I wanted to explain my sexuality and be able to talk about the problems of my marriage openly. As the divorce progressed I got real support here, (and she knows who she is), it still makes my eyes water to recall how important to me she was when things were very difficult, and though we've never met she will always be important to me.
I have been open about how I have enjoyed masturbation with other men during my celibate marriage. The funny thing is that now I'm out of it I find absolutely no stimulation in those situations. There once was a time when I could not have gone out on a business trip without visiting places en route that might have been interesting, or visited a sauna if staying overnight. Now, although there is nobody at home, I drive straight past. It has no interest. Funny how the stresses in our lives can affect our behaviour.
I don't want to swing, but at the back of my mind I would like to find someone. I have a close friend, (if you get my drift), but she is not the one. I have explained to her, we have been totally honest, we have fun together and great sex, but you need to be hit by a train and know you must be in her company night and day or it isn't right. I don't feel like that, I may be 60 but I want to fall in love again.
My perfect partner might be:
Funny and intelligent, interested in reading, the arts and politics
Like animals and walking
Like sailing and the sea
Be slim and active
Somewhere between 40 and 60
Be foody without being intense about it
Like watching and being watched, (but not swinging)
Like role play and making sex fun
Have an open attitude to sex and enjoy it
Could be bi-sexual
Middle class
Must be financially independent.
Think the last one unreasonable? Well in the 18th and 19th centuries they understood the importance of cash. I need nobody's money but I have split what we had, and it can't be split again. I can modestly get by on what I have, but it won't keep two in the way I want to live, holidays, travel, Waitrose not Tesco. So pragmatism IS important as one gets older! I don't want to be stacking shelves in Tesco at 80 in order to find the housekeeping.
The thing is I don't feel able to express these desires anywhere else but here. Is that silly? I mean I just cannot place an ad in the Times and say these things, or talk of them down the pub. I think so many people would be shocked, and even those who aren't would pretend to be, (what bi-sexual bloke hasn't laughed at a gay joke and inwardly felt sick, at himself, and angry at those present).
I don't think I could even sit down with a dating agency and say what I'd like, and I doubt my perfect lady would do so either. It's a secret.
The adverts on here are not designed to find permanent partners, but it would be nice if there was a section for it since I know nowhere else where the liberality of expression is so open.
The problem is, without an intermediary, I don't think I'd trust any lady who got in touch anyway. The problems of Kiss_me show us that there are a lot of people out there on-the-make in one way or another. Perhaps there's room in the market for a dating agency in the SH mode.
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Quote by musketeer
My perfect partner might be:
Funny and intelligent, interested in reading, the arts and politics
Like animals and walking
Like sailing and the sea
Be slim and active
Somewhere between 40 and 60
Be foody without being intense about it
Like watching and being watched, (but not swinging)
Like role play and making sex fun
Have an open attitude to sex and enjoy it
Could be bi-sexual
Middle class
Must be financially independent.
I was doing ok until there. Common as muck, me
Quote by musketeer
My perfect partner might be:
Funny and intelligent, interested in reading, the arts and politics - check
Like animals and walking - check
Like sailing and the sea - check
Be slim and active - um?
Somewhere between 40 and 60 - not check
Be foody without being intense about it - check (yum yum)
Like watching and being watched, (but not swinging) -not check
Like role play and making sex fun - check
Have an open attitude to sex and enjoy it - check
Could be bi-sexual - um?
Middle class - um?
Must be financially independent - check
Nice post :P
Musketeer my dear friend 
I love your posts, you always make me think - and there's nearly always a part of 'you' in them
Your Miss Right - Well I've been there alright :lol2: But!! Don't get too obsessed with finding her, make sure you enjoy the journey of looking, rather than treating it like a chore
It can be great fun :D
Love the list
I also know you well enough that when you do meet Miss Right, that list is gonna go flying out the window, providing you remember it's even there at all :lol2:
Being financially independent - That was one of my main points that I wouldn't/couldn't budge on. Different reasons to you, but still similar. I have to support my kids, keep a roof over their heads, buy a pocket of sweets now and again - I couldn't compromise their security for anyone........... and there is absolutely no reason why you should compromise your security either!! :kiss:
Keep an eye open with the dating agency stuff - have a word with the admin
I'll help you find Miss Right Musketeer :bounce: it'll be fun :bounce:
I'm sure you'll find her eventually, you're a wonderful guy, truly lovely :kiss: Just don't get too wrapped up in finding her and enjoy the search ok
I love your posts, you always make me think - and there's nearly always a part of 'you' in them
Your Miss Right - Well I've been there alright :lol2: But!! Don't get too obsessed with finding her, make sure you enjoy the journey of looking, rather than treating it like a chore
It can be great fun :DLove the list
I also know you well enough that when you do meet Miss Right, that list is gonna go flying out the window, providing you remember it's even there at all :lol2:Being financially independent - That was one of my main points that I wouldn't/couldn't budge on. Different reasons to you, but still similar. I have to support my kids, keep a roof over their heads, buy a pocket of sweets now and again - I couldn't compromise their security for anyone........... and there is absolutely no reason why you should compromise your security either!! :kiss:
Keep an eye open with the dating agency stuff - have a word with the admin
I'll help you find Miss Right Musketeer :bounce: it'll be fun :bounce:
I'm sure you'll find her eventually, you're a wonderful guy, truly lovely :kiss: Just don't get too wrapped up in finding her and enjoy the search ok
Sex God
Muskateer, I can't come up with all the nice words Missy has done above, but I will just say one thing, enjoy the journey, there is no rush, take the scenic route rather than the motorway and you just might find some really nice sceanery (sp) on the way
Sex God
Quote by Missy
I'm sure you'll find her eventually, you're a wonderful guy, truly lovely
too right missy...............i always think that you only find someone when you're not really looking........its as if you spend so much energy looking that you don't see what's infront of you............then suddenly you give up all hope...........and someone special suddenly walks into your life...........
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:That was a great read Musketeer.
Don't know about the finding mrs right stuff as it never happened to me either one close maybe. I give up looking a while ago as has been said can't see the wood for the trees sometimes.
The swinging stuff is still an unknown too but things are happening as I have found one friend here who i'm planing with to meet soon.
And what the others say holds without repeating.
Things happen when you don't expect. I wish you luck in finding what you are looking for.
Don't know about the finding mrs right stuff as it never happened to me either one close maybe. I give up looking a while ago as has been said can't see the wood for the trees sometimes.
The swinging stuff is still an unknown too but things are happening as I have found one friend here who i'm planing with to meet soon.
And what the others say holds without repeating.
Things happen when you don't expect. I wish you luck in finding what you are looking for.
Sex God
Quote by Missy
Musketeer my dear friend
I love your posts, you always make me think - and there's nearly always a part of 'you' in them
Your Miss Right - Well I've been there alright :lol2: But!! Don't get too obsessed with finding her, make sure you enjoy the journey of looking, rather than treating it like a chore
Love the list
Being financially independent - That was one of my main points that I wouldn't/couldn't budge on. Different reasons to you, but still similar. I have to support my kids, keep a roof over their heads, buy a pocket of sweets now and again - I couldn't compromise their security for anyone........... and there is absolutely no reason why you should compromise your security either!! :kiss:
Keep an eye open with the dating agency stuff - have a word with the admin
I'll help you find Miss Right Musketeer :bounce: it'll be fun :bounce:
I'm sure you'll find her eventually, you're a wonderful guy, truly lovely :kiss: Just don't get too wrapped up in finding her and enjoy the search ok
Musketeer, I guess you know me not too well but I have always respected your presence (if that makes any sense) - well balanced and sensitive - two qualities I admire.
So much of what Missy says (as ever :kiss: ) is true. Enjoy the quest.
The only thing I would say is that you don't have to be 'hit by a train' - that's expecting too much. Good basic qualities can be the foundation of a growing and ultimately perfect relationship. Believe me I know I'm in one. Hard work in the early days but what a payback now.
Good luck my friend.
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Quote by musketeer
My perfect partner might be:
Funny and intelligent, interested in reading, the arts and politics
Like animals and walking
Like sailing and the sea
Be slim and active
Somewhere between 40 and 60
Be foody without being intense about it
Like watching and being watched, (but not swinging)
Like role play and making sex fun
Have an open attitude to sex and enjoy it
Could be bi-sexual
Middle class
Must be financially independent.
Damn!!! I tick every box except I'm too young for you !!!
:D :D 