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We've met the odd few decent guys off here but if i had a penny for every so called '100% genuine' bloke that never turned up for a meet; I'd have um... ! hahahaha just wondering if we can get them under the trades descriptions act. All good fun....NOT!!!!!
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just read your profile in context to what i have been reading in this thread
May I ask what type of person you are trying to attract to your advert?
I only ask because it would certainly scare me off,
I like to get a feel for a couple in the profile and/or the ad that they write...and I know that you have been let down before, but the ad could be construed as being rather agressive..
for example, yes you don't want bi or bi curious guys answering, that is your preference and no one is taking that away from you.... but did you really need to put in the next bit about being replused??
I hope you have another read of it from an impartial standpoint and see how it reads to an outsider
some people like one offs... good for them, some people like regular meets, but to associate that will having an affair? can I ask why you make that assumption? I am interested to hear how you make that leap...
I am one for regular meets, I like getting to know people.. for me that makes the meets better... but that is just me! I wouldn't have a go at other peoples views just because they differ from mine.....
there is no right or wrong way to swing.... just be aware that others may have more success because they may do things differently to you........
May I ask what type of person you are trying to attract to your advert?
I only ask because it would certainly scare me off,
I like to get a feel for a couple in the profile and/or the ad that they write...and I know that you have been let down before, but the ad could be construed as being rather agressive..
for example, yes you don't want bi or bi curious guys answering, that is your preference and no one is taking that away from you.... but did you really need to put in the next bit about being replused??
I hope you have another read of it from an impartial standpoint and see how it reads to an outsider
some people like one offs... good for them, some people like regular meets, but to associate that will having an affair? can I ask why you make that assumption? I am interested to hear how you make that leap...
I am one for regular meets, I like getting to know people.. for me that makes the meets better... but that is just me! I wouldn't have a go at other peoples views just because they differ from mine.....
there is no right or wrong way to swing.... just be aware that others may have more success because they may do things differently to you........
Quote by dippergt750
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
I have a question!
Do you attempt to vet these guys for previous "sick making" bi experiences when you contact them? If you approach it with the same tone as your profile, that could be a clue as to why you get so many rejections?
As for those remarks about bi men in your profile, I'd consider that "hateful" under the terms of the AUP and I'm far from easily offended!
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As for those remarks about bi men in your profile, I'd consider that "hateful" under the terms of the AUP and I'm far from easily offended!
oh i dunno dippy? if the thought of two guys, like, at it ((( *shudders* ))) made me physically sick ((( *barfs* ))) well, i'd make pretty damned sure everyone knew that, so that they're careful not to put the thought of two men, like, at it, ((( *retches* ))) in me head?
;)it's a touch blunt, but not hateful i don't think? not really a value judgement as such in there, just a strong statement of revulsion and nausea, no doubt at the projectile vomiting end of the scale, where male on male sex is concerned. just glad i'm not afflicted by the same condition, cos i'd never keep owt down. ;)
dipper, of course you will comes across fantasists on here. that's what swinging sites sell after all? the fantasy? it's to be expected that some will quite enjoy the fantasy, the flirting, the sexual frisson, and then bottle out when it comes to down to it, cos maybe they do think they're well up for it at the time, but it's only when reality hits that they realise it ain't quite as easy as they thought it was?
why do they bother? to pursue a fantasy, that may or not be achievable or desirable for any number of different reasons? why is it always single men? cos there's loads more single men on here, so they're over-represented in just about any category you care to come up with. why are there always so damned many of them? cos the site's high profile brings in a constant stream of new blood. people quite often join expecting the site to work a certain way, go at it hammer and tongs for a while in the ads section, cos it's the easiest section to spam with cock-shots and one-liners, and leave all cynical and jaded having got nowhere. lot's won't stick around long enough to really get to grips with the site, and it's funny little ways, so maybe you're sometimes just one among any number of bulk-mail, scattergun cut'n'paste jobs. which does have a tendency to lower the quality and reliability of those kinds of contacts.:?
ironically it's that very same high turnover that makes it so successful quite often for those who are looking for that kind of random, fuck and forget, anonymity, and manage, whether by luck or good judgement, to make that approach work for them. it goes with the territory, and it ain't about to change.
neil x x x ;)
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Umm.......playing with regular friends is more of an affair than swinging I would have thought.....Regulars don't count as anyone (including myself) has a list of previous playmates who would turn up.
To be clear, I am talking avbout men who advertise on this site for sex but who make excuses if offered a chance to play.....and there are loads of them.
I think idiots is hardly unfair, timewasters is pretty accurate. Rejects simply refers to the men invited who blow themselves out, it is not a label for them personally.
Try reponding to some of the single men who advertise on here virtually begging for a meeting.......if you offer twenty a definate meet I doubt more than two would accept! that does not relate simply to my experience on this site, but to lots of other women as well. I notice that you don't use the contact ads on the site, perhaps if you did, you would realise what I mean.
You are right in one respect, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, it's just that, based on real experience ON THIS SITE, I find I cannot agree with yours. Should you change how you use the site you may find your opinion changing.
Sorry hun, but I still find the tone of your writing very aggressive, and it would put me off.
Same here. If you are seriously wanting to find playmates I would re do your profile. Even if the thought of two men together turns your stomach I don't think there's any need to be so brutal about it.
A simple 'no bi/bi curious men' would still get the message across.
You are a young lady looking for men playmates, you will be inundated with allsorts all of the time, learn to filter that's my advice.
Quote by dippergt750
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
Hiya!
we meet guys, we use the contact ads, we only meet straight guys and sharon likes to play the slut sometimes.. just like you!
And yes occasionally some of the guys do say no!
Not everyone is for everyone and not everyone will fancy us! simple as that, nothing personal, we just move on
I must admit, we don't get turned down as often as you say you do but i am thinking that might be just your profile, when you send a response to an advert then they see your profile it might put them of a little.
fair enough you don't meet bi or curious but to say it makes you "physically sick" sounds to much like homophobia to me, and even that i find kind of odd as the female of you is bi. hmmmmm maybe a bi female makes some of the guys you are tying to meet "physically sick".
Even by putting that might put some straight guys of, i am a straight guy and if i was single i wouldn't meet you simply because of that sounds to harsh to the guys that are that way inclined.
I just think you need to review your profile text and how you come across to people, and no this isn't to pick on you as were a reg on the forum, its a genuine bit of advise.
Hope it might be of a little help at least.
Tony
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Wow - almost everyone in agreement.
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Quote by Freckledbird
And you got to the 'victim playing' far sooner than some. Why would anyone be banned for having an opinion that differs from the regulars, unless they have breached the AUP? Your initial post was hostile; did you really expect that everyone would agree with you?
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dippergt750 - You've clearly not listened to the responses to your thread. For whatever reason the consensus to your thread, and your posts, are that they are hostile and aggressive. This may be unintentional, however before you dismiss us all as timewasters perhaps you should look to your own behaviour? We can't all be wrong.
Please take a moment to think about it first before posting and accidentally offending more people.
This is meant as friendly advice.
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Umm.......playing with regular friends is more of an affair than swinging I would have thought.....Regulars don't count as anyone (including myself) has a list of previous playmates who would turn up.
To be clear, I am talking avbout men who advertise on this site for sex but who make excuses if offered a chance to play.....and there are loads of them.
I think idiots is hardly unfair, timewasters is pretty accurate. Rejects simply refers to the men invited who blow themselves out, it is not a label for them personally.
Try reponding to some of the single men who advertise on here virtually begging for a meeting.......if you offer twenty a definate meet I doubt more than two would accept! that does not relate simply to my experience on this site, but to lots of other women as well. I notice that you don't use the contact ads on the site, perhaps if you did, you would realise what I mean.
You are right in one respect, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, it's just that, based on real experience ON THIS SITE, I find I cannot agree with yours. Should you change how you use the site you may find your opinion changing.
Sorry hun, but I still find the tone of your writing very aggressive, and it would put me off.
maybe thats because out of them 20 you offer only two of them like you, im on a swinging site but does not mean i'll meet everyone who asks and i would have though same goes for men, many people on this site seem to assum single guys are desparate and will meet any woman or couple thats asks which isn't true they have the rights to turn offers down same as everyone else and also maybe there im busy excuses are their way of being polite because they dont want to hurt anyones feelings by saying your not my type.
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oh i dunno dippy? if the thought of two guys, like, at it ((( *shudders* ))) made me physically sick ((( *barfs* ))) well, i'd make pretty damned sure everyone knew that, so that they're careful not to put the thought of two men, like, at it, ((( *retches* ))) in me head?
it's a touch blunt, but not hateful i don't think? not really a value judgement as such in there, just a strong statement of revulsion and nausea, no doubt at the projectile vomiting end of the scale, where male on male sex is concerned. just glad i'm not afflicted by the same condition, cos i'd never keep owt down. ;)
Oooh it sounded pretty vitriolic to me Nellybum but fortunately I can balance those scales by perving avidly at double bloke action without the need to heave (except my bosom, obviously):lol:
Anyway, what were we saying? oh yes, single men saying they don't want to meet! Yes, they're terrible for that, they should be turned into Stepford Swingers where preferences and free will are not allowed! :P
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