Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
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Quote by dippergt750
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
who cares though? At least you know not to bother with them again 
Granted but the proportion of these idiots to the genuine swingers is enormous! They all give the same "100% genuine" remark and maybe 1 in 10 or so are genuine but only to a point!
Before someone pipes up and says that they can always arrange meets when they want, I would be interested to know how many rejects are involved before someone actually shows and remember previous "friends" don't really count.
Basically I (dragoncatcher) like men and play when I want, I will play with one or several men more or less anywhere, anyhow when the mood takes me. Finding blokes who actually want to play is the trick!
Before someone pipes up and says that they can always arrange meets when they want, I would be interested to know how many rejects are involved before someone actually shows and remember previous "friends" don't really count.
Basically I (dragoncatcher) like men and play when I want, I will play with one or several men more or less anywhere, anyhow when the mood takes me. Finding blokes who actually want to play is the trick!
Sex God
Quote by dippergt750
Granted but the proportion of these idiots to the genuine swingers is enormous! They all give the same "100% genuine" remark and maybe 1 in 10 or so are genuine but only to a point!
Before someone pipes up and says that they can always arrange meets when they want, I would be interested to know how many rejects are involved before someone actually shows and remember previous "friends" don't really count.
Basically I (dragoncatcher) like men and play when I want, I will play with one or several men more or less anywhere, anyhow when the mood takes me. Finding blokes who actually want to play is the trick!
Not everyone plays in the same way or finds playmates the same way though. I think the terms 'rejects' and 'idiots' are a bit harsh and can't see why previous 'friends' don't count. Some people prefer to play with couples or singles they have met on a regular basis. They're not swinging in a lesser way than someone who chooses to play how you do. Maybe the men you choose, can't play when the mood takes you? Doesn't make them any less genuine than you are. The response can't always be the same or you wouldn't have played, would you?
Each to their own and all that.
Profile states ".............. there are some very odd guys around, always remember guys.....it is our choice!"
Always remember it is EVERONE'S choice..... it's up to you if you want to play, but equally, its up to the "odd guy" if he wants to play!
Good luck in your search!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
:shock: I just looked at your profile and I can see what Flower means. Nothing wrong with stating your preferences but if the way you've phrased some of it puts people off, don't be overly shocked. 
Sex God
Quote by flower411
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
I`d have to say that if I was a single guy and you answered my ad, I`d find your profile a bit scary and would make excuses.
Just a thought
But then I am a bit of a scaredy cat ! :scared:
… and a little aggressive too! Sorry!
Umm.......playing with regular friends is more of an affair than swinging I would have thought.....Regulars don't count as anyone (including myself) has a list of previous playmates who would turn up.
To be clear, I am talking avbout men who advertise on this site for sex but who make excuses if offered a chance to play.....and there are loads of them.
I think idiots is hardly unfair, timewasters is pretty accurate. Rejects simply refers to the men invited who blow themselves out, it is not a label for them personally.
Try reponding to some of the single men who advertise on here virtually begging for a meeting.......if you offer twenty a definate meet I doubt more than two would accept! that does not relate simply to my experience on this site, but to lots of other women as well. I notice that you don't use the contact ads on the site, perhaps if you did, you would realise what I mean.
You are right in one respect, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, it's just that, based on real experience ON THIS SITE, I find I cannot agree with yours. Should you change how you use the site you may find your opinion changing.
To be clear, I am talking avbout men who advertise on this site for sex but who make excuses if offered a chance to play.....and there are loads of them.
I think idiots is hardly unfair, timewasters is pretty accurate. Rejects simply refers to the men invited who blow themselves out, it is not a label for them personally.
Try reponding to some of the single men who advertise on here virtually begging for a meeting.......if you offer twenty a definate meet I doubt more than two would accept! that does not relate simply to my experience on this site, but to lots of other women as well. I notice that you don't use the contact ads on the site, perhaps if you did, you would realise what I mean.
You are right in one respect, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, it's just that, based on real experience ON THIS SITE, I find I cannot agree with yours. Should you change how you use the site you may find your opinion changing.
Sex God
Quote by dippergt750
Umm.......playing with regular friends is more of an affair than swinging I would have thought.....Regulars don't count as anyone (including myself) has a list of previous playmates who would turn up.
To be clear, I am talking avbout men who advertise on this site for sex but who make excuses if offered a chance to play.....and there are loads of them.
I think idiots is hardly unfair, timewasters is pretty accurate. Rejects simply refers to the men invited who blow themselves out, it is not a label for them personally.
Try reponding to some of the single men who advertise on here virtually begging for a meeting.......if you offer twenty a definate meet I doubt more than two would accept! that does not relate simply to my experience on this site, but to lots of other women as well. I notice that you don't use the contact ads on the site, perhaps if you did, you would realise what I mean.
You are right in one respect, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, it's just that, based on real experience ON THIS SITE, I find I cannot agree with yours. Should you change how you use the site you may find your opinion changing.
Sorry hun, but I still find the tone of your writing very aggressive, and it would put me off.
Sex God
The point is, the way I use the site, works for me. I'm not interested in finding playmates the same way that you do. But I don't go into the ads section shouting about how many rejects, idiots or timewasters there are either. Because I have yet to find a timewaster, having met many lovely people through initial contact on the forum.
Also, there's a world of difference between an affair and regular swinging playmates.
Also, there's a world of difference between an affair and regular swinging playmates.
Ummmm.....have read responses......apparently honesty is not respected....profile states facts and is far from the only one like it on the site. We actually are players on the scene and have been for some years.....it seems that the site is gradually becoming a "talk about it" site rather than a "lets do it" one.
Nothing wrong with that, but it's not what a swingers site should be in our book. We get some action privately and in the various swingers clubs, looks like that is the best bet these days.
Good luck with your wishes girls but I LIKE playing the slut sometimes......sorry!
Nothing wrong with that, but it's not what a swingers site should be in our book. We get some action privately and in the various swingers clubs, looks like that is the best bet these days.
Good luck with your wishes girls but I LIKE playing the slut sometimes......sorry!
Quote by dippergt750
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
..... and then there are those of us who can only dream of getting a reply, let alone a swift one!
I guess it's the dog chasing cats syndrome.... they happily chase every one they see, but are left mightily confused when they actually catch one.
This may sound rather rood but its my tupence, yes men advertise for meets with women, but what if they find that the person to them is not what they are looking for, ok they may be single men but they have standards to. like me and the wife we are looking to meet couples from the age of 20 - 35ish. Also remeber that single men have more preasure, what would a person rather here,
A- I am sorry but i dont find u atracticve
B] I am sorry but you are to old.
C] Sorry but i am away .......
Personaly me and the wife would rather here C
Than to be told we are to old or not the right look.
Single men may be sexual rampants but we all have some sort of guideline we follow.
As said before this is my tuppence.
Fraggle
A- I am sorry but i dont find u atracticve
B] I am sorry but you are to old.
C] Sorry but i am away .......
Personaly me and the wife would rather here C
Than to be told we are to old or not the right look.
Single men may be sexual rampants but we all have some sort of guideline we follow.
As said before this is my tuppence.
Fraggle
When we refer to timewaters and idiots, we refer to a type in general, no one individual.......Some of the replys on here are getting bloody personal.
Hey it's easy.....your opinions are right.....absolutely......no question...........
As usual, sorry we dared to venture an opinion on the forum here without first checking with the regulars. If we had replied in the tone some of you people have, the moderators would have banned us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Referee??????????
Hey it's easy.....your opinions are right.....absolutely......no question...........
As usual, sorry we dared to venture an opinion on the forum here without first checking with the regulars. If we had replied in the tone some of you people have, the moderators would have banned us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Referee??????????
Quote by dippergt750
Do you know, it's really odd, men advertise on here for sex. A woman or couple answer quite swiftly and the response is always the same..........."thank you, I would have met up but I'm in Scotlandat a funeralin bed with plague" etc. etc.
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
Maybe some of them are genuinely ill, car broken down or got the plague etc, sometimes I think you do have to give some the benefit of the doubt!. I do however appreciate there are timewasters on this site as there will be on many other sites but I think you just have to move on and forget about them its their loss.
Sex God
Quote by dippergt750
Ummmm.....have read responses......apparently honesty is not respected....profile states facts and is far from the only one like it on the site. We actually are players on the scene and have been for some years.....it seems that the site is gradually becoming a "talk about it" site rather than a "lets do it" one.
Nothing wrong with that, but it's not what a swingers site should be in our book. We get some action privately and in the various swingers clubs, looks like that is the best bet these days.
Good luck with your wishes girls but I LIKE playing the slut sometimes......sorry!
Honesty is respected. Lots of us are players. What we don't do is go into a section of the site and grumble about the people we encounter on a different part of it. I find that this is far from a 'talk about it' site, actually. Good luck if you like playing the slut - nobody is questioning your right to do that. But you can't call everyone who plays differently, idiots, rejects or timewasters.
Quote by dippergt750
When we refer to timewaters and idiots, we refer to a type in general, no one individual.......Some of the replys on here are getting bloody personal.
Hey it's easy.....your opinions are right.....absolutely......no question...........
As usual, sorry we dared to venture an opinion on the forum here without first checking with the regulars. If we had replied in the tone some of you people have, the moderators would have banned us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Referee??????????
You drew attention to your profile by posting - it's natural that people may want to check out the profile of a couple who will meet single men. You're commenting on a group of people; another group of people is commenting on your profile.
And you got to the 'victim playing' far sooner than some. Why would anyone be banned for having an opinion that differs from the regulars, unless they have breached the AUP? Your initial post was hostile; did you really expect that everyone would agree with you?
Quote by dippergt750
We assume that the buzz comes from getting the reply.....do they masterbate all day on the stregth of the sex they could have had if the wife wouldn't have found out?????????????
I think that this could also be true.
for some guys its the thrill of what they could have had....like a fantasy they build up in their minds, and at the last minute they chicken out.
The same is probably true for couples and single fems too, there will be those who joi up and post an ad in the heat of the moment, thinking it will be a very erotic experience, then when someone actually responds to their ad, they think OMG what have I/we done and make an excuse, or the 'in the dark' ppartner or spouse changes plans and works from home, or comes home early, and scuppers their chance of escape.
Not everyone on SH is here openly like we are
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Also, there's a world of difference between an affair and regular swinging playmates.
:thumbup: Absolutely agree FreckleDbird - A huge difference. (btw you flippin' did add that recently sure of it
).pink x
Sex God
Quote by blueandpink
Also, there's a world of difference between an affair and regular swinging playmates.
:thumbup: Absolutely agree FreckleDbird - A huge difference. (btw you flippin' did add that recently sure of it
).pink x
I didn't, honestly!
The only change I've ever made, was to capitalise the 'F', because it didn't look right
Sex God
Thanks for the PM, dipper - not quite sure why you felt unable to post that in public though
Sex God
Have you thought about the way you come across in your profile? It does read as being rather rude and as the others have said, it is frightening! That is not a criticsm but perhaps you should take a step back, read you profile critically, and think how you would reply if you had a message from someone with a similar profile to yours.
There are a lot of single males on here and they do far exceed the demand from couples and singles, so perhaps you need to look at how you are approaching this rather than complain they are all idiots and times wasters.
There are a lot of single males on here and they do far exceed the demand from couples and singles, so perhaps you need to look at how you are approaching this rather than complain they are all idiots and times wasters.
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Have you thought about the way you come across in your profile? It does read as being rather rude and as the others have said, it is frightening! That is not a criticsm but perhaps you should take a step back, read you profile critically, and think how you would reply if you had a message from someone with a similar profile to yours.
There are a lot of single males on here and they do far exceed the demand from couples and singles, so perhaps you need to look at how you are approaching this rather than complain they are all idiots and times wasters.
agreed...that is a very scary profile...and one that my wife and i would avoid like the plague...it really needs reviewing!
Sex God
Quote by markz
maybe they double booked
us single guys have busy lives you know.....
You do - because you're a sex god, obviously!
Sex God
Quote by flower411
maybe they double booked
us single guys have busy lives you know.....
You do - because you're a sex god, obviously!
oight fluffybird....I'm monitoring you.... :roll:
"Fuffybird" !!!!!!
Bugger off :lol: if you're going to take the piss, spell it properly!
Sex God
Quote by flower411
Ooooops !!! that`ll teach me not chat and post in the forum at the same time !!!
Its called 'multi-tasking' and is a female trait
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Ooooops !!! that`ll teach me not chat and post in the forum at the same time !!!
Its called 'multi-tasking' and is a female trait
Yeah, so ner! Flower :lol:
We can do it can't we, NWC? :rascal:
Can i just put something in here...we all have our own opinion and for you to say you might get banned cause the regulars dont have the same opinions..thats just so wrong..i have been a member here before and been very active on the forum never come accross anyone who have been banned for there opinion...if anything the regulars are helpful and respectful....not have given you there response Which you asked for by posting this thread.
Your ad is very off putting but yes i agree your being blunt and to the point so you dont get time wasters. Understandable and i think its a good way of getting what you as a couple are into and looking luck in your search.
Your ad is very off putting but yes i agree your being blunt and to the point so you dont get time wasters. Understandable and i think its a good way of getting what you as a couple are into and looking luck in your search.
