
I can never understand this - I am no model but what's the point of sending a fake photo(s) and cock size out? Surely no-one thinks that they can get away with it!!!!!!! (Hmmmn, can we meet in a dark place please!! Oh, and I feel small cos I've made you very wet/horny and you just can't feel me?!?!?!?!?!)). How stupid is that!! Even though I haven't really changed much over the last couple of years, I try to make sure any photos of me are no longer than a year old as it is only fair to the viewer. I did like Judy's suggestion of holding a newspaper up - I might start to include one of those in future replies so there are no misunderstandings.
As a separate point, has anybody noticed the same pics being used in loads of different ads? There is one in particular that keeps cropping up, of a (very nice!) bum peeping out from under a kilt-like mini-skirt - it must have been on 100's of ads in it's lifetime. I wonder who it belongs to really?
I know none of these idiots will bother to read anything in the forum (after all we have been here several times before), but common sense says you'll get found out. Or am I missing something?
Yet another single bloke trying to fight the prejudice these boneheads create.
Dave
:loon: :loon: :loon:

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
shouldn't need his email address now shes posted his user name on the site, surely a mod could have traced him thro that b4 it was edited?

The name she mentioned is registered, but he has never posted and lives the other end of the country from her, so it is likely he has registered under a different nick name, if he is registered at all!
I'm not as daft as I look, Ali!! lol

(did I say that right? :shock: )
Mal
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ok just making sure you doing you job right bolt

:haha:
As if I didn't have enough to do already!! Cheeky bugger! evil

:lol:
Mal
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4 Nov 2005

.its nice to know that you all have given support and i have learnt a valid lession,
thanks
kiss

4 Nov 2005

Quote by wirral_guy
Oh, and I feel small cos I've made you very wet/horny and you just can't feel me?!?!?!?!?!))

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Thank wirral_guy.
I'd never thought of that one.
I'll put that one in my book of excuses :lol2:
*Posted not as a fake, just a guy who can't answer the "Gimme 8"++++ and fat cock" type ads redface

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Colts23
I suppose we could try the reverse psychology :twisted:

what like the very old little green whore
did you know he aint green :shock: lol

4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV

The trouble with meeting them from the forums is the dick-heads keep turning up at all kinds of events and we have to look at them over and over again and spend our munch time / social time trying to stay out of dam's way. The others we can walk away from and usually never see them again.
Judy

I'm sorry, Judy surprised

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4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV

Sorry to hear you had a bad experience NBG - unfortunately the inconsiderate "few" spoil it for the genuine "many" single guys, of which I'm one.
xx

Ah, but does it? Everytime some dickhead pulls a stunt like that, it reinforces the point that the Forums and organised socials are the right place to meet the decent single guys. As the numpties don't post much and don't attend the socials, the ladies know that when they meet us, we're the genuine article! lol

Jobs a gud 'un!! :lol:
Mal
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Although I basically agree with your thinking here, this is only true up to a point mal. I have to admit to getting to know and even meeting socially some first class time served numpties from the forums too. The trouble with meeting them from the forums is the dick-heads keep turning up at all kinds of events and we have to look at them over and over again and spend our munch time / social time trying to stay out of their damn way. The others we can walk away from and usually never see them again. Works both ways you see. Please, don't anyone tell me there are none on the forums rolleyes

. The good side to it is at least we know who they are and they are inevitably discussed by us all at socials etc and word eventually gets around and identifies them. They cant hide the fact of what they look like they do however hide who and what they really are. The regulars often know who they are but these dick-heads tend to prey on relative newbies. However they learn...... unfortunately it is often in the long term.
Judy
have to say i agree with Judy to a point, i to have met a few numpties at muches etc, but does being a numpty make you not genuine? you can't get on with everyone and i'm sure many people like the numpites i don't :lol:

4 Nov 2005

Could be a genuine numpty!! rotflmao

4 Nov 2005

ive read this thread from start to finish and feel sorry for your experience nbg, however it occured to me when i read your profile that just as complete newbie guys are considered no goes for munches etc. perhaps a more cautionary approach would have been wise from your self , no offence intended (maybe a warning to single fems that join here wouldnt go amiss, suggestion to Mods), get to know how things work on here before diving in.
you have only been a member for a few days , and unless you validate potential meetings first with other members you may be heading for trouble.
I cant recall the joining procedure with the site but if a confirmation email is sent out then perhaps the warning could be included in that?
thoughts?
staggy
xx

4 Nov 2005

We've got this as well, Staggy
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/45014.html
how much more can we do? dunno

Mal

(Overworked and undersexed moderator :cry: ) :wink:

4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV

The trouble with meeting them from the forums is the dick-heads keep turning up at all kinds of events and we have to look at them over and over again and spend our munch time / social time trying to stay out of dam's way. The others we can walk away from and usually never see them again.
Judy

I'm sorry, Judy surprised

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:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
What ya like :P
Judy

Quote by Mal
Could be a genuine numpty!!

Oiii ! ! !
I thought we'd left that behind :oops:
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Now let's not hijack this one any more smackbottom

4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV
Could be a genuine numpty!!

Its the "Genuine Fake" numpties with hidden agendas that give me cause for concern, they also give me the creeps. The worst ones are long term regular fake numpties.
Judy
can't say i have had the pleasure of getting to know any of them yet :shock:

4 Nov 2005

thanks Mal , cant ask any more than that can we really , im guessing nbg hasnt read that first or if she did didnt act on it,, but then again ive been on here forever under a different name as you know and ive never read it either lol

4 Nov 2005

Quote by wild rose and the stag
thanks Mal , cant ask any more than that can we really , im guessing nbg hasnt read that first or if she did didnt act on it,, but then again ive been on here forever under a different name as you know and ive never read it either lol

Ah yes, but you booked a personal briefing from a Mod and didn't even pay my travel expenses!! :shock:
Mal
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4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV
Could be a genuine numpty!!

Its the "Genuine Fake" numpties with hidden agendas that give me cause for concern, they also give me the creeps. The worst ones are long term regular fake numpties.
Judy
Don't use no double negatives!! :doh: How can you have a genuine fake? - No. don't answer that!! :crazy:
Mal
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4 Nov 2005

we paid you in kind if i recall , the naming of a certain beast in your honour.....
and we took you to the most famous dogging site in the world , what more did you want ? Jam on it???

4 Nov 2005

Quote by wild rose and the stag
we paid you in kind if i recall , the naming of a certain beast in your honour.....
and we took you to the most famous dogging site in the world , what more did you want ? Jam on it???

Aah, Little Mal :smug: - bet he's not so little now!!
And no point taking me dogging when there's no dogging going on, that's like taking me to a pub that's shut! :rude:
Mal
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4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV
There is sometimes a inner warning bell than rings after a couple of emails or a few chats via mobile ( I have a separate phone for this) gut feelings should always be followed.

I've only had one bad experience - a gay guy that advertised as a woman, and hoped that I could be persuaded to switch orientation once we'd met up. A little on the optimistic side!
(He actually had quite a good figure, so I'm really not sure why he had to resort to that sort of tactic.)
But like Judy says, looking back I should have seen all the signs. There were a number of things that just didn't sound right...
So now I tend to work by the rule of "if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is."
Mark

4 Nov 2005

judy you are once again a fountain of knowledge my dear.........but you have managed to confuse my ignorant norther brain (doesnt take much) on a friday afternoon.
i shall go for a drink to try and cure the situation.

4 Nov 2005

sounds odd to me too, there are many sites for gay/bi men to meet full of men looking for each other, so i can't understand why a man would have to pose as a woman in order to meet another guy
plus is it me or does anyone else find the word figure a odd way to describe a mans body?

4 Nov 2005

Quote by Mal
...how much more can we do?

I've often wondered if pre-approval of ads might require less work for the mods - not putting the ads up until a mod has seen them?
Might work well for the 'women seeking men' section, which seems to suffer a particularly high percentage of fakes and blokes posting because they think that's the palce to go if you want a woman seeking a man.

4 Nov 2005

Quote by JudyTV
Mmmm very odd (no pun)
Well, this is most unusual, I have lived around gay and bisexual men and women all my life just like some others from here (Too many decades to mention in my particular case ) and I have never heard of a gay man advertising and trying to pass himself off as a woman ever.
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In truth most gay men rarely if ever dress as females.
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I think I may have mislead you - when I turned up he was dressed as a guy.
I got this long speech about how the girl I'd been swapping messages with would turn up later, if I showed how broad minded I was by sleeping with him first. But there were some of his speech patterns that were so reminiscent of things in the messages I received, that I was 100% confident it was the same person.
Maybe he had a fantasy about "converting" me? If so it wasn't the right way to go about it - I made my excuses and left.
Mark.
P.S. I remember him as a typical prat, not a typical gay guy. It's certainly an approach I've never come across before or since.

4 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
plus is it me or does anyone else find the word figure a odd way to describe a mans body?

It sounded odd to me when I wrote it! I'm just not very experienced at describing male bodies...
Just trying to get over the fact that I too hadn't got the foggiest why he should do such a thing. As you say I'm sure he would have had no problem finding suitable partners elsewhere, so why bother with me?
It was my most strange experience...

4 Nov 2005

In my experience, women lie about men's cock size too! Several time I've had women say "my god that's at least x inches, but never once have I heard a number that's been remotely realistic (and yes, I am a sad git who measured... all in the name of research, you understand!)
It's always nice to have your ego massaged, but I don't advise any man to believe the hype smile

4 Nov 2005

Quote by norfolkbigirl
:cry:
i met a guy from here last night after speaking to him a few times, he was very charming and seemed quite shy so like a woman on heat thought i would take a chance..
i asked for a pic of his face and cock,
he responded, wow made my eyes pop out :eeek: :inlove:
could this be a real stallion..
well we met last night at , i spend an hour and half getting myself ready and
what a bullshitter....he was not the guy on the pics sent through :x :x
i was so i just drove off after telling him what i thought...... why o why
i just wish that some people would be honest. :fuckinghell:
still i will not give up and hope that i will meet a good man or lady soon...

A common self-esteem problem. Completely self defeating, but when you're desperate.......
Dewi
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4 Nov 2005

Quote by Mister_Discreet
...how much more can we do?

I've often wondered if pre-approval of ads might require less work for the mods - not putting the ads up until a mod has seen them?
Might work well for the 'women seeking men' section, which seems to suffer a particularly high percentage of fakes and blokes posting because they think that's the palce to go if you want a woman seeking a man.
There are literally hundreds and hundreds of ads posted every day. We do this voluntary in our spare time and that would just be a step too far. Over 80% of the traffic for this Site is in the ads.
Believe me, we do have a life away from here! :crazy:
Mal
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4 Nov 2005

Understood, Mal.. I didn't know if the burden of checking would be less than the burden of multiple deletions.

4 Nov 2005

How would you check them anyway?................................
Email address ligit? .............. errrm yes we sent an auto reply with an activation code in it.
Picture Ligit? ............... who knows we ain't met them sad

apart from checking previously banned members what good would it do?
Far better that site members report anything they don't like, so the mods can look into it

4 Nov 2005

I was thinking more along the lines of a quick scan for the common problems in the 'women seeking men' - ie does this ad have
a) a penis on the pic
b) a URL wi*th*lots*of*sta*rs*in
c) a redirecting URL
c) THAT skirt pic AGAIN
d) any mention of '100 miles from Peterborough'
I think some of the scammers rely on the short time the ads are up before deletion to get their revenue, and would be more likely to give up if they didn;t get shown at all.
Maybe the mods could have a new button to put a category into pre-approval mode when there's a spamstorm?