Ive not been into the lifestyle for long but ive noticed a trend with people who use these sites...
Im curious why people will post a profile but not have any photos at all (even in a private file)!!
This strikes me as a little odd...why is is preferable to send photos of yourself via email but not via private message to potential playmates with whom you trying to engender interest!!
Im curious as to whether im missing something obvious or whether some people here just arent genuine!!
Suggestions please !!
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Quote by Gee_Wizz
I can imagine some people being very paranoid about being seen on this site by people they may know, but unless they distrust the moderators as well then I agree, there's no point having no photos at all.
As a Mod who authorises photos, once you've seen a 1,000 or so, you don't even take any notice to a face. Its either adult or not and I can honestly tell you that we do it so quick that I could flip past someone I know and not even take any notice. Besides, we are al here for the same reason :grin:
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Quote by Dawnie
As a Mod who authorises photos, once you've seen a 1,000 or so, you don't even take any notice to a face. Its either adult or not and I can honestly tell you that we do it so quick that I could flip past someone I know and not even take any notice. Besides, we are al here for the same reason :grin:
:thumbup: A while ago I would've disagreed, but yep I look at pics when I'm modding in an oddly objective, AUP-checklist kinda way. I'm not sure I look at faces at all anymore.
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good thing you've got some pictures up, you're a hottie :eeek:
Quote by Dawnie
I can imagine some people being very paranoid about being seen on this site by people they may know, but unless they distrust the moderators as well then I agree, there's no point having no photos at all.
As a Mod who authorises photos, once you've seen a 1,000 or so, you don't even take any notice to a face. Its either adult or not and I can honestly tell you that we do it so quick that I could flip past someone I know and not even take any notice. Besides, we are al here for the same reason :grin:
Agreed, and for that reason amongst others I'm ok with having a couple of pics up of my own. I think some people might just be that shy.
I think the main reason might be that people are just trying to be discreet and protect themselves from being identified or pics falling in the wrong hands, etc.
I was pretty careless in the beginning. I had pics on here and sent several varieties by email or msn. Got a bit of a shock when one young gentleman sent back to me a montage of all my pics in one - everything from face pic to nether regions!
I have preferred not to have any pics on sites like this that might identify me to others. Tasteful body pics, yes. Explicit, no. Face pics, no. I've sent face pics by email but not with anything rude as I don't want my real identity associated with this site.
Granted, you don't need to be a rocket scientist but it made me feel a bit better.
I've not had pics on this site for a long time but don't they have the web address stamped on them anyway? Definitely wouldn't send those out if anyone could identify me from them.
Further to another thread regarding photos and intellectual property, I highly recommend you only let people take your photo with your phone/camera and you keep control of them! Learn from my mistakes
also ... just thought ... when I have had pics on here, people bug you to death asking to see them. Along with all the other shit they bug you to death with.
I was pretty careless in the beginning. I had pics on here and sent several varieties by email or msn. Got a bit of a shock when one young gentleman sent back to me a montage of all my pics in one - everything from face pic to nether regions!
I have preferred not to have any pics on sites like this that might identify me to others. Tasteful body pics, yes. Explicit, no. Face pics, no. I've sent face pics by email but not with anything rude as I don't want my real identity associated with this site.
Granted, you don't need to be a rocket scientist but it made me feel a bit better.
I've not had pics on this site for a long time but don't they have the web address stamped on them anyway? Definitely wouldn't send those out if anyone could identify me from them.
Further to another thread regarding photos and intellectual property, I highly recommend you only let people take your photo with your phone/camera and you keep control of them! Learn from my mistakes
also ... just thought ... when I have had pics on here, people bug you to death asking to see them. Along with all the other shit they bug you to death with.
Quote by noladreams
As a Mod who authorises photos, once you've seen a 1,000 or so, you don't even take any notice to a face. Its either adult or not and I can honestly tell you that we do it so quick that I could flip past someone I know and not even take any notice. Besides, we are al here for the same reason :grin:
:thumbup: A while ago I would've disagreed, but yep I look at pics when I'm modding in an oddly objective, AUP-checklist kinda way. I'm not sure I look at faces at all anymore.
Aw... And there's me uploading pics and getting a kick out of the thought of you mods enjoying them as you approve them!! Fantasy shattered!! ;-) lol
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Quote by Marya_Northeast
I don't want my real identity associated with this site.
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don't they have the web address stamped on them anyway?
Absolutely. I know I am reckless with my image exposure on here - god knows how many hard drives my face and other pictures are gracing as we speak, complete with username watermarked on them and SH web address. Some people need to be more private than others (whether because of work, family etc etc), some others are simply paranoid, then there is the majority of users that joined to have a curious look so they are keeping a low profile/go incognito. I must admit, I don't care if a profile has pictures so much but I hate being told to pass on an email address so that some hopeful can send me pictures (it's not ok for them to compromise their privacy but they expect me to do just that at their prompting?).
Quote by Marya_Northeast
also ... just thought ... when I have had pics on here, people bug you to death asking to see them.
Indeed!
Quote by MartnJewl
all people without face pics on their profiles are ugly. :twisted:
Yep! The times when I had no picture on... judging from most people's reaction when they finally see me, they must have thought I had been trying to hide some serious deformity or something
DT73 :welcome:
Personal choice, have pictures, don't have pictures.
Of course you don't have to have pictures by which close or even intimate friends can recognise you, faces blocked out, rear views etc can be just as effective in increasing your chances of getting a meet.
We will not do "blind dates", if we cannot see body shape pictures of both members of a couple or of a single person then we are simply not interested in meeting up, hey no problem for most people who don't want to meet us anyway.
Send us pictures, nah no thanks we don't give out our personal e-mail address.
Invite us to view your private gallery to see your pics, no problem but you need to send that invite with your first contact to us or we won't be replying to the first mail in order to get the private gallery invite later.
Send them to our phone, sure knock yourself out, but our phone cost a tenner from Asda and cannot recieve pictures, damned if I can be bothered going to some vodaphone website to view them.
Your on cam in the chatroom, good for you but no good to us, we probably won't be in the same house when you contact us so there is no point just one of us looking at a cam if the other person isn't going to see you and again, can't be bothered logging in to chat just to see a body shape or face.
But it doesn't matter a toss, some people will work it our way and some will work it thier way and we will all find people happy to do it they way we all like to do it and we will all just ignore the ones that do it different. each to thier own, no one is doing it the right way and no one is doing it the wrong way.
Of course you don't have to have pictures by which close or even intimate friends can recognise you, faces blocked out, rear views etc can be just as effective in increasing your chances of getting a meet.
We will not do "blind dates", if we cannot see body shape pictures of both members of a couple or of a single person then we are simply not interested in meeting up, hey no problem for most people who don't want to meet us anyway.
Send us pictures, nah no thanks we don't give out our personal e-mail address.
Invite us to view your private gallery to see your pics, no problem but you need to send that invite with your first contact to us or we won't be replying to the first mail in order to get the private gallery invite later.
Send them to our phone, sure knock yourself out, but our phone cost a tenner from Asda and cannot recieve pictures, damned if I can be bothered going to some vodaphone website to view them.
Your on cam in the chatroom, good for you but no good to us, we probably won't be in the same house when you contact us so there is no point just one of us looking at a cam if the other person isn't going to see you and again, can't be bothered logging in to chat just to see a body shape or face.
But it doesn't matter a toss, some people will work it our way and some will work it thier way and we will all find people happy to do it they way we all like to do it and we will all just ignore the ones that do it different. each to thier own, no one is doing it the right way and no one is doing it the wrong way.
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Quote by flower411
Ive not been into the lifestyle for long but ive noticed a trend with people who use these sites...
Im curious why people will post a profile but not have any photos at all (even in a private file)!!
This strikes me as a little odd...why is is preferable to send photos of yourself via email but not via private message to potential playmates with whom you trying to engender interest!!
Im curious as to whether im missing something obvious or whether some people here just arent genuine!!
Suggestions please !!
I`ve just become a single male and I did say in my profile that I`d post some pics.
However having been a regular chatroom user over the years and having attended one or two socials it turns out that quite a lot of people know me and frankly if I want someone new to know I`ll switch on me cam .
Can`t really see how this would make me not genuine !! That would be a bleedin huge assumption to make !!
Some people just use the site in different ways to you .....and anyway ...I`ve only just joined the gym so once my body is as hunky as yours I might change my mind
Some people dont go in the chat room or go to socials. We do the socials when we can but I actually chucked all the web cams 3 of them in the bin :lol: The MSN fad went out the window 3 years back and we never have time to both sit in the back room on cam in a chat room. Rather watch the telly. Years ago early 2000,1,2 spent fecking hours upon hours in chat rooms and think I just burnt myself out for life as far as chatrooms are concerned. Most of the chicks looked better on them early web cams :lol2: for the 5 people that owned them back then.
Quote by mincepie
all people without face pics on their profiles are ugly. :twisted:
Yep! The times when I had no picture on... judging from most people's reaction when they finally see me, they must have thought I had been trying to hide some serious deformity or something
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I usually get accused of being a man.
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All these years Ive known you and youre a bloke???
All these years Ive known you and youre a bloke???
Quote by DT73
Ive not been into the lifestyle for long but ive noticed a trend with people who use these sites...
Im curious why people will post a profile but not have any photos at all (even in a private file)!!
This strikes me as a little odd...why is is preferable to send photos of yourself via email but not via private message to potential playmates with whom you trying to engender interest!!
Im curious as to whether im missing something obvious or whether some people here just arent genuine!!
Suggestions please !!
I wonder what you mean by your word genuine?
I think I am a genuine kind of person but I have never had photos on my profile or emailed them to anyone, it never stopped us meeting people who were more than happy to chat on cam, phone etc.
I have always believe an image on a photo doesn't give me enough about the person that I find sexy as sexy for me is a state of mind and I haven't yet found a photo that captures the mind.