Hello all,
After much chatting in the bedroom, my wife has indicated that she might be interested in trying a MMF for the first time. We love each other very much, but want to try new things before we get too old and wrinky!! (Apologies to old and wrinkly members who will no doubt flame me. LOL)
However, we have some concerns that I thought I would ask you guys about:
It seems to us that there are potential risks involved. Obviously we would find a suitable male to invite, but what if one of us enjoys the experience and the other not? This could lead to tension within the relationship that neither of us want.
Does the woman have to form an emotional attachment to the new partner in order to enjoy the experience, or is it possible to keep it purely recreational? If not, this could also cause friction between us.
If it is enjoyable, and we want to repeat it, do we ask the same guy along or try someone new?
I suppose the question is: is it worth the risk?
Although ALL replies are welcomed, we would specifically like to hear from female members.
Thanks in anticipation...
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Wife interested - advice sought
Sex God
jump on the back of my cart dragons and I will whizz you over to the cafe, this is probably better off over there.
The only answer I have for you is that it depends on the woman.....
I know some women that love recreational sex and don't need any form of attachment to them, it's a case of any cock will do. But I also know some women (me included) that prefer to have sex with friends and people they know a little bit about....
The best thing to do is to discuss it with your wife, and then discuss it again, and again and again....and then think about trying it....and make sure you both know what your boundaries are...for example:
Kissing or no kissing on the lips?
Giving oral to the bloke, swallow or not?
Condom or not (although hopefully most people say yes to this one!!)
And then you have to think about whether you want a friend already in your life to fulfil your fantasy (although that can get a bit sticky) or whether you want to advertise on here for a single man...if you do then take these things into account:
Age, upper and lower age limits.
Size of body (thin, fat, average or you don't care)
Size of cock (or you might not care)
Do they have to be closeby to you or are you prepared to travel.
Can you accommodate?
What do you like/not like sexually speaking.
If you get a single man that you think is right, try meeting him down the local pub first to see if you all get on and don't be afraid to say "no" if you feel any discomfort or if you simply don't get on with him.
I know it all sounds complicated, its not really once you have talked about it properly and you know what your limits are...just make sure you stick to your limits or talk about it before you change them.
Have fun and feel free to PM me if you want more advice.
I know some women that love recreational sex and don't need any form of attachment to them, it's a case of any cock will do. But I also know some women (me included) that prefer to have sex with friends and people they know a little bit about....
The best thing to do is to discuss it with your wife, and then discuss it again, and again and again....and then think about trying it....and make sure you both know what your boundaries are...for example:
Kissing or no kissing on the lips?
Giving oral to the bloke, swallow or not?
Condom or not (although hopefully most people say yes to this one!!)
And then you have to think about whether you want a friend already in your life to fulfil your fantasy (although that can get a bit sticky) or whether you want to advertise on here for a single man...if you do then take these things into account:
Age, upper and lower age limits.
Size of body (thin, fat, average or you don't care)
Size of cock (or you might not care)
Do they have to be closeby to you or are you prepared to travel.
Can you accommodate?
What do you like/not like sexually speaking.
If you get a single man that you think is right, try meeting him down the local pub first to see if you all get on and don't be afraid to say "no" if you feel any discomfort or if you simply don't get on with him.
I know it all sounds complicated, its not really once you have talked about it properly and you know what your limits are...just make sure you stick to your limits or talk about it before you change them.
Have fun and feel free to PM me if you want more advice.
Sex God
what Helen said!!!!!!!!
saves an awful lot of typing
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saves an awful lot of typing
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Sex God
what Helen said!!!!!!!!
saves an awful lot of typing
2`s
saves an awful lot of typing
2`s
Hi Dragons 
Welcome to the Cafe (even if you did arrive on the back of Dave's rickety old cart) :shock:
Please don't read any hint of a flame into my response to your question. It's meant with the best of intentions and to give you something to ponder on.....
I notice you registered for the forums two months ago, and with SH in March 2005. You've waitied until now to announce:
Has the "much chatting" been on an even footing or have you expressed an interest which she has finally agreed to because, as you say, she loves you so much? If there's any ring of truth in that then I would advise extreme caution before you take the next step. If I'm talking out of my arse again then good luck to you both and I look forward to seeing you more often in the Cafe. Get the wife involved too - the more the merrier
Now, to answer your questions.... and my opinion is based on common sense so you probably already know the answers
Whatever you decide.... good luck!
Welcome to the Cafe (even if you did arrive on the back of Dave's rickety old cart) :shock:Please don't read any hint of a flame into my response to your question. It's meant with the best of intentions and to give you something to ponder on.....
I notice you registered for the forums two months ago, and with SH in March 2005. You've waitied until now to announce:
Quote by Dragons
After much chatting in the bedroom, my wife has indicated that she might be interested in trying a MMF for the first time.
Has the "much chatting" been on an even footing or have you expressed an interest which she has finally agreed to because, as you say, she loves you so much? If there's any ring of truth in that then I would advise extreme caution before you take the next step. If I'm talking out of my arse again then good luck to you both and I look forward to seeing you more often in the Cafe. Get the wife involved too - the more the merrier
Now, to answer your questions.... and my opinion is based on common sense so you probably already know the answers
Quote by Dragons
It seems to us that there are potential risks involved. Obviously we would find a suitable male to invite, but what if one of us enjoys the experience and the other not? This could lead to tension within the relationship that neither of us want.
It could... but only you and your wife will know whether it's worth the risk. You need to make sure you only get involved with your eyes wide open and try to take the attitude that bringing another person into a relationship can either make or break it.
Does the woman have to form an emotional attachment to the new partner in order to enjoy the experience, or is it possible to keep it purely recreational? If not, this could also cause friction between us.
In our experience it's best to keep emotions out of the equation. Look at it as using someone else as a sex-aid, just like you would a sex toy. When the toy is put away it stays in the drawer until you feel like another go.
If it is enjoyable, and we want to repeat it, do we ask the same guy along or try someone new?
Up to you. If you had a good experience with a guy and want to go again then do it. But remember that variety is the spice of life :wink:
I suppose the question is: is it worth the risk?
Only you will know that - horses for courses.
Whatever you decide.... good luck!
Quote by DreamerHelen
The only answer I have for you is that it depends on the woman.....
I know some women that love recreational sex and don't need any form of attachment to them, it's a case of any cock will do. But I also know some women (me included) that prefer to have sex with friends and people they know a little bit about....
:shock: That might be somewhat off the mark (by a mile or two)
But in answer to Dragons question - the only people that can decide what is right for you is ... both of you. If you find one enjoys it and the other doesn't - appreciate that it was fun for one of you and move on and try something else that you both enjoy.
Remember - getting to know someone isn't the same as emotional attachment - but how much you need to know about them before you decide to go ahead is up to you.
If in doubt - miss it out!
If it sounds like fun - get it on!
