I have been looking it up too. It's a very interesting condition.
Venusxxx
This is supposedly a swingers site although at times it seems that there is more attention paid to spelling and correct grammar than sex. So long as people can be understood, does it really matter how they write? Havantcouple's post was perfectly understandable to me and I don't send texts.
One of the nicest guys we know (not a swinger) writes in capitals and asks me to write any formal letters for him. He is not lazy. He works very long hours. However, he did not do well at school and has no desire to return to school now - his fault or the fault of the education system? Either way, his lack of written English has not detracted from his personality or from him being a homeowner, self-employed and successfully raising a family. In other words, he has a very successful life despite not being able to write.
We never check people's writing ability before we play with them but maybe we should have a standard handwriting and spelling test for them to complete before we play to avoid playing with people that are intellectually or educationally inferior to us.
I think it' s worth doing, as Ice has a point. Many of us would prefer to err on the side of caution for fear of ridiculing someone who possibly doesn't deserve it, and this is very easily taken advantage of. That's not to say I'd be happy jump on people who have severe problems with spelling but not dyslexia, because I wouldn't, just that I don't like to be taken for a fool!
Mars is much less wordy than I. He says, "I can't spell for shit, but I'm not like some of the twats on there, I know how to use a spell checker..........."
That's his say then! :shock:
Sometimes people just need a gentle nudge toward using one.
Venusxxx
Just to clarify, I'm not having a pop at people whose spelling isn't great, it's people who won't even try and then lie about the reason that I have a problem with.
When I am typing more than a sentence or two, I often will do it in Word and spell check it before pasting on here.
I want to make sure that people can understand what I am saying.
We all make spelling mistakes, sometimes they are funny and a good laugh can be had.
Not everyone that composes unintelligible posts is dyslexic
This is why people should learn the value of getting properly evaluated before jumping to conclusions. We wouldn't self-diagnose a physical problem so why........
Oh, bugger, some people do that too don't they?! :doh:
Venusxxx
I was trying to keep out of this one... but I've been drawn in (like so many others it appears) because of the polar nature of the discussion.
There is no clear cut case to be answered by anyone here.
In fact, I too have been "affected" by the condition in that my daughter was diagnosed as a sufferer at an early age. She's now 13 and the schools have spent years trying to get her to spell correctly, pandering to the dyslexia. Her frustration at not being able to keep up with her peers has made her bitter towards school and education, so she's now in remedial classes.
Amazingly they suddenly realised that all these years of pain were not due to dyslexia.... she's just partially deaf!!!! All this time she's been "hearing" what people say by a combination of partial hearing and lip reading. She's now been fitted with a hearing aid and is having to re-learn how to speak and write because she can suddenly hear the words as they were meant to be heard.
So, I totally agree with both sides here; Dyslxia is a horrible thing to suffer, but remember that it's not always an accurate diagnosis. It's just a convenient catch all.
Life's too short to worry about the small things.
Punctuation and spelling mistakes, well that's really such a small thing I just don't get the annoyance. Whether it be conversational, a genuine mistake, dislexia (which I can't even spell, and no, I'm not going to spell check) or a blatant piss take, it's still such a small thing.
I understand most of us come to the cafe for the conversation and not just the sex, but there are still those who visit for one reason and one reason only, sex. They don't give a monkeys about their spelling mistakes, incorrect grammer, or even pissing the padantics off.
You guys have used up 5 pages, bouncing this thread to the top.
Why?
This is a swinging forum, not an English lesson.
Oh, and have you guys noticed, every time one of these grammer and punctuation threads get going the rest of the forum grinds to a holt?
It kinda scares people off posting and the board becomes a bore.
Dyslexia aside -
Some people just can’t spell or communicate effectively in written form, there is nothing wrong with them they just can’t.
However, some of those people probably could, but they are too lazy or not interested.
I can’t fix car engines, nothing wrong with that.
However, I probably could fix car engines to some degree but I am not interested and can’t be bothered, so I don’t.
To post on a forum, you should at least make the effort to hold peoples concentration and be understood.
Ok Venus, if you say so.
I'll come back in a few day when perhaps the board is back to normal.
And if I were in point-scoring mode, I could point out that it's not an astrology site either. ;)
Ice Pie,
Sorry babe..................... but I have to say................. walk in my shoes before you comment on how hard the road is.......