Women seeking cples ads..

21 Apr 2005

Thanks for posting is always nice to know that it's not just us men that work hard for little reward. To the disproportionate numbers you can add the internet adage.... 80% of people on the web are men, and so are most of the women. That applies to the ads. Fakes would soon be exposed by regular participation in the forum and chatroom let alone meetings, though I have my doubts about Vix and Calista... is anyone really that good looking ??! wink

Picking up from somewhere else in the thread...it sounds like PoloLady needs a PA to manage her fan club. Maybe some of us less busy could run a rota for her? See there.... open your horizons to single men and you will never be short of attention - wanted or not.

21 Apr 2005

Quote by ukkeith
I think that when you make the effort to contact an advertiser, they should have good manners to email you back and say thanks but no thanks, it would appear that the advertisements that I email are all pig ignorant.

I mildly take offence to your comment. Not being a person who sits at the PC 24/7 rolleyes

- as sometimes I have to go out and work (which may involve not being at home for several days). I really don't have the time or on some occasions the energy to reply to everyone.
I really did try to do this for a start - but what is the point in answering every message you get when it will leave you with no time for shagging? dunno

And if you saw some of the replies!!!!! mad

I try to scan all of them and respond to those which appear genuine, half intelligent, sane..... but I admit sometimes I just don't bother to check them all fully. After the first few "nice tits, do you wanna meet?" it becomes difficult to take any of the messages seriously (aside from those from people I know). The other weekend there were 35 emails in my inbox, plus another 7 in the junk folder, plus PM's. Many of them didn't give any real detail of what the person/people wanted, often giving an ad number to look-up. It all takes time - and I don't always have that time to spare. There is always the fact that nearly half of the ones you do reply to then disappear into thin air (or faint from the shock of getting a reply) :shock: .
Everyone can't be a winner everytime - shit happens - get over it!

21 Apr 2005

Quote by PoloLady
I think...

I mildly take offence to your comment...
I think ukkeith was referring to the ads rather than PMs etc. Most of us understand that effectively PL and other popular ladies have to manage a pile of spam, within which perhaps lie a few reasonable and deserving communications, which the recipient may or may not be lucky enough to spot. Now I know the use of announcing your PM on the forum!
No one is obliged to respond to a communication. Otherwise we'd all be writing thank you letters to all those kind offers of insurance, loans and other cr*p that come through the door. What's the difference between a random stranger offering mutual satisfaction and any other piece of junk mail. Humorous answers only please!
The ads are frustrating but I think we all know how they work. Avoidance is a simple cure.

21 Apr 2005

Going back to an earlier posting in the thrad regarding other 'swinging ads' sites on the web I, too, have come to the conclusion they just want your money and they give nothing in return. (You would think at my age I would not be so naive wouldn't you confused

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Anyway 2 different sites, those that let you join for free then hit you with a demand for money to reply to 'someone who has shown an interest in you' types used that trick on me and, yes, I fell for it and signed up. mad

(This was before I discovered SH!!) What truly astonished me, though, was I actually received a reply from one couple. It turns out they had not written to me at all and that they were leaving the site because of the huge amount of timewasters who were emailing them. So this site was not only conning me (and no doubt many others) but also using members ads as a 'come on' without their permission :x :shock: :x
As a newby I have taken on board all the comments from regular users of the fora and will try and be patient. Already I have been invited to a get-together and am looking forward to starting to make friends. All I can add is that patience does work lol

21 Apr 2005

I only use 3 sites for this sort of thing, both others I have to pay for (pre SH though) and both are still full of timewasters, although at this point there's a few things in the works. One of the sites is American and I've made a few friends through it, although it's hard to justify using it when a shag's 3000 miles away (although that could start another thread lol

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Anyway, this site is by far the best out of all the one's I've seen. Everyone's so friendly, funny, open and honest here that I feel right at home. I'm looking forward to attending the munches and any other meetings and generally slotting in my place here just nicely biggrin

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I haven't had any luck with the Ads yet, but with thousands of them from single males, most of which put off anyone from looking, I'm taking my chances in here smile

21 Apr 2005

Quote by freckledbird
I think that when you make the effort to contact an advertiser, they should have good manners to email you back and say thanks but no thanks, it would appear that the advertisements that I email are all pig ignorant.

Or all getting so many emails they haven't the time or the inclination to reply to them all?
So now time and inclination comes befor good manners?

21 Apr 2005

Well first, thanks to everyone who's posted so far for your insights, it's been really interesting reading. I currently mix my time with the forum/ads about evens plus a fair bit of time in the chatroom, although I only post/read The Cafe, and treat it more like a general chatroom that just happens to be oriented towards risque subjects than as something more swinger-action oriented. Maybe I shall start exploring the Lets Meet Up section a bit more (only use it for Munch-tracking, in exactly the same way Rainbows just said she does, right down to the "argh I missed that" shoulda kept up to date-way).

Quote by cuddlyk

Anyway 2 different sites, those that let you join for free then hit you with a demand for money to reply to 'someone who has shown an interest in you' types used that trick on me and, yes, I fell for it and signed up. (This was before I discovered SH!!)

I think I know exactly which site you mean... Paid up for it (if indeed it was the same) for 1 month and although I chatted to some real people on their (nowhere as good as SH) chatroom, and wrote a tonne of advert replies, never had anything happen and I suspected most of the top-rated people and front-page-advertised contacts were out of date or non-existant. I recognise those emails claiming to be from someone who's interested... B&(18Â£%s
Munches and parties - definitely best way to get to know people. It can get expensive though, attending them all over the country...

21 Apr 2005

As a couple with a bi-fem we have spent the last year searching for that elusive goal! we tend to find that rather than advertising and sitting back to wait for the influx of repys (NOT!!!) we had more luck replying to the women searching for couples sections....We managed to ahve a few email exchanges but 99% of times they would dissapear after us enquiring about when we could meet!
We did manage to met up with one girl (although she was advertising in women seeking women) and we had a great time!
I think that its just a case of perseverance really and not expecting anything to happen! cos when it does its well worth the wait!!!

5 May 2005

We are prety new to all of this but so far our ads have worked quite well for us. We are very choosy (if you have read our ad you might have gathered that already!) so we don't expect to get many 'good' replies but we have had some success already and anticipate more. Sadly those single females are an elusive species but when you find a good one (as we have!) it is all worth the time and effort!
On the subject of whether the forum is a better place to meet people I can't give a definitive opinion as we are only newbies here but I would tend to say that unless individuals on the forum have some sort of profile or website where we can see what they look like, and a brief resume of what they are looking for, we probably will find more people we want to swing with via ads then we anticipate finding through the forum. I am not new to forums (fora?) and I have made a good number of friends through such interaction (and anticipate doing the same here too!) but because swinging is about more than friendship I would want to have some visual idea of who it is I am 'chatting up' online to save any embarrassment if I later find I like the person but don't fancy them. But we would be unlikely to simply meet someone from an ad (or forum) without spending some time getting to know them so even if we fancied someone from and ad but found we didn't like them we won't be going anywhere near them!
It comes down to time as much as anything; a forum like this takes quite a bit of time to get involved in where as skimming thorugh a few ads and getting in touch with the people we particualrly like is a bit less time consuming. Hope this adds to the perspective to ad. vs. forum but it is only one opinion!
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5 May 2005

well i dont think its ur pics putting people off !!! core blimey!!!!!
it looks fine to me huni,we are looking for a bi fem or couple, personally ive found that we get loads of emails off single guy's and to be honest when you'e stated "no single guy's" it is quite irritating.
but hey happy searching
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6 May 2005

We have had some success with couples and single guys but none at all when we have advertised for single bi females. We live in hope cool