I've just been reading a few threads about peoples moans & gripes about this site & was wondering why. Granted the new chat room set up has had some teething problems & it is quite different to the old one, but so what, if you don't like it don't use it. While constructive critisisum is helpfull just moaning about it is pointless. The same applies to meets, some are here for 10 mins & complain about lack of success. I've had 3 great meets in the last 3 months, & while i'm one of the thousands of dereaded single males i put my success down to actually reading the ads & responding to only ones i qualify for. ie, right age group only, local, honest about willy size & sending photos if requested, also more than one line give some details & always always be respectful simple really but it seems to work. Also never forget this whole thing is meant to be fun & is done by choice, nobody has to do anything they don't want so be subtle not a dickhead, you'll be surprised at the results. Afterall do you buy a lottery ticket & complain every week you haven't won the jackpot, probably not so why do it here? Sure this site has does & will have problems & there are cliques especially in the chat rooms, but you get that in all areas of life, i've found the best way of dealing with it is to just sit back & watch, wait & jump in when it is appropriate to you, it does work. Hope this might help one or two people.
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I probably don't come on here often enough to notice the moaners, but I can imagine that people do from time to time. It's the same with swingers clubs, people often assess the club based on the sex they got or did not get. That is not something the clubs or this site can really do alot about, unless they started inviting escorts onto the site or into the clubs.
This site and swingers clubs are there to provide a forum for people to meet not garuantee anything. There are alot of members but I imagine quite a lot of members are dormant and then there are the guys who are here to get their rocks off without meets. They have also paid their way so who is to deny them.
We are members but not currently swinging and tend to swinging at clubs rather than through house or hotel meets.
When you look at the world of sex everyone has slightly different preferances and on here people will try to stick to their own ideal senario as there is an abundance of choice. That means the likelyhood of you meeting someone is that little bit more difficult. However compare that to going out on the town and pulling at random, is it any more difficult? At least here you can read what people want without having to guess.
We have a no single men policy, simply because the wife fancies girls, yes she is married to a guy, but does find men that attractive maybe because she is married maybe because alot of swinging men just don't seam that attractive. But despite it clearly saying no single men, still they try. I'm not knocking them for trying but if you strike out with random winks then it's no surprise you disappointed. I have looked and there are people on here looking for single guys. So a bit of flirtation with the right people would probably go along way to increasing people's success ratio.
To put this in a mathematical senario. Of the 990,000 profiles on this site, there are 170,000 couples and 40,000 single girls.
So take out dormant profiles, those who do not want to meet single fellas, lesbians and guys pretending to be women and guys pretending to be couples, you can see that there are probably less than people shagging than you think.
In fact I just did an ad search and there are 12,000 couple profiles looking for single men and 6500 single women looking for men. Were as there are 190,000 single guys with an add for single women. So the odds are alot less than the inital numbers suggest.
This site and swingers clubs are there to provide a forum for people to meet not garuantee anything. There are alot of members but I imagine quite a lot of members are dormant and then there are the guys who are here to get their rocks off without meets. They have also paid their way so who is to deny them.
We are members but not currently swinging and tend to swinging at clubs rather than through house or hotel meets.
When you look at the world of sex everyone has slightly different preferances and on here people will try to stick to their own ideal senario as there is an abundance of choice. That means the likelyhood of you meeting someone is that little bit more difficult. However compare that to going out on the town and pulling at random, is it any more difficult? At least here you can read what people want without having to guess.
We have a no single men policy, simply because the wife fancies girls, yes she is married to a guy, but does find men that attractive maybe because she is married maybe because alot of swinging men just don't seam that attractive. But despite it clearly saying no single men, still they try. I'm not knocking them for trying but if you strike out with random winks then it's no surprise you disappointed. I have looked and there are people on here looking for single guys. So a bit of flirtation with the right people would probably go along way to increasing people's success ratio.
To put this in a mathematical senario. Of the 990,000 profiles on this site, there are 170,000 couples and 40,000 single girls.
So take out dormant profiles, those who do not want to meet single fellas, lesbians and guys pretending to be women and guys pretending to be couples, you can see that there are probably less than people shagging than you think.
In fact I just did an ad search and there are 12,000 couple profiles looking for single men and 6500 single women looking for men. Were as there are 190,000 single guys with an add for single women. So the odds are alot less than the inital numbers suggest.
Sex God
I find that moaning is a bit of a waste of time but I can understand it.
We all have moments where we want to have a good old moan. Take today for example... I got a PM last night from a guy who's 27. It was a one liner. I responded with a polite no thank you. Now if he'd read my profile he'd have seen my age limits so would have saved his time and mine. This morning I get a response from him telling me that I'm a time waster like all the other women on this site then he blocked me.
Just made me giggle cause clearly he's had a number of rejections and with that attitude, I'm not really surprised.
There's a bit of me that would like to have a great big moan about all the people (single and couples) who don't take the time to read my profile yet send me a PM anyway. Pointless exercise. It might make me feel a bit better having a rant about it but it doesn't really solve anything. It won't stop people sending me PMs when they're outwith my preferences. I just don't do that. If someone isn't what I'm looking for or I'm not what they're looking for, I just wouldn't waste my time or theirs. What's the point?
Another example is when I went into chat last night and was absolutely bombarded with moans from everyone about how the cams aren't working. I can't do anything about it. I realise it's frustrating but there's always going to be teething problems when a new chat system goes live. A little bit of patience would go a long way. However, it completely ruined my time in chat so I left.
So Prags... I get what you're saying and it is meant to be fun, it's not always the case though.
We all have moments where we want to have a good old moan. Take today for example... I got a PM last night from a guy who's 27. It was a one liner. I responded with a polite no thank you. Now if he'd read my profile he'd have seen my age limits so would have saved his time and mine. This morning I get a response from him telling me that I'm a time waster like all the other women on this site then he blocked me.
Just made me giggle cause clearly he's had a number of rejections and with that attitude, I'm not really surprised. There's a bit of me that would like to have a great big moan about all the people (single and couples) who don't take the time to read my profile yet send me a PM anyway. Pointless exercise. It might make me feel a bit better having a rant about it but it doesn't really solve anything. It won't stop people sending me PMs when they're outwith my preferences. I just don't do that. If someone isn't what I'm looking for or I'm not what they're looking for, I just wouldn't waste my time or theirs. What's the point?
Another example is when I went into chat last night and was absolutely bombarded with moans from everyone about how the cams aren't working. I can't do anything about it. I realise it's frustrating but there's always going to be teething problems when a new chat system goes live. A little bit of patience would go a long way. However, it completely ruined my time in chat so I left.
So Prags... I get what you're saying and it is meant to be fun, it's not always the case though.
Sex God
Quote by prags
I've just been reading a few threads about peoples moans & gripes about this site & was wondering why. Granted the new chat room set up has had some teething problems & it is quite different to the old one, but so what, if you don't like it don't use it. While constructive critisisum is helpfull just moaning about it is pointless. The same applies to meets, some are here for 10 mins & complain about lack of success. I've had 3 great meets in the last 3 months, & while i'm one of the thousands of dereaded single males i put my success down to actually reading the ads & responding to only ones i qualify for. ie, right age group only, local, honest about willy size & sending photos if requested, also more than one line give some details & always always be respectful simple really but it seems to work. Also never forget this whole thing is meant to be fun & is done by choice, nobody has to do anything they don't want so be subtle not a dickhead, you'll be surprised at the results. Afterall do you buy a lottery ticket & complain every week you haven't won the jackpot, probably not so why do it here? Sure this site has does & will have problems & there are cliques especially in the chat rooms, but you get that in all areas of life, i've found the best way of dealing with it is to just sit back & watch, wait & jump in when it is appropriate to you, it does work. Hope this might help one or two people.
To be quite honest I think the part in bold above is very relevant. People come here they pay for a service then the service gets altered and its shite and prone constant brake downs. All the admin and mods say its teething problems and stop moaning or leave. Nice attitude that is
Its simply unacceptable. I dont use chat that often at all and on the odd occasion I have been in lately I have found it bloody annoying 
Teething problems? It does make me ask myself why is it that I have been on various other sites that are new the whole site not just the chat room and they can launch that with no chat room problems at all? and before load is blamed they are far far busier than the chat rooms here. Like I also said before chat room and cam technology has been around for a decade if not more it should be pretty simple to launch without as many problems as we have had here. Also again teething How long is teething for a chat room? We have had beta and now and an adequate period of main user use, teething is done it should work properly now but event the initial problems have not been fixed. There are some nice members who have worked out ways for us to make the chat room work better. Thats great but its like then SH is blaming your computer when it worked perfectly fine on the old chat and every other chat room around the web 
??: If I were paying I would leave but as I am on an old free account I can afford the luxury of staying. That in my humble opinion is why people moan, about the chat anyway :twisted: Sex God
Quote by tweeky
That in my humble opinion is why people moan, about the chat anyway :twisted:
Or a cleverly disguised moan! :giggle:
Sexpert
IF you don't get what you paid for it's a reasonable excuse to moan in my book. but as Prags says it's best to be constructive.
If you moaning just because you don't get what you want, well frankly that's a bit petulant and is the sort of behaviour that's better left in the playground.
And yes as a single guy the odds are against you here so rather than getting stroppy when/if you get turned down it's better to be gracious in defeat and make a better effort in engaging with the target of your desires ( failing that try showing em a cock pic and asking if they want a shag as an opening line )
If you moaning just because you don't get what you want, well frankly that's a bit petulant and is the sort of behaviour that's better left in the playground.
And yes as a single guy the odds are against you here so rather than getting stroppy when/if you get turned down it's better to be gracious in defeat and make a better effort in engaging with the target of your desires ( failing that try showing em a cock pic and asking if they want a shag as an opening line )
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
That in my humble opinion is why people moan, about the chat anyway :twisted:
Or a cleverly disguised moan! :giggle:
I was not moaning. I was only citing reasons other people might
Sex God
Quote by tweeky
That in my humble opinion is why people moan, about the chat anyway :twisted:
Or a cleverly disguised moan! :giggle:
I was not moaning. I was only citing reasons other people might
That's exactly what I was doing too!
i think that if you have paid to be here and find that the site isnt working right then you have every reason to moan about it, most people wouldnt be happy about paying for a service thats not working !
i would hope that those who have paid to be here and cant get into chat or get booted out frequently though no fault of their own, will be given some free time here
i am lucky that i have been here long enough to be a free member but even i get peed off when chat dont work right and i get booted out sometimes
i would hope that those who have paid to be here and cant get into chat or get booted out frequently though no fault of their own, will be given some free time here
i am lucky that i have been here long enough to be a free member but even i get peed off when chat dont work right and i get booted out sometimes
Sex God
I like a good moan, even if no one is listening, get things of your chest.
Sex God
Quote by Bear69
i love it when a woman moans.................... lets me know im doing it right.
Bear are you sure ?
Sure Mrs Bear said she moaned at you for being nekkid on cam all the time, not doing the ironing, putting the bins out (though can understand this time of year if still nekkid)
