wife is on the fence

I need some help with the wife as she is on the fence about meeting up with a man. we talk about it and we play games in the bed room and send stories about doing it but she will not commit 

Hi,

Assuming she knows about her involvement with the Site (I'm sure she does as you hold a couple's account ;) ) you should get her checking through the 'Matches' list on your home page and have her browse the gallery.  She might find something that takes her fancy. :thumbup:

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I need some help with the wife as she is on the fence about meeting up with a man. we talk about it and we play games in the bed room and send stories about doing it but she will not commit 

 
Don't force the issue, she will play as and when she's ready  (that's if she ever is!). You sound more enthusiastic about playing the swinging field that she does to be honest. Like others have mentioned browse the forum and chat etc together. Maybe cam together in chat and see how she deals with the attention you both will receive.. If she can't cope with that, then maybe this is not for her? x

What do you mean by the last comment 

i don't want to jump in on someone elses reply but think what Boobs was saying is this isn't for everyone lots of people love the thought of swapping and sharing but when it comes down to it it's not going to happen,

it's better to chat in the chat room get to know people first and see how both of you deal with the attention you get it could put you both off or make you both want to try the next step maybe try soft first, massage or same room as others just make sure everyone is comfortable with it and don't expect too much first time I've seen guys who are so excited and when it comes down to it even a little blue pill wouldn't help!

Just have fun and take things as slowly as is needed for all to be comfortable ☺

Yes That's more or less it - Thank you Lovejoy xxx

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Yes That's more or less it - Thank you Lovejoy xxx

 
Thanks I do tend to waffe a bit though lol it's my age ;) x 

Start slow talk a lot and go at her pace .......we find massage situations are a nice intro after meeting guys socially ....the lady gets pampered and the boys enjoy .......win win .....x

Sometimes it's the thought, fantasy and expectation that gives the greatest pleasure. It's a bit like flicking through the travel brochures and looking at the carefully-taken pictures: being there isn't always the same, as there are all sorts of things that the pictures can't convey.

It could be that you do, ultimately, indulge in an entirely consensual threesome and all enjoy it but then never do it again, the remembering of it being enough added spice for your wife in your own sexual games. Fantasy and reality are very different places (that's rather the point, really). Let your wife find her own way. Perhaps see if she wants to exchange messages with someone and share them with you. If she wants to explore, find someone who's happy to go entirely at her pace and who's sensitive enough to her feelings to stop at once if she's at any point uncomfortable, otherwise it could go very bad indeed. It is meant to be fun, after all!

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I need some help with the wife as she is on the fence about meeting up with a man. we talk about it and we play games in the bed room and send stories about doing it but she will not commit 

 Then leave her to it. 

You have planted the seed, you have talked about it, but the bottom line is it has to be her choice. If she isn't comfortable with it then maybe asking for help in getting her to change her mind is not the right thing to do. Obviously it goes without saying that I don't know your wife, but many people don't like being pushed and the more you ask the more she is inclined to say no.

Some people struggle with leaving their comfort zones and while the idea might appeal, the thought of actually doing something takes them to where they don't want to be.

She's made the first step making couples profile ( that's if she knows about it.... ) leave her to look round the site, the more you try and push her off the fence, the higher she will climb it....